Thanks honey! We would be fine without my job thanks
Posted By: phillygal on 2008-12-22
In Reply to: Whatever, I think you just need to have that last word - OldMT
to living right and not beyond one's means. And BTW, bon bons are fattening, you won't catch this MT with seat spread! Well, this has been fun, but my work day is done and Christmas vacation has begun! So, toodles to you all. Very Merry Christmas!
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It doesn't matter "where you stand." What works for you is fine. What works for me is fine.
Comparing ourselves as to frequency is ridiculous.
Honey!
I am not sure why, but honey always helps when I get that really tight and irritated feeling in my throat. Even just taking a teaspoon full before I go to bed helps, especially for when you have the irritating postnasal drip. And its great for kids who get that tickly cough in the middle of the night. Give it a try!
Thank you both. I am going to get some honey (sm)
I have not been tested for mono but I have been around 2 children very recently who were diagnosed with mono. I told the doc this but I have had mono in the past so she said that probably wasn't the problem now. I definitely trying the honey and pepper. I would stick a bar of soap down my throat right now if I thought it would help...lol. thank you
You're not alone honey . . .
Being a wife and mom is a labor of love. Women give so much of themselves. The kids probably won't get it until they have children of their own and experience the same thing. It would be nice to feel appreciated now and then, a little thought behind the gift is all you're asking. Crawl back into bed if you want, or how about a hot bath and a glass of wine. Try to do something nice for yourself. I know it's not the same but what can we do? Chin up.
I have heard this too, but it has to be honey - sm
made in your local area, that way it has the pollen, etc. from your area to help your allergies. My neighbor just started doing this about 2 weeks ago and swears it is working. I am thinking about trying it too (cannot hurt) as my allergies (pollen, dust, mold) are a lot worse this year though the worst is over for me now.
Oh honey, I am a woman...
just can do things on my own...have a large home too and still manage to have lots of time, a clean house and work 10 hour days. I can easily afford a housekeeper too but why when I am perfectly capable myself. DH gets to come home to a home cooked meal every night, a very clean home and a happy wife who does not complain! Not all men want simpering, helpless women.
You could try mixing it with honey or
adding a bit of juice to it.
Honey, she is not MY daughter....
she is a child that I gave up for adoption who is someone else's true daughter. I have stated that I would be willing to meet her face to face, but just because I don't have the warm fuzzies you think I should have about meeting her doesn't make me hateful. Do you feel that all of us who gave children up for adoption are supposed to want a relationship with them? That is an irrational way of thinking, as far as I'm concerned. Am I curious, yes; am I regretful, no; do I harbor bitterness towards her, no. That being said, I am not so curious that it would haunt me to the end if I never met her.
honey and eggs
If you really want a side business, keep chickens or bees. People like to buy organic food.
Honey, you wish you had it as good as me!! :)
Thank goodness I'm not one of you who eeks out a liviing typing fingers to the bone, worrying about bills, etc. Have a good life and know it! Thanks though for your concern!
Merry Christmas to all!
Did you try the pure honey?
NM
I think the honey is starting to help....at least (sm)
it is temporarily soothing. Thank you all for your suggestions
Honey, I feel your pain..
We have 5 friggin kids..THREE of which are teenagers and the oldest is almost 26 but going to college full-time so I have footing that bill along with all of his other bills he has acquired as an adult..Then, we have the almost 20-year-old daughter who is unable or just doesn't want to work..so we took her back out of the homeless spectrum and got her a home..which we are footing the bill for...Thus, is the reason mom has to work 2 FT jobs..So, my answer to our kids thinking they are EVER moving back home when we boot them out is this...We're buying a motor home when they're gone. On the back it will be named "Kid's Inheritance." Then, as we pull out of the driveway, and if we see them in the rearview mirror, we're hitting the gas!!! and it's like this.."kids, if you can catch us, you can move in, but we won't be doing the speed limit." How's that !!! As you know, as a parent, you have to spend your time laughing or you will just start bawling uncontrollably until they come haul you away.
I just read that someone mixes it with honey in a cup of s/m
hot water twice a day. She cannot believe the difference it has made overall, and NO hot flashes!! It seems too good to be true. I will try the tablets first and if that does not work I will try the "tea" mixture. Thanks!
