Sounds like he's training you, though, LOL
Posted By: Z on 2007-12-19
In Reply to: Have you tried reverse psychology on him? sm - LMT
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If someone does not want to do something blaming the dog or you, the giver of the dog, is ridiculous. I am thinking she need to hire some help. Hire a dog walker for every single day twice daily walks. Lots of people need jobs. Obedience boarding for a month. Truthfully, she should probably turn the dog back in and get a ferret, they sleep 22 hours a day are playfully entertaining two hours a day and use a cat box. Perfect pet for the lazy.
training the bad dog
I did this, but it did not work, I did that, but it did not work. The reason it did not work is because your dad has no where else to go, has no way of supporting himself, has no money, has no emotional skills whatsoever, needs your mother to help him survive for better or for worse. You will not be able to train him to leave you alone, because he cannot take care of himself and seems very unwilling to learn how. He already has been trained by your mother to behave this way, you can't fix it.
While I was still training, I had some expansions set up
in Word. One was BE for barium enema. At that time, the whole family used the same computer and my son had a report to type. I never thought to turn off the auto correct for him and as I was reading over his paper, the words barium enema jumped out at me. What was funny was it was a report on torture in the middle ages and I remember thinking, well that would be torture. He never retyped the paper! He turned it in with barium enema and never told me what grade he got!
That could have been me re: potty training
My daughter is almost 3-1/2 and she's doing everything your daughter is doing and I'm at my wits end. She can't get into preschool until she's potty trained (I wanted her to go a couple hours a day for two day). I've tried absolutely everything. Taking things away, bribes, offering her incentives (if you use the potty like a big girl we'll redo your room), and on and on, and nothing. I felt like I was the only one who was having these issues. I've tried no pullups also. Nothing works. She'll sit on the potty and as soon as she gets off she'll pee on the floor. She's just very stubborn. You can tell she knows what she's supposed to do, she just doesn't "want to" (her words). (Sorry so long).
potty training
With both my children, 1 boy and 1 girl, we used stickes and once they had an entire line full they got a small prize. With my son he still slept in pull-ups and he always woke up wet and I figured out it was becuase he knew it was okay. Put him in underware and that stopped almost immediately. I was determined to train my daughter before we went to Disney World....big mistake. she was trained but when she had to go there was no waiting, even if we had stood in line for a ride for 45 minutes we had skip the ride and go straight to the restroom. Plus, didn't want her sitting on the potty...boy did I learn my lesson.
How about crate training?
I have 3 dobies that I crate when they can't be trusted to obey the rules.
Potty training
I have a boy and a girl, I bribed them both! It works. My daughter loves jelly beans so we got a small gumball machine and filled it with jelly beans. When she would go in the toilet, she got to turn the handle and get her treat. My son did not care about candy, so we used matchbox cars with him (for #2). I guess bribe her with something she REALLY likes. Dollar store toys work well too! Good luck.
Are you cage training her?
If so, put her in her cage when she gets too rambunctious (sp?). Our new puppy is also about 8 or 9 months old, and she knows the meaning of "NO" and "STOP BITING".
Also, have you tried spraying her with water? it works on most dogs and cats.
training cats
My cat used to have a thing with begging at the fridge. It got so bad she would jump in there. Once she got trapped in there for quite awhile and I did not realize it. We cured her by dribbling a couple of water drops on her head whenever she begged.
puppy training
Start inching the pads closer and closer to the door, and eventually place the pads outside so she figures out that outside is where she really needs to be.
The piddling all the time when walking is marking territory - even in girl dogs. She's finding other scents and peeing over them to leave her own scent on it. If you have her spayed I think you'll find that happens less often.
When she has accidents in the house, is there a pattern to the timing of it? Her bladder is small enough that she needs to be either by a pad or taken outside every couple of hours. Do you have an area in the house that you can sort of confine her with baby gates or some such so the carpets are not an issue? Maybe keep her in the kitchen with lots of beds and cushions that are washable until she is old enough to have a little bit better control.
Good luck. I know all about animals doing things where they're not supposed to do them. Clorox Cleanup is my friend!
This is what I learned in training...sm
If you do not believe in rewarding good behavior with a tiny treat, then stop reading here. We started on very short walks first. When Shadow would pull on the leash, I would say no, stopped abruptly at the same time, then made him sit before starting again. If he walked without pulling, I would give praise and slip him a treat while walking--do not stop walking. It took a lot of patience, but he now stays close by without a leash (well, most of the time). Good luck.
lol, if not about the receiving, then why the *list* and the *training*?
