Thanks - that is a major factor in my decision (sm)
Posted By: anon on 2007-07-06
In Reply to: Thank goodness don’t have to worry about - Joan
My children. I feel like I am choosing between my happiness and theirs and of course they should win. They are happy now, but if they had to have visitation with their dad - who is definitely a control freak - I worry about their happiness. But is it better for them to visit him than to live with him. And wouldn't I be showing them that you don't have to live like that by leaving??? it's so hard!
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KEY FACTOR HERE THOUGH . . .
is the financial situation they are in where EVERY PENNY COUNTS. We have to remember they are in a very scary financial situation and women like to have that financial security.
Spew factor!
Okay - Just took a swig of water when I read this and back up the nose it goes! That's exactly what my husband said.
I think weight is a big factor, too.
My daughter didn't start until age 13 and she is very, very thin.
That was the deciding factor--sm
in my separating last year. I saw a Dr. Phil promo where he said the only thing worse than staying married and unhappy for 20 years was staying married and unhappy for 20 years 1 day!!
This has been the best year of my life. I was married for 26 years and lived w/o love, joy, or any communication other than how stupid, fat, lazy I was. Knew it was untrue, but took an ad on TV to really KNOW it. Good luck.
OK, I'll try to explain the ick-factor...
He's creepy...always has nude women on his show, degrades females in general, and just plain perverted. Makes my skin crawl, seriously. He makes Howard K look like an angel, IMHO...that to me is icky...
don't let money be the main factor
If you think you will like the job and the people you will be working with, take it and don't worry about the money, and if you're not ready to move, hold off for something else.
Spew factor - had coke come out my nose on that one!!
too funny
I think a clean maker can be the biggest factor sm
I have had a Bunn, Mr. Coffee, GE, etc, and the main thing in how my coffee tastes is how clean the maker itself is. I have learned the hard way that it must be cleaned with vinegar or a coffee maker cleaner once a month or the coffee maker will be slow to brew and not have a good taste. Also making sure to check the manual for how much coffee to use - mine states no more than 3/4 Tbsp per 6-ounce cup of coffee even though the coffee itself says 1 Tbsp per serving.
One major suggestion
I would not be consulting juvenile authorities for a 6-year-old's behavior issues.
At this age, she needs to be seen by a child psychologist or psychiatrist who can diagnose the issue and outline a treatment plan.
This is not an unusual problem. She is a child and a conscious is something that is instilled by caretakers...it is not an automatic self development.
Please seek care for her behaviorally - not in the courts at this age.
This major lawsuit had to do with--sm
the insurance company (SF) stating that they would cover and *wind damage* done by hurricane Katrina, but not flooding, as they had no flooding insurance on their policies, but the lawsuit contended that the flooding was still due to hurricane Katrina and should be covered. they won that case, but there is still some hassle over it because a judge did not like the way the wording read concerning some people who filed claims, but did not sue the insurance company. In my opinion, these insurance companies take peoples monies for years and do who knows what with it, and then when something major happens and people need help, they find all kinds of loopholes to not do anything. That is what insurance policies are FOR! but as far as bleach on a rug...no, if I were the insurance company involved in that, I would not pay either. jmo.
Definitely make major changes...
First, I would quit transcribing.
I would establish a foundation to pay for surgery for children and adults with maxillofacial deformities.
My second foundation would help older women - over age 40 - who want to go back to school or want to get some training for a different career.
My third foundation would help working class families send their kids to college.
I would buy a nice house (not a mansion) on a very large piece of land, where I could not hear my neighbors' noise. That house would have a huge library filled with my own books and another room would be a fitness center with a treadmill and some strength training machines. Oh, and I would like to buy a Schwinn bicycle.
When we had a major ice storm last
February, schools were let out early (10 a.m.) and the info was posted on a crawl at the bottom of the TV and on the radio. No parents were called.
It depends what your major was, just like anything
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I would have had a different college major - sm
and been smart about saving money then and not getting into debt....and not picking the loser guys I dated until I met my husband at age 29. ---though had things been different I'd probably be married to someone else and have two totally different kids which are the 2 things I would not want to change--
Look at his name-"Science Major".
