Sounds like you're doing great! We're also making out...sm
Posted By: Moneyless mom on 2008-01-30
In Reply to: Kids and $$ - sickofit
daughter pay for gas and insurance when she starts driving. She hasn't started driving yet because she doesn't want to get a job to pay for that privilege. That's her choice. We're also making her pay 1/2 of the fees for the state required driver's education course.
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Thank you so much! You're making me cry!
I have learned that this is the true meaning of Christmas - giving. There's no greater feeling than watching a child open a present or an older person whose family has forgotten them. That's what Christmas is about for me. God bless you, too! Have a very merry Christmas!
Now you're making me hungry and I have not even
You're making me hungry! nm
xx
Sounds like you're the "jerk"
That isn't fair to your husband. You are having an affair.
you're right, she sounds like she wants to pounce.
nm
sounds like you're doing good
If you can make jam cake and cornbread, you are a Kentucky gal now! I live in Northeasten KY in a small town - though not as small as yours - I lived here my entire life and when I married, we moved to Shreveportm, Louisiana for a couple of years - so that was culture shock for me!
great post and I so appreciate what you're doing!!sm
God sees all - and you ARE blessed!! Thanks for posting all you have posted and sharing with all of us!!! I so get it about dealing with the govt and trying to get anywhere in dealing with govt agencies!! I wish for you and the children THE BEST!!!
  
You're doing great, in my book.
You could drive the oldest family car if:
1. You paid your insurance
2. You paid your gas
3. You did well in school
4. You did well at home
5. You showed enough good judgment
You had a cell phone when/if:
1. You could pay for a prepaid plan yourself
2. You did well at home
3. You still had rules to follow (no calls before or after rules; I could check text messages, call logs, pictures at my leisure, etc)
You're fine, honey. Keep up the good work!
Very few things are rights -- most are privileges; very few things are needs -- most are wants --young children and youth and young adults need to learn about that.
Sounds like you're an exemplary neighbor
I love the way you point out how you have good neighbors because you can speak to them when YOU want to speak to them without having them at your home 24/7.
I'm getting a certain vibe from your posts that tells me NONE of these people would WANT to be at your home 24/7, cuz you sure don't sound very hospitable to me.
And yeah, if you're leaving your doors open and unlocked in this day and age, you're obviously one of 'those people' that think having a bit of money makes you omnipotent.
You've proven yourself to be more than a tad pretentious and I'm done responding to you. Suffice to say, I'm very thankful you (or someone like you) is not MY neighbor.
You're not 'low-class', you're FUNNY, & a good writer!
Which is often the case then someone is the first to cast stones!
Then you're lucky!! Yes! I would hire her to do it and I think $15 is great! (nm)
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I know, I love my company too. They're great (sm)
but how many years of life can a person spend sitting in front of a computer? I love the flexibility, love not having to go to an office... but get so tired of sitting and typing all day. And here I am typing again...because you guys are the only people who can relate ;-)
Call me cynical, but it sounds like you're not as selfless as you want everyone to think. SM
In your initial post, you state how you mostly give cards and little gifts "anonymously" and that you go up and down your street putting cards in your neighbors mail boxes signed simply "your neighbor." Then you say that your neighbors never acknowledge your acts of kindness. And then you post a quite lengthly post here telling us what a good egg you are and how boringly nice you are, chronicling all the charitable deeds you do.
So which is it, do you do these anonymously out of the kindness or your heart or do you expect some sort of acknowledgement or thank you?
It sounds as though you want people to know these wonderful things you do and you need to be acknowledged and patted on the back and told what a wonderful person you are for doing these things.
First of all, I hate to state the obvious, but if you truly sign cards with "your neighbor" and anomyously send gifts, then how would anyone know to give you the accolades you so desperately crave? Secondly, a selfless giver derives satisfaction from the simple act of giving, not any sort of acknowledgement that comes as a result.
