Tell him different strokes for different folks.nm
Posted By: mimi on 2006-10-11
In Reply to: This has nothing to do with MT but... - opie
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I have two strokes, the
first in 1998, I was 45, not a really big one, but left side was totally dead, but it did come back. Just some weakness there is all. The second was just last December, I had it in my sleep and was not even aware. I woke up and thought I had pinched a nerve in my arm, it just didn't quite feel right. Luckily, I had a routine doc appointment that day with my rheumatologist, so I told him, he checked me out and made me go to the neurologist, who put me in the MRI which showed a mini stroke. All function is back, I notice some residual myself, but nothing anyone else would notice. I think it really all depends on how massive the stroke is and how fast treatment is rendered. I do know someone who in early 50s had a massive stroke and has not gained back function, that was about 4 years ago, so I guess it all depends on a lot of things. Can't really say for sure with your dad, just advise to see what the docs say.
Anyone with knowledge of strokes? (sm)
My father had a stroke two weeks ago and did not tell anyone - he lives an hour away and I had not seen him - I had talked to him quite a few times on the phone and he kept saying everything was great. He has a roommate and apparently had told the roommate not to tell me. So when I saw him in person Friday night, he told me. It was not really obvious at that time, except when I saw him walk in front of me I noticed one of his legs seemed to drag a little. I pleaded with him to go home with me and let me take him to a doctor. But he kept insisting that he was not going to go, that it was two weeks ago and he was okay. Finally on Monday, my brother (in Florida) convinced him to let me take him to the doctor, so he said he would let me take him on Tuesday (yesterday) after he got a haircut and got all of his things in order. Well, Monday evening he got a terrible headache and a pins and needles feeling and his roommate took him to the ER where I met them. By this time he could barely walk and had severe shaking in his left leg and arm. He had another mild stroke yesterday evening. He cannot even walk with the aid of a walker. Here is my question: Once a person loses function due to stroke can they ever get any of the function back or is it permanent? Can rehab help them like it helps accident victims?
It's just another example of "Diff'rent strokes
It's all about individual choice, and each person's lifestyle choice, whether it's marriage or living together, birth choices (such as whether to go through with it or not), same-sex marriage, etc. are all personal choices. What matters is how people conduct themselves in their lives, and how they choose to use their time on earth.
Don't know why folks would even ask
such a thing! If they do, tell them you don't need a gift just for them to come, eat, enjoy the company and check out your new digs. Never heard of such a thing and would not appreciate it if I were a guest. I always take a perishable gift anyway...wine, plant, food. It is not that big of a deal!
I went and took a lot of folks
Ok, there were 3 adults and 4 kids and I paid for everything down to everyones clothing. I got the jumper pack, I believe is what they called it. Got there Saturday, started Sunday at Universal all day and then Monday through the following Friday we went every day to at least 2 parks and 1 day went to a water park. It cost an arm and a leg but the kids were two 8 year olds, two 11 year olds and then the adults who were kids also. What a blast. The entire trip from next state up to there with rental van and everything probably cost over 10,000 for the time. What wonderful memories though.
thanks folks!
will have to check this other one (Kimkins) out too.
i so hope i can get myself reined in before i come up with diabetes or something...
Old folks get bored. sm
My 86-yo dad is the same way. Sticking his nose into my business. He also constantly rags on me about my son not mowing the grass, etc. I have explained to him that I LIKE to mow the grass and to please drop it and he just keeps on and on. One day he walked in my office and shook his finger at me and said, "You just wait, you just wait, y'all are drinking way too much pop." This because I buy it when it's on sale and it lasts a very long, long time. And, by the way, neither my son nor I are overweight. Older people just can't (anyways he can't) realize I am 53 years old and have lived on my own without his valuable input for a long time. He just doesn't have anything else to do.
