Thanks for your input too.....I
Posted By: OP on 2006-12-01
In Reply to: No, definitely not -- if this had been a woman - sm - XXX
appreciate your perspective on that (if it was a female)...I hadn't really thought about it. I do agree that this man was being friendly and doing his job, I think the question was only awkward because he seemed kinda creepy and he came over to me to ask that even though he had his own customers to assist.
Last night when I posted question, I was still trying to understand why he went out of his way to ask me that, but after consideration of it today (along with great input) I am giving him the benefit of the doubt and I am trying to chalk it up to extra-personable customer service! lol
Thanks again for your input!
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Thank you all so much for your input
I talked to my friends Thursday night and from the autopsy, it looks like the baby aspirated.
Unfortunately, we both moved out of the same town at the same time and live a couple hours apart, so visiting is kind of hard, but I told them they are welcome in my home any time (which they knew anyhow).
They're a young couple. The baby's dad was my daughter's friend in HS. That's how I met him and he was like my own son. He met his wife a couple years later and we became friends as well.
Anyhow, thankfully they do have another son who is about 18 months old and she told me that he is her reason for going on...
I can only imagine...
Again, thank you all for your help.
Thanks for all the input
I kept calling my sister last night - knew she was at home, but she kept letting the answering machine pick up. I finally left a message that mom had fallen and wasn't going to the doctor for a couple of weeks. I asked that if she were concerned about the bruises on mom's head and face to please go over and visit, just to make sure she is okay.
After I thought about things last night, I realized I just have to let go here. My mom wants a "yes man" - someone who doesn't see that she needs help, or rather sees it, but goes along with whatever my mom wants. I will not and cannot ever be that type of a person. I have too much on my plate with my new little one. I don't want to be in a position of pulling into her driveway and finding her lifeless body with my gd in the car. That's my worse case scenario, anyway. My sister wants to be that person, so I just have to let it go and leave things between the two of them.
I called my mom and told her about this decision and that there are no negative emotions associated with the decision....I love her, but I can't walk the same path she has chosen as I am on a different one. I've been mourning the loss of my whole family falling apart for over a year now...I need the peace of putting it to bed so I can be the best I can be for my gd...and myself.
thanks for your input
I hadn't thought about fear of the electric blanket. I actually think she does use it in addition to the heater. At any rate, we were talking this morning about other things, and she mentioned how poorly she is sleeping. If she is awake a lot in the middle of the night, she's going to notice the cold air and turn on that heater, then she when she falls asleep, she will sleep harder because she's so exhausted.
I think I'll just let it go. It's not worth making her feel unwelcome and I don't see how my bringing it up could have any other result.
As for helping her, for a long time I have been pondering and praying about how I can make a real difference in the life of another. It's kinda hard to do when one is tied to a computer working at home. When this need arose, it was a no-brainer. It feels good to help and make a difference.
THANKS FOR THE INPUT sm
I am so glad there are some people out there that have morals. My girls never questioned any of my rules but surely told me about how their friends parents are more lenient. Or as my 18 year old said these kids can lie to their parents and their parents believe them. My 18 year old has also told me that her boyfriend told her that she was brought up with morals where he was not. Obviously if the stepmom would tolerate sleeping together with a 10 year old in the house. To me that was telling them to have a sexual relationship. They have only been dating for 6 months. In six months there can be a different guy in the picture. Plus this boy's father has had many women in his past according to the bf. In a way I am sorry I even asked where does she sleep. My husband always says I ask to many questions and said certain things I should leave alone and just assume she was sleeping in another room. THANKS AGAIN.
My input
I just know that muscle weighs more than fat. You may be losing inches but gaining muscle mass and that is good because the more muscle mass the more fat you will burn eventually. I'm sure if you keep it up you will lose the weight. Good luck! :)
my input too--sm
I agree with the other poster that you are building muscle, which does weigh more than fat. Personally, if it has only been three weeks since you started this, as you mentioned the diet changes over the past three weeks, I would think that a loss of 4.5 inches would be motivation enough. Don't even pay attention to the scale yet..that could be your worst enemy! It is not a true reflection of what is happening with your body. You will lose the weight eventually or start to see a weight loss soon, but you have to build muscle first, which is what you are doing, replacing fat with muscle. Hang in there..don't get discouraged by that scale. That is why they tell you not to even weigh yourself but maybe once a month. If you watch the scale, you will give up. at least, that is what I have been told. Wishing you all kinds of good luck and lots of motivation!!
