Thanks for your input. I shoulda put in my original post .. sm
Posted By: cat on 2007-11-20
In Reply to: Mauls are stomachs, as in hogs, cows and the like - I know
the components of chittlins and mauls.
Hey I know,
Thanks for clearing the way out there....Been down here so long that when my kids (grown men) and hubby ask for certain things, and a deer leg lands on my doorstep, I just can't waste anything.  Cat
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That is not what you indicated in your original post and is why you
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sorry. I did not see your original post..sm
I never said it was impossible to find an honorable man and good relationship, and I do not believe any body else did either, that I recall. As I said, I wish her all the best, and if this person is the right one for her, that is wonderful! But it also seemed that a lot of others were pushing her to rush into a relationship simply to *feel the spark of a new love*. Although that *spark* is a wonderful thing sometimes, it can also blind one to some smaller signs of impending doom, and the six years down the road, they are back on the message board asking what happened and wondering why they did not see it coming. I know that bad things do not always happen, but you have to admit that in today's society, more bad has been happening recently than good. Just expressing caution, and nothing more. JMO. Oh, by the way, I am happy for your relationship too. You are very lucky and one of few, these days.
Like I said in the original post, to say anything
would not be believed by anyone in DIL's family, my son, the g-children, aunts, her mother so I should say? To say to my son, your wife stole $20.00 from me" would be met with denials, to say she helped to put a ding on my credit for 7 years would be what her mother told me - she wouldn't do something like that. You can say what you said about speaking out but you do not know how these people are. It is like a cult- when you would get together 1 child that belonged to 1 family belonged to all. An aunt might chastise or discipline her niece/nephew like she would her own. Most of us with children just see after our children, not all other children that might be in our family-we leave that to their parents. These are my only 2 g-children, doubt if I will have others but I kept quiet and do now because my word would never be believed, then nor now. I remember 1 time a cousin of DILs had gotten broken leg. I took the DIL to the hospital. Every member of the family was there- the great-gparents, the g-parents, aunts, uncles, parents, the immediate cousins and the 2nd cousins -the hospital had so many people they had to ask them to leave! Another time the great-gparent died- the children all wanted to spend the night at the funeral home. The home started running vacuum, switching light off and on and they did not get the idea to leave! They HAD to be asked to please leave for the night! They wanted to stay the night with the deceased....You just do not know the close-knit (cult) family these folks have.
according to the original post
They took in their son's best friend, not a stranger. I agree with the other posters, your house your rules. I think you are doing the right thing by doing whatever you can to keep them apart. If they really want to be together they will be together outside of your home.
All I did was replace the original post.
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I read my original post again and ---
I know I said I hate the dog, but that was a figure of speech - I hate the things he does to my house!
I brought him home at 10 ounces and have put up with his doings for 4-1/2 years - he's not going anywhere!
The original post seems to have gone missing
so the answer now is to another posting, BTW.
In her original post (page 3)
she says that they did try to tell her at the time and she "chose to believe him" so actually it sounds like she has questioned him about this before.
Did you read the original post at all?
She lives in an assocation. Anything to start flaming. Ridiculous. I am too old to be shock by dog poop or anything idio.. say on this board
did you not read my original post? sm
I said if they were in school I would not charge them. The other poster had a girl in school who did pay rent and that is fine if that is what they want.
You need to learn how to read posts before you jump down my throat. You got the wrong person.
did you not read my original post? sm
I said if they were in school I would not charge them. The other poster had a girl in school who did pay rent and that is fine if that is what they want.
You need to learn how to read posts before you jump down my throat. You got the wrong person.
I was actually responding to pc, the poster just below your original post.
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I didn't read anything in the original post
about expecting gushing or groveling. One of the things she did say was that she usually got gifts that the receiver picked out and then was just discarded or sold. I agree with the other posts, give gift cards.
I remember your original post and found the
Flylady. I have her marked for favorites but I really haven't had time to absorb her information and get into it. It sounds like it really worked for you so this week i'll see about really getting into it and signing up for her newsletters also!
Like I said before, Kendra, READ THE ORIGINAL POST.
