Thank you for your kindness - i did find a few things on competition sites sm
Posted By: LMT on 2007-02-22
In Reply to: An actual suggestion - MTT
but they were all pretty boring, lol. we are going to do like you suggested and rent some of those movies this weekend to get that frame of mind going. i coached her little league cheer group and we won first place at competition so she is kinda counting on me for help, but i am brain froze on cheerleading, LOL!
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Got a question for empty nesters. Do you ever find that you want to do things and it is so hard to
find someone to do things with anymore. Do you just go alone and how does that work out or take a bus trip or what do you do. If you sit around waiting on someone to fit into your schedule you may never get to do anything. BTW, I am divorced also.
Competition
A child is not a "competition." Both husband and wife are the parents of this little girl. Each should strive to do what is best for the child - period. Stay out of it Grandma or you will lose. Time has a way of making things better between divorced parents.Enjoy your grandchild and ignore what Dad does unless it seriously harms your grandchild. Give it time. They will work it out. Have a Happy Easter!
Agree, too much competition, seems everybody is doing it.
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It definitely cuts down on the competition, sm
especially among the "mean girls". I think you know who I mean. A uniform would be great. They can show off on weekends at the mall. I have no idea why the parents would be against this. They know what is going on, or at least they should.
Watched it last night. First time I have followed this competition. (sm)
I really enjoyed it. They doing this annually?
Talk to people in your area that do this, see how much competition there is, if
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Thanks for your kindness. (hug back!)
Just having a pity party for myself today. It's just one of those days, I guess. :(
Thank you so much for your kindness. It's just what I needed sm
right now. I've never been one to have the "victim mentality" although I can see how my post probably came off that way. They never gave me a chance from the start so you hit it right on when you called it a tribe mentality. I think a lot of it is jealousy - as my mom points out - I had that a lot growing up because I tend to get along with everyone - not a jealous bone in my body - and I can tend to irritate those who "don't like everyone" or who have sour attitudes.
When the poster said that she found it hard to believe that all 3 hate me for NO REASON I didn't want to respond because they do hate me for no reason. If you were to ask them why they don't like me or want me around their answer is, "just because I don't."
Anyways, your post was very kind and I am thankful for it. God bless you!
Thank you for your kindness and understanding. I SM
will make a call in the next few days to find some help. I don't usually think of myself, but this has been so terribly difficult.
Thank you for your kindness and encouragement.
I really have no worry that I would act on this. I just don't get any girl time with my friends to talk about these kind of things heart to heart. I was trying to be honest and acknowledge the weirdness of it and I was looking for someone who could say yes, they know what I am talking about, and maybe share their own experience.
Thanks again, you are a sweet lady. 
This is when I love this board. The kindness and
understanding in a situation like this is so valuable. I always try to do the right thing, take care of my family, be polite, be a good driver, etc. I was struggling for a minute about right and wrong, but they come up to you without notice and it is all over so quickly. They catch you off guard and that is their plan.
In case anyone is wondering, God truly did save my life with the other incident I mentioned that happened years ago. I was forced into my car and was told to hand the keys over. He told me he was going to drive and to shut up. I knew I was helpless and called on God out loud in the car. I prayed my heart out, and all of a sudden his demeanor changed. He went from being demanding and in control to being nervous and shaking.
I slowly reached for the door handle without making a sound and he got out of the car and we talked over the roof of my car for a few minutes. Later I identified him at the police department from pictures and he was wearing a hospital gown in the picture. He was just discharged the day he forced me into his car from the psychiatric unit from our local hospital. That night after our encounter he literally rushed back to the hospital and begged them to readmit him because he was going to steal my car and rape me. I asked the police officer if he was going to kill me, and the officer just looked at the floor in silence.
God is good, and so are all of you for caring. To this day my family walks with me to my car when leaving their homes. I cannot do it alone at night anymore. Every time I come home and it is dark I feel someone behind me and there is no one there. You are never, ever the same after you experience something like that.
As far as yesterday, I do believe there was an angel present; just one I could not see.
So what you are saying is we've reached our limit? That we don't deserve any more kindness?
That's how you operate in life? You just deem people unworthy of your time, your kindness?
You know, curious girl, isn't asking you for money or a place to live or anything except for a few kind words on a freaking screen!!! How difficult is that?!!?!?! You act like she's knocking on your blasted door and begging you to help her. She's not asking you to do anything but LISTEN!!
My God! You people are incredibly callus. I feel sorry for you.
try looking at these sites - sm
Craigslist under Louisville had a real estate section/rental section.
Try BuyOwner.com. you can rent or buy to own.
Try sublets.com.
