Thank you all for your kind words. Why do I have a tear or 2 in my eye?? I think it is sm
Posted By: Feelin' better on 2006-10-17
In Reply to: Ok. I am feeling so horrible as a parent right now. My 2 year old son has a sm - Feelin' so bad
because it feels great to know I am not alone and that other WOMEN know my pain and can sympathize with me. That's all I needed yesterday!
Update: My little one is quite tired, but I don't see him itching! He is on Atarax, which I guess is a very strong Benadryl, and besides the fact that I have to stay home and indoors all week with him, all is well. He will be fine and I am doing great this morning.
Thank you ALL for your kind words. I was so glad to come on here this morning and not be drilled, too, by my fellow MTs! LOL
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Thank you for your kind words - NM
NM
Thanks so much for your kind words
Under my first post, I wrote what the reasons were for that counselor to be so grouchy, and the principal apologized. No matter. The kids are happy to be back at our old school and so am I. Your note here did cheer my day!
Thank you for your kind words...nm
nm
Tx for your kind words
I do feel better. His brother has always felt as though he is superior to all his brothers because his mom keeps pumping that up, telling him how smart he is and wishes his brothers were as smart as he is (it sure is amazing what parent would say such things right in front of you). DH and I do realize they are just ignorant. DH said they are like strangers to me. The moving comment was kind of idiotic. DH would have had a career (and retirement) from the service but when it came time to re-enlistment he was getting ready to sign up to go to officer training, but his parents "conned" him into a job. They even had a freind who was some executive at a company who offered him a job paying 2 - 3 times as much as what the military did, so we opted for that. They did that so we would move out to live near them. DH showed up for the first day of work and the guy asked him what he was doing there. He said reporting for work. The guy said "what work. There is no job opening here". It was at that point he should have turned around and re-enlisted but didn't. After that we moved 5 times in 20 years.
Anyway...thanks for the kind words. DH & I are past it....too much going on in our lives to even think of him anymore.
Thank you for your encouraging and kind words! :-)
They truly helped. 
Dear OP: Thanks so much for your kind words.
I wish we lived closer too. Even if not to just get each other out of the house. I myself may have missed some fun yardsales today, the sunshine, who knows what. But even if I only take a week or two break, it will be worth it. I guess I have to see if I will miss things. I already feel guilty about not working today and it was not even my day scheduled (of course). I think you are right as well. Sometimes we need a network of MT friends close by to do things with because I do believe sometimes we understand each other better than anybody. Who can understand how difficult our job is and then being full time mommy on top of it! Well, I am going to sign off now, but thanks for cheering my day. And glad yours worked out as well. Happy weekend to you!
Thanks for the kind words and advice - sm
I think I will look into CCCS. A friend of mine used them 8 or so years ago, though she did not have to pay a monthly fee (asked her about this yesterday), but things are probably different now especially with so many people using them now. Luckily my DH is not on any of my cc accounts, though I am on one of his as a user, but that one will be paid off in full in about a month or less, once we get the money from the loan. We woke up yesterday to finding out my daughter had lice again so I think that distraction is actually helping things, he stayed home with her while I had to go out, had a school committment I could not get out of, and re-treated her (after I had already done Rid, he did olive oil as he could still see critters). So he got a taste of what I did 5 weeks earlier. So I was glad, kind of afraid to leave him home alone in case he ended up getting really depressed and doing something to hurt himself. Obviously he is not happy as a lark or anything but at least he is talking to me. Got the loan paperwork all filled out and mailing in today. Once his are taken care of he will be a bit more happy, though not about the loan, but it is really the only way as we don't want to do a home equity loan/line, and that would be a worse thing to do financially. Yes, I do feel a lot better though at his expense. At least he got up and went to work today, so that was good.
Thanks for your suggestions and kind words.
I am a very old fashioned person and generally speaking have the ideals that you speak of above. Making gifts, thinking outside of the box because it means more, putting aside the cost and really putting effort and thought into the gift - for any occasion. I know I have a short fuse right now with the hormones and it makes me not want to even try. Really my MIL is the only problem. Everyone else would love a thoughtful, homemade gift. I guess you sort of have to know her personality too. Generally speaking, she rubs me the wrong way but I try to just let things go. I just get tired of hearing the "we are really going to cut back this year!" when they said the same thing last year and it was a normal Christmas, then when I offer a suggestion she looks at me like I just cut someone's head off and the rest follow mom cause she's "retired and bored."
I did stand my ground this year though and tell my husband to deal with her on the Christmas morning doings. In the past Santa only comes to her house...so all the kids and grandkids have to cart their stuff over there to put under the tree and then wake up and drive over for presents in the morning. Screw that. In what fairy tale book did they read that Santa doesn't come to the house where the child sleeps?! Crazy how different families can be.
