Thank you all for your replies, that reall helped (sm)
Posted By: AnonMT on 2009-01-23
In Reply to: Single moms - is it better to rent or buy? sm - AnonMT
at the very least, I am going to rent at first and see how things go before buying.
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Thank you everyone for your replies. It has helped a lot to know that I am in...sm
the right here. I started to think for a second that maybe I was being selfish.
DH told me last night he will break the bad news to his sister after the holidays.
I told him I need a vacation, too and that it's not easy working full-time and overtime from home. I need out of this place. It's hard not to think about work when you're home especially when you know there's a backlog cloud looming over your head. I'm sure some of you know what I mean.
He's convinced now that the money should be spent on the entire family not just him, our youngest and his sister's family.
You guys have been a great help! Thanks again and happy holidays, I feel a little less stressed now.
Here is what we do and it has really helped us to
We avoid comments like "You did ,,,,,," and "You made me,,,,". We use "Ifelt like ,,,,,,", "I understand that,,,,,," "I hear you say,,,,,". Try to keep accussatory statements out of it. Say how you understand the event to have happened and how it made you feel. Reiterate what you heard the other person to say/do and give that person a chance to agree or disagree.
I helped with the first car s/m
My son is 19 1/2 and I helped him with his first car. When he was 16, I contributed $700 towards it and he saved the rest, which was $1,700. He did this by saving for years, getting lawn jobs, etc. He also had to maintain good grades, sports, etc. He also had to get a part time job. I didn't care if it was one day a week, but he had to get something. I paid for his insurance until just this month. He just bought a new car, trading in his old one. He is now in college full time and working part time. He decided on his own that it was time for him to start paying for it, which is fine with me.
My tax guy helped me with this info.
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things that have helped me -
I was going nuts - waking up 2-3 times a night - feeling horrible all day. Go back to basics -
Try to get a walk in - couple of hours at least before bed - 20-30 minutes if that is all you have.
Don't watch TV or be on the computer a couple of hours before bed - watching TV not as bad as computer.
Take magnesium 500-750 mg right as you lie down to go to sleep. Recommended by many MDs for women.
Watch your caffeine intake stop early afternoon if you have to for a while.
Hope this helps - I am sleeping much better now.
Only that helped me was New Balance
I switched from wearing mostly Birkenstocks to New Balance after a visit to the podiatrist. It probably depends a lot on your foot type, because for some people it seems Birks are better, but they weren't for me. I have New Balance of all types now. It's almost all I wear and I haven't had a bad flare of PF for about 6 years now.
He helped me pick it out!
I tried it on in front of him, too.
Thanks - your post helped
I know if the shoe is on the other foot I never take offense at anything anyone says. You said exactly what my BIL said to me "it's a natural part of life". I felt better after posting and reading some of the responses and also talking to my DH. But like you say, in the future its going to be sympathetic responses. As for myself, I do have a very different outlook on life/death. I view death as a rebirth into a new life. Of course I would never do anything to bring mine on sooner than my expected time, but when my time comes I will be ready to move on.
I think you accidentally helped me
I will just avoid the mall.
BCP helped me immensely, but I needed to take sm
something for nausea for the first week. Can't remember what it was, but it really helped. It was an antinausea med for pregnant women. You should see a gynecologist, though, to see if you have something that could be causing the pain, like endometriosis, or even cervical stenosis (what I had) which was helped with a D&C. Don't suffer. Life is too short.
You're welcome!! Hope it helped some....sm
I am not expertised enough to use Turbo Tax myself. I do get everything really super ready for the CPA, and now I have MQ take an additional $50 every paycheck for additional taxes so that it covers some of what I have to pay privately for 4 private docs. 
a suggestion that helped with mine--sm
I had been put on Synthroid as soon as it was discovered that I had hypothyroidism. After many years of taking it and feeling absolutely no better and still with fluctuating TSH levels, I wanted to try the more natural supplement, Armour, which has both T3 and T4, and not just the T4. I had to change doctors in order to have it prescribed, but eventually got what I wanted. It helped significantly with the hair loss, but if you try it, give it several months before you notice a difference.
I have also been hearing subtle speakings about T1 and T2, as well. So far, they say we don't need these, but in my mind, if the body makes them naturally, we need them for something, whether the *doctors* think we do or not. I am currently looking into where I can get those, as well.