My DH looks at some sites now and then - sm
but just the picture sites; he does not pay or do any webcam sites. He listens to Howard Stern too, which is mainly where he gets the website addresses and he checks them out. He does not do it very often though and he knows I think it is s-t-u-p-i-d but I don't feel threatened by it though I don't have those girl's bodies or boobs (I'm not even an A, his ex was a D) He does not go there to get off though. But if he started to do webcam or pay sites then yes I'd have something to say. He know this too. I know him well enough to know he would never cheat on me; but if he ever did I'd be out the door. But your definite and mine vary on that score. Looking to me is not cheating, he'd have to be in the room with them touching them somehow. Though again I do not like the webcam thing and would not tolerate that either. This is an issue you should definitely discuss with him before giving up on your marriage.
Not sure of any sites to look at, but
I was taking care of my 90 y/o grandma until a few months ago. She used to live with my mom and then when my mom passed away I took over her care. She really didnt need any type of health care, as she is very healthy for 90, but I had to do all her domestic care as she was just too old to clean, wash clothes, grocery shop, et cetera. She recently moved into an independent living apartment, so much of that has eased, but she still needs some looking after. It is not an easy job, but the rewards are wonderful. It pleases me to be able to care for my aging grandma. She is an awsome person and I hope I can do everything possible for her. Good luck to you and I hope you find what you are looking for. Grandparents are a blessing!!
Fun web sites
Fun web sites along these lines. They even give some tips for achieving the looks. You could print them out.
http://www.fiftiesweb.com/fashion/fashion-wh.htm
http://reviews.ebay.co.uk/ROCKABILLY-Retro-HAIRSTYLES-How-to-achieve-the-look_W0QQugidZ10000000002156781
The sites I read
made it sound like that is traditional thinking, that stopping use of laxatives will always or usually reverse the condition. But I also saw a site or two that admitted that there have been studies that didn't correlate the two things as always going together. And melanosis coli causes no symptoms, so if you were there for something symptomatic and she didn't treat you, I'm not too impressed with her doctoring. They have good choices now for chronic constipation, and there can be anatomical reasons for constipation; it doesn't make you a head case. MiraLax works well, and it's now offered OTC.
I think this was the site that said melanosis coli didn't cause symptoms, or else something else that I found interesting.
http://www.medicinenet.com/melanosis_coli/article.htm
It's not the fact that he goes on those sites
My husband and I have used porn during our marriage to "spice things up," and I was perfectly okay with that. The OP is not. This is an area of marriage where I think there must be either agreement or acceptable compromise, or the marriage will not work.
Yes, they should try to work things out before giving up on their marriage. But it doesn't sound promising.
Here are 2 sites I've used before. sm.
The perfumed court specialize in samples of perfumes, My friend turned me on to them who gets samples from them all the time and I've gotten quite a few as well.
http://theperfumedcourt.com/
The perfume emporium has a section on mini perfumes.
http://www.perfumeemporium.com
Happy shopping!
good sites
Thanks for the sites. I had her call her grandma and talk to her dad. I dont think she will cut her hair again... or at least until she is a teenager rebelling against society or what not.
This was on before and she noted on many MT sites s/m
that the "work" they did was all practice dictation, not her real work.
Sheesh, no I don't shop on either on those sites. They
jaj;da
Truthfully, I'll be using both sites
I don't know why we necessarily have to chose. I'm here or there for the information and fun at times. I visit other MT sites as well.
Here's a couple of safe pet food sites.....
http://www.flintriver.com/
http://www.petpromiseinc.com/
Does anyone bead? Just tried it and I'm hooked!! Any good web sites? Thanks. nm
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Good ideas below, also bento sites (sm)
For variety, if he's at all food adventurous, try bento type meals (Japanese).
Lunch In a Box has a great article on food safety for bentos. Some things you may not have to refrigerate if packed safely. Also Fit & Fresh is a good brand of boxes with custom-fit ice packs to keep stuff cold for 6 hours. Combine that with a thermos with warm food and you've got a good winter meal.
If you find yourself fascinated by bento as I was, Just Bento is another good site for info on it.
I don’t read the sites you give as I disagree with you
and don’t need to look any further. What you say is wait until a guy gets old enough, may not have issues and then if he does get it wacked off then and then go through much more pain than he would certainly remember as a child or even have as a child. Yeh, makes a lot of sense to me.
I love that site, one of my no-fail smile sites.
Love the picture; I love my kitties.
Chiropractor sites often discuss point tenderness
at those dimples like you are describing. I really think it is due to psoas muscle tightness from sitting too much for your job. If you do see a doctor, make certain you mention the point tenderness in that dimple area. And definitely stop sitting on a foot (as I sit here on one foot to take pressure off my sitter bones).
http://www.squidoo.com/psoas
But this article was also interesting:
http://www.massagetherapy.com/articles/index.php/article_id/602
Oops - PC will take manufacturer's coupons, not those printed off various web sites. nm
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I've heard good things and about things about taking prednisone. My mom was on it for SM
for awhile and it made her look so swollen. I sympathize with you.
