That explains better why you would post here. Pastor's wives are often isolated from friends. W
Posted By: Paradox on 2008-02-06
In Reply to: Oh, by the way, add to your comment here - momMT
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I feel isolated too....
I moved to this small town Im in to be closer to my parents when I was going through a divorce. I'm a single mom of 1, and I'm 35 years old. I've lived here 6-1/2 years and STILL feel like I haven't really made any friends. I only talk to people during my son's soccer practice, and the few parents I've met, I dunno, I feel like I don't fit in this small town or something because I can't seem to make friends. I'm very shy, also, so I'm sure my lack of outgoing attitude makes me look either like I don't want to talk to anyone or I have noticed there is a lot of "high school" type clicks here in small town USA and so I didn't grow up with mose of these people and they seem to make sure I know that. As far not wanting to talk to anyone, that isn't true. Once someone starts a conversation I'm very talkative, I'm just not good at going up to someone and starting a conversation. I also don't go to bars.
Anyway, I am also going through this "i feel isolated" thing myself here recently through to now, and so I do know how you feel, being shy myself and in a town where I don't know many people. I can count on 1 hand how many people here I actually talk to on the phone, but they are all single moms like me and very busy, and a few single dads, but the dads, as soon as they get a girlfriend they don't talk to other females, haha.
anyway, I don't know what to tell you about the marriage stuff you were talking about, but I do understand about the feeling of being isolated. I work from home, work midnights, so I'm awake working when everyone else I know is asleep, and asleep when everyone else I know is awake, or taking my son to his activities (he's 8 and in sports and cub scouts)...so I know the feeling.
Okay, that explains it,........
To say someone "stepped in ****" means they got very lucky. : )
Our Pastor once said
In response to the local newpaper asking if we were holding any fish frys for Lent:
We are fishers of men, not fryers of fish.
Well, I thought it was funny!
Yep that explains it. Wonder what causes that. nm
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That's sad; I've seen a pastor (sm)
disregard feelings of the older members, courting a younger crowd and basically telling the older people if they didn't like the changes they could leave, but I haven't heard of someone basically practically giving a building and contents away like that. That's one reason I won't ever be a member of an independent church; I kind of like an individual pastor not having so much power to do as they wish.
Unfortunately, I think the folks who have donated things that have been sold probably don't have any legal recourse. It might be worth checking with a lawyer, though.
My DH is a pastor, and this is just wrong .... SM
no matter what the denomination. It's not HIS church, and these are not his material things to be done away with. 
That explains it then!! She is certifiable! LOL!
I missed the very beginning of the first show this season where everyone met everyone else, so I missed the part where Sean said she "wasn't crazy." I saw last week's episode, too, with the campfire and the craziness back at the house. I was in shock! I loved it when she wrote her song, and she was reading it to John Rich and it went on and on and on and on and on, just pages!
I just caught a bit of the Outsiders Inn last Friday night where they were doing the talent show and Carnie had hemorrhoids and was uncomfortable and putting everyone down! It does look funny, though.
I just think it's so strange that someone like Sebastian Bach can go from heavy metal to country. Talk about two opposite genres of music!! It will be interesting to see what happens as the show unfolds! :)
That explains it somehow, but still weird..sm
What is a puzzle to me is how this man/woman got pregnant?
This is only possible if he/she has still the female organs and he/she is artificially inseminated.
They mentioned only 1 operation, the removal of her breasts.
It is also weird to me that Barbara Walters is so interested and fascinated by this story.
I used to admire her a lot, but lately not so much.
But for being over 70 she looks really still great, lately not so much, though.
The whole story is 'mocking' God, I do not like it at all.
They will tell the child: 'Your father had you! The poor child.
I have heard of a junior pastor
coming in and stealing all the cash offerings and it went on for years, so anything is possible.
A pastor is a servant. Does this behavior sound servant-like?
This guy has to get a clue. He isn't a pastor. He has no church. If he did sm
he'd have members. This guy thinks he's leading, but he's only taking a walk.
I kind of feel sorry for him, though. I am in the ministry. If the people don't support you, you have no ministry. This guy has no support. If he did he wouldn't have had to do what he did. He probably didn't bother telling anyone because these people aren't committed to attending his "church" anyway.
