Talk about nerve, this megamom has now set up
Posted By: Unbelievable on 2009-02-11
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a website asking for donations. Well, I am going to set up a website asking for donations for my animal rescue. I rescue animals that otherwise would be put down, vet them, spay, neuter at my own cost and then try to find them a wonderful home. I am not adding to the problem (animals here) but hopefully helping the problem. She is getting food stamps, disability, said she would use her student loans for the children. Family and Children's Services should be knocking at her door before long. Talk about a Jolie wannabe.
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She is a con artist.
In her interview with Ann Cori she said:
'Everything worked out well.'
Yes, for her. She makes a living out of this, unbelievable.
Two of her 6 children have health issues and need special care.
The doctor who went along with the procedure should also be jailed or he should be made responsible for supporting her and the children.
How could he agree to go along with this, knowing that she has already 6 children, is single and on welfare?
Was he part of the 'plan'?
Aren't 6 children enough? What for another child? Now 8 came along.
And they ask for donations on a website. Huh ?
As one poster already said, the children should be adopted and she should go to jail, together with the doctor.
Parents should only have as many children as they probably can afford.
Latest on megamom, OMG
Supposedly Angelina Jolie had been contacted in the past by this megamom and Jolie is supposedly "creeped out" by this. Megamom's representative says if this litter was born 3 or 4 years ago people would have been more giving of their money.
They showed them both ranting before Megamom's
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Did ya ever just wanna talk about nuthin' just to talk?
As I said before in another post, I miss everyone so much...
So, I have absolutely NOTHING to talk about. Love my new job, love that spring is on the way, and I love that my belly is absolutely filled up with pancakes my husband kindly made for me just now...even though it's lunchtime and not breakfast. I'm one of those freaks that could eat breakfast-type foods at every meal.
...and that reminds me that it's almost that time of year to order some baby chicks for next month. Laying hens, not for meat or anything, just eggs and entertainment. I can't wait for warm weather--it's been a long HARSH winter this year. In fact, I think we're due for another ice storm at the end of the week.
I hope everyone who stops by to read my note about nothing finds themselves and their families in good health. Miss you all, even the ones that can't stand seeing that "Hayseed" name up there.
What nerve.... the little....
I would have gone up one side and down the other of that father. I would have made him look like a fool in front of his own kid! OOOH I wish I was there. What a nutjob!!!!!!
I do not let anyone get on my last nerve, if they try
I would stop that short. My father who was elderly was calling and calling. I moved and did not give my new number and it was four months before I sent that to him. Talk about peace. You can also get call blocking, have the caller sent to another number- perhaps cell phone??, lots of ways for folks not to bother.
Getting on this last nerve
I recently went to upgrade my kitchen counters to granite. Found a place close by and pleased with the price. However, there is a foreign person who owns and not that I mind that, but she keeps making these little digs about not being able to afford (I asked price up front and would do if I had $10 or 10 million), does not want me to go in debt for something (told did not want to do credit and did not want to take $$$ out of bank because would be penalized if taken out before maturity on my CDs and want to pay cash when property closes next month). Folded contract up and told me to come back when I could afford. Maybe this is just the way she talks because of being from another country?? Sold a rental home last year, selling another property next month and have my new home so barely qualifying for food stamps. I want to buy there but feel like I am having to prove or compete even with her remarks. Any come backs or would you just chalk it up to she really does not know how to talk to prospective buyers?
last nerve
If it were me, I'd definitely take my business elsewhere. That is just outright rude and if she isn't able to deal courteously with her customers she should not be in a customer service position. She should hire salespeople who know how to close a sale, not drive people away like she is doing. Tons of places sell granite countertops - who needs the aggravation? Definitely point out to her that she is rude, and that you are taking your business elsewhere.
Wow! Was a nerve hit???