Also, I found that chemically infested shampoos were a detrement to the hair, as well. Find a good organic shampoo with only natural ingredients, and that may help, as well. I use MOP organic shampoo.
Hope this helps a little bit.
Back in the 80s my knowledge helped out some
I had all the symptoms that go with hypothyroidism, the intense itching, the never being able to get warm (with blankets over your head, etc.), went to my doctor and told him I wanted along with my physical exam to have test for thyroid as I thought had this. Went back, he forgot to order and so ordered that day, immediately referred to endo because my labs were off the chart, so to speak and lots of you know thyroid can lead to other problems, even death if left untreated. If I had not pushed this time, guess would be pushing up daisies now. For 2 family members I told others to ask for Megace (these people were skeletons and not eating) and because I knew it was appetite stimulant, I could tell them worth a try. Each gained their appetite and at least did not starve to death so after all these years I have learned a little!
Eat yogurt daily, helped me....nm
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Changing shoes helped me.
I had a touch of this years ago. I realized it was from one particular pair of shoes. It went away when I quit wearing them. Are you seeing a podiatrist?
Good. I really hope I helped.
It is not normal 6-year-old behavior, despite what others say. It is normal bratty, spoiled 6-year-old behavior, and it is not acceptable. Since your husband won't correct him, you are just going to have to let the kid know that you aren't his sibling and you don't compete for slushies and you are happy that they have a good time together. Try and stay in that mindset. Also, if you don't mind my commenting on something I think you said earlier about them cuddling and stuff and how you thought that was strange - it might seem strange if it is not something you have witnessed before, but that is an important part of bonding. Six years old is still pretty young and they should be doing a lot of cuddling. It will end soon enough so let your hubby give him that affection. The kid might not be getting it from his mom or others in his life.
I also don't understand why others are saying you are humiliating your husband in a public forum. That's silly. Now if you posted it on a billboard in his hometown, that would be different!
Hold it, are you saying zinc helped your
insomnia? I have gone through some natural items my husband had and still waking usually every 2 hours during the night, drives me crazy and needless to say the next day feeling like a zombie. I also take biotin and have the longest eyelashes now, not so much help for the hair but my dermatologist told me to take that the rest of my life due to the severe hair loss. Talk about avoiding the scales, only my scales and I know the truth there, do not even weigh in the doctor's offices, just tell them take a guess.
Anyone ever helped their child with a weight problem? (sm)
I have read up on this and don't want to make the problem worse by making it an issue, but would like to help him. I have as many healthy foods on hand as possible and try to feed him healthy things but apparently he eats too much of it. I mean, I know basically how people lose weight, but I am dealing with a child. He is starting to be made fun of and it is really hard for him. He's 10.
Helped with son's Eagle project this weekend.
He only has some paperwork and a board of review to get done, and then he'll be an Eagle scout.
What has helped my pain are fruit and vegetable capsules. sm
I have been taking them for 8 years or so ever since my pain started to get so bad I couldn't sleep (I know you know what I mean). I was working for a certified nutritionalist/chiropractor at the time. They have helped me so much that I continue to take them after all these years because I'm afraid not to. I did stop for a little while and tried another product (10 months or so) but the pain came back. Email me if you want to know more info. I am not a distributor so I'm not trying to sell them or anything, it is just what has been working for me.
Flax oil and taurine supplements helped me tremendously (sm)
Mine is now pretty much gone but any time I feel bad I start back on the flax oil (oil not capsules) and it helps tremendously. I hope you feel better soon!
Omega fatty acid supplements helped my son a lot (sm)
I just by the gummy supplements brand name Little Critters at Target. After a couple of weeks on them, my son himself, at the age of 9, recognized the difference in how he felt and he now reminds me when we run out, that I need to get him some more.
I'm having a hard time too - Charlie Brown's Christmas music has helped some (sm)
It hasn't been very cold around here...parade yesterday we were sweating. One thing that has helped me is I got the music CD from Charlie Brown's Christmas and have been listening to that and watched the little cartoon. That has always been one of my favorites. But I'm just not feeling it much either this year! I think the fact that the stores put the Christmas stuff out right after Halloween and sometimes before just makes it all seem like another day! And for me these days it just seems like a time of year where I have to spend money. Anyway, you're not alone :-)
None of these : ( but thanks for replies!
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Thank you for your replies....