If it were me, I'd cut my losses, pray for him and move on. Don't call the police, just move on.
One of the biggest problems facing the church today is bitterness, resentment and unforgiveness between believers.
Found this link that explains it rather well.
http://collectibles.about.com/od/valuableresources/ss/blfleecethrow.htm
I have made these larger (extra long for a taller guy) and smaller (baby blanket size). Since you buy the fabric off the bolt, you can make them any size you want.
One day our pastor stopped by for a visit
and my son, who was 5 then, was talking to him. The pastor asked my son what time his bedtime was and he replied, "it's s'posed to be 9 o'clock, but mommy says we piss 'round till 10." I almost died of embarrassment. Unfortunately, pissin' is a word I use quite often and never realized how much kids picked up on it. Thankfully, the pastor laughed and said he understood completely as he grew up on a farm and there was a lot of that going on there.
Wives.
When a man steals your wife, there is no better revenge than to let him keep her. (DavidBissonette)
After marriage, husband and wife become two sides of a coin; they just can't face each other, but still they stay together. (Sacha Guitry)
By all means marry. If you get a good wife, you'll be happy. If you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher. (Socrates)
Woman inspires us to great things, and prevents us from achieving them. (Anonymous)
The great question... which I have not been able to answer... is, 'What does a woman want? (Dumas)
I had some words with my wife, and she had some paragraphs with me. (Sigmund Freud)
'Some people ask the secret of our long marriage. We take time to go to a restaurant two times a week. A little candlelight, dinner, soft music and dancing. She goes Tuesdays, I go Fridays.' (Anonymous)
'There's a way of transferring funds that is even faster than electronic banking. It's called marriage.' (Sam Kinison)
'I've had bad luck with both my wives. The first one left me, and the second one didn't.' (James Holt McGavran)
Two secrets to keep your marriage brimming
1. Whenever you're wrong, admit it,
2. Whenever you're right, shut up.
(Patrick Murray)
The most effective way to remember your wife's birthday is to forget it once... (Nash)
You know what I did before I married? Anything I wanted to. (Anonymous)
My wife and I were happy for twenty years. Then we met. (Henny Youngman)
A good wife always forgives her husband when she's wrong. (Rodney Dangerfield)
A man inserted an 'ad' in the classifieds: 'Wife wanted'. Next day he received a hundred letters. They all said the same thing: 'You can have mine.' (Anonymous)
First Guy (proudly): 'My wife's an angel!'
Second Guy: 'You're lucky, mine's still alive.' (Anonymous)
Guess that explains the eye lift and the *diction* classes
anyone notice her new and improved voice, lol.
Guess that explains once when I was enjoying peel your own shrimp
outside on a restaurant deck, one of those crazy birds flew down and took one right off my plate! We all ducked for cover. It really was funny though. LOL. Those nasty brazen little things. Now I don't feed them anymore.
One of my all-time favorite sayings from my pastor: Givers always sm
have enough. Takers never have enough.
Both me and my husband are big givers- to the church, our family, our friends, strangers. I love to entertain and open up our home to others and this summer, every single Wed. we invite at least 4 families over to come swimming in our pool and just do whatever they want to do to "get away" for a while. We live pretty far out from town.
We love to give and give our time and love, too. It keeps us young, happy, and fulfilled.
The truly happy in life are happy because they give of their time and their life to helping others. When you do that, you really don't have time to harp on the negatives in your life or wonder "why doesn't anyone do that for me?"
Want to be happy? Get over yourself. Go across the street and help your depressed neighbor.
mammas and wives
Hopefully he is not married to his mamma and needs no nipping.
Because men blames their wives, that's why. sm
Been there, done that, got the T-shirt, many decades ago. I was always told by him that I was not pretty enough, not sophisticated enough, not "with-it" enough, just not good enough in any way. I bought into that for years until I could no longer stand it and left. The little sucker was actually a compulsive adulterer and cheated on his next wife too, a beautiful, much younger woman. So I know what I'm saying. Once a cheat, always a cheat.
My mom believes that old wives' tale, too! - nm
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I'm paying for all those wives and kids...