I didn't think the OP was harsh. I'm not a grandmother yet, but I'm the mother of 18- and 20-year-old sons. Many of my friends are grandparents now, so I think I can speak for some of us in my generation regarding what we went through growing up. Most grandparents today grew up in the 1960s and 1970s. Those were pretty crazy times. I know grandparents who attended Woodstock. I've been to Ozzy Osbourne-Black Sabbath concerts where the air was thick with the aroma of weed and fellow concert goers were having sex in the seats next to us. So, yeah, we understand what it's like to grow up in that sort of culture, and we also know what it's like to raise kids in the moral-desolving pressure cooker of the current culture. You make it sound like all grandparents walked off the set of "Leave it to Beaver". That's just not the case. By the end of the 1960s and into the 1970s the pendulum had started to swing so far toward women having careers that we were often belittled for choosing to be home with the children. Remember Hillary Clinton's cookie baking comment during her husband's first campaign? In fact, stay-at-home moms were the norm for only one brief period in our history right after WW II in the post war boom times. There was a pretty awful recession in the 1970s, and I remember gas rationing and long lines at the pumps. My mother had to work two jobs, and my father, who was in construction, was often one of the first to feel economic ups and downs in his paycheck. But we had dinner together every night at the kitchen table. Before the stay-at-home mothers of 1950's t.v. fame, most mothers worked. They had to. Only the very privileged stayed home and waited for Ward Cleaver to come home from the office. My grandmother, who lived to be 94, God bless her soul, was born in 1908. Her mother died during the great Spanish flu epidemic in 1918. My grandmother was the eldest of four children, and at the age of 10 she became the woman of the house. She stopped going to school so that she could cook and clean and took care of her father and siblings. And no one thought that was wrong. It was expected because there really weren't any government social services -- no welfare, no foster care. Eventually, when her father's depression over the loss of his wife became so great that he couldn't manage to bring home an income, people in the neighborhood just took over. The two eldest children went to live with other families. The two youngest went to an orphanage. My grandmother's father just drifted away and his children never saw him again. My grandmother married at age 20 and had four children during the depression. Talk about having it hard. When I was a young mother trying to make ends meet and I'd cry to my grandmother, she brought me around to reality. She told me what it was like for her to raise children during that time. Many a night she cried over whether or not she could even feed her children or if they would have a roof over their heads. And she wasn't alone. Everyone, and I do mean everyone, was in the same boat. The Great Depression was enormous. She and my grandfather worked wherever and whenever they could. They brought home a dollar or two at a time and fed their children buttermilk and potatoes. They didn't sleep, they worried all the time. Today, my grandmother's washboard hangs in my kitchen on the wall next to my dishwasher. It reminds me that I have no right to ever say that things are harder on us today. They aren't. Generally speaking, most Americans have so many more advantages, choices and opportunities than those who came before us. Yet many in my generation and the one or two generations behind me are just whiners and crybabies who don't think about the big picture. They even dare to say they have a harder time as parents today. Please. Not even close! Every generation seems to believe that, but just a short trip through a history book proves otherwise.
I'm not that very old. But I've raised my children and I raised them well. I know what it takes to do that. It takes self-discipline, sacrifice and consistency. And you know what? That's exhausting. Parents today are tired. So what? All parents are tired. Offer it up, as the old nuns used to say. The kids have homework an hour a night. So what? They should have homework, and parents should make sure that it gets done, because education is important. There are parent-teacher meetings to attend, coaches association meetings, scout meetings, dance lessons, school recitals, etc. etc. etc. So what? Balance it out, quit what can't be done, do what can. Work because you have to. The kids have to be fed. It's still easier than it was a generation ago, two generations ago, three and on and on. We're parents to young ones for only a short time. Which reminds me, let's not forget about birth control. Most of us have 2-point-whatever children these days. I'm the youngest of 7. Most of the families in my neighborhood when I was growing up had 4 or more children. Today women can choose to have as many or as few children as they want. That means that we parent for far fewer years than the generations before us. I'm done with day-to-day parenting after just 20 years, and in fact, it got much easier on my day-to-day schedule once my boys were in high school. But my mother had children at home for 34 years. Imagine the number of cloth diapers for 7 children for year after year after year. Yes. I had it far easier, and I know it. So when I was exhausted raising my two boys, I just sucked it up and kept at it.
The OP, I think, probably didn't want to be as blunt as I'm willing to be. She IS helping by babysitting her grandchildren while her children work. I'm sure she loves her children and grandkids, but I'm willing to bet that if she dared to say to her children the things I've posted, her children would react just as you did and she'd end up cut off from her family.
To the OP: I hope it helped to vent a little, and I want you to know that I understand.
Ridiculous. I can't believe the nerve of
Would make me want to take it to the School Board, but I understand about whether or not it is worth the trouble . . . don't know what they would be able to do, but she should at least, at the very least, be reprimanded. Perhaps moving her into the middle school or high school would be punishment enough. LOL!
