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Okay, so basically I came on here to vent again!  LOL  So, after the contractors were basically bathing in our pool and sitting on our vehicles and leaving about 20 nails and lunch trash and vinyl siding on our front doorstep....

Today, they were to send out another crew of 2 guys, instead of the original 5.  The owners wife was to come to supervise all day.  So, they show up about 11:30 with their kids and the wife and her two friends all hanging out in my yard...okay fine at least shes supervising....She then proceeded to sunbath in the backyard while smoking about 3 packs of ciggerettes...um, okay..then, you guessed it, left all those butts all over our yard!!  She also never apologized to me personally.  Later in the day, my window is cracked and I can hear her over my typing, so I stop to listen.  LOL  She is complaining loudly on her cell phone how she has to babysit all day because the renters b*tched about the pool.  She was also saying it was only a 1000 galloon pool, so who gives a crap, whats the problem!?!  The pool is actually a 16' pool.  My feelings are that it does not matter if it is a baby pool or an inground pool you do not go to someones house and wash the sweat and dirt off at the end of the day in their pool!

Let me know what you all think!  Do you think I was being too hard on them having a problem with this?  Ugh one more day of work left for them to finish I think.  I'll have to see what happens tomorrow.

I really appreciate everyone's advice regarding my son and what I should or shouldn't do.  We have had a really interesting weekend.  Not fun interesting.  There was a football game this weekend so he was busy Friday night and Saturday and Sunday he had free.  I offered to let him come home for the day but he didn't want to.  That was fine. 

We went about our day and something told me something was wrong.  Mother's intuition I guess.  He took his car (which is our car that we are making payments on and paying the insurance on and is in our name) and drove it through one pretty darn big city without our permission to his girlfriend's college 2-1/2 hours away to see her on a Sunday afternoon.  It is his car to drive but we had already told him that we were not ready for him to drive that trip.  The car would be signed over to him when and only when he successfully completes college.  We have told him two or three times since school started that he was not to make that drive.  Since he knew we would say no, he just did it. 

Well I texted him a twice and he didn't answer me. My husband texted him a twice and he didn't answer him.  About two hours later he answered.  So when I got home he texted me with this elaborate story of where he was about to go and why he would be out of pocket for awhile.  Alarms went up.  I called him and asked if he was in his room.  He said yes.  I asked him to get on his computer.  He gave me a cock-n-bull story about being on his roommates computer.  I said get on your own.  I see his girlfriend's messenger name sign off immediately. He said what do you want me to do.  I said I want you to log on your screen name.  He told me that his computer wasn't working, he'd have to restart.  Meanwhile I could see while he was restarting his away message was still there.  He restarted.  I said I want you on your screenname.  He signed on.  I said, OK I want you to put up your "I'm in calculus message" (knowing he couldn't duplicate it).  He tried bless his heart but I knew where he was. 

I asked him if that is where he was.  No mom.  I asked him if his roommate was there.  He said no (previously he had said he was there).  I said if I'm wrong I am going to owe you a real big apology but I want you to find a payphone and call me from it.  Figuring I could figure out by the area code if he was lying or I was wrong.  He said OK.  Well immediately I could tell he knew he was caught.  I handed the phone to his dad who he admitted it to.  His dad is going to get the car tonight.

I am so upset.  I am not mad.  I am disappointed.  If he had told me the truth right when I asked I would have been a little disappointed and a little proud of him for stepping up to the plate.  He is going to at the very least not have a car for the rest of the semester, and I am pretty sure he won't do that again.  We called the girlfriend's parents to let them know what happened too.  We know them fairly well and I felt that they needed to know.  She doesn't have a car because they don't want her driving to where he is. 

I quit writing in my diary when the real stuff started happening.  I don't think my mom ever read my diary, but when I started dating, I quit writing.  I figured a paper trail probably wasn't a good idea.  I did, however, keep a box full of love letters that probably would have given a very accurate timeline of my romantic escapades.

As for your situation, it sounds like you know your daughter pretty well.  Just watch her mood swings, etc, for signs.  You'll know when -- my mom definitely knew.

I'm just sorry that it's coming from personal experience.  So much of what you say does sound like my son.  I have definitely zoomed in on the impulsivity of his actions.  I had brought that up to the child psychologist and he said that it's something to watch to see if he grows out of it.  I'm not expecting that to happen.  I manage the best I can and it's from day to day.  When we go places, sometimes its good and sometimes not.  It seems when we all go together, it doesn't go as well.  I'm guessing because he's not getting as much of the attention as he would like. 

I'm curious how you feel about the injury your son is doing to his siblings.  I feel so guilty and sorry for my son's actions towards my other children, but how do you deal with that?  I don't want him taken away from us or locked up, but yet I know I need to protect my other children.  He doesn't act out all the time.  In fact, this week is the worst he's been all summer. 

