Speaking from the other side of the fence....

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  • Speaking from the other side of the fence.... - MT and worn out
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When I landed at our place in 2002, I quickly learned I HAD to put up a privacy fence for the safety of my animals as well as the safety of the little kids who visit their grandparents next door, because I found them once too often in the pasture trying to pet the animals, and a hoof to their forheads would have been a very bad thing.

I went to Home Depot and quickly got discouraged at not only the cost of doing it yourself, but the labor and tools required.  I live in New England and the ground is 90% ROCK...try digging a post hole through THAT and have fence posts spaced out appropriately...ain't gonna happen.

So, I called a fence place that was in the phone book.  They came over FOR FREE, measured out what I wanted, sat down with me and a book and showed me what was available, gave me costs, and said "call us when your're ready." 

You bet your bippie I went with the fencing company.  They had 274 feet of 6' cedar privacy fence completely installed in ONE DAY for under $4000 (back in 2003).  They had the guys, the knowhow, and the proper equipment.  I had to go with metal pipes instead of wood poles because our ground is so wet and rocky, and I thought it would be ugly, but it has worked out absolutely wonderfully.  I haven't painted or stained it either, just let it turn that pretty gray that cedar does.

You can see some pictures of it on my website here:
http://www.perin.org/images/specialnelliewinta.jpg 
http://www.perin.org/Webpics/slides/Frogs%20yum.html

Best investment ever...not only for the safety factor, but also for the privacy, as you can see from the photos, even though we have lots-o-land, the neighbors were just too darned close.  Grab your phone book, look up fence installation companies, and at least get those free estimates.    

He has been bullied before but he has gotten really good at standing up for himself.  I literally have given him comebacks that he can use if he is being verbally bullied, and have told him that while he is never allowed to start a fight he is always allowed to defend himself and even though he may get in trouble at school, he will not be in trouble at home.

One time last year (fifth grade) he was verbally bullying a boy in his class.  He said some pretty mean things.  I got the phone number to the boy's house through a mutual friend, called, and then too my son to the boy's house to apologize in person, in front of the boy's parents.  We talked for a long time beforehand about how the boy must feel to have to go to school and have someone say things like that to him, role-playing such as "how would you feel if that was you" sort of thing. He also lost computer priveleges for a week.  He has never bullied anyone else.

However, he did kick a boy in the shin earlier this year when the boy hit him and said he was going to beat him up.  My son is strong but doesn't like to fight.  I think all kids should be able defend themselves if needed though.

Can anyone please point me in the right direction as to how to go about installing a secondary fence/barrier in my yard, what material is best to use, etc.

 My husband and I are trying to avoid spending money we don't have on getting a privacy fence just because our neighbors are idiots and don't feel the need to adhere to the rule of not letting the dogs out at the same time.  We have been in our home for 3yrs now and our dogs have never gotten along. Granted they were here first (as my husband says), but I could care less because our dogs have just aabout that They are rather large dogs, we have two and they have three.  Trying to break the fighting up when it happens is fraught with failure because when they get going its like trying to stop a moving train!

Unfortunately, neither side has the time nor energy to re-train the dogs, so I figure a secondary fence is in order due to the fact that there is already an existing 6ft chain link fence up.  The fence does not belong to us and the neighbors have not taken the initiative to tweak the fence with slats, so it is now left up to us to figure out.  I read that a secondary fence to that portion of the yard is the cheapest, non-permanant thing we could do to solve this problem. 

One time about 5 years ago, I was driving on the interstate, my SO now DH riding with me.  Was just passing the rear of a trucker, cars behind me so there were witnesses to this and I couldn't just slam on my brakes, put on his signal and tried to pull out anyway.  Since I was already passing him, kept going, and he ran me off the road to the center.  Pulled back on and continued to pass him, had his window open and flipped me off.  I didn't see it because I was trying to control the car, but the funny part was my DH (SO) rolling down the window and hanging out giving him a double one back all the way until I got in front of the truck.  I said WHAT is going on!!  He told me the bas%$@d flipped you off.  Come on, they're high enough up to see there's a car right in front of them they want to pass.  I told SO I'm slowing down and get that guy's plate number so I can report him.  He slowed WAY down and stayed so far back that I finally gave up... Guess he wasn't in such a hurry after all.  We still laugh about my husband's ~chivalry~ that day, him hanging out there giving him the double what for!  Wish I had a pic of that for posterity

Not dissing truckers here, my own brother was one for quite a while and have had a couple who stopped to help me and went out of their way when I had a flat tire on the interstate one time in rush-hour traffic on Friday afternoon.  My brother said that was really nice of them because it's money out of their pocket, but he did always say to report truckers who are playing games because it's so dangerous.

DS (15 yrs old) came home from school yesterday and I asked him what was new. He said the usual - "Not much."

Then.... "Oh, yeah, we learned how to put on a condom in sex class."

I about fell over!!!! Apparently, the teacher had a ... uh... plastic "subject" and she asked for a volunteer to come up and apply the condom to the ... uh... model. And it's called "Health class," but he refers to it as "sex class."