Go under Internet Properties, Privacy, Sites and you can block any websites you want from there
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Sounds good! I can tell you that these dating sites do not work. I have never seen so many needy
men on them. I wont meet anyone without talking to them first by phone and believe me when I tell you they all have their stories as to why they are broke, why they have been married 5 times, why they are still raising kids at 60 years old, etc. What you suggested sounds good. I have a few lifelong male friends that I usually always go places with so I never really had an opportunity to meet other new people when I go out and about so I plan to start doing more things on my own. I really dont mind doing that. It may be fun actually. Appreciate all your ideas!
Find a lawyer, find out where you would stand - sm
in the event of a divorce/separation, regarding custody, house, etc. Custody was my main concern as well since I lied on numerous occasions about the finances. Where I am I was told that would not factor in to the custody at all. I can prove that I am my kids caregiver 90% of the time, I ferry they around everywhere, help with homework, get ready for school, meet at busstop, etc. I could also point out my husband is an alcoholic, self treats his depression with alcohol instead of getting proper medical treatment, has threatend to kill himself (or me) numerous times (though he always says he was joking and did not mean it.....that is his standard answer to everything, or that he never said that). Now I do love him enough to deal with all that because deep down inside my DH is full of it, luckily for me, he has never followed through on anything he says he is going to do. But I thought my confession would be the straw that broke it all and send him over the edge. He still is angry with me, I am sure he will be for a long time, but is keeping it together pretty well, though he has said the stress was going to kill him, now he know how I felt I guess. I am sorry your husband is such a smuck. I feel like a dog sometimes with the sex demands, have to do it the night before he goes out of town....he will be traveling a lot for work for the next 3-4 months, which I am more than glad about, much calmer here then, though it gets tiring for me but as he is not really helping much right now it really won't be much of a change. As for yours going on 5 day weekends.....have you considered having him followed, sounds like there may be some infidelity afoot, and if so that would strengthen your case in the event of a divorce and custody I would think. Sounds a bit fishy going out until 1 a.m. and his frequent trips. My DH fishes too, but he goes 2 miles from here with one of our male neighbors, they shoot the breeze and he gets to unwind some which I encourage. Very rare weekends with a buddy of his, I am talking once every 2 years, which again is fine with me. Start keeping track of all you do, when he is home, where he supposedly goes, with whom, etc. He cannot show he will be a responsible dad if he is never there or never interacts with his own kids. My DH would probably suggest I take our older daughter and he the younger, spliting them up, he has the same perception, the oldest is mine, the youngest is his. Our younger daughter is much easier to deal with, our older daughter drives him nuts and she is only 10. My younger one (8) knows something has been going one though, and worries we will divorce, which she does not want. She is very perceptive for her years. I hope that if you do go the divorce route, which would actually probably be best in your situation, that it all works out for you and you get your fair share of assets, etc. Make sure before you do anything like that you have all your ducks in a row, so talk to divorce lawyer. I talked to one for 45 minutes, cost me $160 but was worth it to set my mind at ease. Good luck.
Yes, God bless Fred, and God Bless you in your kindness and love...sm
We had to put two of our pets, to gorgeous cats that had been our babies for 16+ years, in much the same story, they had gotten to the point where they were suffering and would suffer more. Horrible, heartbreaking decision, hurts like heck, but I do believe there have to be darling pets in Heaven, I cannot imagine how it would be heaven without them, they are so precious and give us so much love and happiness! So sorry for your loss!
Some Random Acts of Kindness (chosen at random)
I'm bringing the Random Acts of Kindness thread back up to the top. Anyone want to join me in committing to do one of these week? More ideas can be found by googling Random Acts of Kindness.
Bake cookies for a neighbor or teacher, just because.
Help an elderly person with yard work or grocery shopping. Many elderly people have a story or two to tell about their own baby that died many years ago.
Visit a nursing home and bring cupcakes. Sit and visit with a few of the residents. You'd be amazed at the loving reception you will receive as many residents rarely receive visitors.
Donate to your favorite nonprofit group on your child's birthday.
Volunteer your time at a local homeless shelter or a crisis nursery.
Donate some grief books to the library or a local support group.
Leave an extra large tip for your food server!
Buy the meal for the person behind you at the fast food drive through.
Leave a bouquet of flowers on someone’s front door step.
Bake goodies and take them to the police station, fire station, or hospital.
Pay a local teen to mow an elderly neighbor’s yard.
Crochet a baby’s blanket and take it to the hospital nursery. Premature babies can always use tiny booties and caps.
Buy a balloon bouquet and ask the nurses the children’s hospital to deliver them to a child.
