Sweetie, you are not the kind of woman I am talking
Posted By: kitkat on 2007-11-30
In Reply to: Not nice, Kit because - nana
about. You I have respect for. It's the little girls who can't/won't do it that I have a problem with. Believe me, I am no slave to my DH, he provides a very comfortable life for me, but I am not spoiled. I can make my own way in the world. To those that brag about being spoiled and pampered, why the heck are you working then? I have always found that the ones who brag about what they have, have to let everyone know etc, tell the tallest tales.
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Mine will just kind of keep walking as I am talking (sm)
he will just walk out of the room as if he expects me to get up and follow him and keep talking if I expect him to hear me. He is "in charge" of many projects in his profession. He has a lot of people who work under him and brings the same attitude home. I hate it too. Many times I have said to him, "Look, I don't work for you, buddy, I'm your wife." But he continues to do it. We get in big arguments about it. As far as the sex issue between you two - you don't go into great detail but I would say you are going to have to really have a major conversation about that and tell him that you no longer like playing that role. It sounds like he just expects to rule over you both in bed and out of bed. You are going to have to change all that - but let me tell you it is going to be a big transitioning process! I am still not content with my life as it is, but I have made a lot of headway. But when I decided to stop being a doormat, I offended my inlaws as well as my husband. When people get really used to someone being very submissive then as soon as you start to assert yourself, they are taken aback. They become offended and feel like they have to fight for their dominant role again. This is disgusting but it's almost like a pack of dogs fighting for who is going to be the Alpha. I have to constantly remind my husband that no one has to be the "boss" and that we are not each other's competition. I am still stuck to a degree though, and like you, I think it all stemmed from letting it start out this way. I think talking to your minister is a good first step, but you, yourself are going to have to be more assertive and what you did - turning around like that - was a great first step. Yes, it made him angry. And there will probably be a lot more arguments on the way. The other lady who posted about how great her marriage is blah, blah, she just likes to brag about her situation all the time. I am happy for her, but her life is not like ours is right now. She has no idea what we are talking about. We all know there are good men out there and if we had one, we would gladly be constantly affectionate and have sex with him all the time - we all want that. So I just want to say one big "good for you" to her and hope she reads this. One day when she's in a nursing home maybe I'll have a great second husband and I'll e-mail her about all the great sex I'm having.
I do not know what kind of monitored places you are talking aboutr or where you are
this is not mine. We are not told what color to use for garbage cans, we put out whatever Christmas decorations we want so that is not the kind of place where I live, maybe different in your state. Our entire state is in a drought now but we are not allowed, not just the neighborhood, but the entire COUNTY does not allow outside burning and if you don’t understand outside burning?? cannot help you there. I love my place, my neighbors seem to love, have not heard the first 1 saying they hate. I guess your state and town different, though. I have posted this before- we can barbecue- we cannot set bonfires like the neighbor had going next door with flames leaping into the woods adjoining our homes, unattended, fire danger to my house, his and others around here and besides, against the COUNTY laws. I am the happiest with the place I now live than have ever been in my life. Quiet, calm, peace of mind.
Im not talking about a check. Im talking about a positive administration working FOR Americans and
Not receiving a check each month to help us out is not what got us in this mess...
What's the difference between talking on cell and talking to person sitting across from you?
You should be ignoring people at other tables and MYOB.
I don't know, this post down below has me thinking. What are your thoughts, woman to woman. sm
If your spouse came to you and said he was having an affair, would you be more upset if it was with a male or female? For me, definitely a female! If it were male then I would think that it had absolutely nothing to do with me and everything to do with him. I would be devastated if he were with another woman. Another poster below said she would be more upset if he were found with a male. What about you?
Hey sweetie!! That would be me and...sm
I am SO happy you posted your experience with Fermodyl, just like you said you would!!! WAY_2_GO!!! Happy it's working for you. I never lie, anyway. *ROFL*
Keep in touch!!! *hug*
Signed: *el*
And you think by asking, sweetie-pie
would you please not do this or that it would stop and just to think this person even got a phone call from the other parents. If I had a husband like that, I probably would appreciate others staying away rather than have to make excuses for his bad behavior.