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I never work on major holidays...
because I work for a small company that closes for all major holidays. I've been with them for almost 2 years now and they are definitely one of the best! They even send me a Christmas gift every year! I would never sign up to work for a company that was open on holidays, as I have no desire to work on holidays.
just had a major lawsuit ruling
but these are mainly people down in the coastal areas whose homes were completely leveled or not habitable. Insurance companies should be ashamed of themselves...some of these folks have been paying the same company for 40 to 50 years and when they need them, they get screwed. I hope the homeowners actually get the monies so they can get what should have been theirs in the first place.
We lived further inland, so the winds were strong enough to blow off a roof, or blow rain under a roof, or turn trees over on houses and crush them, but not level a home....but every time a wind comes up or it rains heavy, everyone holds their breath because trees now have weak roots and are easily toppled over, even 2 years later.
My daughter was about to have major surgery
2 years ago and the surgeon always made me feel like we were keeping him from something more important. After waiting in the waiting for at least an hour at every appointment, it was discouraging to have him rush in and out in 10 minutes, considering the procedure she was going to have. Anyway, at our last appointment before the surgery, we had a PA who actually spent time with us, explaining the surgery in detail and answering all our questions. I was thrilled.
I have also had my share of not great PAs, but this guy wasn't one of them.
Well, if I get a major inheritance, I'll be there
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Got to vent. I just found out that a major supermarket
chain where my husband works will be open on Christmas Day. I think it is absolutely disgusting that they would take this major holiday away from their employees. There is absolutely nothing in a grocery store that is so important that it has to be bought on Christmas Day. For pete's sake, if you don't get it before Christmas Day, you don't need it very badly.
I just went through some major stuff that i think may have been related to fibro. sm
I took every narotic you can think of. lortab helped me the best without knocking me out. FYI, it did cause nausea so then i backed down to half a tablet. everything else put me to sleep. i did take BC Powder two of them and that helped some, but gave me an ulcer too so guess you gotta decide what is worse. for me, not being able to work was worse so i needed relief. i also used a heating pad and rice sock when i had to stay away. nothing took the pain totally away though. finally got a medrol dosepak and it cleared up for the severe part anyway. at least i can function now. email me........
I'm in complete agreement. If major problem, everyone
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My son is a PreMed major and loves this show also....sm
He is hoping to get in Medical School there at Hopkins. Great reality show for the HealthCare Professional.
I was an animal science major in college and...
my poultry professor said that fresher eggs are harder to peel. The problem is that you can't tell from the store which the older eggs are because when they expire, they just repackage them with newer dates and send them back out because they only go bad if there is a defect in the shell.
Jackson-Hewitt and all the major firms use
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It is entirely your decision to do what ...sm
you want. I personally thought it was so fun doing the whole Santa thing with my son. I guess different for everybody. It is true that the true meaning of Christmas has nothing to do with Santa, but it just makes it fun with the little ones. :)
I worked for a hospital where the major baseball team
here in town used. I had access to all patient information including the telephone numbers and addresses. My daughter, at that time teenager, begged me for the address of a certain big time player who went on to marry Hallie B but no, no- was not gonna put my job on the line. I knew DD could easily turn into your stalker girl!
The earlobe plays a major role in foreplay
Abuse of food stamps/welfare is a MAJOR
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A decision on this would not be left
up to me at all. This is not something I put my 2 cents in about. Their parents would be the ones to do this, that is unless the daughter/granddaughter is of age where she makes her own decisions. I have both but someone elses decisions, not mine.
I have a decision to make
and there is literally no one in my "real life" I can go to about it.
I just found out (by accident actually) that my husband has been cheating on me online, regularly visiting a couple of girls' websites with their pics, webcams, etc.
Here's the thing: I don't want to put up with this sh*t and I don't feel I have to. We've been married for less than 2 years. I don't have any kids. I'm still young (25). I have a good education and I can make enough money to support myself.
I feel like going out somewhere to think. Maybe spend the night in a hotel to get my head straight and figure out my next move. Please offer some advice.
Oh what an agonizing decision...
I'm so sorry you are going through this. As an owner of almost all senior animals, it's something I have faced before and will soon have to face again and I dread it. I wish there was something I could say to comfort you.
