Thanks - your post helped
Posted By: What a bumbler I am on 2008-06-22
In Reply to: I think...sm - Country MT
I know if the shoe is on the other foot I never take offense at anything anyone says. You said exactly what my BIL said to me "it's a natural part of life". I felt better after posting and reading some of the responses and also talking to my DH. But like you say, in the future its going to be sympathetic responses. As for myself, I do have a very different outlook on life/death. I view death as a rebirth into a new life. Of course I would never do anything to bring mine on sooner than my expected time, but when my time comes I will be ready to move on.
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Here is what we do and it has really helped us to
We avoid comments like "You did ,,,,,," and "You made me,,,,". We use "Ifelt like ,,,,,,", "I understand that,,,,,," "I hear you say,,,,,". Try to keep accussatory statements out of it. Say how you understand the event to have happened and how it made you feel. Reiterate what you heard the other person to say/do and give that person a chance to agree or disagree.
I helped with the first car s/m
My son is 19 1/2 and I helped him with his first car. When he was 16, I contributed $700 towards it and he saved the rest, which was $1,700. He did this by saving for years, getting lawn jobs, etc. He also had to maintain good grades, sports, etc. He also had to get a part time job. I didn't care if it was one day a week, but he had to get something. I paid for his insurance until just this month. He just bought a new car, trading in his old one. He is now in college full time and working part time. He decided on his own that it was time for him to start paying for it, which is fine with me.
My tax guy helped me with this info.
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things that have helped me -
I was going nuts - waking up 2-3 times a night - feeling horrible all day. Go back to basics -
Try to get a walk in - couple of hours at least before bed - 20-30 minutes if that is all you have.
Don't watch TV or be on the computer a couple of hours before bed - watching TV not as bad as computer.
Take magnesium 500-750 mg right as you lie down to go to sleep. Recommended by many MDs for women.
Watch your caffeine intake stop early afternoon if you have to for a while.
Hope this helps - I am sleeping much better now.
Thank you everyone for your replies. It has helped a lot to know that I am in...sm
the right here. I started to think for a second that maybe I was being selfish.
DH told me last night he will break the bad news to his sister after the holidays.
I told him I need a vacation, too and that it's not easy working full-time and overtime from home. I need out of this place. It's hard not to think about work when you're home especially when you know there's a backlog cloud looming over your head. I'm sure some of you know what I mean.
He's convinced now that the money should be spent on the entire family not just him, our youngest and his sister's family.
You guys have been a great help! Thanks again and happy holidays, I feel a little less stressed now.
Only that helped me was New Balance
I switched from wearing mostly Birkenstocks to New Balance after a visit to the podiatrist. It probably depends a lot on your foot type, because for some people it seems Birks are better, but they weren't for me. I have New Balance of all types now. It's almost all I wear and I haven't had a bad flare of PF for about 6 years now.
He helped me pick it out!
I tried it on in front of him, too.
I think you accidentally helped me
I will just avoid the mall.
BCP helped me immensely, but I needed to take sm
something for nausea for the first week. Can't remember what it was, but it really helped. It was an antinausea med for pregnant women. You should see a gynecologist, though, to see if you have something that could be causing the pain, like endometriosis, or even cervical stenosis (what I had) which was helped with a D&C. Don't suffer. Life is too short.
You're welcome!! Hope it helped some....sm
I am not expertised enough to use Turbo Tax myself. I do get everything really super ready for the CPA, and now I have MQ take an additional $50 every paycheck for additional taxes so that it covers some of what I have to pay privately for 4 private docs. 
a suggestion that helped with mine--sm
I had been put on Synthroid as soon as it was discovered that I had hypothyroidism. After many years of taking it and feeling absolutely no better and still with fluctuating TSH levels, I wanted to try the more natural supplement, Armour, which has both T3 and T4, and not just the T4. I had to change doctors in order to have it prescribed, but eventually got what I wanted. It helped significantly with the hair loss, but if you try it, give it several months before you notice a difference.
I have also been hearing subtle speakings about T1 and T2, as well. So far, they say we don't need these, but in my mind, if the body makes them naturally, we need them for something, whether the *doctors* think we do or not. I am currently looking into where I can get those, as well.
Also, I found that chemically infested shampoos were a detrement to the hair, as well. Find a good organic shampoo with only natural ingredients, and that may help, as well. I use MOP organic shampoo.
Hope this helps a little bit.
Back in the 80s my knowledge helped out some
I had all the symptoms that go with hypothyroidism, the intense itching, the never being able to get warm (with blankets over your head, etc.), went to my doctor and told him I wanted along with my physical exam to have test for thyroid as I thought had this. Went back, he forgot to order and so ordered that day, immediately referred to endo because my labs were off the chart, so to speak and lots of you know thyroid can lead to other problems, even death if left untreated. If I had not pushed this time, guess would be pushing up daisies now. For 2 family members I told others to ask for Megace (these people were skeletons and not eating) and because I knew it was appetite stimulant, I could tell them worth a try. Each gained their appetite and at least did not starve to death so after all these years I have learned a little!