Hope you guys have a Merry Christmas despite her spoiling Santa.
The lizard gets on my last nerve.
The caveman cracks me up. 
Looks like you struck a nerve
j/k
Kids are going to have accidents and get hurt, no matter how much you try to avoid it. How many times have you mothers out there been busy cooking or taking a shower or doing any of a hundred other necessary daily-life activities and your child has come to you with a bruise or scrape or cut or whatever? IT HAPPENS. No matter how good a mom you are, no matter how hard you try. No one is perfect and no, mothers don't really have eyes in the back of their heads.
So come on, everybody take a deep breath and RELAX, okay?
Okay you have touched a nerve with me
I have a HUGE issue with the way disability/welfare is set up. I have written several letters to my representatives. I happen to live in Indiana and I have learned a few things.
Once a person in Indiana is eligible for disability, they will NEVER review that person's case...... unless someone has reported them and even then, that is not a guarantee. They do not check to see if they are making followup appointments or any such thing.
It is very hard to disprove mental disability. I personally know someone who went in and said they were "hearing voices" and started to receive disability benefits within a few months. My father had COPD, cancer, and other health conditions that kept him from working; keep in mind that he worked 35+ years in the same place, not like he didn't have a good work ethic. He applied and was turned down twice. It took the help of an attorney and after two and a half years, he was finally approved.
I was also told that the turnaround for the ones who decide who receives and doesn't is unreal. It was conveyed to me that there is not a panel of people who do the decision making... it is one person who makes the decision. This person may be very new and not sure what to do. One person may be quick to deny and one may be quick to allow benefits.
When I made the suggestion that EVERYONE who is on disability be required to routinely take a drug test, I was informed that the federal law has allowed each state to make that decision. Indiana has yet to do that. My thinking is, sure it is costly to do a drug test but you figure the cost of that would be a whole lot less than the cost of helping those who are not helping themselves. Let's see if the ones who should be taking certain prescription drugs are indeed taking them and let's see who is involved with illegal drugs and IMMEDIATELY drop them.
I am sure there are a whole lot out there who are on disability or welfare, collecting $$$, receiving food stamps, lliving in government subsidized housing, free healthcare, prescriptions, etc.
I was told by one representative that everyone who has concerns NEEDS TO WRITE TO THEIR REPRESENTATIVES and voice their concerns, lobby, etc. I was also told that those emails that have people add their names too, etc. don't carry much weight. They want to hear personal experiences, concerns, etc.
I URGE EVERYONE OF YOU TO WRITE TO YOUR REPS.... and voice any concerns you have.... talk to your friends, family, etc....
I apologize for any typos in this... I am short on time... as I HAVE TO WORK. ;)
Yeah, that would get on my last nerve. (sm)
I don't know about it being illegal to have them, but I would think they would at least need to keep them contained. If that doesn't work:
2 lb. deer steak, tenderize cut in squares
1 green pepper, chunked
6 bouillon cubes, beef
5 tbsp. cornstarch
3/4 c. water
1 chopped onion
2 tbsp. oil
Place oil in frying pan, heat. Rinse blood out of deer. Place squares of meat in hot oil and brown. Add 4 cups water and 6 beef bouillon cubes. Simmer 1 1/2 hours. Add peppers, onions and cook another 45 minutes. Dissolve cornstarch with 3/4 cup water. Add to meat mixture. Cook another 35 minutes or until tender.
I think I struck a nerve with you because
your happiness is based on being taken care of and you would stay whether you were beaten, unhappy, cheated on, etc. As I said, I am a very secure person.
I seem to have struck a nerve...sm
Although this is not about me, I happen to hold two degrees - a bachelor's and a masters.
Now, if I am permitted on that basis to speak, please note that I offered no negative opinion about this individual. I don't know him, obviously. I merely advised caution and due consideration.
One of my degrees, incidentally, is in Security Management, and I'm a member of both the IACA and IALEIA, which are crime analysis and criminal intelligence associations, respectively, as well as ACFE, the Association of Certified Fraud Examiners. I teach courses in identity theft at the local community college. I think that I do know something about the cautions that I offered - which were NOT opinions about this individual.
As I said, I posted very reluctantly. Obviously, you do not appreciate the fact that when I did post it was because I was concerned.