Not judging honey, believe me, I speak...
my mind and you could tell if I was judging others. This place is teeming with unhappy, whining, complaining women (just look at some of the posts all over this site) and that is not a judgement, it is fact. As far as being in the same situation as others one day, if you read any of my posts you would see that I have been there, done that and changed my ways. Should something happen, we have learned to save money, have enough put away to last a year and not have to touch any retirement, etc. That took a lot of determination and hard work on our part and we are proud of it.
I am get a good chuckle out of some women who accuse other women of "living off their husbands" and "where would you be without his money". I can make my own money, but my husband doesn't tell me that i need to work and doesn't tell me how much I need to make. He is the provider in this family and has never once asked me to work harder, earn more or get a different job. Remember when men used to do that and our mother's stayed home and raised the family and didn't work? Are you jealous of your girl friends or family members that don't have to work or who live debt free or do you hold that judgement for those you do not know?
Enough of this for now. I'm sure someone will have something to bash me about later on...go ahead, it just shows how very immature some women can be.
raspberry no caffeine hot tea w/honey nm
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Honey, if you are the one posting about all the problems sm
with your father, you need more than jut a phone block. I can't say exactly what needs to be done, but you are here every week (and you need a place to vent and ask for help, so keep coming here), but there is so much more to your problems than "dad always calling, always at the house, always asking about mom". You need a legal analyst to come into this situation and get some formal help and training. I sincerely hate that you are going through this, but your life sounds like a soap opera and I honestly think you need more help then we can give. Good luck and prayers to you.
Shoulda walked over and said,"Here, honey. Let me
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Oh honey...go take a pill and have a stiff drink too...
some kids are just plain bratty and mean, bios and steps, no matter what the age. Many kids know how to manipulate the situation to their advantage, especially kids from divorce. Some of us are adult enough to see through it and make others aware. Nothing wrong with kids coming first, however, parents need to know when to reign little Tommy or Susie in and stop catering to them all the time.
I did that yesterday with the Honey Nut Cheerios snack mix
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Baby Cakes, I LOVE it...thanks honey!
BTW, you are hardly starting a revolution. It is a little piece of skin...get over it (or maybe GET some of it!)
Honey, you're not here by accident, the world did not just "happen"!...
Will pray for you!
Hand him a lonog honey-do list one day after work,
x
Burt's bees hands down - have a tube everywhere - original, don't like honey
xx
Find a local beekeeper who sells honey. I know, sounds crazy. but sm
here in our town of 200,000, a local beekeeper sells honey from the local bees where people with severe allergies will go and buy a bottle, eat 2 tablespoons a day for a few days and SWEARS by this method.
This is the only natural cure I have seen that actually works. The bees pollinate the stuff you are allergic to and then you eat their honey....and then you become immunue to the allergens in the air and it works.
Honey, I grew up on the south shore of Long Island, NY in hurricane territory...
ya know how to duck and cover. I've never been through a major earthquake or a real tsunami yet though. Hey, there's always time for that.  Cat
That's fine for you
Don't knock anyone other's way. It's not normal to have irregular periods. It's hard enough to keep track of my own (which I do, PCOS and all), so why not jot it down so I know my daughter(s) isn't going through something just chalked up to being a teenager when something might be wrong? People know if they haven't had a BM in a week; that's certainly not normal. However, that is easier to make a mental note of than periods. Sure, it's not something anyone wants to talk about over the family roast and potatoes, but it's something that needs attention. Jotting a letter down is far less invasive than asking how many pads are saturated in a day or something (which I would certainly anyway do if there was a problem).
We are nurses (hubby and I) and we like to keep on top of things when they are out of whack. I'll take the reins on this one when this is an issue for us.
That's just fine with me!
Just reading that list put me in the Holiday SPIRIT! Now between your cookies and that egg nog with laying under the tree (no not under the table, under the Christmas tree), you are all definitely getting me there... now to walmart for Charlie Brown music and to put money in Salvation army (I know type-A again). LOL. Anybody got more cookie recipes, there's a lot of pauses in between dictations here.... Thanks again! :)
It's probably just fine to eat...but..sm
if you're concerned you can always create homemade alpo or fancy feast and put in in ziplocs and freeze it....It's better than the stuff in the can and my animals love vegetables and real meat mixed with their dry food. Just an idea. Cat
As far as I know, he's fine. sm
My dad does not take care of himself. He's physically fit, but he smokes, been smoking since a young teen. He eats whatever (fried foods, hamburgers, etc). My dad doesn't go to the doctor. He has a family history of cancer and heart disease. His mom died in her 40s of cancer. I think he's afraid of getting cancer/heart disease. In his mind not knowing is better. He's the type where if I'd say "Dad, I'm concerned about your health, I wish you'd quit smoking", he'd smoke even more. I'm afraid my parents will not live to be old people. Neither one of them eat well and they both smoke (no offense to anyone who smokes). My mom's dad has had a heart attack and her brother has had a heart attack. My dad had a really rough childhood, and I think he needed some counseling, but that would never happen. He's very head strong and hard headed. Thanks for listening. I'm very happy with my family (hubby and two boys), so I try to focus on being a better parent than my dad was to me growing up.