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Crate training is great when done right....sm
I had my dog completely potty trained before she was 12 weeks ago by using a crate and have known others to have the same success. The secret is this. Keep the puppy in the crate except for the times you take him outside to pee or to play with him. He'll learn that the crate is home and he'll not want to pee/dribble/poop etc. in it. Be sure you're taking him out every 2-3 hours during the day so he builds confidence that you'll take him out to go do his "business" then start weaning him back from there. Be sure to praise him each time he does his "business" outside and when you bring him back in, put him in his crate.
If the problem continues then have the vet check him to make sure there's not a problem with his system. More than likely it's just puppy excitedness!
Good luck with your new puppy. Also when he gets to the stage that he wants to eat your house up buy some bitter apple and spray it on your furniture. It has a scent in it that dogs don't like but you don't smell it. It also works in the yard if he starts digging.
potty training puppy
Please do not and I will repeat that DO NOT potty train your puppy using the crate method unless you do not work at home and will not be home for 8-10 hours every single day. I have had many dogs in my life and crate training is crate training and potty training is potty training. Yes, you want the pup to know that the crate is his safe place and yes if you cannot keep an eye on him you will want to put him there but first think about these questions....after he goes outside and pees do you let him have a drink? Do you play with him thereby making hime excited? Either of these things will cause a pup to go pee again even though they just went. It could also be submissive peeing and if you dont make a big deal about it, he should out grow it; however, if you check for drinking and playing and this does not seem to be submissive then the next time you go to the vet mention it to them. My friend's pup did this until she was fixed and the vet had a reason why it happened(even did it in her sleep) and she did out grow it and is much better.
And there is no real time table for saying a pup should be totally housebroken and accident free. I always say within the first six months, it is your fault and up until a year, an accident can happen. Yes, btw, I have had pups that were trained within 6 weeks or less of coming home; however, I did have a boxer that honestly took six months before she really got the idea. Also I suggest bells on a string/yarn etc and hung from the door knob and when we ask them if they have to go potty or you are taking them out, stop and jingle the bells and say something about going potty. I and my friends have used this method and it seems to help them get the hint too about the door being the way to get to go potty.
Best of luck 
Potty training question. SM
I'm a grandma. My daughter toilet trained herself at 18 months. Now her daughter is 3 and is potty trained as far as #1, but will only go #2 in a diaper. She will cry until daughter puts diaper on her and then she goes to the bathroom in diaper. I suggested she not change diaper immediatly, since she is very tidy and maybe will not like wearing dirty diaper. That is the only time she wears one.
Does anyone have any suggestions?
potty training puppy
Of course not. I guess I should have been more blunt about saying that you should not confine a pup to a crate and call it potty training or be foolish enough to say that by locking it in a crate that it is potty trained.
Potty training puppy
I just got a new puppy yesterday. It was a stray that someone put up on craig's list. It looks as though she was abused by her previous owner because she is so shy and scared around my husband (she does not like men), but is not that way with me. In fact, she follows me around all day long. I can't even go to the bathroom! lol She is peeing everywhere. What are your tips on potty training a dog. I do not want to scold her because she is already very shy and afraid. And what about tips on when I am trying to work. If I do not give her attention for a short while, she starts to whine. It is like having a baby here. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks!
So, it takes 32 years of training?
Which training method yielded results so quickly? (I'm nearing 16 years, I might need to refine my technique)
Does he get a diploma, or a certificate? Or a ribbon?
Originally it was for crate-training - (sm)
one of my cats who is averse to using her litterbox. In the meantime, my other cat decided this would do very nicely as her own, personal little 'condo', so she took it over. She likes it because everything is right there: Food, bed, water, & litterbox. Not to mention a great view of my birdbath outside! ;)
It's 30 minute circuit training SM
on very easy machines. It's actually fun and everyone is friendly.
Only problem is, you don't really lose a lot of weight, if that's your goal, and, at least where I live, it costs $40 a month. What with rate of pay dropping, I had to quit.
If you don't need to lose a great deal of weight and just want to stay in shape, it really is good.
Lady here at my home now training to become
a nurse and she says no discrimination in becoming a nurse, nothing supposedly plays into your training.