Personally, if an animal in my care is showing signs of pain or distress, if there's something I can do to end that, I'm going to do it. If it's a pill or treatment I can give them and I know it's doing no further harm, and it's financially feasable for me to do, I'll do it. However, if the treatment is traumatizing or out of my league financially, I have to find some comfort in knowing I did the best that I could for them, for as long as I could, and now it's my duty to do what I believe is the right thing and end their suffering. And you know what, it sucks.
I truly believe the animals tell us when they are done, and no one knows your animals like you do. Cats though, they can be tough. So many of them are so stoic and sadly when they are really hurting they just tend to disappear off somewhere to die, especially if they can go outside.
I can't tell you what to do, only what I would do, which would be to go the euthanasia route and try to find some comfort in the fact that I was able to be strong for them and be there for them when they really needed me the most. Don't go alone, have someone drive you if you can, and don't be afraid to hold your cat just as you always would. In your arms, next to your heart, is where the love is and they know that. I wish you well in this agonizing time.
((((((hugs))))) --Kathy
I know you are upset about this and it is your decision
true enough. I probably would not like a 16-year-old to have the keys either. First of all, unless living there, lots are not responsible enough or use good logic but I was hurt, I was grown and could be trusted then and now and I would let me children have, but they are grown.
Yes, you are making the right decision (sm)
I was days away from making that decision myself with my old 20 year old baby, but she took the decision out of my hands, and I am grateful for that. Maybe your baby will too. If not, then she trusts you to do it for her. Hugs.
Yes, and it was a very hard decision...
I had moved my mom in with me after she had surgery/went through rehab.. And I took care of her for 19 months. It was so hard. She had to go back in the hospital and I was fighting with my family at the same time for help... It was really overwhelming. She is still living but unfortunately my family moved her closer to them where she did not get the best care and was eventually moved again, further away from me to a facility that I can appreciate. She looks really well and I know that she is being taken care of. I miss her. I can not visit her as often as I would like but I know that she is being taken care of... It is a very hard decision that I can not say that I don't regret. I also contemplate on a daily basis if I made the right decision. A day never passes that I don't ask myself is it time to go and get mom and bring her home?
decision on grandma
I decided to email tell my grandmother i would bring the boys to her house Tuesday to do their Christmas visiting. I haven't contacted my mother, she lives beside my grandmother; maybe she will come over when she sees my car. Who knows?
hard decision
Putting down an animal is never easy. We have lost two of our fur kids to illness, one just this past February. His was a sudden illness and completely unexpected, and when the time came when the vet knew it was almost over, we went ahead and had him put to sleep so that he would not be suffering any more. I was able to hold him when the vet gave him the shot. It was so peaceful and so quick, and I was shocked. I had this horrible image in my head of what it would be like, and it was the complete opposite. (Our other fur kid had been put to sleep immediately after surgery, so we had never seen the process).
I don't beleive you are trying to 'kill' a healthy pet. It sounds like the poor guy is suffering, and dogs I think try to "hang in there" more so than cats. Here is my opinion, for what it is worth. If he is still able to go to the bathroom and get around a bit, if he is still eating, then use this time to get her used to the idea. Talk to her plainly and tell her that he is coming to an end of his time here, and that for her to hold on to him is cruel. She needs to be aware of how he is really feeling, and pay attention if he tries to tell her. I'm not really saying this well, but I hope you get what I am trying to say. I understand your mom's position - the thought of losing someone else is extremely painful to her, and hey, we all avoid pain as much as possible. However, when she made a commitment to the dog, part of that commitment was making sure that when he was not able to be comfortable, healthy and happy any longer, she would take the steps to make sure he had as easy a passage to whatever lies beyond this life as possible. Something else she may be worried about is the whole process of putting him to sleep. If you have a good vet, and it sounds like you do, they will be able to guide her through this.
Also, let her know that she will not be alone during/after this, and make sure that someone is there with her for support.
It is a difficult situation for everyone concerned, and you have my heartfelt sympathy. I hope that what I've said here helps you. Good luck in whatever happens, and God bless.
Thank you everyone. I made a decision.