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i appreciate you taking the time to tell me your stories. i know desi (that's her name) has lived a long, spoiled life, but she's a member of the family and i hate to see the day come when she goes. i'll tell my parents about the websites you mentioned and i'm going to check them out myself. i'm on the computer more than they are.
thanks so much! 
thank you for your input
I am going to give it a try this weekend!
Thanks for the input!
I'm sure she will call around and check, it's just nice to sort of have a heads-up about what you might expect so I volunteered to ask around - what bigger community than this one?
Thanks again.
Thanks for the input . . .
I feel a bit better about it today. I'm not really worried about what I won't be able to eat, because I haven't been able to eat things like apples and corn on the cob for years. Believe me, I am used to a soft diet. I'll ask to see the temporary before they get to work - if I don't like what I see, I'll make a run for it.
I am the OP. Thanks for the input sm
She is a college student who spends 9 months in another state. She has a job but not enough to live on her own. She uses my car, we pay the car insurance and the cell phone. The problem is she thinks we are prying when we ask questions like with who, when, where etc. She has never given us any problems so far. Now my 21 who still lives home and does not have to answer to us is aways home around 1 a.m because she said at her age why do I need to be out after 1 am. I just tell her to call us if you are not coming home. She is only living home until she can save some money. She just finished college and took her nursing boards yesterday.
My cat is old, really old and need input about her
My older furkid is not well. She has never vocalized. She is probably about 90 or close in our age in cat years. I have had her to the vet just this past week, losing weight, now down to 5 lbs. She is sounding off now, not like she is in pain but then again how would I know? She is eating good, steady losing weight, treating a thyroid problem she has. When I pick her up after the meowing she quits. Is she just trying to get attention or ? Some said I would know about her end of life and if she were having pain but I don't know. Anyone?
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I guess you all are right about paying the full price. I have very good credit and don't want it ruined. I will definitely write them a letter and tell them. I'm not one to complain at all about stuff, but just feel like I get taken advantage of. I feel like sometimes these doctors and dentist can't get enough out of someone else, they'll make up the difference some how with a different patient.
Thanks all!
exactly. thanks for the input.
i can think of worse things than peircing his ears!!
thanks, all, for your input sm
i found a message board birth control pill forum and the experiences these women have had with BC pills is interesting. there were a lot more negative complaints about Yaz than positive. i'm really skeptical about taking pills that mess with hormones. i'm considering not taking it at all. i've had this pms stuff for years, just tired of the bloating feeling. mostly when i'm ovulating, when i bloat it feels like pressure on my bladder and i pee a lot more when i'm ovulating. sometimes i wish i didn't have my uterus any more.
as far as weight gain, everyone is different. my dad's side of the family gais weight soooooo easy. my mom's side they can eat whatever they want and the don't gain weight. unfortunately, i took after my dad's side of the family. i gain weight really easily and i know it's about controling what i eat. but i can't help but think there are other factors in weight gain too. people with diabetes tend to gain weight easily. i think some of you are being a little harsh on us weight gainers. there can be other factors other than food. when i was in my early 20s and went on the pill, i gained weight. but i have to say, i have to work harder at my weight (eating better and exercising) so i don't feel like a lazy person. i do feel like i'm a healthy person, but i just have to work harder.
I thank you for your input, but I know
from experience that spankings don't work either. Secondly, I'm trying to teach not to be violent. I don't think spanking him for hitting his brother is going to teach him anything but mroe violence. I realize that back in the day, spanking was the preferred punishment. My mom tells me that all the time -- that I should just "fan their butts", but honestly it has never worked for me. In fact, it makes it worse.
I won't bash you for your advice. Everyone has their opinion on this matter. We just don't happen to share the same opinion. Thanks and have a good night!
Thanks for the input
I have decided that from now on I'm not even going to look at the board until lunch break, and then at the end of the day.
I've tried going to bed earlier, but I still have the problem of not being able to get up before 8am. I found I do well on 7 hours of sleep, anything more and I'm overtired. But it's just getting those fingers in gear that gets hard.
