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Sounds likea control freak and a doormat. Friend of mine just divorced after 23 yrs of being the

Posted By: doormat. He never changed. nm on 2007-03-19
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Sounds like friend of mine
A friend once told me that when she goes to a restaurant she and her husband get down on their knees and pray at their table. I asked why they do that. Her response was "We are setting a good example for everyone to see"
I do and mine is under control. sm
I am on Atenolol 25 mg 1 tablet b.i.d. I never had problems with HTN until I developed chronic kidney disease although HTN does run in my family. If you don't want meds, watching your intake will help tremendously. Like a lot of people don't realize how much sodium is in our food, particularly processed, canned, boxed, etc.
Well, he sounds like a control
freak for one thing. One of the key indicators for couples who get divorced is how they talk to each other.

For your cold or flu, you might try zinc tablets. If your nose is runny you could use Zicam - the nasal swabs are great because you won't be tempted to snort the gel too high, where it can cause problems. Follow the directions about pinching your nose for a minute. If your throat is sore, chicken soup or broth should help. Maybe soak in a warm tub.

And let grumpy husband clean up his own messes.

You definitely need marriage counseling, because he needs to learn to treat you with loving kindness and respect.
Sounds like an anger control problem
to me as well as not being tolerate of other people.  Have dealt with both.  Would pull him aside and explain to him again he was out of line - a guest in your home should be treated like a guest and he should keep his opinion to himself and voice only when in private with you and daughter... it was not like anything major... friend's parents are probably afraid that something major might happen and he would really blow up!  Just tell your hubby to relax! 
A friend of mine has this
and she has accupuncture monthly which says helps her tremendously. She also changed her diet around a lot but I don't know the details of that. I'm sure you could Google it tho'.
A friend of mine had the same
problems as you did. I'm sorry you spent so much money for such a lousy vacation. A friend wanted to come home early because of the same things you mentioned.

I experienced the same thing in Puerto Rico. I found the people to be very rude. The hotel was nice but unfortunately not the people. I would never set foot there again.

I just returned from Aruba and absolutely loved it. We stayed at the Riu Palace and it was so beautiful. The people were exceptionally nice and went out of their way to make you feel welcomed. The food was excellent. The beach and water were beautiful. I plan on returning next year.
A friend of mine only had a
viewing/wake for immediate family & close friends only & didn't have a formal funeral. Sometimes I think that's the way to go. It always seems insensitive to me how everyone treats a funeral like a party, laughing and having a good time while the family is so torn up. It doesn't seem very respectful.
A friend of mine got her
accounting degree from Phoenix University, and she has an accounting job now.
Just ran into a friend of mine tonight who see msg

is doing a lot of research and warned me about the harmful effects of microwaves on food. Studies show that cholesterol levels in many studies is actually elevated in foods when heated in a microwave. There are other effects as well.


Also, I used to take the warnings about aspartame rather lightly, hearing both good and bad. Last year on the Today Show they reported that a study from Duke University claimed it was safe. I think after tonight and after doing a search on it I will try to avoid it altogether. I think I am safer with sugar or Stevia.


Just wanted to pass this along. I know this information is probably not new, just somewhat shocking and worrisome to me.


I've never had one but a friend of mine

did.  She was 15 at the time and after a lot of pressure from her parents and her boyfriend's parents, she had one.  She still feels guilty to this day. 


Personally, I am pro-choice.  There are just too many variables to make it 1-sided.  Fortunately, I've never been in the situation of having an unwanted pregnancy.  I have always used birth control (2 forms before I got married and then just the pill after marriage).  I've had 3 pregnancies, each of them planned.  We've decided that we do not need anymore children, so I've had a tubal.  If that ever fails, I would carry the pregnancy, unless it posed a significant health risk to me.  I'm not thinking of myself in this case, but my 3 children who need a mom. 


I do think that abortion has become a method of birth control for so many.  There need to be limitations and guidelines to its use, but please don't take it away completely.  I also believe that pregnancy has become a way for many young, unwed, uneducated mothers to get a free check every month.  I think those children should be adopted out, also.  But these are just my opinions. 


A friend of mine was treated much
worse than that right after surgery. For one thing they wouldn't even fix the broken A/C even though her room was about 90 degrees! The plastic surgeon botched her surgery, so she had huge open wounds he couldn't close. She was allergic to tape, and could only tolerate one kind, but even as she'd tell nurses this, they'd stick Band-Aids on her! So it wasn't even just ONE bad nurse - the whole bunch was careless at best all the way up to sadistic. She should have sued.