Sweetie....
If you don't want a relationship with her don't string her along, tell her to leave you alone instead of saying she is STALKING you with a COUPLE of emails a year... she will probably be better off not meeting you seeing how you already have so much animosity towards her.
As far as me telling you to stop being hateful that was not towards "SOMEONE ELSE'S DAUGHTER" it was towards the other people posting their experiences here just like you!!!
She wasn't talking to you, BTW. She was talking about the 2 posters below! nm
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Laptop for my sweetie
My hubby is very hard to buy for, no clothing, no this and no that, likes to get it himself but I do have an idea what he would love and that is a laptop. I want to maybe get him one for Christmas. I just introduced him to the internet since our marriage in 2000 and he lovesssss it. He has so much downtime with his present job (long distance truck driver) and spents time just waiting to be called back to return home that I know he would enjoy. Never had 1 personally so anyone there that can tell me any items I need to check for, how do you connect if no internet service in your hotel room, etc. Thanks so much and I am sure he would thank you too.
Sweetie, I am depressed because of the
state of the world, and I guess maybe I was supposed to post for you. I wish I could help you, bring you a smile. Your poor children. What a sad world this is with people hurting as you are hurting. That is what is depressing me. I guess I did expect maybe a smile from these people in real life. That's all I tried to say. I am depressed over what kind of world this is, where neighbors can't say hello and smile, where even church members just are members on paper only on a mailing list, but can't sit and smile, especially during the Holidays. I am so sorry for all the hurt you have been thru, and, yes, I have been seriously hurt as well. I have moved on, though, and will never ever lose my joy. Thank you sincerely for helping me see this. 
Well thanks for joining us sweetie! nm
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We get it deeni sweetie, you
are the noncircumcision queen! I bow to you. Bring your cause to Washington, march to the Capitol building and stop the so-called atrocity! Please become an expert on something else.
Ah sweetie, there is nothing "wrong" with you and if you...sm
Love this guy and he Loves you, that is most important. As post below suggested, you may just have a low sex drive or possibly hormones. A good check up by your doctor may hold that answer if you want to seek help. If you haven't tried it, maybe the products that are available at Walmart, the his and hers? Or even, don't worry about it, and know that you are loved and he is loved, and the sex will just work however it does, like you said, it is what it is. Try not to worry too much about it, that may only make it worse.
BTW, some women, just like men, lie about their sexual experiences with their partners. Maybe lie is too strong a word, maybe enhance is a better word. I am not saying all do. I know this from personal experience. I had a girlfriend who swore to another girlfriend that her and her husband were just like young lovers, carrying on several times a week. However, she told me they hardly ever had sex, maybe once a month or even every couple of months. So all this GREAT sex talk you hear about may just be just that, talk.
My husband and I were together for 20 years before he passed away, and we had hot and cold spells. Sometimes it was really great, sometimes it was just downright pitiful. Through it all though, whether we went to sleep frustrated or very satisfied, we never forgot we love each other. I say love because to this day I am still very much in love with him. Even though his physical body is not here, his spirit and love are still very much a part of me, and I would not trade that for all the "great sex" in the world.
Yeah, Shep's a sweetie
Real sweetie, thx for sharing with us! nm
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Oh sweetie, I just have tears in my eyes for you - sm
What a horrible man and I can so relate to not wanting him to touch you.
BE SAFE. My biggest worry would be the guns and that's why I suggested you leave; I know it is important to try to keep your kids stable in school, but nutty control freaks do horrible, horrible things when they feel their power taken away.
Please keep us updated.
Oh sweetie, you just wouldn't understand!
Again, Merry Christmas to you all, hope you all get what you deserve and may you all prosper in the New Year!
sweetie, you are still DENSE...you obviously can't read...
by the email that you personally sent me. Take from me honey, you do yourself no good by trying to switch the minds of others. Now sweetie, get off the computer and clean the house or something!
aww, sweetie, don't get your big panties in a wad..sounds like jealousy to me!