I hear you on forcing myself to earn a certain amount, but sometimes the job has work and sometimes it doesn't, so some mornings I don't have anything to type - then I get to watch the Waltons. :-)
thanks for the input
Thanks for the input you guys! It seems like insurance is just rediculous anywhere I guess:( I thought I could find something cheaper with the same coverage but everywhere I check it is all the same:( My mom has a preexisting condition called hypothyroidism which I am sure doesn't help matters.
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No clue what med would be best for me. Guess I will try whatever he prescribes and see what happens, and hope I am able to lose some weight. Read that Cytomel used in conjunction with levo helps it produce the needed T3 component which stimulates weight loss. Definitely going to ask about that. My cousin was able to lose weight after being diagnosed as hypothyroid years ago (20+), need to write her and find out how she is doing I guess as we have not written for a year or so. As far as I know she is the only other person in my family to have it. I don't think we have fluoride in our water (well), I drink it straight from the tap though we do have some dinky filter under the house, DH has not changed it in 18 months, been bugging him to do that, too hard for me as I cannot get the cap off the filter holder thing even with the wrench for it. I do have a brita pitcher too but generally we just use that for cooking and for the dog's water, and for guests. --Lots of good info here, Thanks everyone!
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wow, i never thought about "downtime". i sure hope we don't run into that problem much. the only time i've never had internet (dial up) is when the electric went out, which we have a generator we can use if the electric is out for any length of time.
thanks!
Thank you so for your valuable input. I
had no idea this was the humble-poster board. My bad. You really have caused me to pause and reflect....
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to pay to download music off the internet. i'm thinking of getting the smaller kind that clips. my music is like a getaway from the craziness in the house! thanks!!!
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right about the territorial thing. She is a rescue who had some issues with being the lowest in the pecking order at her original home. I've had her 6 mos. and she is just now starting to act confident, and not like such a scaredy-cat. So that would make sense. My previous cat was male - he would instead do the food-burying thing.
Anyway, this kitty's behavior didn't worry me - it just seemed strange & funny. And yes, I DO enjoy her very much!
Need your opinions and input please. This is for the ones who have sm
 daughters in law in their 20s and 30s, please. I am in my mid 30s. I have 3 sisters in law (am i saying that correct or is it sister in laws?). Anyways, here is my dilemma. I am very much hated. I don't use that term lightly - I was told 5 years ago by one of the evil SILs that I was the black sheep of the family and that no one liked me. This one in particular went on and on about how the other sisters feel the same way. I eventually forgave her and them (even though at family functions no matter how nice I am they are just spiteful, mean, give dirty looks). I wish I had a camera.I am not kidding you AT ALL. It's really sad. My husband would do absolutely nothing until late last year when the situation got so bad around Christmas that he finally stood up to me to the middle sis who caused and started all the trouble in the first place. Their father died when they were all in their teens and my husband is the only guy in the family if that puts any light on the situation. Anyways, it's been basically a living helll being in this family. My family all love each other deeply no matter what, so I don't understand this kind of hate. Anyways, I was at a meeting a while back and one there were some ladies there who know me and husband's family. They were so sweet to me and telling me things like (these ladies were older), "well, if I were the mother in law, I would put a stop to that immediately!" Which made me feel good. Here's the thing. I'm really, really, really starting to despise and resent my mother in law for being so sweet to my face, yet she does nothing! She totally pretends like everything is okay. She continues to allow this treatment from the other sisters towards me and it just seems - well, not right. I've put up with this for a long time. It's to the point now where my MIL lives about 10 minutes away and I refuse to let her watch the kids, even for 5 minutes, because i've bee told (by a certain sister in law - and you know which one I'm talking about) that I am so unappreciative and never say thank you whenever my MIL has to keep my kids. That is a bold-face lie and just so rude and mean and cruel. My parents live 3,000 miles away. I am here because this is where my husband is from. I have no babysitter. I have used my MIL in the past to keep all 3 kids, but usually at her request AND I've been known to write thank you notes to her for watching them if only for 2 hours. I am so grateful for anyone who does anything for me. That's the way I was brought up.