A pilot friend of mine
who flies in and out all the time said he wouldn't take his family there OR let his children ever go there for spring break or anything else. It's too dangerous. There's a lot the tourist are lucky they didn't run into. Kidnappings are taking place more and more as the drug business is booming and people being held for ransom to make MORE money. Innocent tourists have been killed in crossfire in drug related shoot outs. I just say better safe than sorry; there are lots more places to vacation than this.
A good friend of mine had a lap band
However there are a lot of hoops to jump through testing wise before you can have those procedures done including a psychiatrist.  Also if you do not follow the directions you can become sick, which means you cannot over eat and must exercise.  She is doing fine with it, but did it mainly because her back bothered her so much.  Come to find out her back is still an issue and she needs surgery to correct that.  So, if it is a last resort, I'd say it is worth a try, but I would not do it with all of the complications and risk of infections unless it is a serious must.
Friend of mine got the same note from her kid, but she was only 23 at the time.
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I love them too...a friend of mine got me hooked..

I am now on 9...Stephanie Plum is a great character. I love the East Coast references because I grew up in Philly, so TastyKakes have a special place in my heart!


I'm a "healthy gal" as a friend of mine likes to say

Just a bit over 200 pounds now, which I never thought would happen to me.  I was always able to hover around 150 until I hit my mid 30s and then I just packed it on like a bear going into hybernation. I started WW in April and lost most of those 11 pounds right away.  Then vacation came along and I just got out of the habit. I KNOW the program works.  My grandmother did it in the 1970s and was lifetime member until the day she died.  You just have to make up your mind it's time to get serious. I'm convinced no diet or lifestyle change will stick unless you're ready to commit 100%.  I'm back on track again and hope to be in Onderland (below 200, as it is called on the WW chat boards) very quickly.


Good luck with whatever you decide to do.  Like I said, it isn't easy. 


A friend of mine did some prostitution for awhile
It was before I knew her. She was very young and homeless and trying to survive. While her case isn't what we're talking about here, as she would have been underage anyway, I still can't imagine putting someone in jail and calling them a criminal because they're trying to survive the only way they know how. And of course, once you have that criminal record, it makes it even more difficult to change your life circumstances. It breaks my heart to think of her as young girl and everything she went through. Today you'd never know she lived that kind of life unless you really knew her and could see the emotional scares she carries (most of which aren't from the prostitution but from the abuse and incest she survived). She's an amazing person, with a huge heart, who spends most of her time fighting against poverty for those who can't speak for themselves.

While I don't know the mind of a prostitute, I'd imagine that most fall into the profession because they have few options available to them. Some don't have options, family support, education.

I think by leglizing and regulating it, you'd have less disease and less drug abuse.
A friend of mine stayed in a very nice chalet when she went. SM
I can't remember the name of the place, but very quaint A-frame chalets.  They didn't have indoor pools or anything like that, but there was a pool on the complex.  The location was awesome from the pictures I saw.  They seemed to be in the woods surrounded by trees and a stream right next to the cabin.  I'll see if I can find out the name of the place.  She was pretty friendly with the lady who ran the place and has stayed there several times.
I am invited to a Birthday party for a friend of mine, whom

I have known for many years. Her mother and my mother were friends. Her mother died a few years ago.


The problem is that I am a nonsmoker and my family all 100% nonsmokers. I maintain a smoke free environment at all costs. My friend smokes heavily as well as about 95% of her family. They will all be there. I have some health issues, not respiratory, and I do not want the second-hand smoke exposure. In addition, my eyes burn, my hair and clothes reek of smoke, etc. What do I do?  This is a special birthday for her marking a milestone.  If I don't go it won't look good. . . if I do go I will be very heavily exposed to the smoking for the duration of the party, I am sure. What do do?  Thanks for any advice you can give.  