"Be careful not to do your 'acts of righteousness' before men, to be seen by them. If you do, you will have no reward from your Father in heaven. So when you give to the needy, do not announce it with trumpets, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and on the streets, to be honored by men. I tell you the truth, they have received their reward in full. 3But when you give to the needy, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, 4so that your giving may be in secret. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you." Matthew 6:1-4
You're surprised? I'm not. They're not going to stop voting....
as was mentioned in a prior post. Imagine if they succeed? They just may.
At least you wait until they're cooked! LOL...we're raw dough
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LOL, sounds like my house. DH is making his chili, YUM
He got off work early because of the icy rain.
Things you're afraid of vs. things you're not
I didn't used to be afraid of spiders, but I seem to have developed a fear of those little beasties. I also can't stand boats, water deeper than my hot tub and bridges. I'm also fairly convinced that UFOs, if not aliens (well, isn't anything driving those things?) are real, so that kinda scares me, yet it is strangely fascinating. I'm also afraid of El Chupacabra, though I'm very certain that's not real. It's one of those "hahahahaha" fears.
Things other people fear that I do not include snakes (awwww, they so cute! they look like they're smiling!), rats, gangbangers (except Mara Salvatrucha, move them up to my "scary" list), poverty, death, traveling at high rates of speed with almost anyone sober, bats (CUTE!!!!!), homeless people, Sasquatch, most of my male friends, bears, mountain lions.
Fear is such an odd thing, don't you think? So much of it is relative to our own experiences in life, yet at the same time some of them are downright irrational.
So, how 'bout you? What will send you running screaming in the other direction, and what things can you take care of when someone else goes running screaming in the other direction?
you're welcome. nm
nm
I see what you're saying...but
heaven forbid, they break up and one of them dies, wouldn't you want the same thing. If she were to die, wouldn't she want her husband to have the same choice she is wanting??? I guess I'm just concerned with pushing this on the husband and he doesn't want to do it. I hope it all works out though. This is a hard decision to make.
You're welcome!
I hope you can come up with something, I've "been there and done that".
Should be you're not, not your not
and actually in the minority as I do work a full 8 hour day, no chasing after kids, walking the dogs, doing housework so you got it exactly right, in the minority as opposed to a lot I read about on here.
Aww, sorry you're going through that...sm
My husband can get into moods also, but I honestly won't allow him to talk to me like that. In every relationship I've ever been in, I wouldn't allow it. In the beginning when I was pregnant with our second child, I wrote him a long letter telling him I needed more help and would not accept anything less. I was so stressed out with working at home and taking care of a 2-year-old and being pregnant. That was it! Ever since then, I swear he does more than me! If he talks to me in a certain way, I demand an apology and I get it, not always right then, but a little later. He knows I won't take it. We've been together for 15 years now, and that is a big thing in keeping us strong. He doesn't take my crap, either:-) He's still my best friend so it's worth it to make it work. Stand up to him and make him respect you! I say that with much care.
Because you're mom, LOL.
Moms just know these things.
We're all in this together ...
I think. It's always reassuring for me to know that other people are dealing with the same stuff I am.
She was furious when she found out I had gone through her purse, but too bad. You live in my house, you live by my rules, sweetheart.
Another thing that gets me is where she was getting the stinkin' things anyway. She works in a restaurant where her coworkers smoke but I hope they would know better to get them for a minor. As far as I know, she hasn't started up again.