I don't know if it will work, but I'm going to put my foot down the next time my sister says anything about Mom's money. I've argued with her in the past because I don't believe she has that much. Just yesterday, when I did that and said she has much less than you think, she came off with, she's so forgetful, she's got all this money and doesn't even realize it. She's been asking for years "how does Mom sound"? Like Mom's losing it.
I can't tell Mom what to do as far as a will goes. I know she doesn't really trust her husband and doesn't want him to get whatever she does have left. I also know Mom's had a will since before I was born, so I expect she has an updated one now.
Anyway, I've decided to put my foot down and just tell her she's not to speak of it again to me or I will hang up on her, leave her house or usher her out my front door. I cannot say anything to my mother. It's liable to cause something I couldn't live with.
It's a personal decision...
I researched this topic extensively and I came to the conclusion that circumcision was not right for my family. We've had no problems because of it. I can see why both sides have their opinions, but ultimately it is up to the individual to decide what's best. For us, no circ has worked. My child is very happy to be intact, as he was created.
I think O made the right decision.
3.5 billion people, more than half the world's population have a permissive or flexible policy on human embryonic stem cell research and all have banned human reproductive cloning.
I agree with this decision.
It's simple enough for parents to know what their kids are doing on the internet. Most parents are simply too lazy, don't understand how to do it, or have somr kind of misplaced sense that a kid is entitled to privacy.
Maybe if they start seeing what the consequences are the kids will start using some judgement.
I'm telling you guys, it's all a parent can do to keep them alive until 18 in this world today.
I think it should be a personal decision....
If a person has a medically documented terminal illness and does not want to suffere any more, then I think it should be their right.
loss prevention officer for major dept store - nm
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Sounds like a smart decision.
I'd so the same if I were you. I will pray for optimal outcome for you.
Regarding hormones, remember that the recommendation is now now against hormones after some huge studies. Use has decreased a lot, and for the second year in a row, cancer rates have dropped substantially. But I don't know anything about risks of short-term use, and maybe that's what you are considering.
Big decision, I need peace of mind (nm)
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Because I realized it was a bad decision to move here (sm)
I had just had a C-section, we lived in an apartment. He insisted that he do the house hunting. I was at home with my newborn and my c-section recovery. He fell in love with this house and told me all that we were going to do with it. I was worried the road might be too busy but he assured me it was not. I agreed. Then when I realized that I had to have room darkening shades on the windows at night to keep out the car lights and run a fan all night to drown out car noises, and that he wasn't going to fix the termite-eaten pantry or the sagging floor, yeah, I wanted to move. If you call that selfish then you come live here.
Make him responsible for the decision
If he wants to switch schools and give up the scholarship, tell him he has to get the funding to do it. I had to do the same thing with my daughter. She gave up a good scholarship at a great private school for pharmacy because she wanted to come back closer to home to be around her boyfriend. She ended up having to take out the loans to pay for it.
There is nothing written in stone that says we have to pay for our children's educations. It is nice if you can help as a parent, but I think kids learn much more if they have some of their own resources invested.
It was a tough decision, but I'm glad you got
your daughter's input and did not have to make the decision alone. Two things will happen. She will find out what a paddling is...and it sounds like she will only need ONE lesson about that issue. The second is that the paddling is over and done with...HER choice. You can't save her from all the bad things life is going to bring her, and she brought the consequence on herself and chose her punishment.
You should be proud that she chose EDUCATION by not missing class. THAT will last a lot longer than some stinging on the bum for a few hours. It does not matter which punishment she received, she will feel regret. She will receive a lesson in following the rules and not ruin her grades by missing class.
If it were ever to happen again, I would ask for an option of extra school work of some sort...a book report, etc., or running laps around the track.
Don't let these extremists make you feel so bad. I seriously doubt there will be any bruising. You made a good choice for letting her have input into her consequence. It sounds like no matter what happens, she has learned a lesson.
Good luck to you!
I need to make a decision - any advice
I work for a wonderful company, have been there for about 5-6 years, except I worked out a pool and the work comes in about 5:00 p.m. I get up every morning at 4:30 or 5:00 a.m., ready to work. The problem is the other MTs have stayed up all night and have completed ALL of the work and I'm left with stragglers, maybe 200 lines per day. I cannot work at night becaue of other commitments. I also work for another MTSO but their platform has so many steps just to get a report completed until it's frustrating, BUT it pays the same as the other company, but only every two weeks. I'm not sure what I want to do, continue to fight to get lines every morning or just go through the 99,000 steps to get a report typed.