A friend of mine told me about these cute blankets
She's making them for her nieces, and her daughters (11 and 8) actually want to give their cousins these blankets.  She also bought the fabric from a local craft store and plans to attach a book.  Gift done with love!  Love homemade gifts!! 
A very good friend of mine had ablation and no regrets.
She has no more periods. This is just a little over a year, and she was having very serious problems, had to have transfusion twice due to the heavy bleeds prior. She was willing to try this before hysterectomy, and it worked for her.
A friend of mine is a chemist (Ph.D.) and specializes in solvents.
She knows exactly how various detergents work, and she says Tide is the best. I can afford to use Tide, because I use so little detergent. We have a front-loading washing machine and it uses much less detergent that top loaders. Rather than use detergents made specifically for front-loaders, I just use a very tiny bit (about the size of a quarter) of liquid Tide. I get a small bottle with coupons, and it lasts me months doing laundry for 3 people.
This happened to a friend of mine from high school........sm
He had mono after we graduated from high school and was off work for about 5 weeks. He went back to work too early and, while driving home from work one day, his spleen just burst and he crashed into an oncoming log truck, killing him instantly. It was really a double tragedy because the first people on the scene to find him were his mom and dad, who had a bad heart anyway. His dad suffered a major MI on the spot and had to be taken to the ER. His poor mom lost her son that day and almost lost her husband.
A friend of mine has a husband with myasthenia gravis
and it affects his eyelids.  He can't  hold them open and had special glasses made witih a wire that he puts under both eyelids for support.  I hope it's not that, and certainly may be something else, but I think an ophthalmology exam is in order and then maybe referral to a neurologist.  Good luck.  Keep us posted. 
Sounds like your unhappy friend........ sm
just got a bad-fitting set of dentures. Has she seen a dentist or denture specialist about this? Hopefully she can get them either adjusted or a new pair. I believe the change in her life would justify the expense more than adequately if she has to hide to eat, etc.
Is DH name Matt? As in doormat?
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Your son sounds a lot like mine

He is 20 and goes to college out of state, so he is only home for holidays and summers. He does not have a curfew, but if he goes out at night we ask him where he is going and ask that he let us know if he is going to be very late (after midnight).  It's fine if he wants to stay out that late, we just want to know that he's out late by choice and hasn't been in an accident or something.


I think each parent has to make his or her own decision based on the situation and the maturity of the child/young adult. There isn't a one-size-fits-all answer to this question. Part of parenting is using your own judgment. You know your child better than anyone, and you should make your decisions based on that knowledge.


JMHO.


This is a free country, be a doormat for the rest of your life
if you want. You are the same one who writes husband left you after cesarean section, had vehicle accident and he was no help to you, told you he was never happy with you?? What kind of life do you think your children see you having? A good one? Doubt that. I really do not know why you post because giving a person who does not care for me 1 more chance is just idiotic to say the least. You can throw your life away as well as the children. Not this lady. I actually could thank my mother for leaving my father. I visited him, called him, cared for him as much as possible prior to his death in his 90s, loved my stepmom, went to see them often but he certainly as far as I could tell, not father material. Too critical, overbearing and someone I would not have been happy around. She did us kids a really big favor. I have not always had a wonderful life and probably went through a lot more than most but in my golden years I seem to have about everything I could have ever imagined. Life for me is wonderful but then each and every person has the right to make their own decisions and lives and lead a miserable one if they want.
Your life sounds like mine and all
the other gays out there. I cannot believe someone actually said that we had an "agenda" and pushing it down their throats. They are just uninformed and ignorant and unfortunately, they worry too much what goes on behind closed doors. Perhaps if they would not concentrate on the bedroom so much, they could actually see that we are no different from them. I am "out" and my family and friends accept me for who I am and not what I am - I am no different from anyone else just because I am gay. It still amazes me that people can be so ignorant but that is just the way they were brought up. I was raised to respect all people no matter the color, orientation, etc. Obviously the poster here's why is the one with the agenda.
Your keyboard sounds like mine.
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Wow, your experience sounds sort of like mine.
legs.  Horrible cramps.  Huge clots and bled for at least 10 days each month.  PMS for two weeks prior to that - so what's that leave?  Maybe one good week each month, but I got so tired of telling the doctor.  She kept saying we have to try all of this other stuff first.  So, fine, I tried the pills, the D&C, and this time she said ablation, and I said nope, I want a hysterectomy.  So, that was that.  I'm so much happier now, but since it's only been a month from my surgery, I am still tired.  Hopefully, though this is the ticket; finally!  Home free! 
could you freak out a little bit more, please? lol
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Mind Freak
Chris Angel....illusionist extraordinaire right now on A&E (whatever channel that is in your area)....The 21st century Houdini....Any comments?
I am a pin/brooch freak!

The gaudier and glitzier the more I like 'em!  I don't wear them just on holidays either.  I just have oodles...kind of like Ms. Albright.  My favorite one is a pink rhinestone piggy pin I scored off E-Bay (see picture).  That one pretty much stays on my favorite Irish wool sweater and I get complimented on it all the time, just because it's different and kinda queeah, like me.  ;-) 


I do have this HUGE horseshoe pin with all these aurora borealis crystals on it but it's actually too much.  I haven't worn it yet.  The thing must weigh about a pound.  I might wear it on my black wintertime one-zie (overall perp outfit looking thing) just because it's so wrong it might actually be right. 