They only claim one wife as a legal wife, so the others they marry are married in the church but not on paper, so they think they are getting by with polygamy. So what happens to all those wives with children? They go to the welfare office, since they are single moms ( no marriage certificate), they are eligible for Medicaid, my taxes to pay for their children, food stamps, on and on. That is fraud and they should be ashamed of themselves, since they know exactly what they are doing... where is their religion in all this? This is scheming.....they call it "bleeding the beast", meaning the government. Of course, they do not care that it is the taxpayer's dollar, because they consider themselves better than the "outside world", since they believe they are the chosen people anyway.
It is as if some men get angry if their wives are sick or hurt (sm)
He does it every time too :(
If I knew there was a history of cheating on former wives,
then my opinion would be different. I think that once cheating occurs, it is more likely to be repeated in future relationships. Not saying that this is your case, but it would worry me.
I am watching "My Husband's Three Wives"
I'm watching TLC's "My Husband's Three Wives". I'm also steaming. The jerk (nice name for him) doesn't believe in monogamy, at least where it concerns him. I wonder if he would agree to another husband?
I didn't know you compound wives knew how to use computers!!!
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Burn Notice, Army Wives, Closer, Saving Grace
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When you have friends - it's good. But when you don't have friends it's
REALLY GOOD!!!
I swear, I have this one friend who just gets mad at me stupid stuff. I told her a few weeks ago that I could probably go out this sat. but now I can't make it (just dinner). So, I emailed her and told her I can't go. She's upset. Thinks I should not have made plans in the first place. Well, things come up.
Why are people (women) so catty? Immature?
Are there any women out there who can: Forgive, understand, not get offended because I am not perfect? If so, I'd like to meet you. I highly doubt she exists though.
Friends of Our's..
are separating and might end up divorced uggg.
They are the couple that we went on our summer vacation with. They have no kids luckily.
SHE is unhappy and has been since June I guess. He has been talking to hubby about it all on MSN Messenger and asking for advice. It has to do with her Religion, she goes to the church where they meet in homes and she wears skirts. I can't think of what she calls it but he isn't into that Religion and refuses to go to church with her and that is causing problems.
Anyway, she won't be happy unless she finds a guy in her church, that way, they will go together, ya know?
I feel bad for them but it might be for the best I don't know.
DH saw it with friends and they all
loved it. He reports it is very good and very gory. Critics hated it, but it is raking in the money because fans love it. It is more of a guy movie, but that doesn't mean a lot of us gals won't like it too. DH and his friends all researched the subject before going, they were that excited.
ooh, I never said he and I were friends...
I tried being *friends* with him for about 8-9 years after but he was never my friend (nor his own friend) - but with passive-aggressives - if they don't want to change, forget about them *cooperating* - WE EVEN DID THERAPY prior to the divorce but it was evident to the therapist that he was lying and playing games.....power tripping games too.
No, what I meant is he is in a better place today in HIS life, kids are doing their thing and communicating with both parents, and my life is great because I'm FREE....for me, it's all about freedom and having nobody trying to *control* me.
Good luck in your choices, they are not easy choices by any stretch of the imagination....
Where are her friends?
This young woman is in pain and is hurting. She needs help. Where are her friends? Instead of demonizing her, her mother, K-Fed, father - is he in the picture - former pastor, someone should be with her and get her to go into intensive private therapy. The girl is melting down in front of the world and no one is trying to help her.
I don't condone illegal drug use or misuse of legal drugs, but I really don't care if her problems were caused by drugs or something else. She is a human being in pain and needs help, not ridicule or judgment.
Where are Nicole, Paris, Lindsay, all the blondettes were ready to party with her in order to get their own picture in the tabloids? Where are the publicity agents, talent agents, etc., who made thousands of dollars off Britney's career? Someone needs to step up to the plate for her.
I should add that Pam and I were friends (sm)
not just in Bunco but had gone many places together, spent lots of time at each other's homes, had our children play together, etc.
best friends?
How many of you have bonded with a person...ala best friend...out of your immediate family?...to the point where you trust this person more so than a family member?
I have friends..not close...I'm close to only my sister...
I know one acquaintance that spends all her time with her best friend...I mean they have morning coffee together..take family trips..am and pm visits...I don't know that I could be that close to someone without it bugging me abit even though she was a good friend...
Confusing maybe..just thought I'd throw it out there..its a thought I had...