Any ideas on potty training a 2-year-old boy? sm
I have 2 girls and they were so easy to train (no joke, one day tops). My son on the other hand, well, I'm afraid I will have to go to school to change him  We bought him a potty chair and he is terrified of it. He just turned two, but when my girls were his age they were already trained. I've always heard boys were harder to train....any help would be appreciated!!
Question about potty training puppies...
Please no one poke fun at my question... I have never potty trained a puppy before and have a few questions. I have a 12 week old Corgi boy named Cody.
How long does it take to potty train a dog. Is it 6 months or longer or should he have the idea down for the most part by age 3 months?
The one thing that I do not understand is why after I take him outside, he will go pee (it seems like he is completely emptying his bladder), I will praise right away, then we go back inside and 5 minutes later he dribbles on the carpet. I'm sure this is normal, but I am not sure what to do about it. Should I put him back in his pet crate immediately?
I know there are a lot of dog experts on this board... I appreciate any advice you can give.
Thanks! Melissa (and Cody)
I need advice for crate training 10 week old puppy. Help!
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Repeat after me ... Crate training is a GOOD thing!
Invest in a good crate and use it.
The crate will cost you less than the destruction in the long run. It takes a while for the dogs to get use to it but once they are they are much happier for it.
My Rotts each have their own crates and when we have company or if they just want their own space they will go to their crate and chew on their KONG or a pigear.
Whenever I am going to be gone for any length of time I put up my Rotts and when people come to visit and ESPECIALLY when I have other folks children in my house. Mine dont see it as punishment at all and have gotten to where at night they sleep in their crates with the doors open. Although I do have to say they prefer to have Animal planet showing on their TV in their room when I am gone for any length of time.
Good Luck!!!
Yes - 7 day crate training - works perfectly in one week (sm)
google it - it works great and you dont have to swat them or scold them - they learn in one week and we never had another accident after that!
Lots of teething toys and crate training - sm
Get her a good book or a video on raising a puppy. They chew a lot with puppy teeth. Some breeds chew more than others, I had a husky that chewed a table leg, I have had a lab/shepard mix that basically ate a couch....which we ended up putting the dog in the powder room with a muzzle on during the day. Eventually we were able to unmuzzle the dog, after 2 years or so, as she got older and less destructive. Felt bad doing it but it was the only way not to have her eat the plumbing, baseboards, etc. They are also destructive when they are bored. If she leaves the dog alone constantly it is going to get into mischief. A dog is a bit respponsibility, I hope she is up for it, and if she bails I hope you can take it in.
book or CD on training... maybe some info on local classes? nm
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You may be, from the sounds of your posts, sounds like an *illegal*
and that in itself is a crime. Nobody else would take 65.00 for an entire day slaving/laundry, heavy cleaning, etc. LOL. Nah, I don't think so. I'm just saying, what it sounds like to me. : )
He sounds wonderful...sounds like you two have a relationship (sm)
based on love and nothing superficial at all. I'm glad you appreciate him and are so grateful for him. Best wishes & continued happiness to you both :-)
Sounds like you are doing everything right...
Hang in there. It sounds to like you are doing everything right. I totally agree that kids are under too much pressure these days and that they certainly need to be given more time to just be kids. Being a single mom I try make sure that my children grow up to be responsible adults with good morals and values, but I also make sure that they have their space so they have a chance to make their own choices (when possible) and see the consequences of those choices. Being a parent is certainly not easy and doing it in today's society is stressful to say the least.
As for your neighbor, I think she could take some lessons from you. Good luck and keep your chin up!!!
Sounds to me like . . .
she has the attention she wanted, it's almost like you took her bait. She sent you nasty Emails and now you are begging her to forgive you. You know the the saying "Don't cast pearls before swine". Sounds like she can more easily respond to the negative rather than the positive. Anyway, what would you do if she forgave you? Be her friend again? Until she changes her heart, you're better off, keep your distance. She sees your goodness as weakness. It's probably fun for her to make you uncomfortable. Maybe deep down she is jealous of you. Don't hate her, be sad for her. Don't fall into her games.
sounds like a CC I used to have, which did--sm
pretty much the same thing. They said it was their *annual fee* and, like you, I just paid it to keep the peace and close the account. Personally I think it is a scam just to get a few more dollars out of you, but how do you prove it and who do you complain to??? I don't have credit cards any longer either. Learned my lesson too. what a rip!