Anyways, one of the sisters had a baby the other day. Was told only blood relatives only to see the baby and when I asked someone who does that mean - they flat out said, "You." I am hurt. Yes. I don't like them either. That's fine. But, what I need to deal with is my MIL situation. Why won't she say something? I can't. If I speak up or email or anything about the situation - boy does it get ugly. Basically, I'm told to go to helll. Seriously. I've even considered divorcing my husband over this, but then I think of how hellaciuos it would be having to deal with visitation and then taking the kids to MIL DIVORCED - and then I change my mind.
If you were the mother in this situation - wouldn't you try to say something, do something? nip it in the bud, as one other lady called it/ Or say things like, "If so and so isn't invited then we shouldn't go." Like say, on weekend trips where the entire family is invited except ME.
This one sister in law even sends birthday invites and party invites to my KIDS. not me. They are 3 and 5 and will say things like, "Tell you daddy to bring you to my party." It makes me sick. Literally.
Thanks for your input, but it would not work for
two major reasons. I am not permitted pets in my apartment. This is in my lease. Secondly, if I even hinted at this guy that I want the dog he would fly all over me. He now said to my landlord that everyone but me likes his dogs. He claimed to me and the police he really loves his animals and that they are well cared for. He would have a fit if I even approached the subject with him. Is right and I am wrong in his opinion. My landlord told him that he is wrong about me, and that I love dogs more than anything. This guy has a definite problem with being told anything. We could not even have a sensible discussion about it. He had to fly all over me and practically hit me in front of the police. If I stepped on his porch he not take it well, for sure.
You certainly are right about animals and depression. I have so many problems that I could not count them all, all appearing to be unsolvable. I feel trapped in every aspect. I know when I am with animals I just feel better and feel so much love. They are so important to me. My mother's dog is like mine and we laugh, hug, play games, etc. She had me in stitches yesterday, even if just for a few hours, then back to same. Today so far not bad. I heard the dog barking for several minutes, but that was a few hours ago. Hope it continues.
Thanks for the input! Much appreciated. np
Thanks for all the input - looks like bad and good. nm
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Okay guys, thanks for the input -- sm
I felt 100% better after I vented that. I wish I would have stopped myself sooner, but I'm glad I stopped at least when I did. There were a lot of comments I would have liked to have made to that woman and didn't.
As for winning and losing, yes I was irritated and yes it was selfish of me to want my kids to win that one (I guess that means I'm human). But more than anything, I absolutely did not appreciate being talked to by her in that condescending manner.
I still do not like the woman and never will, but I will make sure the next game I will be as far away from her as possible and not to take it so seriously. You guys are right and I thank you for the reality check. My kids are still #1 to me and always will be no matter what the scoreboard says.
As an aside, I never put down any of the kids, on either team, but in retrospect, I think my behavior over the incident was a childish. Gotta work on that!
Thank you all for your input. Most helpful! :-) NM
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Thanks for that helpful input...
Looking for input about MC+ insurance for kids. (sm)
Daughter had this on her children while she went to school, now they are asking her to furnish 2 quotes from other insurance companies to see if she qualifies to continuing with MC+ (but paying for it) or not.
The schools here have big signs up in the hall way encouraging people to apply for this. Supposedly you can purchase it at a rate based on your income. I don't imagine private insurance is going to be affordable and her job does offer a plan for her and her children, but not for 2 more months and it is HIGH dollar with low coverage.
Don't really want anything from the government, but if we can pay for it through them rather than private insurance would sure be interested.
Not trying to be dead-beat, welfare recipients, but glad to get help if available.
Disney World input (sm)
My daughter is doing a persuasive speech on why Disney World is the ultimate family experience. She wants to give some examples of intances where cast members have gone out of their way to make an individual/family feel comfortable or "special" outside of being their normal friendly selves. If you have any such experience, she would appreciate your input! Thank you :-)
Need the input on floor coverings
I had installed tile which I really love throughout my kitchen and the hallway which runs off the kitchen. I now have decided to tile my living room and great room plus 1 hallway. The living room and great room run off this previous tile I had installed. I love the color and would like to have the same there but hubby thinks we should have another color. I am totally undecided. Has anyone tiled and put in 2 different colors next to each other, how do you like and give me some thoughts from others. Thanks
Cat gourging, throwing up, need input
I was reading the thread below about the Maine coon. Mine is just a run of the mill type cat but she sounds about the same. She is older, has hair that you can just sorta halfway tug a little and out it comes so when she throws up she has these hairball type things. She wants to eat all the time and yet she is barfing a lot, it seems. She does not act sick but I never knew about cats having acid reflux and can they actually take Pepcid and would that help them? Any input I definitely will read and pay attention to all info. Thanks!