The thing that really bugs me is when he comes over and just plops down in here when I am working and I tell him he can't be in here when I'm working and he gives me all kinds of excuses ("I can't see read what you're typing") and I have to just keep the screen minimized until he goes. He just doesn't get it. The other day I told him to go over and check on my cousin's new fence, and that got his train of thought going in a different direction and off he went. He called me one day and told me not to commit to the big diocesan pledge thing that's going on, that I am to tell them I am a single parent just barely scraping by, etc., etc., and I wanted to tell him I am not quite that destitute yet, but I just agreed.
Oh, and I have an extremely screwed-up sister, too, who Dad thinks can do no wrong and her son is the greatest, etc., etc. Oh, the stories I could tell about her! Well, it was me who gave him a place to live after Katrina and it was me who gave him my couch for his new house because he didn't have one (another delusional idea, he thinks he is broke), not her, so I just keep quiet and keep civil and remind myself he's old. When it gets to be too much I tell his sisters, who tell him to back off then he does for a while. All part of life.
Denver folks out there?
I have posted before and do not want to get into WWIII but supposed to go on vacation next week to Salt Lake City, Wyoming and the like, leaving from Denver and wanted to know if anyone can suggest sights, restaurants for my last day of vacation before returning home.
Thanks for the feedback folks....sm
The 15-year-old now doesn't like ya'll but they'll get over it! I only posted it because they thought it wasn't fair to not give them the same amount of money. "Too bad" is what I said - we live on a budget and buy what is necessary not just what is wanted around here because we're paying off some bills.
Oh ya, folks definitely know I'm 'from away'
as soon as I open my pie hole. Some people don't mind that we're 'from away' (their endearing term for us outta stata's), but some folks get down right nasty about it. I suppose it's like anywhere though....I guess folks in Florida don't like the people from New England either because I once saw a bumpah stikah that said, "Keep the south beautiful, put a yankee on a bus" or something like that. It was a long time ago and my memory isn't what it used to be.
Why don’t folks use their brains
Ladies going to psychiatrist. He is on the wanted list now- had them to undress, pulling their blouses, shirts up and you would think some one would have enough sense to say WHAT? This does not come under psychiatry. No, these women get on television and tell about how they pulled them up. I would be ashamed to let people know I was that stoopid.
my folks go every year x55 yr?
to the same place. Pacific Grove/Carmel "by the sea"...It is breathtaking beauty, quaint village, great food, free beaches. Nearby trails in the woods...Clint Eastwood country :) I don't think the beaches could possibly be more beautiful anywhere else.
to the possible phisher/phishing folks....
or known names that should be used for animals
1. JSG, Jonathan Livingston Seagull
2 Guido.
3. Kira or Kyra.
4. Frank or Felix.
5. Todd.
6. Domino.
7. Angela.
8. Raff.
9. Lily.
10. Shaman.
Dont hate on me folks but
tomorrow I am going with my daughter to see our latest, the new Panda at the Atlanta Zoo. I am so excited. She was just put on display this past Friday so hopefully I will be able to get a glimpse of her tomorrow. She is a little over 100 days old, just beautiful and gosh looks like you could just give her a big bear (ha) hug but don’t know that would be a good idea, after all she is a wild animal. They just look so adorable and cuddly and next to my cats, she is probably the prettiest thing going. Wish you all could come along.....
Hold on, now - not all old folks have that smell
I have an aunt who is 89 and she always smells so good, likes her really nice perfume and never a stinky. She is in 80 group. I am quickly getting to that ole folks age but I also love smelling nice although I don’t do the perfume as I love those nice shower gels.
If I had been asked at such a delicate (as some folks put it)
age, I think my mother would be quirky, invading my space- after all she has her own to keep up with. The 2 posts above are saying they do jot them down. That to me is creepy. I would think the girls at that age would have been taught to be responsible and LET the parent know if they did NOT have one. That is just too weird for my thinking. My mother nor myself with my daughter (grown now) ever kept a diary of when each others periods were/are.