If they are your friends
Then they will take your feelings into consideration also. If you don't want to hang out, you don't want to hang out, no harm in that.
that's what my guy friends said!
and then nicely they of course told me that's why I wouldn't be allowed to live there.
haha
that's what my guy friends said!
and then nicely they of course told me that's why I wouldn't be chosen to live there.
haha
yes he does and he says his friends liked it
because he thinks his teeth look like hers now. It's my issue not his, thank goodness!!!
I guess it's because his teeth don't cascade naturally. He did have a palatial expander, which may have something to do with it.
Friends....sm
I have 3 friends who have been wonderful over the years. One I have known nearly my whole life, one for almost 20 years and the other for about 10 years. Then I have my sister and 2 female cousins who are absolutely 3 of my most favorite people in the entire world. I am truly blessed.
friends
My sister is still very good friends with her best friend from high school and it is cool to see them get so old. I am the older sister and in my head they were goofy, skinny teenagers, and now they have all these kids and it is amazing. Me and my best friend in high school did not last past me having a baby. She never married and I guess she felt like we did not have anything to talk about anymore.
Friends
I've run into quite a few of these type of individuals through the years. Oftentimes, it turned out to be a family member of the boss, owner, etc., or someone who got the job through a friend, OR someone who just happens to look good. It seems that experience and talent/ability are not the qualities that get the job nowadays.
I agree for friends
I have a very good friend who lives across the street and she's welcome to come over whenever she wants. We usually just knock and go right in. I do look out the window though if the doorbell rings and I usually don't answer it if it's someone I don't know.
My kids all believe, even though some of their friends say otherwise.
It probably helps that they are "free thinkers." They have their own thoughts and opinions and aren't usually swayed by others. Also, one of them is pretty popular in his school and very much a leader there, so many of the kids believe what he has to say over a lot of the other kids, even about Santa!
I think I've gone out of my way to teach my kids not to follow others' belief patterns just for the sake of being like everyone else. They really don't care much if they stand out, and it's actually worked to their advantage. They are often looked up to because they're strong enough to be different. :)
By the way, they feel sorry for the kids who don't believe in Santa.
did you accept it and are you friends?
mk
Well, she can't just not let her child have friends over! (sm)
That's just not realistic. So the whole family should just hide in their house because of her husband's issues? I have to disagree with that.
tell us about your furry friends.
We would love to hear!
No famous HS friends, but...
my FIL worked as a security guard for several Elvis Presley's Memphis events. He was a sheriff department reserve officer and they were chosen regularly for Elvis' appearances.
My former step-mother owned a night club in Port Arthur, Texas, where Janis Joplin and her band played regularly...before she was famous.
My parents assembled the dryers/heaters that cleaned up the radiation spilled at the Three Mile Island accident in the seventies.
oh, he realizes he does it, and he does not do that to his friends, right?
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One of my very best friends had this done and is so very happy she did.
She had a really horrible time before the ablation, including chronic anemia. (Her hemoglobin had fallen to 5.4 at one point!)
She had this done last year and says it's the best decision she ever made. The procedure wasn't bad, recovery was quick, and she's had no problems, and no periods, since then.
Losing friends
When I lost my first one (my cat BB) I tried to keep him hanging on as long as possible but when I talked to him about it he let me know he wanted me to let him go and I held him when I took him to the vet and he purred the whole time. He knew he didn't have to suffer any more. The really hard stuff only lasts for 3 days, then you feel better every day. It's lots easier after you get the ashes back, you feel like they're home. On my hearth I have 4 late cats, 1 late husband, 1 late brother-in-law and my late mother. I never really feel like they're gone. I feel for you, hang in there.
Family and friends
Thanks for understanding. I agree. I have found that family is not necessarily blood. They say blood is thicker than water? I say blood could equal dysfunction. The real family we have are those we choose ourselves and who love us in return. Your peaceful Christmas with you husband and your friends sound like what Christmas is all about, not the other stuff. Thanks for reminding me Christmas can be peaceful and warm.
This is why I have mostly male friends.
I really hope you don't take too much into the mean ones and listen to the positive input.
Walk a mile in someone else's moccasins, people...
I didn't but my son and some of his friends did.
I am going to try to record it since my son won't be home from school when it airs. I talked to another mom and she is going to record it as well. Hopefully one of will succeed.
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