Thanks, you are a real understanding person....nm

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it is my understanding that a spouse can receive SS benefits off of their retired spouse, I'm not sure how much, it's not as much as the working spouse; I read "up to half", but I believe that is further reduced if the non-working spouse begins receiving benefits before full retirement age and will remain at that rate even after reaching retiement age.

as far as Medicare goes; it is available to all individuals meeting the age (and in some cases health) requirements.

I did not grow up wealthy, but solidly middle class. We had a city house, and a country house (10 weeks every summer) my father was a business man, my mother a teacher. In my adult life, I have been rich and I have been poor, but with a friends and family safety net, mostly in between. Not everyone is so fortunate, and I feel it is our responsibilty as citizens to help each other.  Why should someone be able to have life saving surgery simply because they are wealthy, as opposed to someone with no insurance OR someone whose insurance won't pay? Why should someone in this country, who works full time, go hungry and without dental and medical care?

Please, explain it to me, I need to learn about this very self absorbed kind of thinking. I need to understand how those who claim to be on "the religious right" couldn't care less about a starving, poorly educated born child, but get all hissy about a fetus.

Please, tell me.

from the time I file until the time it is final, the judge can issue an order forcing him to leave until it is final and a decision is made about splitting the property.

He takes lithium for his bipolar disorder, but yesterday when he was released from jail, he went to the ER because he was apparently vomiting profusely and was found to have lithium toxicity.  So now he's not taking his lithium and I'm sure he will use this as an excuse to not take it anymore.

With me, first child I was out of the bed seriously within 5 minutes of having him.  I didn't tear or have to be cut, he was 7 pounds, 3 ounces.  The doctor did some type of vaginal massage on me though while I was in labor and that was supposed to help loosen the vaginal wall?

Second child, same experience.  She was 8 pounds, 1 ounce and within 5 minutes of having her, while they took her to the nursery to get cleaned up and all, I walked downstairs with my husband to the cafeteria to get a drink and stretch my legs.  I had already put my regular clothes back on as well.  My doctor who delivered her was walking in my room as I was walking in and he was stunned a second and said he thought I was a visitor, LOL, not the patient.

I don't think you have to have bed rest in normal cases.  With my son I went home within 24 hours with him and with my daughter we went home in only 20 hours.

I can't imagine that you haven't ripped her superior little head off! What a nerve this woman has.  Stand up for you and your child.  She is NO better than you are just because you chose to raise your children differently than she did! I am more like you, in raising my children that is, they do not have a lot of structured activities...my 7 YO just wants to be a kid and play! I don't force him to play with anyone he doesn't want to...and you shouldn't feel like you have to force your child to play with anyone he doesn't want to.

Take a stand against this woman...tell her what you think and let it go...what's she gonna do, ground you?

My husband met his real Dad after 20 years of searching.  We live on the East coast.  His Dad lives on the West coast.  My MIL did not want him him meeting his Dad for the same reason. 

I can tell you this, his Dad was very receptive of him.  He answered some questions that neither my MIL nor anyone else could answer.  It was a nice reunion.

Please disregard your mother's opinion at this point because she is probably scorn and feels you should feel the same way.  It just doesn't work that way with the child that wants to know their Dad.  My husband didn't care what his Dad was like, but he wanted to see him and talk to him.

He now only talks to him occasionally, but I can say that my hubby sleeps much better at night and has learned acceptable, which has really helped emotionally with this struggle he has had all of these years wanting to know his Dad.

Even if you just write a letter explaining that you just wanted to know who he was and to make sure he is safe!  Holding grudges and putting a lot of emotional junk out there at first is sort of a turn-off in my opinion, but in time, you'll find your answers.

Good luck to you, and so glad you at least know he's safe and has a family that loves him, albeit he left out on you.  Hold those kinds of feelings in your heart instead of holding grief or demeaning feelings because the "good stuff" lasts longer and doesn't cause as much heartache! 

Take care and God Bless! 

And I never tried to push my upbringing/religion onto anybody ever in life and now I'm not into organized religion but very into G_D!  And I would never push my ways down anyone else's gullet.

I was born in 1982 and was raised by my mom and FINALLY found my dad after years of searching. He lives in Houston. I don't want to just show up out of the blue and say dad, here I am. I have his address and phone number. Mom says that I shouldn't contact him, he walked out on her after I was born, but I want to know what he's like.

I guess he went to a lot of trouble to start a new life somewhere else, got remarried, had other kids. In all these years he hasn't made an effort to contact me, but I still want to meet him. I hear his wife doesn't want me around, but she can't stop me from seeing my dad. Still, I don't want to make any waves. What should I do.