Southerner too, and I have the exact opposite experience...
Posted By: MT1 on 2009-02-20
In Reply to: People, you just got to quit assuming! - Nan
I put peanuts in my coke sometimes when I was a kid (at that time coke came in a small glass bottle), but not something I did all the time. It was okay...probably wouldn't enjoy it now. My dad did hunt and we did eat squirrel, rabbit, duck, deer, dove, quail pn occasion. These were not like what was for "dinner" but used when they would have a crowd over who liked those type of dishes. Gumbo (my favorite) also could be made with shrimp, duck, squirrel, turkey whereas the quali and dove were used for stew-like dishes..and they were delicious. My mother made something called "Court bouillion" made with fish, like a red fish soup ...loved it, but do not know how to make it. My dad would have a fish fry every once in a while and have company over to enjoy it. For regular daily meals, we had the usual meats of beef, pork, chicken, etc. .For us, we had round steak and gravy often, of course, rice for the gravy. And also, our main meal was at "noon" whereas up north some have it at the meal we call "supper". Not to say that all southerners had their meal at "noon" . I also tire of the generalizations people make, but it's only human nature I guess. Also, in the south (Louisiana for me), we called "pop" a "cold drink" or "coke". Anyone want a "coke" or "cold drink"? Ok. What kind do YOU want, Dr. Pepper, RC, orange, etc. ? Funny, but that's the way it was. Anyone in the south remember Shipley donuts? Loved them! They literally melted in your mouth. Wonder if they are still in business. To me, they were a smidge better than Krispy Kreme, but very close. In the South, we called the coin-operated laundry a "washateria", up north it's the "Laundromat". Fun reminiscing.
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I have the exact opposite of anorexic
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Actually I have the opposite experience. Everyone
I know seems to think I am a doctor and can answer all their questions concerning their medical symptoms and those of their family. I have had people call me asking me about meds and what I think they should do.
No experience with the program but definitely experience with the symptoms! nm
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Not sure of exact recipe, but here: (sm)
Scoop out seeds & gunk of a pie pumpkin, keeping lid to use later. Use apple slices, raisins /cranberries/other dried fruit, walnuts (or other nuts of your choice) to fill pumpkin along with brown sugar, butter, and a little cinnamon. Bake at 450 degrees until you can easily poke through the pumpkin flesh inside. You may want to wait and put the lid in partway through baking, so it doesn't dry out and shrink. Serve in the pumpkin, and as people spoon out a little of the filling they can scrape the inside of the pumpkin to get some of the flesh.
My grandma made this, and she never writes down her recipes. So when I asked her, she said to experiment with whatever, so the above is really only a loose guideline.
Same exact feeling here.
The extreme Christians also changed my feelings a long time ago. I then started researching the facts and theories, scientific versus religion. And did you know that many people with above-average intelligence are not religious based on this knowledge? Interesting stuff. :)
I am having the exact same problem!
I've battled depression and anxiety my whole life. My psychiatrist seems to think it is anxiety as well, but I know what my anxiety is like and this is different. My PCP thinks I might have ADD, but my psychiatrist said it would not all of the sudden appear. My anxiety medicine seems to help some, but then I feel out of it. I cannot work like that either!
Let me know what your doc says. Good luck! :)
Wow! exact same situation! (sm)
Same here. Exactly the same.
I have those exact same dreams...
I was once told that the teeth falling out had something to do with money, don't know exactly what but I certainly have not had a windfall.
Have you said those exact words
to him, asked him outright what is the problem and how you can BOTH enjoy it? Or..guide his hands and/or touch him the way you want. Otherwise I'd say he doesn't care and maybe you should move on.
Wow - same exact situation
Don't tell me... has your husband been out of work too and laying around doing absolutely NOTHING to help out around the house?
My friend is doing the exact same thing!