Interesting update plus thanks for all your input!
So, guess what. There was something the counselor was angry about, and the principal called my husband and apologized for her behavior. They wanted my children to stay in the school until the FCAT was over. This is the score which rates a school A to F for the state. The school we were at then was C. But my 2 sons and 1 daughter all scored top of the school. The principal said the counselor was defensive because she was upset we were leaving and she asked my husband if they could just stay until after the reading test next week and the FCAT next month.
He could not believe how transparent this all was, and how I got in the middle. Well, the kids had a good day, saying good bye to friends.
Today we enrolled in the school by our house we originally had lived in and just about everyone we saw including the principal had hugs for all of us. As I escorted each child to meet the teacher in their rooms, many children shouted out to my kids they missed them. All 3 kids had tears in their eyes they were back. What surprised me was a bunch of the little ones were yelling for me, because I was room mom in kindergarten and first grade and I cannot believe they even remembered me.
Finally, the counselor at this school (an A school) told me in the hallway as an aside when they contacted the other school, the expressed an interest in keeping my children until after the test. Well, this new counselor just laughed and said we by law go where we are zoned and this is where they should be. BTW: It is an A school.
Finally, the counselor who escorted us to the classroom wanted me to help with the spring play as she said they all missed me being their "right hand gal" from the old days.
See, you never know why people get angry or pick on people. Sometimes as in this case it had something to do with the counselor losing us and the principal wanting us to stay for the grades.
And by the way, I have the utmost confidence in my colleagues in the MT world which is why I share these things with you. Not because I am immature or afraid of dealing it with myself. I already had dealt with the situation before I came here. I just think it is nice to chat and be supported by a group of people who you respect in your profession. And you did not let me down. Thanks for every different point of view, and thanks for reading this long post again. I just had to give you an update. Moral of the story: You never know what is going on in people's agendas AND what goes around comes around. So true!
Know some about diabetes, but need additional input, please
My husband has had diabetes for some time now- always prided himself on taking supplements, herbs, trying to eat right and leading as good a life as he could because of this. Today was told he should finally start on some medications and was given some insulin today and a shot tomorrow for sure but I think if they can get it some down (from the 300s today) he will probably just be on tablets. I do know about foot care being important, also about some foods (such as bananas and Irish potatoes to be avoided) but any other insight you might be able to give me. I really, really hate this for him - I know he is a very strong-minded person as well as his health issues have gone and I know this is probably a bother to him in the fact that he just could not control himself. Any input is appreciated.
thanks so much for the input...they have giraffe print ones i REALLY want
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Thank you for your input HENNY PENNY!
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Google Chrome--any input on it? sm
Not sure if it's a good thing or not. Any input would be appreciated.
Thanks!
Thanks for your input. I shoulda put in my original post .. sm
the components of chittlins and mauls.
Hey I know,
Thanks for clearing the way out there....Been down here so long that when my kids (grown men) and hubby ask for certain things, and a deer leg lands on my doorstep, I just can't waste anything.  Cat
Hair length and age input appreciated sm
I am what one would would call "retirement age" and a grandmother. I have always had very nice hair and keep it neat and clean. I still have most of my light brown color and highlight slightly every 3-4 mos. I use hot rollers or a roller set if I am going out or if I feel I need it. My stylist and most people tell me I have very beautiful hair. I let it grow to about the length of Meredith Viera's on the "Today" Show but I get remarks from a few neighborhood "cats,", i.e., "At your age, perhaps you should cut your hair." My husband loves my hair and hates when I cut more than an inch off and yet I feel sloppy and as though I am trying to look "younger than my stated age." My husband thinks the few women who say this to me are jealous and I am kind of on the fence as I feel perhaps I'm kidding myself. Anyone else have hair almost chin length in their older years? Don't be mean - it's just a little "girl talk" here, Sometimes it helps to talk it over with the girls. Just keeping the conversation light for a change and trying to grow old gracefully without disappointing my husband. I have had worse decisions to make in my life! Much worse!
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