I thought about it some more last night and I kinda feel the same. His comment was inappropriate but I'm sure that he has had a chance to feel regretful about what he has said and realize the inappropriateness of it. Hopefully he will think twice before making this type of comment again to someone else.
Thanks again for your replies.
Thanks for the replies
It is actually just my FIL that is the probably. Him and my MIL divorced many, many years ago. I love my MIL I am blessed with a great one, but boy oh boy does my FIL make up for that. Anyways everyone have a Merry Christmas. I know I need to just let it go, he is not going to change he has been this way for too long.
God bless you all!
THANKS FOR REPLIES
That makes me feel better. She told me she will try to get to the bank this week between classes. She just left Sunday to go back to school. If it happened a week earlier she could have taken care of it back home. I know she did not make the charges. There was a couple of charges for singles on line and another 75 dollar authorization fee that she has no idea what it was. I know she did not make the charges because she was quite upset when she called me and she also does not use her money foolishly, plus my name is on this account so she would know I would look at it. Thanks again.
Thanks for the replies everyone....sm
Okay....he is definitely not fooling around, he barely leaves my side. And no way closet gay or bi, actually he's very anti-gay. Metro? Not real sure but don't think so either. He doesn't like nail polish or other girly things like that, thank goodness! He's in his 30s and we're together around 6 years so maybe some sort of mid life thing. But after reading some of these posts, I'd think I'd rather have a man that is comfortable enough with me to do these things, as odd as I thought at first, than a macho male chauvenist pig. Ugh, had a couple of those in my life. I asked how his *bath* was and he said not so great, water got cold and I was hoping it would help my back. He has a bad back. For the candle, after I bought it he laughed and said you better not tell anyone about this. As for the soaps, well he smells really good and I like that. And now I am thinking he went out and got more of those because he felt bad he used them and I was complaining about that. But, I will keep my eye out and post if any other weird things come up, like if he starts stealing my makeup and panties! LOL
Thank you all for the replies
I am going to try....
new bedding for her
a different antihistamine suggested, will check with vet on the dose
having her thyroid checked
finding an animal allergist in my area
and if i move to pittsburgh anytime soon - i will get her a reflexologist
AND if i do move to pittsburgh, on my way there i am going to stop at the Missouri pit bull rescue and adopt Wonder.
Thank you all again. i appreciate the time you took to post for us...we both do, me and my best friend 
Thanks for all the replies....sm
We tried the epson salts before I got back here to the board, so hopefully that will help. It got him out of stacking firewood over lunch, so he was happy as a clam!
Thanks for replies
I don't think I have a hiatal hernia, or at least not on the swallow. MD did mention maybe an ulcer but that was not seen either. I appreciate all opinions. I may try licorice root and strictly avoiding all the foods as the other posters suggested, most I have but the coffee is hard. And I'm going to make an appt with GI. I guess I was mostly wondering if anyone has this as severe as I do because it just doesn't seem normal :(
I Want to Thank Everyone for all your Replies!
Thanks for helping me to feel more at ease about it! I truly appreciate it!
I want to thank everyone for the replies....s/m
It really helps and I appreciate every reply.
Thanks again!
Thank you all for your replies!
I'm still nervous, but I'm feeling more positive about it.
Thanks to all who responded!
replies gone??
wonder where the replies on this went... i was just looking at one, a long one regarding a woman's long history as a Transcriptionist and with her own cancer saga..
Mods/Admin??
Thanks for the replies!
I will be making beef stew this weekend. My family absolutely loves soups and stews and this weekend will be the kind of weather for it.
Thanks for replies but
had testing for arthritis and gout, had neither one. I have been going to a podiatrist along with orthopedist, etc. but still no answers. Thought someone here might have had the same thing happen.
Thank you all for your replies....sm
I am sorry to hear that there are so many others in my same situation. it is so hard. It is such a trapped feeling. At this point I have talked to my son about trying to stick it out just another couple of years so we can be more sure that he will have some more say in who he lives with. And we are just trying to focus on happy things, things we can do to make life more enjoyable, etc. I just don't know what else to do right now. But I am going to def look into family counselling as soon as our new insurance kicks in.