Sheesh.....!
Your post did not change my original thoughts
I read it and understood very well. This person on a break ran into 2 strangers who said they had walked from some distance, asking about catching a ride somewhere, asking her about a ride and she responds with asking a bunch of people she does not basically know about whether she did the right thing, they might have been angels in disguise. What is there not to understand about this? Sounds like a young girl asking for acceptance. A grown woman, with common sense, would not even second guess and then to return and make out a report at a shopping mall about someone asking for a ride was just a laugh. As in my original, she needs a guardian if she knows no better than this.
Gosh, I went back to the original post
to see what she looked like previously. The woman looks like a crackhead and looks like she has been on the streets for a long time, rugged, drugged out, really bad looking for a woman only 55. My 89-year-old dad looks younger than that.
I left a couple of things off my original post...sm
1. I will wear this bracelet because of the thought of the time she took finding it and the parts for it. Usually she gets me things I do enjoy for gifts.
2. We do have a great relationship. Her mom died when she was small and we're close. I know I'm lucky that we have a good relationship.
For those who slammed me and thought I was ungrateful - I'm sure you've all over time received gifts that you weren't wild about (hence all of the returns/exchanges at stores after Christmas). As I said, my other gifts were great ones and things that are of the caliber I like.
Right now 120 people have read your original post in this thread
So that's 120 people that do not mind versus the few that complained. Keep writing. I get a kick out the stories of your little dog. It is better than the fighting and name calling that goes on other boards. Even my kids stopped doing that in middle school.
Excuse me? The original post said absolutely nothing about her mother being SM
ill. I knew nothing about anyone's mother suffering because of dog barking. Dogs and pets need to be owned by responsible people and there would be no such problem in any event.
Sorry, I was upset at the time I wrote the original post
Basically, I sent a voided Wal-Mart check to a creditor by mistake and they cashed it and the bank let it go through both times. I called them on it. I was thinking that someone must have found that check and cashed it again. At the time, I did not realize my mistake. They then cancelled the payment to Wal-Mart, don't know why, and now Wal-Mart is treating it like I wrote a hot check. They added $30 to the original amount.
The original Halloween, the original Exorcist and the first Phantasm...
today's are too computer generated and phony. Not enough scare factor for me!
I'm sorry. Shoulda kept opinion to myself.
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Coulda, shoulda, woulda.
No offense, but life is too short for regrets. Celebrate your successes instead of beating yourself up over regrets. You made the best decision you could with the information you had at the time.
Shoulda walked over and said,"Here, honey. Let me
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YIKES! I shoulda proofread before posting. Forgive all the typos and omissions!
Thanks for your input too.....I
appreciate your perspective on that (if it was a female)...I hadn't really thought about it. I do agree that this man was being friendly and doing his job, I think the question was only awkward because he seemed kinda creepy and he came over to me to ask that even though he had his own customers to assist.
Last night when I posted question, I was still trying to understand why he went out of his way to ask me that, but after consideration of it today (along with great input) I am giving him the benefit of the doubt and I am trying to chalk it up to extra-personable customer service! lol
Thanks again for your input!
Thank you all so much for your input
I talked to my friends Thursday night and from the autopsy, it looks like the baby aspirated.
Unfortunately, we both moved out of the same town at the same time and live a couple hours apart, so visiting is kind of hard, but I told them they are welcome in my home any time (which they knew anyhow).
They're a young couple. The baby's dad was my daughter's friend in HS. That's how I met him and he was like my own son. He met his wife a couple years later and we became friends as well.
Anyhow, thankfully they do have another son who is about 18 months old and she told me that he is her reason for going on...
I can only imagine...
Again, thank you all for your help.
Thanks for all the input
I kept calling my sister last night - knew she was at home, but she kept letting the answering machine pick up. I finally left a message that mom had fallen and wasn't going to the doctor for a couple of weeks. I asked that if she were concerned about the bruises on mom's head and face to please go over and visit, just to make sure she is okay.