You say a guy can freak out after a childbirth and
"no sex for 6 weeks and all that" WTF- does that mean he feels up children? Lady, there is a problem in your message. Any guy, no matter what he things as a cause, in his right mind does not feel up on young children.
Anybody see the Faith Hill freak-out on...
I didn't see the show, but saw the video on, what is it, utube or youtube? Anyhow, I googled it and the video came up...can't tell if it's for real or not! If it is, she's a sore loser!
Make the cashier freak out!

Assuming you were at a the grocery store or a superstore like wal-mart ... what 3 items could you take to the checkout that would freak the cashier out the most?


I'll start.....


seafood seasoning
frying pan
2 dozen goldfish


Sorry Skategirl, but I'm a neat freak......
My desk is nice and neat though I can't take a picture to prove it. HA! HA! Thanks for the picture. If you clean your desk a little, you might be able to type faster. Just kidding!! Have a good day!
Dear Freak & Family:
Please get the mental help you need & leave me & the rest of the neighborhood alone. We are all really tired of your crazy chit. For your own good go back to your home planet NOW! you mental cases. I speak for everyone in THE NEIGHBORHOOD

he is feeling out of control and he wants control
and from what you wrote, you aren't giving him opportunities to have some control.

My 4 yo has had this type of behavior since the age of 2-1/2, but I've figured out how to deal with it. First of all, he wants your attention, good, bad, indifferent and wants some say so in what happens to him.

I've done several things. With the screaming, I totally ignore her. I tell her my ears are closed and I can't hear her, but if she wants to cry/scream, she can't do it in MY living room (bedroom, whatever), only in HER bedroom. If she refuses to stay in her room, I take away her favorite snuggly and put it on the top of something, out of reach but visible. She can have it back when she stays in her room and stops being loud. If she keeps coming out, I put another coveted stuff up out of reach, over and over until she realizes I mean she has to stay in her room. I don't tell her she has to stop her fit or crying...she just can't do it in MY space. She can come back to where I am if she is quiet.

I make sure she knows I am in control, but we negotiate almost everything. If I want her to drink milk for breakfast and she wants juice, I tell her okay but she has to drink the milk at lunch. That gives her a sense of control and having a say in what is happening to her.

I have also had to sit on her bed for HOURS, holding her by wrapping my arms around her while she screams and kicks and bites until she begs to be let go. I won't let go until the out of control stuff stops. I don't talk except to say "I'll let you go when you are quiet." It is exhausting, but it only took a few times for her to understand I would invest the time and she hated being held like that for so long.

When I work at home, I make sure I take a break about every 90 mins and spend about 30 mins with her. It takes me all day to get my work done, but it makes all the difference in the world.

If she won't pick up something (say, blocks) after being asked upteen times, I tell her I will give them away to a child who wants to take care of them. It only took losing one set of blocks for her to get the idea she HAS to clean up her messes.

Finally, after being potty trained for at least a month and then rebelling and making messes in her pants for a week in a row (this happened 3 times), I finally told her in a very loud voice that _I_ had control over whether or not she went trick or treating and whether or not Santa comes to our house. If she wanted to have those things, she better use the potty and no more messes. She has been dry since the beginning of October and I give her a treat every day she stays dry.

One day a couple of weeks ago, she wanted to go to Mickie Dee's, but as we drove up she started shouting about wanting to go inside. I wanted to drive through. We were in the drive through line and I calmly told her sometimes people get mad and yell at someone else, but maybe it was an accident...I asked if she wanted to tell me sorry for yelling at me or did she want to go home. She shook her head "no" to apologizing. I repeated my offer and again got "no." I drove off towards home which immediately threw her into tears and whining, but now she doesn't yell at me anymore if she wants something.

Since October we have far fewer melt downs and I have realized she actually shows me her triggers...If she is angry and grumpy on the way home from somewhere, I hand her an energy bar to munch and suddenly I have a sunshine child again. If she gets grumpy in the middle of the day and refuses to take a nap, I tell her we will lie down on my bed. We start out talking and before too long, I tell her I am tired and want to close my eyes, but not go to sleep. Pretty soon, she will close her eyes and fall asleep. I can then get back up and go about my business.

Before somebody starts bashing me, I have a close friend who is a child psychologist and she helped me with all these suggestions. It takes a lot of work to maintain the appearance of control while giving the child the opportunity of having some say so in his/her life.
I think they should require psychological counseling before someone makes a freak of herself like th

8 surgeries and a gallon of silicone equal a bra size of 34 FFF


Sheyla Hershey has set a new record for something she can't and doesn't want to hide -- the largest breasts in Brazil, and perhaps the world. But is she in for more pain than she bargained for?


After eight surgeries and a gallon of silicone, Hershey's breasts round out to an astonishing 34 FFF -- and she claims she's not done.