Oh, and by the way...you know nothing at all about what I happen to know about my partner, so I'd appreciate it if you'd keep your venom to yourself because my post did not merit that kind of response. I do wonder, however, what it comes from, and if I had to make a bet, well...I'll let you finish it.
You hit a nerve?...that's hysterical! Surely I did!
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Ladies - I know this strikes a nerve with some of you (sm)
Just remember-everyone is different. The situation is not the same as yours as they are all different. I asked for opinions and I got them. I said I HAVE been making them go. I am just wondering if I SHOULD continue that. Some think I should and some think I shouldn't. This is not the same as your SIL telling you off or your DIL not letting you see your grandchildren. She sees them as much as she wants, any time she wants. I got to all the family functions she wants us to go to even if her son can't go. I help her when she is sick. I call her on the phone and check on her. We all spend several weeks throughout the summer at the lake with her. We spend EVERY holiday with her. How do you figure this woman is being short changed?? My own mother is the one being short changed - she lives 8 hours away. She never gets to see me or her grandchildren for holidays because my MIL would have a FIT if we were not at her house for these events. When we visit them once or twice a month, we spend ALL DAY at their house. How is she being cheated if she doesn't get every single thing she wants but does get at least 95%?????????
maybe a slightly pinched nerve? (sm)
I've had something like this happen before, mostly just took an anti-inflammatory and/or another hot shower to loosen up then tried to work through it...
Good luck!
That takes some nerve in my opinion.
It is not like you have any say so in your son's graduation, and in my book that would be more important to me than my nephew's wedding. It if interferes with the wedding, so what. There is nothing you can do about it.
Your hostility is strange. Must be hitting a nerve.
Maybe it's your conscience; otherwise you wouldn't care that other people see this differently than you do. It's not like anybody is going to track down your kids and spoil your fun, so you are the one overreacting.
I had nerve pain in my thigh for 15 years.
I finally figured out the cause of mine and it's gone, so I hope you can figure yours out too. Are the MDs saying nerve conduction studies wouldn't help them with it? Do you have hypermobile arches, where the ligaments are too loose and there is too much sag when you step down? If that is causing a nerve problem (and I just know it can cause pain to shoot straight up through the arch), then you would need to get just the perfect arch supports for your feet and NEVER go barefoot. Just a thought.
Good luck.
Your mother has some nerve and if she knew manners
she would know basically it is NOT her wedding, basically she has NOTHING to do with it and should keep her nose out of it. You or someone else needs to clue her in on where she stands, no where basically. Does she have some mental issues? If she put up that much fuss, I probably would disinvite her to the wedding and I am not playing. Don’t be spineless, tell her...
Thousands of nerve endings insignificant?
Well - as far as I know, the foreskin protects the glans. It also keeps the glans moist and secretes antibacterial substances. Also, circumcision greatly desensitizes the glans, reducing the pleasure quotient for men. Did you know that?
That's a creative idea. I'd love to have a listen, but I'd never have the nerve to ask! n
OP
Go try it, talk, talk and listen sm
Counselors are trained to "listen" and direct you to talk (not them). I have transcribed many, many mental health reports. They do dig deep and keep it going for a very long time, very long, usually (perhaps not for you). But if you both don't tell the truth, you are wasting your money, so why not just get it all out on the table and get it over with and get on with your lives? Don't pussy foot around, get it all out and deal with it. Gosh, life is too short to put on a show, it's not a dress rehearsal, it's life. Go forward, forgive, forget and forge ahead. Don't need a degree for that!! But a little help can't hurt. Might help.
You might be compressing a nerve in your spine or neck. Get up often. Drink all day long. See your
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LOL- and he has the nerve to preach to the average person - hahah)sad -people believe him
No, mine is elevated IOP without optic nerve change. I was just to see an ophthalmologist who
actually is from Wills Eye. It is not to the point of doing anything now.
Brother found out he had nerve transposition in his elbows causing wrist pain. Had elbows done &
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Have a talk with your son
Any discussion or decisions about your son's feelings should be done with your son. This is an ideal situation to guide him in a positive direction. First of all, you are his mother and always will be. She may be doing the parenting tasks for now, and should be respected for giving of herself, but she should not interfere in your relationship with your son. Unfortunately that happens too often in families of divorce these days.