No alkies on either side of the family (thank heavens for small blessings).  Although, I do believe there is some bipolar or other type of mental illness on my side of the family (aunts, cousins).  I got some real kooks for relatives.  I've mentioned this to the child psychologist also, but he doesn't seem overly concerned about my son's actions.  He almost acts like it's something he will outgrow or something that can be changed through behavior modification.  I'm not that optimistic.  I personally think it's just my child's temperament.  He's always been difficult, even as an infant. 

Well, I can't deal with this anymore tonight.  I'm off to bed.  My son is having a sleepover at his great-grandma's tonight and I'm sure he'll be fine.  She says she "don't take his sh!t and he knows it"  I wish he felt that way about me.  At least I can count on a peaceful morning tomorrow!  Thanks again for letting me know I'm not the only one.  It helps more than you can imagine.

I wonder if anybody has any insight into my son's behavior and performance in school.  His dad and I have talked until we are blue in the face and we have also left him alone and have given him space regarding his grades.  Neither causes any change.  He just keeps telling us he doesn't care about high school and that it does not matter.  He has no respect for the teachers (not many of them take teaching very seriously, in all honesty, so I can't much blame him for that) and he doesn't feel like he should try since they don't. 

This is a kid who scores in the 98 to 99th percentile on standardized testing.  He is SO smart, friendly, outgoing, quick-witted, and for the most part respectful.  He doesn't smoke or drink or do drugs.  He plays guitar in the praise band at church.  He is a good kid, but he just refuses to do his school work. 

This has been a struggle for the past 4 years of high school.  He is supposed to graduate in May, but the last 9 weeks report card came today and he got 2 F's, a D and a C. The 2 F's were gimme classes, believe it or not.  If he doesn't bring those up to average a passing grade he won't graduate.  It makes me sad, confused, frustrated beyond belief, worried, just to name a few emotions. 

He says he thinks he has ADD but I think he just WANTS to have it so he can have a pass, so to speak.  I think it could be some deeper problem, like our family dynamics, playing a role.  Does anybody have any ideas on how this boy can be inspired to rise to meet even the smallest challenge?

I wondered that too if all the houses gone up that much.  I know they did some remodeling since they bought it 5 years ago but we have done some remodeling in this house too (same kind of remodeling)  but I won't dare think it would sell for 66% above what we originally paided for it. 

Than again, I would have to get an expert to come through here and tell me what they think it might sell for.  I have not a clue. 

My gut feeling  tells me that they need to come down.  I saw the new house they were moving too.  It is a huge, two story, maybe $300K home.   DH and I think they have jacked up the price on this other home in order to help pay for the one they are in now.

 Then other things would have to factor in like property taxes, cost of utilities which I know all that would be more than what we are paying now for this little house we are in now. "sigh"  Oh well, maybe one day we will have something bigger. 

I have not had a man in my life for the past 3.5 years.  I have tried dating and get asked out all the time, but just no interest in the ones doing the asking I guess.  I have a very comfortable life and truly am in no need for a man to take care of me.  However, I have known this one particular man for over a year and just very recently our friendship seems to be heading to a different level and for the first time I am very attracted to him.  So, the other day he e-mailed me and both of us came clean on our feelings.  The problem is that he has had his present girlfriend for the past 7 years...they do not live together and really spend little time together, as their lives are significantly different and when asked why he simply states "it just isn't working out and that he could make more time to see her, but he doesn't"

Okay, so now I know I am going to get flamed, but where do you think it goes from here?  Both him and I have a seminar to attend with another man in 2 weeks and will also be staying at the same hotel,  etc. and I am just so confused as to how I go about keeping my distance but still wanting him.  What to do, what to do......this has been on my mind all day and so has he and I am so not use to these feelings at all....like high school all over again.

everyone on the plane wasn't hovering around this woman while she nursed...good grief!

Mind your own business and you'd never even know the baby was being nursed...dang!

By the way, at Disneyland.. how many butts and boobs did you see hanging out of shorts and tops?  Did *yo momma* report them to the security and hold them hostage while they were told to leave? Huh?  Doubt it!

Has your daughter changed her mind yet?  The Navy sent my son's friend to Behran way back when the war first started.  The other poster had  marhvelous good luck with her husband and her sister and their Navy experience.

Dentists where I am are few and far between and it's a real problem.  When I lost my childhood filling there, the tooth was too far gone to be saved.  Well, it could have been saved but the cost was as much as monthly mortgate and car payment combined, so it went bye-bye.  I balled my eyes out for almost 2 days because it was then that I realized I would probably wind up toofless the older I got, as I had no idea how expensive dental care was.  Having your own teeth should be a luxury, ya know?

You take care of yourself and it's good to "see" ya! 

after the root canal I was great for 2 days - then pain hit again, radiating all over my jaw - still had no pain medicine - was ready to hit the streets!!! Needed more antibiotics and eventually and 2000.00 later I am okay.  I did get some relief from the Anbesol stuff and ice packs on my face.  Hope it's over soon.

My son's girlfriend's mother is like that.....wierd!!!!

I don't think that I am.....

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AR4PQ30VkBk

I love Kyle Chandler!  Oh!! Add Early Edition to my fave list.  How could I forget that one?

good sign!  I had one of those the other day.  One thing I've learned with this job . .