Oh well, I'm getting off subject here but I thank you for your kind words and I'm going to try to change my attitude. I can only do what I can do. I suggested my homemade gift ideas to my husband and he then went through a catalog and picked out gifts. Granted they were $15-20 a piece but still. Every dollar counts these days. HI'm trying to look at it as one less thing I have to do or think about - I'm sure that's where he is coming from anyway. Men just think backwards sometimes.
I actually meant in the commercial world. Thanks for your kind words.
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thank you all for your kind words!! sorry i wasn't able to get back on yesterday. sm
i have taken the time to calm down before approaching this issue, but at the same time it is something i don't want to just ignore. he needs to be educated obviously! i will talk to the wife and see if she can't approach it with him.
Words that aren't words. Top of the list? Conversate.
PLEASE!
Makes me cringe and shudder in disgust.
Is it a complete tear?
Sometimes they can cast them hip-to-toe and they get better, usually according to how severe the tear is. You might seek a second opinion. I have seen some folks take them to the chiropractor and give arthritis meds. Putting him down would not be an option if it were me. Heck I'd amputate if it required it before I would put him down. I realize sometimes this is necessary but as long as quality is life is still good, it is not necessary, plus, he still has 3 perfectly good legs.
Go to petpeoplesplace.com and post your story. It usually shows what state you are in, and ask if anyone knows anywhere in your area that you can call for assistance. There is very good advice on there. There are foundations that finance these surgeries or assist in payment.
I do nothing - I tear my Tshirt off...sm
I end up tearing off my tshirt, turn down the a/c, pace around for a bit, then try to get back to sleep.....I have just sort of accepted this, as it's been ongoing for soooo many years....and I'm not into hormonal replacement therapy.....
You made me tear up! LOL
great post!
sarcasm = *to tear flesh* - MUST YOU?????
Anyone ever tear a rotator cuff? - sm
I took quite a fall yesterday in the snow/ice outside (our 1 snowstorm this year, how freaky) and hurt my left shoulder. Went to the ER which ruled out a break (didn't think I broke it but could not move it w/o considerable pain) but said that I either sprained or tore my rotator cuff. It is only slightly better today, I can straighten my arm out now w/o pain. Was told to go to PCP or Orthopedic doc Monday if it still hurt a lot. Obviously I can still type, for which I am grateful. I am in a sling but my keyboard tray is the exact level at which my arm is bent and as long as I don't move my arm about I am fine (I use my left hand a lot for certain command keys, using my right now). I was supposed to drive up (200 miles) and see my Dad on Tuesday but I fear I won't be able to now as (1) I can't lift my arm so driving would be a bit difficult, (2) can't drive while on the vicodin they gave me, not safe and too sleepy--trying to not take any today as I have a ton of work to do though that is due tomorrow. Also gave me Motrin (hurt my lower back too but that is nothing compared to the shoulder pain). As long as I don't move I feel pretty good. Would like input from anyone who has done this torn or sprained their shoulder, in my case the left one, and how long it took to heal, etc. Luckily I am off work this week , took off for Spring Break and to visit Dad, friends, in-laws, etc, still have my own account to do but they are taking off 1 day (out of 3) so that helps some pulse it only 300-500 lines a day so not too bad. TIA. 
Our Jack Russel had a tear
but it was not complete. We took her to the vet and the cost of the surgery was not anywhere near that. The vet said to give it a few weeks and see how she does. He did give her pain meds and said no jumping on or off furniture. Can you imagine, not letting a Jack Russel jump, HA HA, good one. She certainly favored it for a couple of weeks but was eventually able to use the leg normally except when going down steps. BTW, she can no longer jump on our bed but is able to get on the other furniture just fine. Defintely get a second opinion. Hope all goes well.
Gosh - that made me tear up!
ditto, a real tear jerker.
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How about your mental health and wear & tear on your body??! Enuf
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The drinkin kind or the rubbin kind?? sm
So....is that for me to drink so I don't notice or care that my hands are all splotchy black or to get the ink off?  Seriously though, do I use the rubbing alcohol - or like Jack Daniels?? and do I soak in it or what? I never heard of using alcohol but I'll try anything.
I feel that is best too. I have been kind, very kind, to this ...sm
child since he moved here in March. I also am not one of those parent's that thinks my children are perfect. You never know what they might do out of your presence. I do know how I have raised them though and I am all for getting them all together when there is a problem and getting to the bottom of it but anymore that doesn't seem to work. The parents automatically get defensive and start making excuses, etc. I'm going to look for somewhere else to move. I've lived here for 2-1/2 years and we never had a problem until this boy moved in. His mother is a piece of work.
I thank you all for your words.
