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Posted By: MT Mom on 2009-04-14
In Reply to: 12-year-old son says I yell at him all the time (sm) - MT mom
My son and I had a long heart-to-heart talk last night and I ended up getting a long hug - which is not real typical for him. He was very quiet this morning so we will see how he feels this afternoon.
He told me he feels like he's a "bad kid." The thing is he is a very good child most of the time. Other than the types of things I mentioned in my original post, he does very little wrong. He never gets in fights, doesn't get in trouble at school other than occasionally being reprimanded for talking too much or something minor. I felt so bad and spent some time talking to him and telling him that he is actually a really good boy - he asked me why he has cried some recently and I told him it was all normal and that there is nothing wrong with him. I think I am going to try the calendar idea by the way - thanks for that idea! I also think maybe my tone is the problem - I am not yelling but maybe it feels like yelling to him - same feeling. So, I am going to work on that as well. Thanks again for all of your input. I may post an update at some point soon. Nice to have all of you to talk with!
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I thought about it some more last night and I kinda feel the same. His comment was inappropriate but I'm sure that he has had a chance to feel regretful about what he has said and realize the inappropriateness of it. Hopefully he will think twice before making this type of comment again to someone else.
Thanks again for your replies.
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It is actually just my FIL that is the probably. Him and my MIL divorced many, many years ago. I love my MIL I am blessed with a great one, but boy oh boy does my FIL make up for that. Anyways everyone have a Merry Christmas. I know I need to just let it go, he is not going to change he has been this way for too long.
God bless you all!
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That makes me feel better. She told me she will try to get to the bank this week between classes. She just left Sunday to go back to school. If it happened a week earlier she could have taken care of it back home. I know she did not make the charges. There was a couple of charges for singles on line and another 75 dollar authorization fee that she has no idea what it was. I know she did not make the charges because she was quite upset when she called me and she also does not use her money foolishly, plus my name is on this account so she would know I would look at it. Thanks again.
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Okay....he is definitely not fooling around, he barely leaves my side. And no way closet gay or bi, actually he's very anti-gay. Metro? Not real sure but don't think so either. He doesn't like nail polish or other girly things like that, thank goodness! He's in his 30s and we're together around 6 years so maybe some sort of mid life thing. But after reading some of these posts, I'd think I'd rather have a man that is comfortable enough with me to do these things, as odd as I thought at first, than a macho male chauvenist pig. Ugh, had a couple of those in my life. I asked how his *bath* was and he said not so great, water got cold and I was hoping it would help my back. He has a bad back. For the candle, after I bought it he laughed and said you better not tell anyone about this. As for the soaps, well he smells really good and I like that. And now I am thinking he went out and got more of those because he felt bad he used them and I was complaining about that. But, I will keep my eye out and post if any other weird things come up, like if he starts stealing my makeup and panties! LOL
Thank you all for the replies
I am going to try....
new bedding for her
a different antihistamine suggested, will check with vet on the dose
having her thyroid checked
finding an animal allergist in my area
and if i move to pittsburgh anytime soon - i will get her a reflexologist
AND if i do move to pittsburgh, on my way there i am going to stop at the Missouri pit bull rescue and adopt Wonder.
Thank you all again. i appreciate the time you took to post for us...we both do, me and my best friend 
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We tried the epson salts before I got back here to the board, so hopefully that will help. It got him out of stacking firewood over lunch, so he was happy as a clam!
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I don't think I have a hiatal hernia, or at least not on the swallow. MD did mention maybe an ulcer but that was not seen either. I appreciate all opinions. I may try licorice root and strictly avoiding all the foods as the other posters suggested, most I have but the coffee is hard. And I'm going to make an appt with GI. I guess I was mostly wondering if anyone has this as severe as I do because it just doesn't seem normal :(
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Thanks for helping me to feel more at ease about it! I truly appreciate it!
I want to thank everyone for the replies....s/m
It really helps and I appreciate every reply.
Thanks again!
Thank you all for your replies!
I'm still nervous, but I'm feeling more positive about it.
Thanks to all who responded!
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wonder where the replies on this went... i was just looking at one, a long one regarding a woman's long history as a Transcriptionist and with her own cancer saga..
Mods/Admin??
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I will be making beef stew this weekend. My family absolutely loves soups and stews and this weekend will be the kind of weather for it.
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had testing for arthritis and gout, had neither one. I have been going to a podiatrist along with orthopedist, etc. but still no answers. Thought someone here might have had the same thing happen.
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I am sorry to hear that there are so many others in my same situation. it is so hard. It is such a trapped feeling. At this point I have talked to my son about trying to stick it out just another couple of years so we can be more sure that he will have some more say in who he lives with. And we are just trying to focus on happy things, things we can do to make life more enjoyable, etc. I just don't know what else to do right now. But I am going to def look into family counselling as soon as our new insurance kicks in.