After I thought about things last night, I realized I just have to let go here. My mom wants a "yes man" - someone who doesn't see that she needs help, or rather sees it, but goes along with whatever my mom wants. I will not and cannot ever be that type of a person. I have too much on my plate with my new little one. I don't want to be in a position of pulling into her driveway and finding her lifeless body with my gd in the car. That's my worse case scenario, anyway. My sister wants to be that person, so I just have to let it go and leave things between the two of them.
I called my mom and told her about this decision and that there are no negative emotions associated with the decision....I love her, but I can't walk the same path she has chosen as I am on a different one. I've been mourning the loss of my whole family falling apart for over a year now...I need the peace of putting it to bed so I can be the best I can be for my gd...and myself.
thanks for your input
I hadn't thought about fear of the electric blanket. I actually think she does use it in addition to the heater. At any rate, we were talking this morning about other things, and she mentioned how poorly she is sleeping. If she is awake a lot in the middle of the night, she's going to notice the cold air and turn on that heater, then she when she falls asleep, she will sleep harder because she's so exhausted.
I think I'll just let it go. It's not worth making her feel unwelcome and I don't see how my bringing it up could have any other result.
As for helping her, for a long time I have been pondering and praying about how I can make a real difference in the life of another. It's kinda hard to do when one is tied to a computer working at home. When this need arose, it was a no-brainer. It feels good to help and make a difference.
THANKS FOR THE INPUT sm
I am so glad there are some people out there that have morals. My girls never questioned any of my rules but surely told me about how their friends parents are more lenient. Or as my 18 year old said these kids can lie to their parents and their parents believe them. My 18 year old has also told me that her boyfriend told her that she was brought up with morals where he was not. Obviously if the stepmom would tolerate sleeping together with a 10 year old in the house. To me that was telling them to have a sexual relationship. They have only been dating for 6 months. In six months there can be a different guy in the picture. Plus this boy's father has had many women in his past according to the bf. In a way I am sorry I even asked where does she sleep. My husband always says I ask to many questions and said certain things I should leave alone and just assume she was sleeping in another room. THANKS AGAIN.
My input
I just know that muscle weighs more than fat. You may be losing inches but gaining muscle mass and that is good because the more muscle mass the more fat you will burn eventually. I'm sure if you keep it up you will lose the weight. Good luck! :)
my input too--sm
I agree with the other poster that you are building muscle, which does weigh more than fat. Personally, if it has only been three weeks since you started this, as you mentioned the diet changes over the past three weeks, I would think that a loss of 4.5 inches would be motivation enough. Don't even pay attention to the scale yet..that could be your worst enemy! It is not a true reflection of what is happening with your body. You will lose the weight eventually or start to see a weight loss soon, but you have to build muscle first, which is what you are doing, replacing fat with muscle. Hang in there..don't get discouraged by that scale. That is why they tell you not to even weigh yourself but maybe once a month. If you watch the scale, you will give up. at least, that is what I have been told. Wishing you all kinds of good luck and lots of motivation!!
thank you all for you input sm
i appreciate you taking the time to tell me your stories. i know desi (that's her name) has lived a long, spoiled life, but she's a member of the family and i hate to see the day come when she goes. i'll tell my parents about the websites you mentioned and i'm going to check them out myself. i'm on the computer more than they are.
thanks so much! 
thank you for your input
I am going to give it a try this weekend!
Thanks for the input!
I'm sure she will call around and check, it's just nice to sort of have a heads-up about what you might expect so I volunteered to ask around - what bigger community than this one?
Thanks again.
Thanks for the input . . .
I feel a bit better about it today. I'm not really worried about what I won't be able to eat, because I haven't been able to eat things like apples and corn on the cob for years. Believe me, I am used to a soft diet. I'll ask to see the temporary before they get to work - if I don't like what I see, I'll make a run for it.
I am the OP. Thanks for the input sm
She is a college student who spends 9 months in another state. She has a job but not enough to live on her own. She uses my car, we pay the car insurance and the cell phone. The problem is she thinks we are prying when we ask questions like with who, when, where etc. She has never given us any problems so far. Now my 21 who still lives home and does not have to answer to us is aways home around 1 a.m because she said at her age why do I need to be out after 1 am. I just tell her to call us if you are not coming home. She is only living home until she can save some money. She just finished college and took her nursing boards yesterday.