you're welcome--sm
a lot of physicians are almost insistent on someone taking the synthroid, and it makes me wonder how much stock they have purchased with the manufacturer. They always try to say we don't need the T3 that is included in the Armour, but I know I feel a whole lot better with taking it. I didn't even know I had a thyroid problem until I went to a doc with flu like symptoms and wanting to sleep 14 hours a day. I saw a doc from India in an urgent care clinic, who I had never seen before. I was hardly in the door yet and he said *how long have you had that goiter?* I was stunned. I had seen so many doc's in between and none of them ever picked up on this. I was on synthroid for five years, and never really felt much difference. I read up on thyroid problems from all sorts of web sites and decided to try the armour. Unfortunately my doc at that time would not prescribe it for me. HE did not believe it in. *hmmmm*. I had to go to an endocrinologist, as well, and still had to BEG to try it. He reluctantly gave it to me and it took a while to get it up to the level that would even out my TSH levels, but I am now at 120 mg and seem to be holding. I do feel better, but as I said earlier, I still battle with weight loss/gain. but every body is different. stick to your guns, get what you want, and check back in three months or so and let me know how you are feeling/doing. email me if you wish.
If that's what they're doing ...
it's fine with me. I thought it was interesting, but different that we suddenly focused on 2 characters I didn't remember. But there they were in scenes from the past that I did remember, LOL.
No, we're not out there saying come on
But by nature cats do roam. We have a big field in our back yard and he only goes out early in the morning and goes through the brush. He comes up on them when they fly up and he will jump straight up after them. I have gotten many away from him simply because the first thing he does is bring them to the back door, but when he meows to be let in, they fly away. My husband and I certainly aren't thrilled about it, especially during the springtime, but cats do go after birds and the big old hawks flying around our house could easily scoop up our tiny little female kitty, and I suppose that would make it even?
You're right
Trying to leave while he is there, especially in the middle of an argument, is a gesture, not a serious attempt at leaving. All it does is make him angry and more vigilant.
And you're right that even the best organization can't guarantee complete safety. But they can offer shelter, advice, compassion, and some safety. It's better than trying to do it on your own.
I'm sorry if you have been in this situation before. No one should have to go through that. But unfortunately, many, many women do, every day.
Maybe you're right about his
tummy hurting. You can give dogs Pepcid; ask if you can give something like that to your cat to try.
Are you aware of any weird low-cal foods your cats like? Like cooked vegetables? If so, maybe that would help. Or offer grass to chew in the house.
I'd go to one of those holistic places and see if they have suggestions. They might even have aromatherapy for cats, HA!
I agree it's hard to correct a cat's bratty behavior. Next time consider a dog, LOL.
Tell us what they're about, or if there's another
author you could compare them too. Are they romances, mysteries, stories about moms or what?
you're welcome............sm
there's a lot to them to explain and I will supply one of 1000s of links...but to me it's like a person is damned if they do, damned if they don't living with one of these types....
here's the link :)
http://www.ptypes.com/passive-aggpd.html
You're not alone in this
Hi,
I found out yesterday that my 15 year old kitty Dimas has bone cancer in the jaw. Last week the vet determined he had cancer according to the blood tests but couldn't find a tumor. Then over the past 5 days he developed a huge bony tumor on his jaw. He might only have a few days left and I have to decide when to put him down. I'm convinced that he will let me know when he's ready. Meanwhile, I'm a mess and am so terribly sad to be losing my buddy. Please know that I feel your pain and my prayers are with you and your kitty.
Lisa
You're not alone in this
Hi,
I found out yesterday that my 15 year old kitty Dimas has bone cancer in the jaw. Last week the vet determined he had cancer according to the blood tests but couldn't find a tumor. Then over the past 5 days he developed a huge bony tumor on his jaw. He might only have a few days left and I have to decide when to put him down. I'm convinced that he will let me know when he's ready. Meanwhile, I'm a mess and am so terribly sad to be losing my buddy. Please know that I feel your pain and my prayers are with you and your kitty.
Lisa
You're so not alone on this one!
I've been going through some extreme stress of late...I actually asked for a "mental health day" yesterday and was refused...and I don't ask for nuthin' unless I really need something. I was going to take that time to go for a hike in the woods--that always clears my head and relaxes me.
But right now I'm waiting on a delivery of firewood soon...I find that taking an hour or so to stack it or chop it works for me, but that's just because I'm a psycho. ;-)
I hope you find some relief soon--I totally know where you're coming from!