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I am sorry to hear so many people are having these problems because it is so debilitating at times and if there are this many on this site with these problems, there must be many, many women suffering from these things! Misha, I am going to try your suggestions as well. Thanks for all who have replied, and if anyone else has any input - I'd appreciate that too :-)
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I am worried about my little guy - there is so much pressure on kids these days to grow up too fast. I am going to look into the youth group resources at our church. I don't want to suddenly send him to a counselor and send him a message that something is wrong with him.
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I am sorry to know so many can relate. And that's just the ones who visited the board today and saw this and decided to reply :(
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My next visit I'm going to tell him I'd like to come in once a month. I don't want him to feel like I'm undermining his intelligence, I guess you could say. I know he went to school for this, but I know my body and I feel really good. I do try to exercise at least four times a week. I do need to lose some weight too. My insurance covered so much a year and then I had to start paying $40 back in November. I spend about five minutes with him. I don't really have back problems, just my low back I hurt about 8 months or so after having my first boy (he's 10 now). I thought going to a chiropractor would help that part. It does to some extent, but I still have that "catching" feeling in my low back. Anyway, I just wondered about other people's experience. My husband thinks chiropractors are quacks. He's not much on going to the doctor unless he really has to. I told him he'd probably feel really good after going to a chiropractor. I wanted to go to one for so long, but was scared he would mess my back up even more.
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I am just a little worried, funny about the "no bashing" comments, as I hesitate to post on this board anymore. I love the helping people but hate the fighting. There are some helpful people on here. I hate to give medical advice and usually try not to, but in the end, I am usually right about my concerns and feel bad that I didn't open my mouth. "No dietary restrictions" seems a bit dangerous for someone who almost lost their life and is in rough shape. I will keep all in mind and keep it under my hat (for now). I don't think people realize the stuff we hear in our work, especially if we do acute care for many places, I could write novels! Thanks again. That is potent stuff they take and the bleeding thing scares me. Hope you all stay well and your loved ones, be well. Don't you love the "what does she know" looks? They don't realize how much we hear in a day's work.
Thanks for all your replies!
I also came up with a couple of websites: thiriftyfun.com and wonderbread.com with some activities. This is the 100th anniversary of 4H in my state, so there may be special programs related to that, through the county extension service, I believe. I hope she'll consider the library in their town, too. Appreciate the suggestions and good luck to all in the same boat!
Thank you for all of your replies :) Sounds like I will be getting a
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Thank you for replies. I am going to have someone check it out.
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Thank you everyone for your replies. It has helped a lot to know that I am in...sm
the right here. I started to think for a second that maybe I was being selfish.
DH told me last night he will break the bad news to his sister after the holidays.
I told him I need a vacation, too and that it's not easy working full-time and overtime from home. I need out of this place. It's hard not to think about work when you're home especially when you know there's a backlog cloud looming over your head. I'm sure some of you know what I mean.
He's convinced now that the money should be spent on the entire family not just him, our youngest and his sister's family.
You guys have been a great help! Thanks again and happy holidays, I feel a little less stressed now.
Wow! I loved all the replies!
What a bunch of great things everyone did! Really cool. I don't mean to brag about us MTs, but I do think we are a cool bunch...lots in common too! From loving Wii and video games and fun and intelligent TV marathons to everything else listed. It is so nice to know we all have so many things in common and that we are all "out there" keeping each other company! I remember being an MT not so long ago before the I-net, and not even really knowing anyone quite like me.. now I don't feel so alone rather feel quite in good company! Thanks for writing and keep letting us know what you did, and or are still doing. Kind regards and thanks again the Holiday MT. :)
LOL! Read DH all the replies...
....and all he says is, Whatever. I know he thought I was making it up, so thanks for the support.
Thanks for your replies and suggestions
I'm not interested in buying a house and don't care for Florida. I'm looking at condos and even renting for awhile. Wouldn't mind living in warmer weather year round but wouldn't do that without taking a trip and spending sometime there before making such a big decision. Thank you all.
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I don't think it is the breed. I think it is just these 2 little gremlins. I am just not used to a dog acting like this because all the dogs I have ever had never acted like that. Which I had never owned a boston so I said I don't know if it is the fact they haven't raised them properly or if bostons are just all like this. I believe now they are just bad owners since you all have bostons and they don't behave like that. I know my sister has 2 but I am not around them enough to know the dogs really well but my mom is and she said oh no the minute they start acting up they go outside in the fenced in backyard or to the kennel in the utility room and she doesn't have to do that often either. SO they have pretty much learned I guess if they want to stay in the house and roam freely they have to act civilized.