My cat is old, really old and need input about her
My older furkid is not well. She has never vocalized. She is probably about 90 or close in our age in cat years. I have had her to the vet just this past week, losing weight, now down to 5 lbs. She is sounding off now, not like she is in pain but then again how would I know? She is eating good, steady losing weight, treating a thyroid problem she has. When I pick her up after the meowing she quits. Is she just trying to get attention or ? Some said I would know about her end of life and if she were having pain but I don't know. Anyone?
Thank you for your input sm
I guess you all are right about paying the full price. I have very good credit and don't want it ruined. I will definitely write them a letter and tell them. I'm not one to complain at all about stuff, but just feel like I get taken advantage of. I feel like sometimes these doctors and dentist can't get enough out of someone else, they'll make up the difference some how with a different patient.
Thanks all!
exactly. thanks for the input.
i can think of worse things than peircing his ears!!
thanks, all, for your input sm
i found a message board birth control pill forum and the experiences these women have had with BC pills is interesting. there were a lot more negative complaints about Yaz than positive. i'm really skeptical about taking pills that mess with hormones. i'm considering not taking it at all. i've had this pms stuff for years, just tired of the bloating feeling. mostly when i'm ovulating, when i bloat it feels like pressure on my bladder and i pee a lot more when i'm ovulating. sometimes i wish i didn't have my uterus any more.
as far as weight gain, everyone is different. my dad's side of the family gais weight soooooo easy. my mom's side they can eat whatever they want and the don't gain weight. unfortunately, i took after my dad's side of the family. i gain weight really easily and i know it's about controling what i eat. but i can't help but think there are other factors in weight gain too. people with diabetes tend to gain weight easily. i think some of you are being a little harsh on us weight gainers. there can be other factors other than food. when i was in my early 20s and went on the pill, i gained weight. but i have to say, i have to work harder at my weight (eating better and exercising) so i don't feel like a lazy person. i do feel like i'm a healthy person, but i just have to work harder.
I thank you for your input, but I know
from experience that spankings don't work either. Secondly, I'm trying to teach not to be violent. I don't think spanking him for hitting his brother is going to teach him anything but mroe violence. I realize that back in the day, spanking was the preferred punishment. My mom tells me that all the time -- that I should just "fan their butts", but honestly it has never worked for me. In fact, it makes it worse.
I won't bash you for your advice. Everyone has their opinion on this matter. We just don't happen to share the same opinion. Thanks and have a good night!
Thanks for the input
I have decided that from now on I'm not even going to look at the board until lunch break, and then at the end of the day.
I've tried going to bed earlier, but I still have the problem of not being able to get up before 8am. I found I do well on 7 hours of sleep, anything more and I'm overtired. But it's just getting those fingers in gear that gets hard.
I hear you on forcing myself to earn a certain amount, but sometimes the job has work and sometimes it doesn't, so some mornings I don't have anything to type - then I get to watch the Waltons. :-)
thanks for the input
Thanks for the input you guys! It seems like insurance is just rediculous anywhere I guess:( I thought I could find something cheaper with the same coverage but everywhere I check it is all the same:( My mom has a preexisting condition called hypothyroidism which I am sure doesn't help matters.
Thanks everyone for your input - sm
No clue what med would be best for me. Guess I will try whatever he prescribes and see what happens, and hope I am able to lose some weight. Read that Cytomel used in conjunction with levo helps it produce the needed T3 component which stimulates weight loss. Definitely going to ask about that. My cousin was able to lose weight after being diagnosed as hypothyroid years ago (20+), need to write her and find out how she is doing I guess as we have not written for a year or so. As far as I know she is the only other person in my family to have it. I don't think we have fluoride in our water (well), I drink it straight from the tap though we do have some dinky filter under the house, DH has not changed it in 18 months, been bugging him to do that, too hard for me as I cannot get the cap off the filter holder thing even with the wrench for it. I do have a brita pitcher too but generally we just use that for cooking and for the dog's water, and for guests. --Lots of good info here, Thanks everyone!
thanks for your input sm
wow, i never thought about "downtime". i sure hope we don't run into that problem much. the only time i've never had internet (dial up) is when the electric went out, which we have a generator we can use if the electric is out for any length of time.
thanks!
