Spanking.

• What would you do? - at the end of my rope
  • military school? it worked for a guy i know. nm - MTMT38
  • Same situation - long message
    • Forgot to add... - sm
      • I guess he is being good now - anon
        • He is... - sm
      • Thank you -- it helps just knowing - at the end of my rope
        • can I share a situation with you I will never forget - mtmomof2
  • Nanny 911 would say he is angry about some injustice once - Yo
    • After 6 months of counseling, - at the end of my rope
  • Important - Tonya
    • The child psychologist didn't - at the end of my rope
      • there is a reason and why would you consider sending an 8-year-old to a home? - you need to counsel. no message
        • First off, I was very upset when I wrote - at the end of my rope
  • Make him repay every mean thing he does to his brother with 3 nice things sm - MeMT
    • Oh and DON'T back down. Make sure he follows through sm - MeMT
      • That's an interesting form of punishment - at the end of my rope
        • Why wait for dad? When you do that, you imply you are the weaker parent, for lack of - better term. Set boundaries and stick to them. sm
          • I know exactly what you mean - at the end of my rope
  • Tell 'em you're going to SELL them to the - highest bidder.
  • i know it is wearing on you but the recommend amount of timeout is 1 minute for each year of age. - that is all their little minds can handle or they
    • I know the timeout rules all too - at the end of my rope
  • You won't like my answer ... SM - Fire away, folks!
    • it will work at what cost? Your child learns to - associate love with hitting
    • I don't necessarily agree you should "wear them both out" SM - RockinMT
      • When I came out to the room they - at the end of my rope
        • Sounds like he got a LOT of attention - this afternoon. Maybe what he's looking for.
        • Proof positive that time-outs are nothing but - a WASTE of time. Give 'em a SWAT.
          • I thank you for your input, but I know - at the end of my rope
            • I can't say - spankedMT
          • Never have to spank mine and they listen very well nm - Disagree
    • What do you mean by "wear both - at the end of my rope
      • Spanking. - nm
        • That's what I thought you meant. - at the end of my rope
          • Haven't spanked hard enough. Believe me, I know. - Make it memorable and they'll quit.
            • believe it or not, some kids don't - at the end of my rope
              • temper, temper - truffle
                • Thank you -- my husband works - at the end of my rope
  • update - at the end of my rope
    • I think you found your own answer... - quote he pushes my buttons unquote -
      • I think you're right -- thanks n/m - at the end of my rope
  • temper - mom of boys
    • I agree - this sounds like our cousins son - kd

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Here is a quick question for all of you that think that the spanking from the school is okay and before any of you make any snap judgements, I was spanked as a child and when my children were smaller, they too were spanked(BY THEIR PARENTS)....Do you all realize that this school that uses these "swats" as punishment, would be on the phone immediately if they saw you or found out that you "swatted" that same child as punishment for deeds done wrong at home? Since nowadays they want to tell you what you can and cannot do as a parent to acutally parent your child( and then of course complain about said kids nowadays), that by alloing them to do something to your child that they would gladly report you for is quite ridiculous.

How long is this ISS.  For five tardies..it sure as heck shouldn't be a whole day or even a half day..it should be something realistic.  Yes, I do know what it is like to have to deal with school principals who are jerks, just remember that this is your child and not theirs and that it is your job to look out for them.

If you really feel that just to get this over with right now, you want to let them swat her, that is your choice but since she is so obviously not interested in ISS, I would definitely make sure that she and the school knows that this is a one time pass and yes, I too would either make her do some work around the house or take something away if only for the hassle.

Btw, five tardies in 4 or 5 months is really not that terrible IMO.  That is about one a month.  My goodness, we all assumed it was cause she talks anyone think that maybe the girl had to use the bathroom during her time of the month.  I would also find out when she was tardy and how tardy.  My son was given a tardy cause the bus was late getting him to school and I called and let them know that that is not acceptable in my book.  They had given several kids on his bus tardies and after several phone calls and a check with the bus company, the tardies were removed.  Yes, if my son had been chatting or something,  I would not have bothered to call, I would have just remind him that tardiness of his own making is not acceptable.

Best of luck. 

Teens this day and age have no fear, of anything, it seems. Back in my days of growing up, just the thought of my parents finding out I did something I wasn't suppose to, was enough for me to keep myself in line.

And NO, we were never beaten, but did get a few pats with the belt, which were far and few inbetween.

said it was okay to give 'em the belt.  That is abuse, plain and simple.  If you feel a need to spank your child, then do it with your own hand, not another object.  It's too easy to hit too hard with an object because you're not feeling the pain you're subjecting them to. 

As for the gov't interfering, they have to because there are too many wackos in this world that do beat their kids to a pulp.  If they all parented with a little more sense, like you obvioulsy do, then I would agree that the gov't shouldn't interefere, but unfortunately the wackos of this world don't care.

It sounds to me as if you're raising some wonderful children.  You've definitely offered up some very good advice.  I saw no where in your post where you said that you've used a belt, and I'm not saying that you did.  I'm simply referring to the OP that started this thread that beating with a belt is abuse.