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The drinkin kind or the rubbin kind?? sm
So....is that for me to drink so I don't notice or care that my hands are all splotchy black or to get the ink off?  Seriously though, do I use the rubbing alcohol - or like Jack Daniels?? and do I soak in it or what? I never heard of using alcohol but I'll try anything.
No, but I did call them "Hun, Sweetie, dahling suga pie"
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I LOVE your costume, sweetie! As far as hating Pittbulls it would
never, ever enter my mind. It is up to the breeders in the first place to breed aggression out of this breed. So many are bred for fighting and bred to look mean and threatening at the owner's side. If more responsible breeders and owners did their part, this is actually a wonderful breed. HAPPY HALLOWEEN!
woman to woman talk sm
This has nothing to do with being a christian, it has more to do with group dynamics. I have to deal with it all the time with 6 women in an in-law situation. They are narrow-minded Bible-thumping bigots.I happen to be of another "denomination" and I do attend every function of theirs, weddings, funerals, all of it, receive their communion. I have had my parents die, lost my younger sister and many things happen where they could have reciprocated, yet they will not "step foot" in my church. So where is all their faith, they certainly are not practicing the do unto others. I can relate, it is a horrible way to live. Thank God, I had psychology courses and know about group dynamics, I am in the middle of a herd mentality. I could go on forever, they even have "interventions" when someone in their family wants to marry or date someone not from their denomination. They are awful. I know your pain! It's not your imagination, they hide behind their cohesive "numbers game," one speaks and all the others agree in unison. No one has a chance against this mob. It's tough to be your own person, lots of tears. And guys think it's all in our heads - NOT! Hang in, perhaps you'll have a Divine Intervention somehow.
Kangaroo. cat woman or wonder woman?
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Am not talking politics here at all, talking
about how she views the southern culture which apparently she knows very little. I do not care about her politics- what I care about is by making a statement like that only shows a persons ignorance. My maid is working today, has lived in the gettos all her life in a big city and when I asked her about it she said something she has not seen in maybe 30 years. In her neighborhood there is all sort of crime that goes on (well, that is about everywhere) but if anyone would see it she would be 1. Like I say, could care less about Whoopie's political views other than the fact she got that wrong. Neil Boortz also was saying the same,;he said she was probably still holding the south in such a light because of her inability to go into a upper class restaurant here in town dressing in blue jeans. Being as she was born in NYC, we southerns still say da.n yankees! So true here.
3-yo black lab/grt dane mix named Walter. Yes he is very tall!Short fur,spotted tongue,huge sweetie!
I feel that is best too. I have been kind, very kind, to this ...sm
child since he moved here in March. I also am not one of those parent's that thinks my children are perfect. You never know what they might do out of your presence. I do know how I have raised them though and I am all for getting them all together when there is a problem and getting to the bottom of it but anymore that doesn't seem to work. The parents automatically get defensive and start making excuses, etc. I'm going to look for somewhere else to move. I've lived here for 2-1/2 years and we never had a problem until this boy moved in. His mother is a piece of work.
No, definitely not -- if this had been a woman - sm
asking you the same question would you have thought twice about it? He was a rep of the store asking if you found what you were looking for, since it happened to be a bra, I think he phrased it correctly, but then again he did not take into account a person who would take a question the wrong way. He has learned the hard way never to question a lady about her underwear that is for sure. You need to learn to let things roll off your back. If he had leered at you and said, hey lady you find a bra for those nice **** of yours, then yeah, that would be harrassment and not good customer service. Learn to chill some and not worry so much.
I know of a woman who actually did this
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what do you get for the woman who has everything?...sm
Spend some time together.
Give each little young lady a handmade card/voucher that she can cash in to spend time with you one-on-one, whether it be at the hair salon, lunch, walking in the park, just doing regular shopping stuff, going to a play or just sitting, talking, having a cup of tea and looking through family albums....It's the special time that'll be cherished.