Things you're afraid of vs. things you're not
I didn't used to be afraid of spiders, but I seem to have developed a fear of those little beasties. I also can't stand boats, water deeper than my hot tub and bridges. I'm also fairly convinced that UFOs, if not aliens (well, isn't anything driving those things?) are real, so that kinda scares me, yet it is strangely fascinating. I'm also afraid of El Chupacabra, though I'm very certain that's not real. It's one of those "hahahahaha" fears.
Things other people fear that I do not include snakes (awwww, they so cute! they look like they're smiling!), rats, gangbangers (except Mara Salvatrucha, move them up to my "scary" list), poverty, death, traveling at high rates of speed with almost anyone sober, bats (CUTE!!!!!), homeless people, Sasquatch, most of my male friends, bears, mountain lions.
Fear is such an odd thing, don't you think? So much of it is relative to our own experiences in life, yet at the same time some of them are downright irrational.
So, how 'bout you? What will send you running screaming in the other direction, and what things can you take care of when someone else goes running screaming in the other direction?
Please let us know if you find it...nm
Insert smiley face with crossed fingers here.
How do I find out
where this person has his banking account? I cannot believe a person would just snub their nose at a court action. Had it been the other way around, I am sure I would probably be under the jail as we speak!!
i find that
exercising daily helps and stretching REALLY REALLY helps. sometimes my entire back feels as if i have been beat with a baseball bat. it is hard for anyone to understand unless they have the same condition. also, not eating sugar helps me, especially my joints. i take ibuprofen when i cannot stand it any more and then i take 600 to 800 mg every 3 hours for a couple days. that eases the pain. i do not take any other pain medication.
good luck to you and may you have more and more pain-free days.
cannot find this
Can you possibly e-mail with the info, I cannot access it as given for some reason. Thanks
What will they do when they find out
I would like to think he could find something
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Only way to find out if he is just not that into you.
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Just find somebody else, have
the work done, and then send her the pictures of how beautiful it all turned out.
Be sure to tell her you paid a little more with this company, but it was worth it because they were so professional and quick with their service, but she was no "nice" and took such an "interest" in your welfare that you wanted to show her how nicely the project turned out. :oD
When you find out how to
make $$$$ being a beach bum, please let me know!!!!
Can't find that either!
Someone tell me, too. They said it is above where we post.. not seeing it. Sorry. . I'm havin' a bad one!
Hopefully that find the guy but at least..
they found that little girl and got her out of there.
If possible, see if you can find where she's going - sm
outside. Maybe she prefers that material to what's in the litter box. If she prefers dirt, you might try using that in the litter box to see if she'll start using it again. Then if she does, over time you could very gradually add litter to the dirt until it's 100% litter again. You might also try gradually adding kitty litter to the dirt outside where she's going as well, to help speed the transition along. Might not work but then again, who knows? It just might.
The other thing is, it takes a LOT to get the cat-urine smell out of the rug. Cats can smell much more keenly than we can, and it has to be 100% removed. Not easy. Don't use any household cleaners with ammonia in them, that'll just attract her. After thorough scrubbing, you might try something like "Nature's Miracle" to remove the rest of the odor. You could also try putting a small, inexpensive area-rug over that area, just to be SURE she can't smell it. Or even something like that indoor-outdoor fake grass stuff used for wiping your feet on...or anything else a cat might not want to walk on.
If your kitty's an indoor/outdoor kitty, maybe installing a small cat-door might help solve the problem?
One of mine (indoor-only) is the Queen of litterbox avoidance. Never used the rug, but is attracted to linoleum. I started out her rehab by caging her & "crate-training" her like a puppy, and also purchased Dr. Elsey's "Cat-Attract" litter, which is pricey but helped quite a bit.
She finally started using her litter boxes (she has THREE...), but is still inexplicably drawn to linoleum. Luckily there's not much of it in this apt., so I took temptation out of her reach by putting up pet-gates in front of the bathroom (real fun to trip over in the middle of the night, but heck - it works!), and also blocking off the kitchen (where I, as a non-cook, rarely go, anyway.)
The most important thing is to get creative, and to not give up.
This is the only pic I could find
of me in a dress, for comparison. Of course this was 21 years ago, and my hair was different in this picture, but I still think it shows the difference I'm talking about.
If you find any, let me know
I'm 25 and make more money than average college students. I just applied two places for a student loan and was denied. My credit isn't great (some medical bills on there that were past due but have now been paid), but it's not horrible either. My mother's credit is currently worse than mine, so having her cosign would do me no good. I really think companies are making it more difficult to get these loans (as I got one last year when my credit was worse and I made less money). So, I'm stuck trying to work as much as possible to pay for books and tuition myself. No fun. I wish you the best of luck, I know it's tough. I know when I was younger I couldn't get grants because my parents made too much money. Now that they don't include my parents in the calculation, they say I make too much money.
Sorry I don't have great advice! All I can say is research scholarships and apply for them like crazy!!
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