Tell me what to do...

I have been divorced for 5 years now. My kids spend every other holiday with their dad and all summer long, since he lives out of state. This last trip over the summer they were gone for two months. After about a month there my son tells me that he wants to come home (he is 7 and A daughter thats 5). I make him stay. I tell him that its daddy's turn to see you and that he misses you very much. Now, since he has been home, he says he does not want to go for Christmas. My ex is remarried and has another child. Mind you he only married her because he got her pregnant. He was over in Iraq when the baby was born, so he is not on the Birth Certificate. So, when it comes to putting baby on tricare, they would not recognize the child since he was not on BC so the get hitched at a justice og the peace. Now I don't care what he does with his life as long as he remains a good father. Well, my son doesn't want to go back. I always said that when he was old enough to make up his mind, if he didn't want to go I would not force it.

Today, my sitter calls and tells me something my son said to her. He said that when he was with his dad, he spilled his daddy's drink by accident and daddy got really mad. He pushed him into a wall and cut his ear. She stated that his sister said it did happen. I ask him about this and he gets so defensive. I did not accuse him, I just said WE need to have a talk with him. But he blows up anyway.

Ever since the divorce and his new family he doesn't call but once or twice a month and on his BDU's he has his other daughters name and says he keeps her close to his heart. Well what about the other two kids he has. Out of sight out of mind.

He has never paid the court ordered amount of child support either. He goes in to the finance office and changes the amount whenever he feels like it. He is now over 4k behind. I have tried calling his commanding officer, but no luck. I can't afford an attorney.

I am filing a petition for modification of child support because he is a major in the military and should be paying more. He does not help with extra activities or docotrs bills. He does nothing put pay what he feels he should be paying.

Please help!

• Tell me what to do... - This is going to be a book....
  • your post - mt55
  • There is free legal assistance for cases like this (sm) - MeMT
    • Free legal assistance link - yes, start now!! sm - Me too
      • Thanks !!! - This is going to be a book
  • I would not send son back. - NM
    • Unfortunately, I am court ordered to do it - This is going to be a book....NM
      • The department you deal with in Michigan for things like this is called "Friend of the Court". - MT and worn out
        • forgot to put see message in my post. And it is only Monday. nm - MT and worn out
      • You better - Start now

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