In an interview with Fox 26 in Houston, where she traveled for the operation, the 28-year-old Brazilian actress and model said that she would like her breasts to be even bigger.


Unfortunately for Hershey, the state of Texas has limits on the amount of silicone that can be injected into breast implants -- and Dr. Malcolm Roth says this is for good reason.


"We know that the larger the implant the more likely there will be problems down the road," he says. "Maybe she'll be fortunate and not have problems, but those are very, very large breasts.


Ooooooo! That's an awesome theory! I'm a total Lost freak too. SM
I can't believe I missed this thread! 
My mom divorced him because he was ...sm
cheating with this girlfriend, and he went so far as to get dressed at night and actually go out like a teenager not coming home till midnight or so. He left my mama sitting in the recliner crying many nights. Then knowing she had to get up at 6 am for work he would wake her up to open the door for him cause he lost his key. He was very inconsiderate. That is why she divorced him.
a friend's b/friend died last year, drank, took vicodin...

So, since he's divorced twice, do we assume that it

Isn't there such a thing as he divorced the wives?  Are you catching my drift?  I guess we automatically assume it was "his" fault, and never the woman's?  Just a thought.  I say just take it slow, but it is so much fun to have that initial spark, and if it continues, then great. 


Unfortunately, when we divorced I was completely sm
out of my mind. It is legal because it states that he has the right to make any decision and can change his mind at any time since he has physical custody. He has been very kind in the past to allow my son to spend the entire summer with us. This will be the first summer in 7 years that we have not seen him. Plus, we send for him throughout the year during holidays and spring breaks. He can do this and can make this decision.

I could get a lawyer and amend the agreement we have, but then it will get so ugly (again) and complicated and I don't ever want to go through that ever again. He still has emotional wounds from our divorce (I've since moved on and remarried), so if he wanted to be ugly he can. What's to say my husband and I hire a lawyer in his state, go to court, and then I end up losing even the right to see my son? That can happen, especially since he has not lived with us ever. Thanks for your suggestion, though.
My parents divorced when I was 10. sm
I could write a book. My father wanted the divorce but my mother did not. As an adult I can honestly see why my father was so unhappy. At the age of 10 all I heard was my mother crying all the time. I never restented my father for the divorce, he was a much better father after the divorce. My mother had to really fight a lot of demons after the divorce but I honestly don't think the divorce was the only reason for her problems. I have been happily married for 20 years now, but my older brother is a whole nother story. His marriage lasted 14 years (13 years too long). Part of the reason she stayed was becuase of the children and he was not a great dad by any means. He had terrible anger problems and I honestly don't know if our parents divorce (he was 13 at the time) had anything to do with this. Looking back he was a bit of a bully as long as I can remember, so I don't think it was the divorce that caused his problems. It is hard to believe that we were raised by the same parents and step-mother. You don't say how old your kids are, and although I didn't want them to divorce, I do remember the screaming and yelling that took place, and that is something I just could not subject my children to. Feel free to e-mail if you want to talk.
I was divorced when my girls were 3 and 8. My
oldest daughter tells me that all she could remember was me crying and being upset all the time and how much better it was to have a calm household after we separated. They are now 18 and 13 and seem to be doing fine.
Yes to all your questions. I was divorced at SM
45, after a 27 year marriage from hades. Best thing I ever did. I have never been happier.

I have met the love of my life. The unhappy person now is the woman who had the affair with my ex-husband and is now married to him. Everyone and I mean everyone, believes I came out ahead. That's probably true, considering I got half his money.

Believe me, YOU ARE NOT TOO OLD. The best years are ahead of you. I can promise you that.
P.S. as you are divorced, it is YOU who can choose
with whom of your in-laws your children have contact.
She is in the same boat, married and divorced twice - sm
I would not make any assumptions regarding either party. Maybe his wives cheated, maybe he did, maybe no one did and they just grew apart; maybe her husband cheated, maybe she did, maybe her DHs (both of them) woke up one day and said hey I don't want to be married anymore, lots of fish in the sea. Who knows. She will find out as she gets to know him better if he is a jerk or not (i.e. if he was the root cause of his divorce or not). My DH was divorced (first marriage and hopefully only for me) and granted I know things now that I did not know then, but she did leave him and divorce him but I see some of the reasons now and know he was not totally innocent in the whole thing, but I also know there was a lot more to it. I don't think it is just one person's "fault" for a divorce, they both contribute, generally one more than the other but both people are definitely involved (it is their marriage). I say have fun, and see where it goes, just don't get all lovey dovey and become blind, try to be smart at the same time.