Whatever happened to food fights in school????

No, seriously, I'm glad they learn this stuff. You know what they say, "The More You Know...!"

There are online websites documenting how many men versus women in each city of this country and the number of women today far outweigh the number of men......

jes sayin'............. 

One time quite awhile ago I was pushing my youngest through the mall in his stroller.  There were two boys goofing around in the middl of the mall with the parents right nearby.  I had to stop suddenly because one of the darlings wasn't watching where he was going and fell over the stroller.  I said, "Excuse me!" with just a bit of sarcasm and the father had the nerve to yell at ME because I was rude.  I then informed him that his kid was the rude one and kept walking.  That one still makes me shake my head.

what kind of lettuce/other green leafy stuff do you like when you order/make a salad?

A couple of times I've gone in restaurants and they have brought me a salad that looked like they went out back and pulled weeds. Now, I love veggies, but that's some scary stuff. I'm simple..I just want iceberg lettuce!...then I can add other goodies that I can identify.

I have only met one (1) pit bull in my life.  It was very pleasant, wanted to be petted, and never hostile.  What I did notice is how muscular it was and I remember thinking that I wouldn't want that dog to snap at me.  All dog breeds are capable of being aggressive (especially if there is a dominance issue), but some breeds are more muscular and less *intidimated* by humans than other breeds.   It seems to me (dog experts, please correct me) it would be easier to pull a Yorkie or a Cocker Spaniel off an attacked person than a pit bull.  I don't know how that applies to bigger breeds like labs or retrievers. 

However, my humble opinion does not make up for the fact that you could face the loss of a loved family pet.  I hope it works out for you.

Anyone remember how the old stores were when there were 'Main Streets'? Remember the wood floors and the merchandise in wooden bins on tables? Remember the cookies and candy they sold that was all encased in glass? No escalators, and only the best stores had elevators? Elevators with a man asking 'what floor'?, elevators that creaked and had criss cross bars across the front, instead of doors that closed? Evening in Paris perfume for our mom's at Christmas, Old Spice or hankies with his initial on them for dad? Remember when all you could use was cash? And of course, those wonderful lunch counters? I remember one of them sold sardine sandwiches! Anyone remember?

My son and his best friend, along with their dates went to a quite expensive restaurant before their senior prom in downtown Atlanta. Between the 2 boys, they probably had just enough for dinner, no dessert.

After their meal, the waiter brought out 2 big plates of dessert. Well, the boys kinda panicked...not knowing if the girls had ordered the desserts behind their backs or not, and knowing that they couldn't afford to pay for them.

Long story short, the waiter told the kids that someone in the restaurant had sent over the dessert and picked up their check! My son was so excited, he called me from the restaurant...thinking his dad and I had done this wonderfully generous act. It was tempting to take the credit, but we didn't.

They have no idea who it was but it made their night! I know, not related, but just a nice prom story!

My MIL is OBSESSED with whether or not we have any money and what we do with our money.  It IRRITATES me to no end!  I mean we HAVE our own money, we don't ask her for money, so get out of our bees wax!

She came to our house when I was re-decorating my bathroom.  I was doing it in roses and I was buying the stuff for it piece by piece and she was in the store with me looking at stuff and I showed her the garbage can I was going to get and it had roses and matched everything else, although I didn't get it that day.  SOOOO my MIL goes to the dollar store and buys me a plain white trash can and brings it over and tells me and my husband that she got that for a dollar and SAVED ME $19.00 for the 20 bucks that I was going to spend on a garbage can!!!!!  I told her I wanted the other one because it went with my theme and she told me that was ridiculous because this one serves the same purpose!  I was so mad, but trying to hold my tonge and then my husband told me he didn't want me getting the other one cause it may "hurt her feelings".  He said if i got the other one to just trade them out when she came over.  FURIOUS, FURIOUS, FURIOUS, that woman STAYS in our business, it's horrible!

does anyone dip their c. beans in baking chocolate for snacks?  I heard you can do this, but wondered if they are real hard, too strong or just plain tasty this way???

My father who is 68 years old and is getting married.  I'm not all fond of the woman he is marrying, but it's his life and I'm not a kid anymore, so whatever.  Thing is his woman is planning this obnoxiously big wedding complete with formal wedding gown and all -- 200+ guests with a fancy reception with dinner and dancing for everyone.  Then she wants a honeymoon to Paris which she is planning.  And I haven't even mentioned the engagement ring, let me just say $10,000!

So obviously I think this woman is over the top and a golddigger and a few other choice words I can't post on MTStars.  Don't you think an older couple each in their second marriage should have a smaller, family and close-friends only kind of a wedding?  Personally, I think if she wants such an extravagant honeymoon, she cut costs in the actually wedding and reception.

I've been holding my tongue, but I really want to say something to my dad.  Should I?  Ever since he starting dating this woman, I've been polite and friendly, kept my mouth shut.  Now that he has decided to marry her, I'm like WOA!  Am I just being territorial?