She uses her age (38) a lot but if you use words like "uterine prolapse" and "fibroid tumors" they stop asking questions...LOL
I had a similar situation but not exact...sm
when we bought our house 2 years ago. I had to have my office sign something of that nature, but not saying I would still be working there after so much time like yours. I faxed the form letter to them and they faxed it back for my broker's records to give to underwriter. I also had to provide my 1099s from the previous 2 years. On the day of the closing, we had to sit there and wait for them to call my office one more time just to make sure I still worked there, which they didn't do with my husband. It seemed to be a pretty strict procedure but can understand why they would. We also refinanced about 8 months after moving to get a better rate, but didn't have any problems because we used the same broker. Good luck!
I was thinking the same exact thing.
The kid didn't have to go to school in Korea to have been taught those same beliefs. His parents could have had that same influence over him or perhaps his own interests in it.
Obviously a person who could do something like that is very disturbed and probably had a lot of issues at home, etcetera, but the other cannot be ruled out either as playing some small role.
No, she did not send me the exact thing,
did not know I would have to explain, she sends me rah-rah-rah all for the war type things which I delete. I choose to read other things instead of this.
My husband had the EXACT same thing (sm)
and yes, it was a fungal infection. I tried treating it with OTC cream but it just didn't work. Finally our NP gave us a prescription for cream called clotrimazole and betamethasone diproprionate 1%/0.05% (Lotrisone) and within 4-5 days it was completely cleared up. She did recommend Gold Bond as a preventative but he never used it. He's a diabetic to boot, so is always going to be prone to various skin issues I guess...bummer.
Awesome! I would have done the same exact thing!
Way to go! You did the right thing!
This house has no fence around it at all, to be exact. nm
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Exact thing happened to me .. sm
but it was not a family member, it was a coworker of my ex-husband's whose wife had just had a baby and they wanted clean carpets. He had borrowed the cleaner once previously, and all was fine, so I had no problems with letting him borrow it a second time. Well, the second time, he was really slow in returning it, but like you, I never said anything until I wanted to use it and asked for it back. Then all of a sudden, it was *broke*. He said he had broken the upright handle completely off. Well, I had paid over 300 dollars for that, so we asked him to at least pay for half of replacement. He did so, but HE wanted to choose what type of cleaner I got to replace it, which was a much cheaper model. I said no. Needless to say, we were no longer friends after that. In my opinion, you just can't let this go. Carpet shampooers are not cheap and if she broke it, she should pay for at least half of a replacement. Tell her that. She knows she is responsible for it, but she will probably become angry, so it is up to you how far you want to push it. Again, though, I do not loan out anything like that to anyone any more. If they need to clean their carpets, they can pay for a rental unit, just like I did prior to buying my own. No one takes care of your items better than you. Good luck to you.
I have a friend in this exact same situation with
her mother. There were 3 of them and they all took turns staying at her house for 2 nights at a time. That way she was happy and no one was doing all the work. They were also lucky in that one of the grandkids could stay during the day with her or, when they couldn't they have a caregiver p.r.n. The only other compromise would be to sit down and talk to his doctor and have him tell your dad that he is no longer able to live by himself and that he needs to be in one of your homes or in an ECF. Maybe coming from his doctor, it would be more effective.
OMG ~ I've been saying those exact words! sm
Not the OP but thank you so much for asking this question. I was wondering the same thing. But this poster hit it on the nail for me. I also have lost all care when it comes to holidays, gifts, b-days, etc. I get him nodda as I get in return. Don't even care if he goes to any activities with me or not. Better off not having him there. Guess it is time for me to MOVE ON......
Now my question is how do you survive without a companion? I have always felt like I had to have somebody no matter how they treated me. I envy those single people who stay single.
My cockatiel does the exact same thing but
you can definitely tell she is mine cause she also loves to go for my diamond earrings. She actucally got one back into her cage once before we found it. It is hard to tell the sex of a bird like that unless you "ahem, look inside" and I told her (a her in my mind) that we if she swallowed my earring we would find out very soon the exact sex.
I certainly can relate! We have the exact same situation!
Especially since our son started working for my husband, he never has to leave the house. We're back to back in our office. Sometimes I say it's better when we're fighting because I get more work done. When we're in a good mood, and gab too much!