It is going to be tough when we go back to the dog park and people there ask about her. I walked Sasha today, even though it was pouring down rain. We will have to learn a new way of living now.
there are 3 little words
that I say to my little pup - coffee and cookies, and he is ready to charge out the door! I then put him in my jewel beaded doggie bag and in we go for our order! This makes his day! Everyone that see him laughs. One girl that works at the coffee shop took a picture of him on her camera phone to put him on a college paper she was doing! there are days when he barks in a very different tone to try to get me to take him! You have to see it to believe it!
so in other words--sm
she got herself pregnant, did not want to pay the consequences of HER actions, but still wanted DADDY to pay for her college expenses, and she is now profiting from ending a life....yeah...that sounds reasonable to me (not)! Maybe she should not have had sex, not gotten pregnant, and had the gumption enough to have paid for her OWN college expenses. She would still be in the position she is in now and she would have earned it ON HER OWN! JMO
no words particularly but
I hate when the doctor calls the patient elderly and they are in their 50s, or middle-aged and they are about 35 or so.... elderly primipara...
I cringe when I type a mastectomy or some kind of radical surgery on the vulva or a pelvic exenteration..
There are no words....
 You had me on the floor with the instructions...but that picture is just freakin' awesome!!!
There are no words
Thank you for posting this. I will surely pass it on - as soon as I stop crying!
Way with Words
I snuck into the Bathroom last night, put a color on my hair, the works, did a facial, shaving, showering, etc., blow dry and style, put on a new modern blouse and leggings, Came out and guess what Slim (DH) Oh bout time you stopped wearing that sock cap, your hair looks da* good. Bout time you got out of them sweats... I was getting ready to go to my grandson's music recital at grade school! I thought that was mighty funny!
Can't do this in 6 words
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Six (6), six words. nm
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I really appreciate your words
You have no idea. I painted a dining table and someone we knew offered me $1000 for it but I could not give it up because that meant that we didn't have one. My hubby says "so, we will go get another one and you can do another one". But they never are the same.
He offered to sell my headboard I painted. I have this huge 5 x 8 headboard I painted with a picture of a beach scene and has palm trees for the posts. He wanted to sell that off too. I was a little heart broken, cause I made it for my bed, not someone else's. I am not sure how to get past that.
So in other words, you really cannot
afford to travel elsewhere?
Beyond words
I'm SO sorry to read this. I can't imagine how humiliated and embarrassed you were, especially in front of his friends. I have my 'bad' moods and days where I don't feel so well, too, but it would never occur to me to take it out on my husband or daughter. I'm so sorry you had to deal with that, and I'm glad he left to go play golf...and I certainly hope he comes home realizing how crappy he was toward you and shows his appreciation!
Every time I read a post like this, my heart goes out to the poster and I go give my man, whom I take for granted WAY too often, a big hug and a kiss.
Hang in there, girlfriend, and don't let him bring you down ~HUG~
Xtra words
They are probably smarter than we think - extra characters?
any words of wisdom?
We have opened our home to a lady and her son (formerly our neighbors) who have been left homeless after her husband left her for another woman and stopped paying rent, thus they were evicted. She is functionally illiterate, but she is trying to find work, and has worked in the past. We are doing our best to make her feel welcome and be a support system during this difficult time.
Before she came to stay with us, I made sure the bedroom (actually my daughter's bedroom, who is now sleeping in the spare bed in her brothers' giant bedroom -- really no problem there) was comfortable and furnished the bed with an electric blanket, a down comforter, a quilt, and a trunk with extra blankets, as this bedroom is at the corner of the house and if the door is closed it gets quite chilly. When the weather dropped down to subzero, I got out a little tabletop fan/heater to warm up the room before she went to bed, which I do in my room also, because I can't sleep with a cold nose. However, now I am finding that, even with the temperatures in the 30s outside, she is running this heater all night long! I'm scared to see just how much this is going to raise our electric bill, and I don't feel it is necessary with an electric blanket. I don't want to offend her or make her feel unwelcome. She is in a delicate spot. Do you think I should just let it roll off my back, or should I ask her to turn the heater off before she goes to sleep? What would you do? It's not going to break me, but things are really tight around here anyway, and more so now that we are feeding the two of them and providing transportation for them as well.
Your thoughts?
I do not have any words of widsom, however...
What you are doing for this lady is just amazing--bless you! The world needs more compassionate people like you
Just a thought though, maybe she is afraid of the electric blanket? I have one friend who refuses to use one, even though her own home is absolutely freezing. She said one caught on fire when she was a kid (like 30+ years ago) and she will never use one again. Is privacy an issue? Could she leave the door to the room open at night so the heat from whatever the other source is can warm it up a tad?