Cannot believe folks don't read these correctly
I NEVER said anything about how the companies perceive us to be.... where did that come from? Another below posted about the same. I am saying TRANSCRIPTIONISTS here are always complaining because they are not taken as professional, i.e. people calling them expecting them to run errands (being as you are home, others think you don't really have a job), telephone, husbands complaining. I post 1 thing and people talking about something else. It is a constant complaint on this board about TRANSCRIPTIONISTS taken for granted. The companies could care less what you or I either 1 wear.
You are talking about grown-a.. folks
By goodness, you do not even see where you are going wrong, do you? What happens if you die suddenly? Do you think they would starve, I doubt it. They would get off their lazy behinds and make do. Why don’t you just let them move in on you and make it 1 big happy home? I do not just dole out money without a person trying to help themselves. You are making them both invalids but wait, you still have the grandkids to go. Lucky you. Don’t gripe when you are to blame for their not working and trying to live on their own. Look in the mirror.
one my folks probably thought was the worst...
but was young enough i didn't stress over it then -- and laugh about it now....the backdrop is a 'granny' who was an alcoholic, already well along when all the family arrived. We mingled and visited with one another, expecting to eat within a couple hours...and my dad asks his mom, 'hows the turkey coming mom?' and she has this blank look on her face -- like she's trying to remember, and he says, let's go take a look...and she says on the way to the kitchen, 'well dear, i guess i better take it out of the freezer!!' Needless to say, there were some frayed nerves -- so we had "Chicken Delight -- which stays open all night" !!
Maybe folks think you are upset because you keep yelling
Ultimately it is your decision whether or not to give someone the key to your home, or once they have it to let them keep it. You have to do what you are comfortable with. I have keys to my parent's home, my siblings' homes, and my cousin's home. Two of my brothers have keys to my home. We are all comfortable with that arrangement.
As a side note, you posted here about the entire situation knowing that everything in your post would be open to comment. If you did not want folks to comment on aspects your situation, then there really was no need to divulge so many details. You simply could have said, "My son is moving out of my home. I asked for the keys to my house. My mother felt this was objectionable." Then you could have asked for opinions or what other folks do.
I agree with you. I just wondered if all the folks
speaking out in defense of the bible being there would feel the same if it was another religious document that was not in line with their beliefs.
Out of curiosity, do they have bibles in public school libraries? I honestly don't know.
Some of the same folks Obama wants to give
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I can see why some folks are giving up their pets
I just took Spot and Nerys to the vet for routine senior kitty blood checks. I also got Nerys a refill on her prednisalone. It cost $325.
Those furballs had better appreciate it tonight when I shove pills down their throats.
Old folks hating toddlers?
I am older and just glad they are not around. Don’t want to fool with them, put up with their crying, screaming, making messes, pouting, crying. I want my golden years to be just that, without the brats.
Most common sense folks on here would know that
some get all riled up when you start talking about moochers! Now, this lady is a plain out and out moocher. She now has 14 mooching babies, of course, through no fault of their own but their mother's greedy selfish ignorance.
I tried to have a rational discussion about moochers on welfare ther other day and for the life of me couldn't get one poster to get her mind wrapped around the fact that there are truly JUST moochers out there, who do not work, do not contribute to societ; they just take,take, take, and do nothing productive. She thought I knew nothing and that welfare was ONLY for those TRULY in need. This is exactly what I was talking about. I see it every day in my community, the baby making factories who refuse to work, sit on their butts, and have more babies, all paid for by the taxpayer. This is a perfect example.....same situation only she had 8 at one time instead of one by one until she finally got to 14.
Maybe the poster will get a picture of what moochers I was talking about and stop acting as if she were being targeted.
Since this lady is on disability, all her 14 children will also receive a monthly disability check. Now, multiply that times ALL the illegal babies here with all their illegal parents also getting assistance and you wonder why this country is going down the tubes and why California is going belly up?
No, but I think some of the folks dicating are drunk. NM
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Oh geez folks, light up...
it was funny!
lol Folks, she has an excuse why she'll never face
Besides, we all recognize the ridiculousness of this type of boasting control.
Folks who I talk with swear by Sporteze...
