Sweetie, I am depressed because of the
Posted By: SoBlue on 2006-12-27
In Reply to: Obviously you have never been violated as I was. - DG
state of the world, and I guess maybe I was supposed to post for you. I wish I could help you, bring you a smile. Your poor children. What a sad world this is with people hurting as you are hurting. That is what is depressing me. I guess I did expect maybe a smile from these people in real life. That's all I tried to say. I am depressed over what kind of world this is, where neighbors can't say hello and smile, where even church members just are members on paper only on a mailing list, but can't sit and smile, especially during the Holidays. I am so sorry for all the hurt you have been thru, and, yes, I have been seriously hurt as well. I have moved on, though, and will never ever lose my joy. Thank you sincerely for helping me see this. 
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You seem to be depressed. You should be SM
getting some joy from life, your work, your family, your friends. Those are the most important things.
Is there any way you can see a therapist? I would talk to your family physician about antidepressants or see who he/she can recommend you see.
I know he is depressed...but
he refuses to ask a doctor about it and get medication. I have tried multiple times to get him to. I have to take antidepressants myself. If I don't I don't want to do anything. I have told him this, but he won't listen. So I can't force him. I let him eat when he comes over and all. But what I am concerned about is when he is evicted he can't live here and how do I tell him that? My husband says absolutely not because he sold a mobile home he had a few months back that was paid for and blew the money. He said he shouldn't have sold it and he would have a place to live. He said he cannot live here. I have to tell him if he asks no. And he does hint about it. My husband is a truckdriver and I know when he is gone dad is gonna say well can I just sleep here while he is gone. My husband says no he is not. He said he has to learn to stand on his own two feet. How do I tell him? How would you go about it? I thought I would just say you have to talk to Steven (my husband). Of course he isn't gonna ask my husband.
What to do, What to do?
No way! He may be depressed,
but he created this huge mess of his life. It is not his daughter's responsibility to pick up the pieces for him. (Just to fill in the back story, dad blew all his money on a mistress. Mom didn't just throw him out.)
I think the OP should have her husband tell her dad in no uncertain terms that he WILL NOT be staying with them when he loses his apartment. Since the OP understandably has a weak spot for her dad, her hubby should step in BEFORE he is out on the street, look ole' dad in the eye and tell him it's time to be a man and stop the whining.
Just wondering, OP, has your dad ever asked you or your mother to forgive him for all the pain he caused?
I'm officially depressed
If I made $80,000/year , I would think I was rich. . I am single but only make about 19,000 per year - thank God my child is out on her own.
I feel exactly the same. I am very depressed and
anxious now about everything and don't have the money for it this year. I have to find a way to tell my nieces, etc. that I am not buying gifts this year, but it is hard. My mom is elderly and ill and things are not right for it this year. Good luck to you.
She sounds depressed. Sorry if that offends
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Just venting somewhat about depressed parents sm
I feel the need to vent a little about my parents. I talk sometimes with my hubby but he doesn't give much input. I'm close with my parents (I'm 36 they are in their mid 50s). My dad has always been controlling and negative (causing stress on our family). I'm an only child. I'm not going to go into deep details about stuff. My parents are not financially stable. My mom is a hard worker, always has been. My dad hasn't worked for almost 9 years. He rehabs houses when he has one to rehab. They are down in the dumps I think because of money. My mom gets stressed out with her job and then not having financial help from my dad, that stresses her. My dad is a negative person. He lost his mom when he was in his 20s and I'm not sure if he believes in God. He doesn't have faith at all. He gets jealous when my kids stay the night with my in-laws (my parents like my in-laws). There's no talking with my dad. The one time I tried to talk to him about something he said to me that hurt my feelings (I was 30), he didn't talk to me for a whole week. Sometimes I feel guilty for being happy. My hubby and I are fine financially, with our faith. I wish I could sit them down and talk with them, but there would be nothing but negative talk coming from them. I know that really you can't help someone unless they are ready to help themselves. It's really hard to say exactly what I feel. I love my parents, I want them to be happy, but then I feel like YOU are the only one who can change your life, or what makes you happy. I don't want disconnect from my parents (they live a mile from us). If my dad would just go get a job, I believe he'd feel so much better about himself. Anyway, I'm really sorry for rambling on like this. I just don't have anyone to talk to. I sometimes feel responsible for my parent's happiness/unhappiness. But growing up, I could never do anything right to please my dad, so I guess that's why I feel that way. There's so much I could type about, but not going to. There have been numerous times I thought to myself that I wish my mom would've never married my dad. Anyway, thanks for listening.
Actually, he sounds clinically depressed - sm
I would call the local "crisis response team" and say you think he is a danger to himself, to get him in for a 72-hour evaluation. Sounds to me like he needs to be on some meds, get some counseling, and - if he is faking - see that his threats have consequences. If he isn't faking, you'll have helped him get professional care. Good luck.
I am so depressed about them finding James Kim dead. I am having a really sm
hard time grasping this that I can't imagine what his poor wife and family must be going through. I can't even move and want to read everything about them finding him, etc. if he only stayed in the car with them - He left Saturday morning to look for help and the found his wife and girls on Monday. And he was found dead today miles from where the car was found.
I guess I could thank God that his wife and 2 children are still alive. I am happy they are alive, but it just makes me unbelievably sad what he must have gone through. He had such a great will to live and yet he died out there.
I don't know if anyone out there reading this who lives in Oregon, but I certainly have zero desire to EVER venture out into the Oregon wilderness, now more so than ever. I've heard horror stories about one-lane, winding, extremely hazardous roads and I don't understand why the state won't fix that? This isn't the first family to go through something like this because a lot of maps are contradicting.