Their dad is fine - where would you have them go? (sm)
People amaze me when they think kids should be ripped out of an imperfect home and thrown to the wolves....do you not think these children would be sad, upset and terrified and scarred for life to be torn from their family? They are not being abused or treated badly. There is no reason to suggest taking the kids from their parents that is just ridiculous!!
If their Dad is fine then enough is enough sm
The Dad has to protect these kids then from the fallout of what the Mom has chosen to do if it is truly what the original poster has outlined. He shouldn't let them hear any conversation that has to do with a "booty call" - that is not language meant to be in children's lives, sorry but if he's that great, then the posting person should get together with him and map out a plan for the fallout from the mother's foolish move and the words "booty call" should never be used in these children's presence. Just reading that post cries out for help for these kids, the words are very volatile and crying for help. Read the post again and one can't simply expect these kids are not going to hear some pretty grown-up stuff over this ordeal. Poor kids don't need to be in the middle of this. Not suggesting throwing them to the wolves, normal thinking would be a caring family member protecting them, not the cops or the state, for Pete's sake, read it again. "Booty call" - not Parents Magazine talk!
Went through it fine without anything...
just some OTC Estroven, which worked well for me. I'm 48, started peri around 44, have gone over a year without my period...done! Some hot flashes and mood swings, nothing I couldn't handle. My doc wanted to put me on BCP, gave me a script, but I didn't bother filling it. Had my levels checked, doc said congrats, you had a fairly uneventful menopause. I don't like to take drugs of any kind....too many women out there are taking a handful of pills just to try to get through the day; not my style. There is something to be said for eating right, exercise and a healthy, happy frame of mind. I don't want to take a pill to be happy, take a pill to sleep, take a pill to lose weight because I have no self-control with food. To each her own...natural worked for me.
It will probably be fine
I agree with what the above poster says, about separating them and making the introductions gradual. You might find that you cat loves having a friend. Of course, he will act like he hates her when you're around, that's a kitty act and they're really good at it. But when he thinks you're not looking, he'll probably play with her and really enjoy the company. Good luck.
In between fine but those flares....
like woke up Friday morning just a big ache. I got very upset 1 time and that night almost had to go to the ER, in that much pain, worse than any childbirth have ever been thru. Talking about the memory, thank goodness doing MTing have lots on auto because in every day life have to write myself notes or would forget everything. Took half tablet of pain pill today but then could hardly finish my paper and can't do that when working, would be zzzzzz at the computer.
Had 1 just recently - that was fine
within the past 4 months, so next step??
That's all well and fine but it goes both ways
Then Christianity and even the mention of God should be kept out of all forms of government, local to federal.
I guess only Muslims can be terrorists. Was McVeigh Muslim? Stop generalizing.
Oh, and what is a mosk?
I'm sure if I was an American Muslim I would be welcome at a mosque.
I'm sure you'd welcome a Muslim with open arms into your congregation.... after he goes through the metal detector.
Okay, I'm done.
Ceremony was fine...
I just thought maybe something interesting would pop up. Just nothing exciting, in my opinion.....
If her numbers are fine
I would not worry. If the drugs are toxic and make her feel worse, then it really is about the quality of her life. Take care.
Got mine fine but sm
Yahoo is very, VERY glitchy. Sometimes you will get 25 emails from several months ago. My blog on Yahoo 360 has disappeared about three times. Blog comments also come and go.
If you are using your Yahoo email for business, you might consider switching over to Hotmail. They have just upgraded to Windows Live Hotmail and it is very similar to Outlook Express.
JMHO.
Really? I'm 50 and it works fine for me; however, sm
I do use a good moisturizer before applying. I also have to use a bit extra of cream make-up to conceal redness and then apply the Bare Minerals.