Oh, and 50-ish is not old.....I know 70 to 85-yo young ladies who can run circles around me with their enthusiasm, drive, ambition and joy for life.  Cat
did you NOT see that 95 y/o woman who
graduated college last year? She was all over the news, GOD BLESS HER!! Had all her wits about her......just old looking is all....
Education doesn't stop until we die - so by all means 40+ is still young in that many change career directions many times in ones' life...
another woman
Does his name rhyme with Boo by any chance? This brought back memories from 16 years ago. Same situation. I found out I was not the only one and that he had been seeing someone else for years and when she and I "met", she told me he owed everybody money. I did get mine back by personal check in a very nice (what a joke) card, wishing me well. I loved him - couldn't deal with the other woman thing, so let her have him. Glad I did - I would have been miserable with him. Good Luck - watch your purse!!
wonder woman
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then you should definitely let the PTA woman have him
and after he's with her instead of you, make sure to send a thank you card
Do you believe what this woman says?
That an employee told her to use the MRI machine at the zoo?
When a 5-foot, 275-pound woman found out she had a tumor on her spine, she was told by her local hospital to go the zoo to have a MRI because a regular MRI machine could not hold her weight, myfoxkc.com reported.
Carolyn Ragan told the television station she discovered the tumor two years ago and, after the hospital told her she could not use their MRI machine, a medical assistant said he would help her find a solution.
“So he suggested the Kansas City Zoo,” Ragan said. “I thought, I know I’m big, but I’m not as big as an elephant. And my husband got mad.”
The University of Kansas Hospital would not comment on Ragan’s claim, but said its MRI department does not know of any animal MRI in the Kansas City area that would scan a human.
Ragan’s problem was two-fold: She was too heavy for the table and too wide to slide through the opening.
Medical Imaging in Kansas City North, which has both closed and open MRI machines can typically hold up to 440 pounds, but sometimes a person who weighs less can still be out of luck, according to an MRI technician.
“It depends on how they are built a lot of times and what part of their body we’re scanning,” said technician Sarah Abbott of Medical Imaging. “(The machine) can only be so open before the magnetic field dissipates into the room.”
Ragan, who ended up having two surgeries and some paralysis, said she finally found an open MRI machine that held her weight, but it was embarrassing and frustrating.
“They should have machines that fit most everybody,” she said.
A Woman Should Have... sm
BEST POEM EVER
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A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ....
by Maya Angelou
enough money within her control to move out
and rent a place of her own,
even if she never wants to or needs to...
something perfect to wear if the employer,
or date of her dreams wants to see her in an hour...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ..
a youth she's content to leave behind....
a past juicy enough that she's looking forward to
retelling it in her old age....
a set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra...
one friend who always makes her laugh... and one who lets her cry...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE .......
a good piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in her family...
eight matching plates, wine glasses with stems,
and a recipe for a meal,
that will make her guests feel honored...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ..
a feeling of control over her destiny...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
how to fall in love without losing herself...
how to quit a job,
break up with a lover,
and confront a friend without
ruining the friendship....
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW....
when to try harder... and WHEN TO WALK AWAY...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
that she can't change the length of her calves,
the width of her hips, or the nature of her parents..
that her childhood may not have been perfect...but it's over...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
what she would and wouldn't do for love or more...
how to live alone... even if she doesn't like it...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW.. .
whom she can trust,
whom she can't,
and why she shouldn't take it personally....
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
where to go...
be it to her best friend's kitchen table..
or a charming Inn in the woods...
when her soul needs soothing...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
What she can and can't accomplish in a day...
a month...and a year...
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YOU DON'T ALWAYS SEE THEM,
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A single woman
What you're feeling is perfectly normal. Please do not rush into a relationship with any man at this point. Enjoy this time and spend it getting to know your children better and just spending time with them. Also get to know yourself and feel comfortable with who you are - develop some hobbies and interests. If you've spent the last 2 decades in this kind of relationship, you haven't had much time to spend on yourself. Soak in a hot tub every night if you want to.
In a sense, you've just cut a huge wart off your foot and of course it's going to feel strange and unfamiliar. It was the wart that was strange, now things are normal. It just feels strange because you aren't used to it.