Ask how he feels about what is being said. Ask how he responds to it...or does not not respond at all. There may come a time where he listens to the garbage, then can stand up to her and say, "Aunt _____, I appreciate everything you are doing to help me with letting me stay here. There are some people who would not do what you are doing for me. But, my mom is my mom and I love her. She is always going to be my mom and you are always going to be my aunt. I feel I am lucky to have two different mom figures in my life that I can count on to help me learn how to deal with adult problems."
This sounds really dorky and I'm sorry others were as harsh towards you. I hope you put your own feelings in check and focus on your son's feelings as those being the ones that should be focused upon. He will be coming back to you one day, and everything that happens while he is away will stay with him. How you react is going to have more of an impact than what she says/does, especially when it is negative.
I know something of what you are going through. I am raising my grandchild. My ex's family did not speak to me for 10 years, but now that I have custody of my grandchild, for my ex's sake, they have been more genuinely caring and welcoming to me than my own family. There are a lot of words from the past being swallowed by my ex-SIL. I have proven that beyond myself, my decisions first reflect the best interest of the child. Everyone, even the child, feels it and knows it to be true. From that, respect is being rebuilt.
Good luck to you and your son.
I would talk to him/her
about the symptoms you are having and any family history of illnesses - more than likely they'll do some blood tests to rule out other things first. I had 11 of 18 trigger points on the day of my first visit - you can Google trigger points and it will tell you where some of them are and base it on that - but if your doctor suggests that it is all in your head and you continue to have problems please see another doctor - thankfully my doctor was very understanding and after I kept a log for 3 months of all my symptoms he then referred me on to a rheumatologist and this doctor has been wonderful - I see him every 3 months for routine blood work and medication adjustment if needed - they don't just dope you up on a bunch of narcotics - he also tries behavioral modification along with medicine - so I'm pleased .... Again best wishes.
Definitely talk to him
Sit down with him and tell him very calmly that you feel uncomfortable with this situation and ask him why he feels the need to do this. No matter what he says, keep your cool, and do your best not to say anything to make him feel defensive. Just be very clear about your feelings and your desire for him to stop this behavior.
To be honest, I doubt very much he will change, and I don't blame you for not wanting to live with this situation. The reason I am suggesting that you talk to him about it is to make it clear to him exactly what the problem is so that if/when you seek a divorce, he cannot claim that he didn't know there was a problem.
Internet addiction, particularly internet porn addiction, is a serious problem and is not easily "cured". I'm glad the two of you don't have any children. That will make things much easier, at least when it comes to legalities. Emotionally I know it is devastating, and I am very sorry you are going through this.
Not to talk about it
I have NO problem with the "poor" being treated medically or otherwise -- what I as an "American" have a problem with are ILLEGAL immigrants coming into this country and expecting things to be handed to them on a "silver platter." I have lived in Southern California, Nevada and NOW here in Miami and let me tell you if you DON'T speak Espanol in Miami, you are SOL!!!!!
I have also worked for state and federal agencies where I have seen minorities (excluding Caucasian women) getting preferential treatment.
Granted, this country was built on people immigrating to this country, however, it has now gotten to the point where our children and grandchildren have to learn to speak Spanish as THAT has become "the language of our country" and we as citizens are having all of our rights and laws taken from us -- for example, do a search at the state laws that "passed" as of July 1 -- Virginia's being the worst by far -- as AMERICAN citizens as well, we have by CONSTITUTIONAL law, the right to defend ourselves and our property, but those rights are slipping away as well.
Why? Because "All We Like Sheep" -- we need to learn that doctors and healthcare professionals are like we are -- I had one resident whom I kidded and joked that with his handwriting, he would never make it as a doctor because his writing was too clear -- stand up people for what you believe in -- look at the laws that have been passed and take it to your representatives, and forward -- THEN maybe when the voice gets strong enough, we can be heard as MTs and make a difference
Off DE soapbox for now
Talk
To the teacher, principal, someone at school.
Well of course I have tried to talk to him (sm)
For years...talked and talked, went to counselors, read books, prayed, begged, cried. It's not like I just pretended there wasn't a problem and started talking to other men.
talk a lot,
determine where your hearts and committments are. You can get past this and have a marriage better than ever, if it is what you both determine to do. Time and effort, not to mention prayer, can heal.