Sounds like (sm)
your FIL has two abled bodies to care for him already. Why should you go back? It would probably be nice if you checked in once in a while and took your 2-year-old to visit, but moving back sounds like it would put a strain on things. Your husband may be feeling guilty and feels the need to "help". Explain to him that helping is taking some groceries once in a while or offering to pick-up meds, etc. You, your husband, and child would be probably a breath of fresh air once in a while if you were to just visit on occasion. Moving back seems a little like overkill, but it is tough because when it is family you want to give it your all! Also, there is one in every family that "freeloads". Let them figure it out for now. Hope your FIL is feeling better soon and hope you can find your way to be helpful without having to sacrifice your new home.... Take care and good luck...
sounds mean . . .sm
but when my daughter and husband were pulling that on me I told my daughter it was not safe that she could die very easily in the front seat or get hurt very badly. She quit asking, daddy quit doing it. Now she is 12-1/2 and no problem there, she is 5Ƌ" and weighs about 130 pounds. But I used to get SO FRUSTRATED!!! Daddy's little girl . . . .
Don't know that one, but it sounds sm
like a good time. if you are in for an evening away from the parks. I have friends who own Sleuth's dinner theater. Three theaters, dinner included, plus one is only for kids, I think. You enjoy a great dinner, and a murder mystery play, where you take part in solving the mystery. It is right on Universal Drive and I think the website is sleuths.com
sounds like your going to anyway.
but i would urge you to proceed with caution, go very very slowly. When it seems too perfect, too good to be true, it may be wrong. One of my first thoughts is that if he is the spiritual man you think, ie, Christian, he might not have had 2 divorces -- not always the case, but often times. you both need to know what your own faults are and be careful to not make the same mistakes. More than anything (outside of knowing each other very well, nonintimately) is have real committment on both sides, the determination to stay with the marriage. i married a man with 2 divorces too -- 25 yr later we're still married. But it was sheer determination to make it work on my part, lots of prayer and such. I did endure what one should not have to, to get to this point. Once i was into it, i certainly understood how come he had been divorced twice. Wishing you the best.
Sounds like now as of this a.m.
Apparently the so-called lawyer owns a business called Hot Lips Smoochy or something like that and has never tried any cases at all. He is apparently the executor of her estate. Now isn't that convenient? He tells the photographer Daddy that she lost the baby, but she winds up having a baby anyway 9 months later. The photographer breaks it off with her because she is drinking while pregnant. Oh my, the gossip. She looks like she's all drugged-up on any interviews I've seen, and I saw one last night from 3 days before her death. She is wearing dark glasses for the first part (inside), and they go outside, and she takes the glasses off. Makes no sense. I don't know, but what does Granny want with the baby now? That poor baby! So many Daddies?????? I have never seen men trying to prove they ARE the father in all of my life? Twists and turns this story has, which I'm sure has the producers in Hollywood salivating. There will be books and there will be moves. Life happens, I guess.
It sounds to me like you are not even willing --sm
to compromise on this and want everything YOUR way. What arrangement does HE want? Do you even know? You never said what HE would like. It is just my opinion, but it does not sound like you are even ready to get married, if you cannot find a way to compromise on even this small detail. Good luck to you.
Sounds to me like you were just being
very thoughtful, and I bet he appreciates you as much as you seem to appreciate him. What a wonderful thing!
She sounds like quite a gal . . .
especially the part about being a practicing Buddhist. She probably marched to the beat of a different drummer. The doctors might have saved her but who knows what quality of life she might have. My mom, dad, aunts all were healthy until their 80s. They end up in a nursing home. My aunt is 90, she's really been dying for a year, they keep on prolonging it. I think death at some point may be a blessing. You're going through a mourning process. Your tears are for you, you'll miss her, she'll be in a better place. You are going to have to brace up and take comfort in your faith.
Actually should be It sounds.....nm
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sounds like my SIL
We had a chow years ago. We raised him from a pup and he was very protective of all of us but especially the kids. ANY kids for that matter.
The kids in the yard, someone comes up the driveway, he was there. Would not let anyone get between him and those kids. Didn't matter if they were our kids or their friends. He never bit anyone but he wasn't going to let anyone take "his" kids either.
Never did that to the parents of the kids either, just total strangers that he didn't know. For Chow's, he had an exceptional personality and never saw him so much as growl at anyone. He would bark but would back away as he was barking.