My daughter did the exact same thing.
and still does on occasion. (She was 4 years old the first time and is 6 years old now.) The last time, she cut a big chunk out of one side of her bangs all the way to the scalp. Luckily, she looks good in hats.
Your very best bet to disguise the damage is probably some sort of pixie style hair cut. It will also be easy to keep it looking decent while it grows back out.
I found a bunch of sites by searching for hair cutting guide. Hopefully you kind find one you like that will show you how to do a camouflaging pixie.
Here are a couple I came across:
http://www.hairfinder.com/techniques/shortpixiehaircut.htm
http://www.haircuttingguide.com/short.htm
Kristen Nicole to be exact. I love that. Or
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Funny, that's my exact same story here in New York! sm
I'll believe it when I see it, too. Also, with the feds, we were supposed to get $1,200 back - the feds said there was a mistake in the filing and now we OWE $1,100. That's some mistake, but we can't find it, nor can the software company that we used!
Ok, needing answers about furkids - baths to be exact
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My GYN is the opposite....sm
I asked them about this and they're giving it to anyone asking for it but not pushing it yet because they're concerned that it hasn't been out there long enough to know for sure if it really works. I'm with the other posters concerned that with the way the FDA approves drugs then oftentimes goes back and pulls them that they don't have enough data to prove for sure this prevents cancer and that it's not just a money maker without long-term results that it's really safe.
My mom just the opposite
Funny, its the other way around for me. My mom is completely not interested in spending time with me or my child. She would visit her DIL in my town and forget to visit me and my baby. I moved to her town - she'd visit me twice a year if I was lucky. She would babysit her other grandkids free - I had to pay her to get her to spend time with mine. She would run to my other sibling's houses for any little thing they needed - and told them she never came to see me because "I never need anything". I moved far away - she visited me for 2 hours once in 4 years, while on the way to spend 2 weeks with her sister (who she visits at least 2ce a year for a month at a time). She has time for everyone but me, or my kid. Luckily my child has many other relatives on the other side that spend time with him. But I only have one mom. I have begged her to visit me at my new home, which is a couple hours drive from a place she likes to vacation - but I am not holding my breath. She'll just wait till she gets back from her vacation and tell me all about it, to rub it in that she was that close and didn't tell me or even offer to let me meet her there. I suppose I should give up and stop asking her. I visit her once a year and I guess that's all she needs to see me.
Well for me its the opposite
For me I'm the one who is not into having sex so much. The reason is not because I'm unattracted, just that I'm so tired all the time and have a low libido. I'm in my late 40s and husband can't keep his hands off me. I'm not attractive or thin (almost 190 pounds and never considered myself to be pretty - so its not like I'm a young hottie), but he's always got to be touching (private areas). He wants sex all the time. A few years back I heard of some vitamins to improve the libido. Never did take them, just forced myself to want to do it more so we wouldn't be arguing. I'd research into low libido for men because maybe that is what it is. I think my hubby bought some pills through GNC (whatever that health place is) that increases sex drive. So, I'd check out the libido thing or come out and ask why he's not interested so much.
I too get the opposite
Lots of people call me or ask me for medical advice. I don't like it because, although I am familiar with most medicines, disease, etc., I am by far a doctor and hate to diagnose someone's illness. I do however like to make an educated guess as to that I think it is, but that's as far as it goes...
Actually just the opposite with this one:
This one affects mostly young healthy adults worst, they guess because their immune systems try to fight it harder:
http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/04/24/AR2009042404075.html
They also say it's not really the 'swine flu' because it's a mix of avian, swine, and another one, all mutated and jumping human to human without animals involved:
http://in.reuters.com/article/domesticNews/idINLR47878620090427
I have the opposite problem
It's a regular twin mattress, and actually padded which would make it a little higher I would think, but there is way too much sheet. It bunches on the sides and I have to actually tuck it in.
Go figure...