Thank you so for your valuable input. I
had no idea this was the humble-poster board. My bad. You really have caused me to pause and reflect....
thanks so much for you input! i really didn't want sm
to pay to download music off the internet. i'm thinking of getting the smaller kind that clips. my music is like a getaway from the craziness in the house! thanks!!!
Thanks to all for your input! I think you're probably - sm
right about the territorial thing. She is a rescue who had some issues with being the lowest in the pecking order at her original home. I've had her 6 mos. and she is just now starting to act confident, and not like such a scaredy-cat. So that would make sense. My previous cat was male - he would instead do the food-burying thing.
Anyway, this kitty's behavior didn't worry me - it just seemed strange & funny. And yes, I DO enjoy her very much!
Need your opinions and input please. This is for the ones who have sm
 daughters in law in their 20s and 30s, please. I am in my mid 30s. I have 3 sisters in law (am i saying that correct or is it sister in laws?). Anyways, here is my dilemma. I am very much hated. I don't use that term lightly - I was told 5 years ago by one of the evil SILs that I was the black sheep of the family and that no one liked me. This one in particular went on and on about how the other sisters feel the same way. I eventually forgave her and them (even though at family functions no matter how nice I am they are just spiteful, mean, give dirty looks). I wish I had a camera.I am not kidding you AT ALL. It's really sad. My husband would do absolutely nothing until late last year when the situation got so bad around Christmas that he finally stood up to me to the middle sis who caused and started all the trouble in the first place. Their father died when they were all in their teens and my husband is the only guy in the family if that puts any light on the situation. Anyways, it's been basically a living helll being in this family. My family all love each other deeply no matter what, so I don't understand this kind of hate. Anyways, I was at a meeting a while back and one there were some ladies there who know me and husband's family. They were so sweet to me and telling me things like (these ladies were older), "well, if I were the mother in law, I would put a stop to that immediately!" Which made me feel good. Here's the thing. I'm really, really, really starting to despise and resent my mother in law for being so sweet to my face, yet she does nothing! She totally pretends like everything is okay. She continues to allow this treatment from the other sisters towards me and it just seems - well, not right. I've put up with this for a long time. It's to the point now where my MIL lives about 10 minutes away and I refuse to let her watch the kids, even for 5 minutes, because i've bee told (by a certain sister in law - and you know which one I'm talking about) that I am so unappreciative and never say thank you whenever my MIL has to keep my kids. That is a bold-face lie and just so rude and mean and cruel. My parents live 3,000 miles away. I am here because this is where my husband is from. I have no babysitter. I have used my MIL in the past to keep all 3 kids, but usually at her request AND I've been known to write thank you notes to her for watching them if only for 2 hours. I am so grateful for anyone who does anything for me. That's the way I was brought up.
Anyways, one of the sisters had a baby the other day. Was told only blood relatives only to see the baby and when I asked someone who does that mean - they flat out said, "You." I am hurt. Yes. I don't like them either. That's fine. But, what I need to deal with is my MIL situation. Why won't she say something? I can't. If I speak up or email or anything about the situation - boy does it get ugly. Basically, I'm told to go to helll. Seriously. I've even considered divorcing my husband over this, but then I think of how hellaciuos it would be having to deal with visitation and then taking the kids to MIL DIVORCED - and then I change my mind.
If you were the mother in this situation - wouldn't you try to say something, do something? nip it in the bud, as one other lady called it/ Or say things like, "If so and so isn't invited then we shouldn't go." Like say, on weekend trips where the entire family is invited except ME.
This one sister in law even sends birthday invites and party invites to my KIDS. not me. They are 3 and 5 and will say things like, "Tell you daddy to bring you to my party." It makes me sick. Literally.
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