Eat yogurt daily, helped me....nm
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Changing shoes helped me.
I had a touch of this years ago. I realized it was from one particular pair of shoes. It went away when I quit wearing them. Are you seeing a podiatrist?
Good. I really hope I helped.
It is not normal 6-year-old behavior, despite what others say. It is normal bratty, spoiled 6-year-old behavior, and it is not acceptable. Since your husband won't correct him, you are just going to have to let the kid know that you aren't his sibling and you don't compete for slushies and you are happy that they have a good time together. Try and stay in that mindset. Also, if you don't mind my commenting on something I think you said earlier about them cuddling and stuff and how you thought that was strange - it might seem strange if it is not something you have witnessed before, but that is an important part of bonding. Six years old is still pretty young and they should be doing a lot of cuddling. It will end soon enough so let your hubby give him that affection. The kid might not be getting it from his mom or others in his life.
I also don't understand why others are saying you are humiliating your husband in a public forum. That's silly. Now if you posted it on a billboard in his hometown, that would be different!
Thank you all for your replies, that reall helped (sm)
at the very least, I am going to rent at first and see how things go before buying.
Hold it, are you saying zinc helped your
insomnia? I have gone through some natural items my husband had and still waking usually every 2 hours during the night, drives me crazy and needless to say the next day feeling like a zombie. I also take biotin and have the longest eyelashes now, not so much help for the hair but my dermatologist told me to take that the rest of my life due to the severe hair loss. Talk about avoiding the scales, only my scales and I know the truth there, do not even weigh in the doctor's offices, just tell them take a guess.
Anyone ever helped their child with a weight problem? (sm)
I have read up on this and don't want to make the problem worse by making it an issue, but would like to help him. I have as many healthy foods on hand as possible and try to feed him healthy things but apparently he eats too much of it. I mean, I know basically how people lose weight, but I am dealing with a child. He is starting to be made fun of and it is really hard for him. He's 10.
Helped with son's Eagle project this weekend.
He only has some paperwork and a board of review to get done, and then he'll be an Eagle scout.
What has helped my pain are fruit and vegetable capsules. sm
I have been taking them for 8 years or so ever since my pain started to get so bad I couldn't sleep (I know you know what I mean). I was working for a certified nutritionalist/chiropractor at the time. They have helped me so much that I continue to take them after all these years because I'm afraid not to. I did stop for a little while and tried another product (10 months or so) but the pain came back. Email me if you want to know more info. I am not a distributor so I'm not trying to sell them or anything, it is just what has been working for me.
Flax oil and taurine supplements helped me tremendously (sm)
Mine is now pretty much gone but any time I feel bad I start back on the flax oil (oil not capsules) and it helps tremendously. I hope you feel better soon!
Omega fatty acid supplements helped my son a lot (sm)
I just by the gummy supplements brand name Little Critters at Target. After a couple of weeks on them, my son himself, at the age of 9, recognized the difference in how he felt and he now reminds me when we run out, that I need to get him some more.
I'm having a hard time too - Charlie Brown's Christmas music has helped some (sm)
It hasn't been very cold around here...parade yesterday we were sweating. One thing that has helped me is I got the music CD from Charlie Brown's Christmas and have been listening to that and watched the little cartoon. That has always been one of my favorites. But I'm just not feeling it much either this year! I think the fact that the stores put the Christmas stuff out right after Halloween and sometimes before just makes it all seem like another day! And for me these days it just seems like a time of year where I have to spend money. Anyway, you're not alone :-)
Well, you post with something that is going to --sm
get your *butt jumped* and then you cry when someone does. judgemental of everything, huh? don't get your halo in a twist. geez.
your post says *they*...
Is more than 1 of your children living with this person? Just curious...
Thank you for your post....sm
at least YOU seem to understand the concept of what a thyroid problem can do to a person...unlike anon poster below, who has a very closed mind about ANYthing she does not agree with.
My thyroid problem is quite bad. I HAVE seen an endocrinologist who explained that thyroid disease is an autoimmune disease, where the body attacks certain organs for no reason. I did not do well on synthetic thyroid replacement and switched to a *natural* form. I am currently taking 120 mg daily and that is a lot. The endocrinologist said that my thyroid was barely functioning at all.
I feel very bad for your brother in law, as I truly understand how he feels. Thank you again for your understanding support for my problem, rather than attacking me with being a food junky, being paranoid, needing a psychiatrist, telling me I am nuts, and to pursue bariatric surgery, which all tends to lower my already low self-esteem. thank you for your courage to post. It is nice to know that SOME people understand.
was the *duh* in yer post necessary?.....
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better post than your first one *LOL*
I like what you said there - you have had a GOOD solid thing for 41 years now.......or thereabouts with your husband -
Doing this to him, even surreptitiously....do you think this is what HE deserves after you having a full life with him? Do you have a conscience? Even if you don't see this guy from 900 miles away - YOU'RE STILL CHEATING, you are carrying on a secret relationship in a secret email account behind your husband's back.........