Dealing with it on the opposite end...sm
My middle daughter is dealing with weight issues on the skinny end of this issue. Kids are just as cruel when the child is extremely small and skinny. My daughter is going to be 10 in September and weighs in at 45 lbs. She is also very short for her age. She was a premie baby and has just never caught up with her age group. We are trying to add weight to her without stuffing her full of junk. I suggest talking to your pediatrician. They should be able to help you with guidelines and safe ways to encourage healthy eating and weight loss. It just seems kids find anything to pick on...but weight is a big issue even at 10. My daughters best friend is overweight, so the two of them together make quite a pair! They are able to relate to the same hurt they feel when being made fun of, even though one is skinny and one is overweight.
Oh heavens no, just the opposite
My hubs spoils me rotten and gives me more attention than I would have ever anticipated. If I bring up his name in talking, he wants to get the subject to anything except him. He is a love and a keeper.
I should note--I did the opposite of what OP is asking
I'm the youngin'. DH is the oldie but goodie.
Have the opposite problem!
DD went off to college this year 250 miles away from boyfriend of a year. I was hoping she would forget about him, but no such luck. He has already visited after only 3 weeks. They will probably both come home for long Columbus weekend, and they are already planning a weekend visit in November. Do I want to see her heart broken? No. But if it meant she was rid of this guy, definitely!
no my dear...just the opposite...
suppresses appetite and because of this you can lose weight until your body gets used to it...but NO you do NOT gain weight...I lost weight. I can gain weight just sniffing bakery goods...so Adderall was great for the first few months with weight loss.
opposite thought -
the tougher the cut of meat the more time you marinate.
A New York strip or T-bone is a good (and more expensive) piece of meat so you would marinate it much less time. i usually keep it very simple and just do a splash of redwine vinegar, garlic, salt and pepper for these.
A flank steak, skirt steak, sirloin like for kabobs or fajitas (usually less expensive) need more marinating time to soak in the flavor and tenderize the meat (which is usually the main reason for a marinade). i have done kabobs in 30 minutes but they are better if you have a couple hours. sometimes the meat will not be as red after marinating for a long time but that is because any vinegar, lemon juice, or acid is beginning to break the meat down and make it more tender. a good marinade to try some time is regular italian salad dressing right out of the bottle. it gets a little sweeat when it hits the grill. i only go about an hour for this with all the acid though.
I am the opposite. My son met a woman--sm
with a 15-month old who I fell in love with the first time I saw her. She climed up in my lap all dirty, tangled hair down to her butt, smelling of old urine and for the past 17 years has not left my side. She has had a horrible life but I have chased the mother over three counties to get her-and then a year later my son's daughter-every weekend. They have spent every birthday, holiday, and summer with me for 17 years. The oldest turns 18 in Jan and is planning on leaving her mother to live with me. She has spent so many hours trying to find similarites between us, we both had blud eyes, both are left-handed, love to read and quilt that she has convinced herself she is my granddaughter. People often think we are mother/daughter and she never wants me to correct them. She has had to be the mother to her sister and has had to grow up fast, but she is the most wonderful child.
Open you heart--the step granddaughter will benefit but not as much as you will. Sounds like she needs all the love she can get.
We were talking last weekend as we were putting up the tree that neither girl can remember having any fun times with their mother and how all the birthday and holiday pictures are at my house and any memories they have are here. Rhiannon is always telling me how lucky she is to have me as her grandmother, little does she know I am the lucky one.
Need help with opposite problem sm
I have chestnut brown hair with blonde highlights which is getting too expensive to keep up. Stylist was charging over $100 and I told her thanks but I would have to start going to Super Cuts or someplace cheaper although I did appreciate her beautiful work. Well, she came down, then went back up again to $85 and that's too much. I have never ever colored myself and she said she had to start coloring my whole head with the brown, used to just highlight with both colors. I hate to lose the highlights as they make me look and feel better than just the drab brown. I see products that say highlight but if I have a brown base, how do you get both colors to come out??? Kinda lacking in knowledge of hair, perhaps someone else does this. TIA
opposite problem
For the last 20 years we have been "forced" to participate in the gift exchange regardless of our circumstances. This year, all of a sudden, we must all abide by a new "budget," but now we have money! I think it is just a power play and nothing more.