Replies to this are hilarious! Most of these people
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i am trying so hard to be strong and i have already seen such an improvement in my children and their behaviors. it had gotten so bad that my 14yo says mom choose him or me cuz i am moving out if he doesn't. that is just so sad cuz he is their father you know. it is like one poster said, i guess i am in mourning and never thought of it that way. it is just too hard for me to comprehend why someone would have that lifestyle before their children and the man i fell in love with is gone. i just keep thinking why couldn't he change, why couldn't he be the man i fell in love with and the family man i desire, etc. i am taking it one day at a time and will get through this eventually. my household is so much better now and i am doing this for my kids so they don't turn out like me. trying to change my life drastically is the hardest part of the unknown that i have been used to for so long and i really am no less lonely than i was i guess as someone said. he tried to love on me before when he was here, but i had so much hate build up for him, that i would always push him away and not want it. so i guess i am not as lonely, LOL. again, thank you all for your kind and encouraging words. i will remember them.
RE: Thanks everyone for your replies. I have forwarded them on to my niece who is the one (sm)
who had the positive test. She is only 21 and this is her first pregnancy. All your replies are greatly appreciated!! Thank you!
Original Poster - thanks for your replies. I have never (sm)
met anyone that I seem to get along with so well. I have never dated outside of my own race before, but when I am with him, it doesn't even cross my mind, and he says it doesn't his either. We both just see each other as individuals. There are so many good people and bad people of every race. When you find someone to care about who cares about you and you can get along well and you want to be together, it seems so petty and trivial to think about someone's race. In this case there are not a lot of cultural or religious differences. We have different colored skin but have had very similar lives.
...back a few. Not sure where the post/replies are right now. nm
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Thank you all for your replies, that reall helped (sm)
at the very least, I am going to rent at first and see how things go before buying.
Thank you all so much. I have chills just reading your replies. I
am going to speak to the supervisor today at our mall and just make them aware of this. They have people who go around the mall all day and watch for people just hanging around. When I got home what I really thought was strange is the fact that the hospital and home they wanted to get to is specifically for the elderly, and has no ER or admission to the public. The hospital is just used for the patient's who can no longer remain in the nursing home itself. Unless they were going there to visit someone, or going for a job application they would have no business there. I know I did the right thing. I can only imagine how I would have felt having one beside me and the other in the back seat. Thank you so much. I will report this today.
thanks for your replies..i am moving next week to
a townhouse. No more upstairs/downstairs issues. People along the sides, but pure wall with no obvious way for smoke. This should be better. I will have two floors and nobody under I live in PA and there are no clauses in my lease for non-smoking so it is time to smell my own fresh air. It's a shame the LL didn't afford me the same rights as the smoker. Sure, my neighbor has the right to smoke in her own home, but I have the right also to not breathe her smoke in MY home. I know in some cases this is called trespass, but I am just too tired to fight it anymore. Next weekend I will be free free free! Thanksagain for your comments. I can always trust this site to give me a little support and lift my spirits.
TY for replies/advice - see "wait a minute" below for
update. I plan on talking to principal and teacher today and go from there.
I'm sorry. I know I keep posting replies but I feel strongly about this (sm)
my mother was molested by her stepfather, back in the late 40s/early 50s when no one did much about those kinds of things. He also molested her sister, who ran away and got married at age 13 to escape him. He then molested my sister (yes my mother took us to visit them!) and probably me, although I don't have any memory of it. Also most likely my young female cousins who lived there. My point is...a person who would do this type of thing will not just stop. He has probably done it to others too that you don't know about. Look how long it took your sisters to tell you. I am so sorry. But you have to do something. And if you end up in court during a divorce, your sisters have to speak up for you. You are all going to have to stand together. I can tell you really love him and you don't want to believe this. It looks like you are going to have to believe it. If he did this to children, there is something wrong with him. Something inside him is broken, not working right, and you can't fix it. You are going to have to gather all your courage and leave. I am currently in the process of seperating also, but with a different set of circumstances not involving anything like you are dealing with. If you want to email me and just have someone to vent to, please feel do. Again, I am so sorry. Please go get a free consultation or a paid consultation with an attorney. If you go to church, go speak to someone at your church. You have to do something, I'm sorry.
I wouldn't call them sharp replies. But sometimes
You took action. That is good. But I don't feel bad for someone who knows they aren't getting work and do nothing about it for months on end.
It's like putting your hand in fire and saying *ow this is hot* but then you don't take your hand out of the fire. It makes no sense.
I raised 2 kids on my own, as my ex decided he would rather drink and carry on and act like a teenager his whole life. I HAD to take action. I couldn't just sit and suck my thumb and cry.
But if someone wants to wallow in their misery, then that is on them. No pity here.
The OP asked for opinions, unfortunately not everyone is going to say what she wants to hear.
Again, why did she just sit when work wasn't coming in? So she had 4 paychecks to realize things weren't going too good.
Well, sorry that the MTSO is greedy and does have work and does not pay well, but then if one keeps taking it, then whose fault is it? 
Did you sit on your duff? No. You are doing what it takes. That is what the OP needs to do.
Did you read how many heartless and rude replies
the OP got to her post just telling in what bad situation she is?
Why should then the government, the MTOs adn the clients be worried what happens to the MT industry and all the MTs whose livelihood depends on it?
It is dog eats dog!
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