Thanks to all for your replies...sm
I am sorry to hear so many people are having these problems because it is so debilitating at times and if there are this many on this site with these problems, there must be many, many women suffering from these things! Misha, I am going to try your suggestions as well. Thanks for all who have replied, and if anyone else has any input - I'd appreciate that too :-)
Thank you all for your replies (sm)
I am worried about my little guy - there is so much pressure on kids these days to grow up too fast. I am going to look into the youth group resources at our church. I don't want to suddenly send him to a counselor and send him a message that something is wrong with him.
Thank you all for your replies (sm)
I am sorry to know so many can relate. And that's just the ones who visited the board today and saw this and decided to reply :(
thanks for your replies sm
My next visit I'm going to tell him I'd like to come in once a month. I don't want him to feel like I'm undermining his intelligence, I guess you could say. I know he went to school for this, but I know my body and I feel really good. I do try to exercise at least four times a week. I do need to lose some weight too. My insurance covered so much a year and then I had to start paying $40 back in November. I spend about five minutes with him. I don't really have back problems, just my low back I hurt about 8 months or so after having my first boy (he's 10 now). I thought going to a chiropractor would help that part. It does to some extent, but I still have that "catching" feeling in my low back. Anyway, I just wondered about other people's experience. My husband thinks chiropractors are quacks. He's not much on going to the doctor unless he really has to. I told him he'd probably feel really good after going to a chiropractor. I wanted to go to one for so long, but was scared he would mess my back up even more.
Thanks for the replies sm
I am just a little worried, funny about the "no bashing" comments, as I hesitate to post on this board anymore. I love the helping people but hate the fighting. There are some helpful people on here. I hate to give medical advice and usually try not to, but in the end, I am usually right about my concerns and feel bad that I didn't open my mouth. "No dietary restrictions" seems a bit dangerous for someone who almost lost their life and is in rough shape. I will keep all in mind and keep it under my hat (for now). I don't think people realize the stuff we hear in our work, especially if we do acute care for many places, I could write novels! Thanks again. That is potent stuff they take and the bleeding thing scares me. Hope you all stay well and your loved ones, be well. Don't you love the "what does she know" looks? They don't realize how much we hear in a day's work.
Thanks everyone for your replies (sm)
My son and I had a long heart-to-heart talk last night and I ended up getting a long hug - which is not real typical for him. He was very quiet this morning so we will see how he feels this afternoon.
He told me he feels like he's a "bad kid." The thing is he is a very good child most of the time. Other than the types of things I mentioned in my original post, he does very little wrong. He never gets in fights, doesn't get in trouble at school other than occasionally being reprimanded for talking too much or something minor. I felt so bad and spent some time talking to him and telling him that he is actually a really good boy - he asked me why he has cried some recently and I told him it was all normal and that there is nothing wrong with him. I think I am going to try the calendar idea by the way - thanks for that idea! I also think maybe my tone is the problem - I am not yelling but maybe it feels like yelling to him - same feeling. So, I am going to work on that as well. Thanks again for all of your input. I may post an update at some point soon. Nice to have all of you to talk with!
Thanks for all your replies!
I also came up with a couple of websites: thiriftyfun.com and wonderbread.com with some activities. This is the 100th anniversary of 4H in my state, so there may be special programs related to that, through the county extension service, I believe. I hope she'll consider the library in their town, too. Appreciate the suggestions and good luck to all in the same boat!
Thank you for all of your replies :) Sounds like I will be getting a
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Thanks for all replies and advice. I appreciate it! nm
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Thank you for replies. I am going to have someone check it out.
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Wow! I loved all the replies!
What a bunch of great things everyone did! Really cool. I don't mean to brag about us MTs, but I do think we are a cool bunch...lots in common too! From loving Wii and video games and fun and intelligent TV marathons to everything else listed. It is so nice to know we all have so many things in common and that we are all "out there" keeping each other company! I remember being an MT not so long ago before the I-net, and not even really knowing anyone quite like me.. now I don't feel so alone rather feel quite in good company! Thanks for writing and keep letting us know what you did, and or are still doing. Kind regards and thanks again the Holiday MT. :)
LOL! Read DH all the replies...
....and all he says is, Whatever. I know he thought I was making it up, so thanks for the support.
Thanks for your replies and suggestions
I'm not interested in buying a house and don't care for Florida. I'm looking at condos and even renting for awhile. Wouldn't mind living in warmer weather year round but wouldn't do that without taking a trip and spending sometime there before making such a big decision. Thank you all.
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