We had the opposite problem
That's why we have a real tree. My cat was slowly eating all the fake needles (I didn't know she was doing it)and they finally got so imbedded that she had to have emergency surgery and she had so many pine needles in her stomach that when they took them out it was a huge packed glob of them actually in the shape of her stomach. So ever since then we've had a real tree.
I had the opposite problem sm
I am a gifted dressmaker and did this professionally for many years. I mean, I can make anything from jeans, to triple lined parkas, to mens' suits from the fabric up. I am good and we can leave it there.
So, I marry this man who thinks that if it isn't very expensive from a nice STORE it is pretty well $ _ _ _ and he would never wear it or use it! I divorced him and part of it was his extremely prolific high spending habits.
I had purchased a piece of fabric to make him a suit, from Italian wool. The fabric and findings for that suit set me back $400 (in about 1990). When my younger son graduated high school, I offered to take him shopping for something to wear. He nearly cried and said NO MOM I want you to MAKE me a suit. I have waited my WHOLE LIFE to graduate and have you make ME a special suit. So, I did and that expensive stuff when to someone deserving.
It is all in how they were raised. My dad was raised to believe that all women should sew. He and his mom insisted I learn and I topped even her excellent skills. I have learned you can't change their opinions of this, no matter what side of the equation they may fall on. I would suggest you learn to do some sewing, OR learn to tolerate him taking his little projects elsewhere. Even if all you do is crafting and some quilting stuff, that is probably enough to impress him favorably.
That said, he has NO RIGHT to give away your sewing machine, it is YOURS.
Just the opposite in my family.
I'm Italian and grew up living next to and with my cousins, aunts, uncles, grandmother. My grandparents were "right off the boat" and everyone yelled. We yelled when we were happy, sad, mad, when the food was ready... you name it! It was loud and fun. My husband's family is not that way. I don't think my MIL would yell if she dropped something on her foot!
Anyone really satisfied with their PCP or just the opposite?
I went to get a mammogram done this morning and got a lot of questioning about my last Pap, last breast exam by a physician, etc., etc. I over the years have really gone thru a lot with different physicians both for me and my daughter. I told the tech this morning could not remember the last time a physician had asked about my having a mammogram and I visited the PCP about 3 times in the past year. I also am under the care of a nephrologist, have seen a rheumatologist and the like. I just wondered if anyone else felt like they have the best of care and if some feel like the care they get is somehow lacking.
It is not saying we are more accomodating - it's the opposite (sm)
It means women over 40 aren't going to put up with the BS that many of us put up with when we were younger. It is a rebuttal to the old "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free" cliche.
I feel exactly the opposite of you.
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I wish that was the case, but I'm the opposite.
Even after 6 years I have a very hard time with ESLs (and my largest account the doctor is from Peru). I hate when someone from another country tries to ask me something, I can never understand them and I feel like a total dope. One time I told a lady I didn't know where the item she was looking for was, when actually I couldn't figure out WHAT she was looking for!
Just the opposite here, hubby is into
what he terms as good food rather than fat food (fast food to us) restaurants. I wish I could eat out more but usually when I ask him, nah just fix something here. He is the cook so don’t argue with his cooking and to tell you the truth, most of his food better than what you get out, well Carruba's is high on my list.
It is completely opposite in my house
My son (16) is incredibly responsible. He gets up every morning and makes his own breakfast, I would gladly do it but he says no. My daughter (14) and hubby do not eat breakfast. My daughter doesn't have time becuase she stays in bed until the very last second that she can. My son does his own laundry and my daughter just found the washing machine this past summer. lol
It has been the opposite here in Maine this summer!
TONS of out of state cars all over the place, especially on the coast. I just got back from Massachusetts last week myself and did see quite a few out of state cars.
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