I think your best bet would be just to talk with the
facilities themselves. My daughter just had a $5000 medical (ER) bill that my interim insurance chose not to cover because of an exclusion rider (started new job, did not take Cobra but a private policy). I just talked to the hospital personnel and they sent us paper work to fill out to maybe help with the bill. Also, you can set up a payment plan of only $10 a month. As long as you pay it every month, they cannot come after you with bill collectors, anything like that.
Our local news had an article on companies that will negiotiate bills and the like for you, but a lot of them charge fees and are not totally on the up and up.
All this talk below
where my husband and I stand regarding number of times per week/month... whatever. We are in our early 40s and we do at least 3 times a week and he seriously thinks it should be daily. I think he gets it more than most; maybe not.
Talk about HOT!
Man is he hot! What's not to like about him. I heard shortly after he and his wife (don't know if they were married at the time), but they were selling something called "butt art". Like finger painting but with the other end. HA HA HA.
Anyone now a days in Hollywood that will come out and admit they have a problem and get help for them I commend them, unlike policians who hide it. :-)
I just saw him on David Letterman last week. He is still looking great with all the gray. Still as hot as when he first came on the movie scene.
You need to have a talk with him, and tell him what you need.
Regardless of the risk, the choice to take it or not should be yours. Tell him that you NEED this, it's important.
I think you both need to get out and help others, and you will probably get more help out of it than they do. Can you volunteer someplace where there children, or elderly people? Homeless people? You need to stop moping around going oh dear, oh dear all the time, and go help someone who really needs help. It will definitely help your mood and make you feel better.
Do you have any friends, or good neighbors? You don't sound like you have much of a life there, other than working and listening to your husband whine.
do you talk about it?
This place is what I mean....
Sometimes I mention to people, that 'someone on the MTStars' said this or that, and they look at me like I have three heads or something!
I just seem to know lots of people who don't even KNOW what a message board is ... just wondering if it's cause I live up here in the boonies?
Please...I need someone to talk to...sm
Okay, its pity party time. I may need to get a professional's help, but I figured I'd start with you ladies first as you're my "free therapy."
I am feeling really, really guilty about not seeing my dad as much as I "should." So, here's the story. My dad is an alcoholic. He kept it from my mom and I for about 10 years. See, he left when I was in 6th grade and not in the typical "dad just up and leaves" sort of way. He got a job in another city about 5 hours away. I remember we were all really excited about it as it was a really good career move for him. Mom didn't want to move so the "agreement" was that he would come home on the weekends and see us (right). So this turned into seeing him every month, to every couple of months, to about twice a year (thanksgiving and Christmas). Him and mom are still married (don't know how she does it) but I feel such resentment toward him that it is hard for me to go see him. We only live about 15 minutes away from my parents and are in their town a lot to see my husband's family. However, I choose not to go see my father because it is awkward and weird and it stresses me out to the max.
I get to see mom about 3 times a week as we work together (both as transcriptionists) at our local hospital. I love spending time with her, but not with my dad around. I know I'm hurting his feelings when I don't see him but on his birthday, father's day, holidays, etc. He doesn't drink THAT much anymore, a beer or two a day (we think), but it still bothers the heck out of me when I see him drinking. Although it is better than mom and I trying to get him to bed while he is falling down drunk or driving away, getting a DUII, etc. I would never tell him how I feel because I love him and wouldn't hurt him like that. He isn't very healthy (hep C, high BP, neuropathy, etc) and I don't think he'll be around for that much longer. NEway..getting off track...I just need some advice and/or to hear someone else's stories about something like this. I don't know what to do and it is really getting to me. It does feel better to be able to talk to someone about it though (husband doesn't understand and talking to mom about it just makes her feel bad). Thanks ladies for all of your support!!!
I really would not talk to her or help her
in this case. Would you drive her to the bank to deposit you SHOULD have had?
Did you talk to your mom about any of this?
I would talk to her about getting a restraining order against him and possibly pressing charges for the threats and harrassment. I know this may sound extreme, but your dad sounds pretty unstable. I get the idea that maybe you don't want to be the one to turn him in, that's why I suggested you talk to your mom about doing it and go together to do it.
If I remember correctly, you're married, right? Is your husband at all willing to get involved and maybe tell your dad to stop. Maybe he could get through to your dad a little better.