Again, I think what you are doing for her is just AMAZING
says who? you, with all the capped words?
lol
I never said that - don't put words into my posts....
no need for sarcastic posts
I said pot.....
all you mentioned is most assuredly highly addictive...
been there, done that - need no lectures from an anonymous sarcastic poster 
Thanks for those words, yes, I am looking forward - sm
to some road trips next Spring and Summer; and maybe this Fall as well. This one sounds just like what you had; same set up inside, beds pull out, bed over the table, whole thing cranks up with a turn handle on the outside. It does have a stove, sink/water; with the hook up outside. Very basic but what else do you really need. Probably cook outside most of the time anyways (have a portable coleman grill too) and I have camp training from Brownies too as a co-leader so open fire cooking is not a problem. We have laptops for movies if necessary to have the kids chill with while we chill outside maybe; and for comfort will put in AC/heat eventually, but we would never use it it the heat of the summer probably, more Spring and Fall so we can do w/o the AC. My DH is so excited about this, as I said he has been really wanting to do this for years. He never got to do anything with his parents (they never went on any summer vacations) so he is like a kid all over when he gets to do things he never did before. I am hoping now that we did get this maybe to do a road trip next summer for at least a week, maybe the Smoky mountains down in TN(after we have AC), or head to NY or maybe Maine, go places we have never been and do whatever. It is getting poured on right now so I will find out tomorrow when I pick it up if it has any leaks at least!
Thank you for all your responses and words...
...of encouragement! I've always been strong and considered myself to be a 2-legged workhorse, often out lastingmore limber 'kids' and even men when it comes to doing heavy-duty tasks, so to be completely worn out after only a few minutes of mildly strenuous activity is a major bummer to say the least.
When I say 'crippled up' I guess I mean more stiff and sore than physically crippled wtih limbs and joints I can't straighten out. However, the pain is so bad I can't even get out of bed without almost falling down and the snap, crackle, and pop when I move around first thing in the morning can even be heard by my husband.
I do sleep like a log though...nothing wakes me up...I'm down at 10 p.m. and up at 7--and only because I have to pee, otherwise I'm sure I'd sleep until almost noon. I used to only need 6-7 hours of sleep a night and was a morning person...the annoying kind who could jump out of bed, get dressed, and have chores done, house cleaned, and all ready to sit down to work by 7 a.m...now I absolutely dread getting out of bed because it means I'm gonna be a hurtin' unit all day.
I've been tested for Lyme and that was negative. The other blood test did have letters...I'm thinking it was that ANA thing but not 100% sure.
The only thing I've taken for pain relief is Tylenol or naproxen but neither work really well and that naproxen just eats my gut away. This early winter certainly isn't helping and I've been dreaming by visiting Realtor.com of finding some place else that's not as artic.
Oye. Time will tell. I have another appt this Friday so we'll see what happens then. Thanks a bunch for listening and offering me advice and well wishes. They are all appreciated like you have no idea!!!
Probably just put together the 2 worse words
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Have you said those exact words
to him, asked him outright what is the problem and how you can BOTH enjoy it? Or..guide his hands and/or touch him the way you want. Otherwise I'd say he doesn't care and maybe you should move on.
Sum up your life in 6 words
I saw this idea in the Charlotte observer.
Mine:
I will write a book someday.
Words of wisdom...
Awesome! I love that! I'm telling my daughter those exact words...
I like those words - very very wise
Going to remember that one.
Any words that start with th come out ht
Nm
What words do you ALWAYS misspell?
My main one is "Consciousness". I always spell it "conciousness" EVERY TIME!!! I really need to make a hotkey for it, but just keep putting it off. I figure maybe someday I'll get it. LOL. RIGHT. But, I wanted to know if there are words that any of you constantly misspell. Just thought it would be interesting to see if I'm the only one!
irritating words...
It irritates me when the radiologist says "There are multiple diverticuli" when it should be "diverticula"! and also "granulomas" when it should be "granulomata"!
Nine Words Women Use
(1) Fine: This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up.
(2) Five Minutes: If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.
(3) Nothing: This is the calm before the storm. This means something, and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with nothing usually end in fine.
(4) Go Ahead: This is a dare, not permission. Don't Do It!
(5) Loud Sigh: This is not actually a word, but a non-verbal statement is often misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idio*t and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you about nothing. (Refer k to # 3 for the meaning of nothing.)
(6) That's Okay: This is one of the most dangerous statements a women can make to a man. That's okay means she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.
(7) Thanks: A woman is thanking you, do not question it, or faint. Just say you're welcome. (I want to add in a clause here - This is true, unless she says 'Thanks a lot' - that is PURE sarcasm and she is not thanking you at all. DO NOT say 'you're welcome'. That will bring on a 'whatever').
(8) Whatever: Is a woman's way of saying F^&! YOU!
(9) Don't worry about it, I got it: Another dangerous statement, meaning this is something that a woman has told a man
to do several times, but is now doing it herself. This will later result in a man asking 'What's wrong?' For the woman's response refer to above !!
Two words come to mind here
birth control
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