My SIL's chow is a rescue so who knows how he was raised.
She just sounds like someone who has --sm
to pick and pick until she starts an arguement. Try to ignore her. If you don't give her what she wants, she will go away. just my opinion.
sounds like it to me . . .
I've seen two physicians recently, one who specializes in anxiety, and they think the crude policy under my current company of having to "make up" any time I take off is burning me out, promotes physical and mental self-neglect and is fueling an anxiety disorder. "That's sick," is actually what one said, and put me on a mild anxiolytic temporarily and told me to find a way out. The company says "everyone else does it" like I'm some kind of freak or bad MT, but in talking to other MTs there I'm finding the majority saying no they're not or they are frying themselves out doing it and have also complained about it. Having to always "make up" a day off is not a day off and does not promote rest. I'm having to learn to take the doctors' advice I'm typing for, letting go and taking care of myself. :-) The consequences of not doing so are much more dire. It kills me they have an EAP program. Seems to me investing in just letting people have a life would be more efficient. Recently bought out, the new company acted like it was a plus to keep this crappy policy. Yeah, right.
I'm really, really close to singing "Take this job and shove it . . . " Shame, because it's an otherwise decent company, um, unless you want a life.
Watching all my family enjoy this weekend as a 3-day weekend while I type. Sometimes I wake up and cry before starting work because I feel like I can't get a break from this job without consequences.
WORDS OF WISDOM: When applying for an MT job, ASK CAREFULLY about the EXACT way "time off" is calculated and quiz their MTs, not the administrative people who have never done MT. What looks good on paper . . .
Sounds like they don’t have a pot to
pi..s… in. These sound like grown folks and I do not consider myself a bank, therefore do not loan money out even to my grown KIDS. Only could a child move in with me if they were sick and unable to take care of their own self. Sounds like they have no responsibility about financial business. Sorry they would just have to do things on their own. Loaning money (or giving it away, whatever the case is) only makes relationships strained. I do not sign as collateral for anyone, do not take stray folks in, do not run a banking business.
sounds
That sounds very pretty. You can also do just a border around the top of the wall with the sponge paint effect. That way it keeps it from being too much green!
Sounds to me like
although getting paid, maybe not the right 1 to be trying to watch the kids. I am a grandmother myself. This sounds like she is irritated by their actions and maybe they did kick her more than you OR maybe with her older legs it just hurts her more. My legs now are a lot different from when I had children as far as the aches and pains, even bruises and sometimes cuts just show up without your knowing where they exactly came from. Yes, she is offended they said something about her legs (even though on the 7 year old I would know probably too young to really understand what the veins were) but she is getting back at them now and trying to get her point across - even if they arent understanding she is trying to make them understand. I don’t see this as a really workable situation. It has been 2 weeks and already everyone at everyone else. Not a good situation. Pretty soon grandmom and kids just doing tit for TAT at each other. Maybe a good sit down and talk it over or else grandmom goes back home and you get someone who is a little younger and able to corral the kids better?
Sounds like you are doing everything right to me - sm
I lived at home for years as it was too expensive to get your own place where my parents were unless you had a really, really good income, which I did not have unfortunately. I did not have a firm curfew once I went to college but it was understood they prefered I be home by 1 a.m. which I ususally abided by, if I knew I was going to be out later I told them, or if I was not coming home at all, I told them. They always knew who I was out with too, and the general plan for the evening. I never really resented it, yeah it was a drag sometimes but at least they cared enough to ask and try and keep me out of trouble (they don't know half of the stupid stuff I did do and never got in trouble for; i.e. going out with stranger met in a parking lot, that sort of stuff, nothing criminal). One thing that will stop her from staying out really late is make her get a summer job, that is one thing that kept me from staying out all hours, sleep was necessary to get up at 6:45 and be at work at 8:00 (til 5pm). My parents paid my tuition but I paid for all the supplies, books, etc., and I also worked 2 jobs at school. Sounds like she needs something to keep her busy and grow up some. If she does not shape up, pull the car privileges unless it is to go to work, and have her pay her own car insurance and cell phone, that may wise her up to life.
Sounds like when I got...sm
a Christmas card from a friend AFTER Christmas. I still don't know what was up with that.
BTW~ My friends threw me a surprise birthday brunch today for my 40th birthday and I have already started writing my thank you notes!
Sounds like her first kid and she has never
been around others to me.
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