This should serve as a warning to anyone who wants to travel the Oregon mountains, especially in the wintertime - DON'T DO IT.
How tragic and sad. 
Why would it offend me? And suggesting someone is depressed isn't a putdown anyhow. NM
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Hey sweetie!! That would be me and...sm
I am SO happy you posted your experience with Fermodyl, just like you said you would!!! WAY_2_GO!!! Happy it's working for you. I never lie, anyway. *ROFL*
Keep in touch!!! *hug*
Signed: *el*
And you think by asking, sweetie-pie
would you please not do this or that it would stop and just to think this person even got a phone call from the other parents. If I had a husband like that, I probably would appreciate others staying away rather than have to make excuses for his bad behavior.
Sweetie....
If you don't want a relationship with her don't string her along, tell her to leave you alone instead of saying she is STALKING you with a COUPLE of emails a year... she will probably be better off not meeting you seeing how you already have so much animosity towards her.
As far as me telling you to stop being hateful that was not towards "SOMEONE ELSE'S DAUGHTER" it was towards the other people posting their experiences here just like you!!!
Laptop for my sweetie
My hubby is very hard to buy for, no clothing, no this and no that, likes to get it himself but I do have an idea what he would love and that is a laptop. I want to maybe get him one for Christmas. I just introduced him to the internet since our marriage in 2000 and he lovesssss it. He has so much downtime with his present job (long distance truck driver) and spents time just waiting to be called back to return home that I know he would enjoy. Never had 1 personally so anyone there that can tell me any items I need to check for, how do you connect if no internet service in your hotel room, etc. Thanks so much and I am sure he would thank you too.
Well thanks for joining us sweetie! nm
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We get it deeni sweetie, you
are the noncircumcision queen! I bow to you. Bring your cause to Washington, march to the Capitol building and stop the so-called atrocity! Please become an expert on something else.
Ah sweetie, there is nothing "wrong" with you and if you...sm
Love this guy and he Loves you, that is most important. As post below suggested, you may just have a low sex drive or possibly hormones. A good check up by your doctor may hold that answer if you want to seek help. If you haven't tried it, maybe the products that are available at Walmart, the his and hers? Or even, don't worry about it, and know that you are loved and he is loved, and the sex will just work however it does, like you said, it is what it is. Try not to worry too much about it, that may only make it worse.
BTW, some women, just like men, lie about their sexual experiences with their partners. Maybe lie is too strong a word, maybe enhance is a better word. I am not saying all do. I know this from personal experience. I had a girlfriend who swore to another girlfriend that her and her husband were just like young lovers, carrying on several times a week. However, she told me they hardly ever had sex, maybe once a month or even every couple of months. So all this GREAT sex talk you hear about may just be just that, talk.
My husband and I were together for 20 years before he passed away, and we had hot and cold spells. Sometimes it was really great, sometimes it was just downright pitiful. Through it all though, whether we went to sleep frustrated or very satisfied, we never forgot we love each other. I say love because to this day I am still very much in love with him. Even though his physical body is not here, his spirit and love are still very much a part of me, and I would not trade that for all the "great sex" in the world.
I am feeling very depressed this Christmas season. I feel guilty because I
would rather it would be over. I have no money to shop, and things in general are bad in my life. I am trying very hard to focus on what matters this time of year and what it is about. Anyone else having difficulty now?
Yeah, Shep's a sweetie
Real sweetie, thx for sharing with us! nm
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Oh sweetie, I just have tears in my eyes for you - sm
What a horrible man and I can so relate to not wanting him to touch you.
BE SAFE. My biggest worry would be the guns and that's why I suggested you leave; I know it is important to try to keep your kids stable in school, but nutty control freaks do horrible, horrible things when they feel their power taken away.
Please keep us updated.
Oh sweetie, you just wouldn't understand!
Again, Merry Christmas to you all, hope you all get what you deserve and may you all prosper in the New Year!
sweetie, you are still DENSE...you obviously can't read...
by the email that you personally sent me. Take from me honey, you do yourself no good by trying to switch the minds of others. Now sweetie, get off the computer and clean the house or something!
Hayseed..you crack me up.. I needed that. I was sitting here on the verge of tears..depressed..and
you made me laugh. Sadly, even her dad couldn't save her though. She lived with him but he was on the verge of a heart attack ( I feel his pain). He said he tried to avoid going home because he would get heart palpitations which I now recognize as anxiety that I also get around her. He just couldn't deal with it anymore. She drives everyone away and that hurts me too but yeah I keep thinking the only way I'll ever get away from her is enroll in a witness protection program..and of course, I feel guilty for wanting to get away from her.
Sweetie, you are not the kind of woman I am talking
about. You I have respect for. It's the little girls who can't/won't do it that I have a problem with. Believe me, I am no slave to my DH, he provides a very comfortable life for me, but I am not spoiled. I can make my own way in the world. To those that brag about being spoiled and pampered, why the heck are you working then? I have always found that the ones who brag about what they have, have to let everyone know etc, tell the tallest tales.
aww, sweetie, don't get your big panties in a wad..sounds like jealousy to me!
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No, but I did call them "Hun, Sweetie, dahling suga pie"
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I LOVE your costume, sweetie! As far as hating Pittbulls it would
never, ever enter my mind. It is up to the breeders in the first place to breed aggression out of this breed. So many are bred for fighting and bred to look mean and threatening at the owner's side. If more responsible breeders and owners did their part, this is actually a wonderful breed. HAPPY HALLOWEEN!
3-yo black lab/grt dane mix named Walter. Yes he is very tall!Short fur,spotted tongue,huge sweetie!
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