Hope some of this makes sense. If you think about it, I bet you are actually less lonely now than when he was there. Some of the loneliest people I know are in marriages and relationships. Some of the happiest and most joy-filled people I know are on their own.
I should have been a repair woman.
My kids were out of clothes. Yes, I'm behind on laundry. So I wash some stuff, toss it in the dryer and I hear something going "ping" and it won't turn on. I just pulled it completely apart, put it back together and it's working. Yeah me! A screw had come out and fallen down inside of it. I can't believe how full of lint the inside was too. I do, however, have 6 extra screws that should be in there somewhere lol.
Yes, a woman can pass it to a man, it is just like any other STD.
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see. not every woman is out to steal your man--sm
it sounds like she is trying hard to make a life for herself and her kids. I don't think she is interested in your husband romantically at all. It is so hard for some people to trust any more, and that includes me, as I have had *friends* go after my man too, but I just did not get that impression from this person. Until someone proves otherwise, one should give them the benefit of the doubt before jumping to conclusions. So far, she has not done anything untoward. at least that is my impression.
Pretty Woman nm
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This woman owes no one anything regarding the name
I went to my brother's child funeral (my niece) the other day. Brother killed in an accident when this child was 6, she died at 39, raised by stepfather for most of those 30+ years. My maternal aunt and I at funeral and yet the stepfather got up and referred to the deceased as his daughter- my aunt did not like that as basically erased her father from her life but things like this happen- this person can and should name her child whatever she wants. If the relationship is that tedious with only a name, then she does not need those kind of people in her life. Simple.
you need to take responsibility for getting this woman
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Was watching until they put through this man/woman.. sm
who was supposed to be bellydancing. He/she was terrible and they put him through and got rid of some really good people. My daughters have taken dance over the last 10 years and I can honestly say that many 8-9 year olds can bellydance way better than that. They sent home tons of talent and put through some really untalented people. Also, why is it called America Has Talent and two of the judges are not American??
If you were going to nominate a woman for
who would it be?
Why does this woman offend you so?
What did she do to you? I understand that you obviously do not agree with her getting involved in her own daughter's life but it is her daughter - not yours. I think you are taking her situation way too personally for whatever reason.
The fact is, it is her daughter and she SHOULD protect her and do everything within her means to do so. She never said she was going to break the law. I see nothing wrong with her asking this dude to get tested - if anything, it will get him away from her daughter!!!
Oh honey, I am a woman...
just can do things on my own...have a large home too and still manage to have lots of time, a clean house and work 10 hour days. I can easily afford a housekeeper too but why when I am perfectly capable myself. DH gets to come home to a home cooked meal every night, a very clean home and a happy wife who does not complain! Not all men want simpering, helpless women.
A woman on a mission I am...
Ok, so when we were kids, my brothers would go to the barber. They get their hair cut and he put this stuff on their hair that smelled so good. Like a finishing cream or something. I am trying to find some of this for my hubby and son for after their hair cuts (I am the barber of the family). Does anyone have any idea what this could be? I don't even know what to search for. It wasn't gel, hairspray, or anything like that. It wasn't stiff. Just smelled really good. Would be wonderful if you could help me find it or give me suggestions of what it could have been.
Thanks!
You sound like a man. I would think a woman would
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A woman just hit me in a store!
I was at the cash register paying for my things, and the lady behind me dropped a piece of paper. I picked it up and gave it to her. She said thanks, and I turned back to the cashier. A few seconds later, SLAM! she had hit me really hard in my shoulder! She obviously wasn't mentally "with it". Something is wrong, but she shouted, "I know you. Hi!" I said firmly, "You do not know me. Please do not hit me!" I didn't make a big deal out of it, because she obviously had something wrong with her. I thought she looked a little like she had Down Syndrome, with very widely spaced eyes and the typical look. But she did hit me hard and left a bruise. And I'm 200 pounds. When she hit me, she had enough power to push me a couple of steps away. I have to say, I was a little scared. She seemed to be alone. The manager came over to talk to her, and I just said that I was okay and left, so I don't know what happened after that.
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