For the short term with the phone calls, I would answer it the first time he calls and tell him before he even starts talking that "I'm working and I will call you when I'm finished." Then hang up and when you are done, call him. Lay out the ground rules during that callback -- i.e. talking about mom is off-limits. Be firm. If he continues to call you after you tell him you'll call him back, turn the ringer on your phone off. My phone still lights up, so I can see that someone is calling, but there's no constant ringing to interrupt. It might take a few times, but be persistent and hopefully it will work.
When he is gone, we talk at least once a
day, maybe more, just depending on what we have to say. He travels out of state 3-4x weekly and a day without talking to him would be a day without sunshine to me. We are extremely close and spend lots of time together when he is home.
The more you talk against him.....
Your mom is going to try to defend him, so I think you may need to really tread carefully there. It's like when you have a kid (or were a kid) if Mom said do this, you did that, just out of sheer orneriness.
Now as to him sending her his debit card number, I'll be shocked and surprised if any repair shop accepts just a number like that for payment.
Have you tried going to the local police to see if they have any info on him or if they know of anything similar happening to anyone else? You could tell them the bit about the debit card - maybe there is a way to find out if it is stolen or not.
Beyond that, I really don't know what to tell you. Mom is an adult. I'm assuming she is a mentally competent adult, so you can't have her committed or anthing like that. Does she live alone? This is far out there, but is there a possibility you could get to her computer and put a filter of some sort on that would block him ? I don't know if that's possible or feasible.
Good luck.
Talk to your roommate!
If he's a friend, surely you can talk to him!
1. He may want you to leave.
a. Too chicken to tell you.
b. BF took it upon himself.
2. He may NOT want you to leave.
a. BF assumed.
b. BF took it upon himself.
3. BF may be jealous, and wants you gone without your roommate knowing about it.
In any case, the only way you'll know is to talk to him.
Let us know how it goes.
talk about failing
My stepdaughter attends school in Baldwin County, Alabama. She has failed all of her classes with a D or F for the past 4 years (with the exception of PE or chorus). Due to her age, it does not matter what she makes now, she is socially promoted to the next grade. (She is now 17 years old.) She will be placed in the 11th grade next year and only has a total of 5 credits to her name. There is no possible way she will graduate.
Her mother and stepfather do not try to help her, nor does the school other than to keep her medicated for ADD (which she now uses to help her lose weight). The school system just recommends summer school (which is only 2 weeks..go figure!) We have tried to obtain custody but the court felt she would do better to stay where she was ...that a move would just cause more problems ..trying to adjust to a new school, etc. I have offered to homeschool...but that was a no go. Now we are trying to convince her to get her GED and attempt a vocational course so that she may get a job that pays a little more than minimum wage. Unfortunately, she is no dummy. She knows as long as she remains in school, she does not have to work. She also knows that if she fails, no problem...she will be promoted to the next grade anyway. This is a true example of NO CHILD LEFT BEHIND don't you think?!!
Talk to your pediatrician, I am sure they can help you - sm
if not their lactation nurse should be able to. Either that or tell your son that the well has run dry and no more milk (get medication if you have to to stop lactating). He will drink out of a cup if he gets thirsty enough, if not after a trip to the ER for a saline IV might just change his mind. Good luck.
I recently had a talk with my ex
I am the grandma, but I'm raising my granddaughter. Both parents have supervised visitation, but don't visit. My ex-husband, my GD's only grandfather, comes to get her every couple of months for a visit either alone with her or with his family. When this happens, she gets loaded down with presents. Even though there are other children in the family (although she is the youngest), none of the others are not treated equally. They all feel "so bad" for what has happened to my GD (granted it HAS been bad), but a special extended family dinner, huge bag of toys and candies for Valentine's Day was just too much for me. I asked him to please consider and talk to his family about these excesses. I reminded him that if he/they continued to treat her as "damaged," she will consider herself as being "damaged" and will always have a victim attitude and have the expectation that she should be treated differently. Once he thought about it from point of view, he understood better and things have cooled down. They still visit, but the gifts are fewer and not as over-the-top as before.
I think the same thing happens to children of divorces. The noncustodial family tries to over compensate for not being there as much as the custodial parent. I don't think your daughter needs to speak to the new "wife", but should try to have a reasonable and nonthreatening talk with her ex about always trying to think what is best for the child...not the adults. Every time I need to make a decision, I always ask myself "is this in her best interest." I've had to make some hard decisions, and this philosophy has made everything easier. Good luck.
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