I think the letter is fine (sm)
until it reaches the "Bullying is..." paragraph. I would have left that section out. At that point, it appears you are attempting to psychoanalyze these children, which is strange (and arrogant).
it will be fine without the vanilla. nm
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BTW my FIL recovered just fine - sm
and that was almost 9 years ago.....he whined for about 2 years that he was dying though, have no clue how my MIL lived with it. He will be 79 in March and doing very well.
I think that is just fine. Plus, I have found...
that most old people like my child, although I find old women to be less tolerant than old men. I wonder why that is. Maybe because they are the ones who spent the majority of the time with their own children? I certainly did not think anyone whould watch my child for me, just maybe not be so quick to judge, especially those who have never had children of their own.
You'll be fine and so will she.
Wow! You should be very proud of 38 years of full-time mothering!
The way I see it, you have two issues here. I think you acknowledged both in your post. One issue is letting go of your youngest child, your only daughter. But the other issue is the what-do-I-do-with-myself-issue. You've been raising children for 38 years, and now YOUR life is going to change. That's probably the biggest part of this transition, in my opinion. You have to be about your own business now.
I went through all of this myself. There were days when I wanted to feel sad and lonely in my now-quiet house. But there were days that were so much fun, because I could simply do whatever I wanted and not have to worry about kids at home. Gradually, the fun days came more frequently, and that situation was the norm for me.
It's like any life transition. You have to get used to it. And getting used to thinking about yourself first is a big transition for any mother, especially one whose been mothering since 1970! You deserve the time. And your daughter deserves the opportunities you've given her. You'll still be close, but in a more adult way. It doesn't have to be the way you describe your relationship with your grown son. With your daughter, you may still have very detailed conversations, but yes, you are going to have to get used to there being long stretches of time between those conversations and visits. But you will get used to it.
And I'd like to disagree with the poster who didn't like the idea of a young woman traveling the world. I think that's exciting and wonderful. She'll learn so much from traveling. It really makes me bristle when people say that women shouldn't go places or do things because it's "dangerous". Every moment of life on earth has some sort of danger attached to it. And yes, some things perhaps are more "dangerous" than others. But I know people who limit their experiences in an effort to avoid danger, and I just think it's sad. I don't consider myself a risk taker, but there are just too many wonderful things in the world. Life is as precious as any valuable gift you can imagine. And like a valuable gift, it should be used and not locked up for display purposes. I hope your daughter has amazing experiences in her life, and I hope she comes back to you and shares her excitement with you. And while she's doing those things, you go right ahead and get out there, too! Go do something for yourself or with you husband! Ballroom dancing sounds like fun!
I transcribe for a PT and she is doing fine - sm
my checks have actually got up a little lately by maybe $20 or so every 2 weeks. I don't think she is going anywhere.
You'll be fine....
This is not unusual. You are young. I'm 38; hubs 35. We've been married for 17 years. You'll have times when you miss the single days, but you'll also have times when you're glad you have your better half. This is all normal. You are not crazy.
What you can do though is ask him if it would be okay to be uninhibited and spontaeous at least once a month. Maybe one month you pick something you'd like to do (like go out and have a beer) and the next month it's his turn.
I think the doom and gloom of this profession and the economy has people wondering "is this it?" Well, yes, to a degree it is, but life is so short! Party it up! Have children a little later or now, whichever suits you.
I, however, do not see anything wrong with your feeling the way you do. We all would love to run for the hills at some point, but we need a stay point as well. It's all healthy human nature!
You will be fine. I got married sm
right out of highschool (6 weeks) and have been married 36 years come July. I remember in the early days having feelings like that. You love your husband, you have a good marriage and your feelings are normal. Whatever you do, don't give it up looking for greener pastures! Too many marriages give it up for reasons that you are stating...which are not reasons to throw in the towel and they are sorry later.
Way down the road when you mature a whole lot more, you won't regret it.
My advice is that she will be fine with MIL visiting.....
There is a fine line hear.....
Your terms "pestering us" in reference to your children is wrong. It sounds like there is verbal abuse and child neglect going on in your home (baby hungry and dirty). You might want to watch what you post here as this is now in black and white that you have not been properly taking care of your children. I want to support you, but it doesn't sound like even you (the poster) are interested in taking care of the children either. GROW SOME NADS!!! If I were you, I'd seek help from social services in your state.
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