I ain't judging.........but points upward.........towards G_d.........
jes' sayin'..............
how did this post above from 1/16/07 end up
on the top of GAB BOARD? And silly me, I answered it *LOL* - says Jan 16, 2007....all below this are March of 2007........very bizarre...someone probably trying to invoke conversation(?)
very_curious_indeed
what does this have to do with my post?
to be adopted already....
I really liked your post, thanks for that!!!..sm
I so respect what you said/typed.......thank you :)
oh that post is NOT *way down below*...sm
it's right under this post *ROFL*....I'm tired.....
Cut off from above post: j/k nm
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Post (SM)
All prayer requests belong on the Prayer Request board. You access it by going to the Gab board first, then clicking the Prayer Request link just above the posts.
I have not received any emails from you regardnig your post.
Sorry to post again about this but (sm)
Divorce is a huge decision - I have been talking to family and friends but this is the only place I can get anonymous opinions from a lot of people, and it is more likely that someone here may have been through something similar. My husband now is asking me to not go. But he has already told me just a few nights ago that he was never happy with me, was always disappointed and frustrated with who I am, and that this is probably the reason he hit me a few years ago. He went nuts a few years ago during a very minor argument (children were not present), and now says that it was probably because of years of frustration. But now he is once again asking me to stay. Because my parents are divorced he says that "divorce is the only thing I know" when faced with conflict. I have been here almost 14 years and he has never been happy with me. Even when I was young and thin and our house was spotless. My question is - if he has never been happy with me, and I have always been a source of frustration, why should I stay now and expect things to improve? We have been to 4 marriage counsellors in the past. I am scared about leaving and I still do love him deep down, but why continue to stay if I will never be good enough?
I should have put LOL after my post
about the fancy car. My parents and my MIL drive "fancy" cars. I agree that wasn't a nice thing to say.
Well, here you can post what you think
Well, here you can post what you think is an awesome idea or might we say lame... (Creativity is the key)
I'll start with:
Awesome:
Water powered cars...
Lame:
Really cool stuff that is ridiculously expensive(i.e. PS3)
Please do post a pic of your pup
if you haven't already. Hayseed knows how.
Was this post really necessary?
Why bother reading a post that doesn't interest you just to post something rude and totally unnecessary? I for one love hearing about the good things in life. It's not just all work, work, work.
see my post sm
Would anyone who has used Cymbalta please reply to my post on the Mental Health board. I think this is suitable for "gab" but only one answer on that board. Thanks! BTW, I don't think exhaustion and pain from this profession is all "in our mind." I hope you agree.
Post her pic?
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I saw that post too
I'm glad I wasn't the only one confused. This is a gab board and that's what we're doing gabbing about cats and other animals. If he/she isn't interested, just don't read the posts. By the way, I have an all black Halloween cat and the kids get a big kick out of him when them come to the door.
I think your post is right on
My hubs and I have separate and I trust him beyond belief, would never know what he made a year except at tax time. I think it is great to have hubs you trust and can take care of things like yours does. Seems like a dream deal to me. I could care less for doing anything when it comes to financial deals but sometimes have to fool with that. If I had a hubs that dealt with everything, I would be more than happy. You are blessed.
Just saw this post
Yes, his anal glands were really impacted- the post below this 1 helped me tremendously. Never knew felines got that way. He went to the veterinarian the very day I learned about the possibility of what it could be, the vet expressed the glands and relieved that problem. Yesterday my big boy (20 and a half lbs) went to the groomers to get him all cleaned and smelling good again. One more thing I learned- he is double furred boy and hair was even growing over his anus which had to be shaved. He is quite the handsome guy today!
100% right and that is my post
Give varied foods to be served but can you just imagine if 10 or more kids would not eat and demanded certain foods for their own eating? Did not say kids should be forced to eat anything but definitely needs vegetables in their diet. Sit foods on the table, not much fuss and let the child eat and eat good, no junk stuff, no Cokes, no sweetened drinks, no overloading on the chips, cookies and other sweets.
By the way, there is a second pic in that post above. (nm)
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I just had to post this pic too!
This is my youngest, Scooter, when we first brought him home 2 years ago. He is MUCH bigger now! LOL!
Above post is IMO, of course.
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Thanks for your post
She's actually the one that's hard on herself. If she was in regular classes it wouldn't matter to me. I'll see what happens when she gets home in an hour.
The post above you was right
You have said as much by "someone saying to mind your own business." It is her business, not any of yours at all. As far as the thrown away card, once a person is given a present, whether it is a card or whatever it is, it is their property then and the person can toss it, hold onto it or do what they like. She is minding her own business as you should. In your posts you come back time and again about what friends you were, how you emailed every day, you seem really clingy to this person, like you cannot make it another day before you hear from her. Do you have any life of your own?
your post
The mare is foaling - NOT having a "baby" thats human and she will either have a colt (male) or a filly (female)
FYI
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