Minimal Bounce Bra. These are kinda active chicks though who ride horses and stuff, so they need the milkers to not hit them in the face when doing the crazy things that they do on the backs of horses. They appear to come in front zip and pull-over styles. I'll put the link below to one of the places I know that sells them.
http://www.doversaddlery.com/search.asp?ss=bounce+bra&t=ss
folks who do not agree are in for rude awakening!
and folks who do not believe we are in deep global environmental trouble in this century are either deluded or just PLAIN selfish and never thinking about others elsewhere and/or here.
and that's my wide-open, not-narrow opinion!
It's Monday...What's for dinner tonight folks?
Cat here....Been wondering what you've all been up too. Been kinda lost as well considering my computer died over a month ago and was finally resurrected this morning.
Tonight's fare will be venison pot roast style (about 4 hours on top of the stove) with string beans and potatoes side, hot water cornbread and strawberry jello for desert.  Cat
How about all you folks having tons of kids? I'm paying for them and your
C-sections and OB costs, as well as all your little offspring's school costs.
So you just continue to give money to grown folks
because they are too lazy to work? You could do 1 of 2 things- take the children or call the family and children services if they are not being cared for. I would never continue to support people who did not want to help their self.
"old folks spread?" LOL! I hope I look that good when I'm in my 60s!
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you mean stomach bugs? Lots of sick folks
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Probably the same rich & snooty folks who buy $800 Gucci and Prada sm
bags, Jimmie Choo and Manolo Blahnik shoes for $1000 a pair. I heard that Tiffany's is now offering a "plain paper bag" instead of their ritzy printed bag with Tiffany printed on it, b/c the rich are feeling guilty about continuing to buy this overpriced crap while the rest of the country goes down the tubes.
Folks are lacking lots when they have to get drugged up to feel better
Enough rest, the right kind of food, a good clean life, love and closeness of my hubby, these things are just priceless to me. If you or others want to crunk it up, have at it. As long as you do not get in my space, it's your life. As far as roadblocks, I used to live right down the street from the state patrol office in our state and they had road blocks constantly coming off my main drive. It was not unexpected and I never minded. I had my license, insurance and was not snorting anything I shouldn't nor drinking, driving. This went back to the 70s and 80s, nothing has changed with roadblocks. Stay clean, no problem.
Medicaid for poorer folks, Medicare for retirees
But no matter your age if the person is on dialysis you are automatically put on Medicare.
What saved the folks on the edge was pulling up the emergency brake
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Hubs did window cleaning as a teen & always got swamped w/folks wanting them
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Older folks sometimes lose it before they really lose it sm
It sounds like she having some issues with money and thought processes. Four potatoes and three sweet potatoes? She has lost touch with reality. I don't mean this in an unkind way. I think she didn't stop the think or plan the budget around this. Perhaps she has lost the ability to properly plan on some level. This makes no sense.
In my family, food at gramma's was always abundant. The woman always thought we were foot soldiers readying for a cold march across two states. The place she got miserly was with almost everything else. She'd have everyone over for a huge supper and have 2 rolls of TP in the house, one nearly gone, and there would be 10 of us. She stopped buying laundry detergent because it was "too expensive" and started using shavings of naphtha soap. She started saving little soap slivers and making "new" bars of soap with them. She stopped buying shampoo unless it was in the markdowns at the grocery store. She started using a baggie for her vacuum cleaner bag. You get the picture here.
The interesting thing is that truly, that gramma never fully lost it. We considered this idiosyncratic and went on. She kept the rest of her faculties, but had these odd ways of "saving money." My other gramma who never did any of these things did, in fact, suffer from profound dementia the last 10 years of her life. Of course, that set of grandparents had the issue the other way. Toilet paper: Bought in bulk 6 cases at a time. Find a salad dressing you like, buy a couple of cases. You never did want to tell them you liked a certain food, paper product or soap something because if you did, along would come a few cases of it!
We all do something when we get older. Help her out so she isn't embarrassed by this!
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