Can't really help, but you're not alone!
Unfortunately with mine I pretty much always ended up in the hospital on IV medication after days of vomiting. I got them every month with my cycle, so eventually the doctor put me on the Depo shot so I wouldn't have my cycle and that pretty much stopped the headaches. However, I just stopped taking the shot for other medical reasons and I definitely fear those headaches! I'm so sorry you have to deal with them!
You're welcome
Neither of my parents was alcoholic but our family was MAJORLY dysfunctional. So I can definitely relate. And I have a son who is 20 years old. Seems just yesterday he was in middle school....sigh.
OMG, I think you're right
Just call me stupid. LOL. I looked up GE Owens Illinois, and I think that did pop up, but I thought he said "in" and not "and". Thank you so much.
you're welcome *S*
For the entire month of Ramadan, the folks of the Muslim/Islamic faith fast all day (but go to work and all the stuff they normally do but cannot ingest anything during daylight hours) and then eat/party all night....
Maybe not what you're looking for, but
I just went upstairs for more coffee and one of my cats was playing soccer with a dead cricket on the kitchen floor. He seemed quite content, but I still had to throw it away.
I wish my cats were more sociable. My young male, Tripp, will come downstairs a couple of times a day, sniff everything and go back upstairs. I hardly see my female, Lucky, at all during the day. Not that I want them knocking stuff off my desk while I'm trying to work, but there must be a happy medium somewhere.
Ya know you're right....
time with your kids is the best thing no matter what you eat!
I think you're right
Hopefully the school will do something, or else the ex will decide to homeschool if he's really fanatic about this. I do plan on calling the school on Monday and see if they will discuss this with me.
You're welcome! (nm)
"nm" means no message...but since you are here,
What kind of makeup do ghosts wear?
Mas-SCARE-a
I've been working too long.
Cause you're there and cause they can!
I know exactly what you're going through!
I think I was in as much pain if not more when my child's heart was broken. I think it is very sweet your son is sharing this with you and all you can really do is offer comfort and understanding. Lots of kind words such as "this will get better" and "if it's meant to be, it will be". Obviously the situation you describe has gone on since the beginning of time (well ok not quite) but it is very common when one goes off to college. So sorry you both are going through this :(
You're right (sm)
You're right and I do tell them how lucky they are and tell them she loves them and remind them that she won't be around forever. I am thankful for her...not trying to get rid of her...just trying to decide whether to force my kids to spend the night or not.
You're Welcome - NM
NM
You're not alone....
I started at 6 a.m. and working until 2:00 or so. Already had 1 depressing procedure note. Hate those anytime, but especially so close to Christmas.
Have a good day!
you're not
nm
Always know that we're there for you...
I know it's not the same, but...
Anyway, Mom just figures she has done the best she can and has no regrets. She has folks around who love and support her, but it still hurts when she's shunned by sis. She stands her ground and won't let sis walk over her, but keeps the door open, hoping that one day, she'll walk through it just for companionship. It would be great for at least one of you to have that happen - my mom, you, or jlynn.
But trust me, if you took your daughter to her grandparents', she KNOWS the younger generation does most of the traveling, and I believe still do. Some of the younger generation just have scheduled themselves out of the ballpark these days (this lesson, that league, golfing, etc), and have forgotten to build in time for family, trying to squeeze the important stuff in between the "keeping up with the Jones'" activities or for the older generation to jump at any invitation to "come watch" instead of "let's spend time together". I'm not as young as most folks with kids the age of mine, but kids are big money these days, and parents are buying into it, making sure the kids have violin lessons they really don't want or need instead of time with grandparents, unstructured with friends, or even some necessary time to themselves.
You're very welcome:-)
REALLY, it was my pleasure.
You're welcome
Hot isn't he? I miss it now that N/T isn't on.
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