There's always tomorrow.  May be the same, much better, or WORSE!!!  LOL!

Chronological Age:  33

Physical Age:  45?

Emotional Age:  45!

What State:   Indiana

How you like being an MT:     Love the work . Would love more of it, lol.  Have not worked since November and cannot seem to buy a job.  

What you like/dislike about it:   The politics of the business.  The fact that I do not have more than 3 years' experience, and am rejected because of that.

Favorite Food:   Mexican - enchiladas, burritos without beans and rice.

Favorite Spectator Sport(s):   Baseball.

Most fun you ever had in your life:   The summer hubby and I met and dated.

One of your worst experiences:   Buying a lot to build a house and finding out my neighbors were Nazis.  Learning to get over that while dealing with a new diagnosis of rheumatoid arthritis. 

Funniest experience:  Um...watching hubby do crazy things.  There is nothing funnier than a grown man chasing a goose or duck, or a 6Ɗ" beanpole (lucky duck) bouncing up and down on a trampoline.

Best pet you ever had:   All my cats.  Boogey, Squiddles, Calvin, Julius and now Simcha.  They are our furkids and just constantly entertain us, amaze us, etc.

Funnest job you ever had:   Working for the Appalachian Media Institute at Appalshop in Whitesburg, Kentucky.  I got to learn a tremendous amount about the media, how subtleties in processing, etc, can influence things, and to connect with my heritage in new ways.

Weirdest job you ever had:   Cold-calling voters to remind them of the upcoming election.  One guy had been dead for 11 years but had voted in the last 3 out of 4 elections!!!

When you win the Big Lottery, you will: Well, first i will have to play it, but when i win  I will pay off all my debt, buy an SUV, help my uncle out financially, help hubby start his own business, invest in some friends' businesses perhaps, buy some land with acreage and build a sustainable house, donate money to the library to add on a nice reading room (dedicated to my grandmother), endow our wonderful veterenarians.  Put some in savings for taxes, if there is anything left HA.

Your favorite musical group(s):   Brian Wilson, the Beach Boys, the Beatles, Foo Fighters.

Latest pet peeve:   People with their hands out who won't work to take care of themselves.

Favorite News Anchor:  Shepard Smith.

Favorite past Sat. Nite Live comedian:   I don't watch it much, but Will Ferrell?  I think he is a past SNL guy.

Favorite current Sat. Nite Live comedian:  Don't have one.

Favorite Sports Hero(s):     Boomer Esiason, MAYBE.  Howie Long. 

Most disliked sports figure(s):   Pretty much all of them.  Most of the sports figures these days are in it for the money, with very few exceptions, and they think their status as a VIP makes them special. 

I cook / don't cook because:   I love to cook.  It satisfies a creative outlet for me, and I get to watch other peoples' enjoyment most of the time.

What you would replace in your house:  Um.  New house, but i think i would either do the whole upstairs in a bonus truss (meaning loft type space) or add a basement instead of a slab.  That floor is darned cold.   

Who did you look up to as a kid or teenager?    My mom (actually my aunt who raised me) and my maternal grandparents. 

Did you pass the 1st time you took your driver's test?   Yep, sure did.  My parents were killed in a car wreck when i was 2 so I take driving very, very seriously. 

Do you text when you drive?   No.  Absolutely not. 

What you hope to see in your lifetime:   A Gene Rodenberry-like world peace, extensive space travel, a cure for cancer, a cure for Alzheimer's, a cure for diabetes, no more world hunger, the shores of Virginia and Massachusetts where my ancestors came ashore, the Northern Lights, the Pacific Ocean and California, Hawaii, Australia, Europe, my thin self again, healthy.

Worst pain you ever felt:   When i had a wisdom tooth extracted AND had a root canal redone in the same week. They both became inflamed and good Lord.  I wanted to be efficient.  Next time I'll drag it out, ha!

How you treat a really bad mood:   Slam doors, cabinets, things I cannot break.  I have a bad, bad temper.  Yell.  Go to the shooting range and blow up stuffed animals.  Eat chocolate. 

Favorite gemstone:   Diamond.

Favorite color(s):   Green.

Favorite domestic animal:  Cats.

Favorite wild animal:  Birds.

Happy Flyer, or White-Knuckler?   If God had wanted me to fly, He would've given me wings.

Phobias:  Flying, heights, death, poo.  Yes, I said poo.   

"I would rather die than eat a - :"       Snail.

A friend or relative who passed away 20+ years ago gets to come back and visit you for a day: 

You would be proudest to show them:    My husband and house, my life.

They would be most shocked by:  The way their family has acted toward me, and the deaths in their family. 

They would be most amazed/intrigued by:  The Internet.

They would be most dumbfounded by:  The internet.  Heck, it surprises me.

The activity you would most like to do together:   Sit and eat, talk, maybe go back to where I was raised.  See their graves?  That sounds morbid, but hey. 

This person was:   My mother.