Any suggestions....!!!! 
I did 2 years ago. BEST decision I ever made for myself.
I was 44 when I had the surgery. I went from a 36 DDD/E to a 36 B/C, and I'm ridiculously happy about it. No more aching back. The grooves in my shoulders are almost gone. Clothes fit, and I am much more active, so I generally feel better.
I had my surgery as an outpatient. Surgery was at 8:00 a.m. and by 3:30 I was home. I won't lie to you. It was pretty painful immediately afterwards, but that's what meds are for. These are extensive incisions with layers of stitches and staples. You have to expect pain. I also had an On-Q pump for pain medication. But to be honest, I really don't think that helped all that much. I was part of a study for that, and I know that our hospital has recently stopped using it. I guess the feedback wasn't very positive. Mostly, I took Percocet for about a week. I had drains on both sides, and the pain was MUCH better once those were removed about 3 days after surgery. So the worst of the pain was during the first three postop days. After that, I was usually pretty good during the day with just Tylenol and an occasional Percocet. I did take the Percocet at night. Sleeping was tough for a while because positioning comfortably was difficult. After the drains were removed and then all of the staples and sutures (about a week), I was up and out of the house and doing my normal activities. I just wasn't doing anything high impact. A month after the surgery, I did a slow but steady 8-mile hike with a daypack on and even camped in my tent and slept on the ground for two nights. I was fine. Not absolutely pain-free, but active and happy and looking great.
I gotta tell ya! To be 46 and have perky breasts makes me smile. My scarring isn't bad at all. (Thank you Mederma!) But I never planned to do a layout for Playboy, so a few red lines under my clothes don't bother me at all, especially because I'm able to walk about without a bra, if I really want to. :) The pain is just a distant memory now, and soooo worth it. My plastic surgeon told me that breast reduction surgery receives the most positive feedback from patients, more than any other plastic surgery procedure. I can't remember the exact figure, but something like 95% of women say they are pleased they had the surgery and are happy with the results.
nursing home decision
I am living this as we speak. My father died in March of 2007. My mother became bedridden in June 2007. I had hospice come in to assist, Home Health and Hospice to be exact, and they are wonderful. They actually have their own private nursing home-type facility in the next town over. With hospice, on an occasional basis and when a bed is available, they offer the caregiver a 5-day respite at their facility. After momma went for the first time she was offered a bed there and I immediately accepted. The facility is very small and only for the 3HC clientele, with only 12 private rooms divided into 2 sides - one side with 6 beds for the terminal clients and one side with 6 beds for "residential" clients. Momma was able to stay on the residential side for 7 months; however, her condition was "stable" and Medicare would no longer pay the fee. Momma came home after that and I have again been her primary caregiver since January of this year. She is contractured, bedridden, and rarely speaks or opens her eyes. I do have a sitter that works during the daytime hours M-F so that I can actually work, run errands when I need to, and get the kids to and from school because otherwise I cannot leave the house at all because momma cannot be left alone.
I feel blessed to have found this line of work not quite 6 years ago. I have a 4-1/2 year old and a 6 year old and momma to care for so working from home has been a lifesaver.
I, too, made the promise to momma that I would not "put" her in a nursing home and I will stand by that. It's all there is left that I can do for her. Not to mention, the fact that she owns a home and has income from my late father's investments, it would cost upwards of $6,000 per month to have her placed in one, and even though the estate could pay for that, I think it's ridiculous for the type of "care" most of the public places provide.
It's a tough decision to make - even tougher if there aren't funds available like there are in our case (thanks to my great daddy) to pay for the sitter to come in and assist. But when the sitter isn't here, the kids and I must be. For the most part they understand, but sometimes they really just want to go somewhere or to the park or to McDonalds and we just can't do it. It's a huge personal sacrifice for your entire family to make to keep a parent at home. The decision isn't always just personal, though. It can be financial, too.
You will make the right decision for whatever your situation is. Whatever you decide to do, just know that your parent respects you enough to make that decision for them and that they love you.
Best of luck to you honey... hugzzzzz
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