Sounds like he's blaming everything that's wrong in HIS life
Posted By: on you. on 2007-07-30
In Reply to: If your husband had a problem with your weight and (sm) - Butter and clutter
Will he go with you to see a marriage counselor? It's time he faced up to HIS issues - being overly controlling, emotionally abusive, holding you to impossible standards then blaming you for not meeting them.
If he really wants to start over, the first step should be marriage counseling, AT LEAST once a week, twice would be better. If he won't agree to that, tell him to take HIS half of the equity and get out. And don't let the door hit is @ss on the way out.
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Wrong ways in life.
Why are you "waiting" on someone to marry you. First of all, the guy you have been with for 10 years is not marriage material. He has told you that and you are really wasting your time. The sentence "so and so could take care of me" is sad. Why don't you take care of yourself? Do not WAIT on a person to do what you should. You have 2 feet, stand on them. You need a job, to work and be self sufficient. The days of old are gone when most women stayed home and the men "took care of them." You are wasting your life staying where you are and one day you wake up past your prime and wonder what happened.
Do you want to? Does he? Something sounds wrong
NM
Sounds like I'm not the only one who daydreams of a better life! sm
I too have had it all planned out in my head at least a gazillion times!!! It all seems a lot easier to plan than to actually put into action, especially knowing that the "jerk" won't agree to any of it, if nothing else for spite! There is never an easy answer to this. Despite it all I still love the man with all my heart, I just can't stand to be around him much anymore. He makes me so miserable. I use to blame it all on myself and think there was something wrong with me for him to be so unhappy. Now I realize there is something seriously wrong with him!
Your life sounds like mine and all
the other gays out there. I cannot believe someone actually said that we had an "agenda" and pushing it down their throats. They are just uninformed and ignorant and unfortunately, they worry too much what goes on behind closed doors. Perhaps if they would not concentrate on the bedroom so much, they could actually see that we are no different from them. I am "out" and my family and friends accept me for who I am and not what I am - I am no different from anyone else just because I am gay. It still amazes me that people can be so ignorant but that is just the way they were brought up. I was raised to respect all people no matter the color, orientation, etc. Obviously the poster here's why is the one with the agenda.
What sounds wrong about it. There are plenty
on this board who are exactly the same. I am no different. As I type this he and I have been together most of the day in my work room just being together. No work for either today and we are going out in a short while as I am treating him for his b'day dinner. There is more love here that the law allows.
Are you blaming voters for indiscretions of elected officials?
Why comdemn the voters of a state who elected a man who had no prior history of any bad acts and actually stood for prosecution and punishment at the highest level? Yes, he is now a hypocrite, but do voters have crystal ball?
And are you blaming Hillary for her husband's indiscretions? Do you base ability to run government on any level on whom someone sleeps with?
So, what about the state of Idaho who brought you Larry Craig? Should we start wiretapping all elected officials of that state too? One bad act equals condemnation of all?
I am not at all condoning what Spitzer did. One thing I can't stand is a hypocrite. If he broke the law, he should be punished and suffer any repercusions. Obviously his family is suffering. His wife looked as if she aged 10 years overnight.
Anyhow, I could care less who elective officials sleep with (within the law) as long as they do their job and don't tell me who to sleep with.
Sounds good to me. I am going to get in that car and go or go with a travel group. Life is too
short to wait around on other people for whatever. Probably plenty of people to talk to. I just got out of the habit of going alone actually and it is time to get back into it. Sometimes I agree you go with people and spend more time worrying if they like where you wanted to go than doing what you want. Yep I am going to go for it.
Keeping that part of my life separate sounds best -
I have been asked on dates but just have not been interested. I feel stuck just wishing we could all be a normal family again (the 4 of us). I even think ahead to when I'm a grandma down the road and still can't picture me with a new man! I don't know, maybe I'm just destined to remain alone unless I met the guy who was a perfect fit with my kids.
I have a life, a great life at that. I just happen to include my canine family
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You ead my response wrong, terribly wrong
I am trying to ask what does she think it will help, not being nasty- tell me and I will try this. I would stand on my head and gargle peanut butter if I thought it would help - I wanted to know why a letter? They are thumbing their noses at the courts - commanded to appear- I was there and they werent.
You may be, from the sounds of your posts, sounds like an *illegal*
and that in itself is a crime. Nobody else would take 65.00 for an entire day slaving/laundry, heavy cleaning, etc. LOL. Nah, I don't think so. I'm just saying, what it sounds like to me. : )
He sounds wonderful...sounds like you two have a relationship (sm)
based on love and nothing superficial at all. I'm glad you appreciate him and are so grateful for him. Best wishes & continued happiness to you both :-)
for the life of me..........sm
I mean this just does not make any sense. I had an adjuster come out who looked to be right out of high school, looked at our roof, said it had a LOT more years left on it. I went right to the phone, called my company, said to send someone out that knew something about a roof. I got 3 estimates from roof companies and an estimate to redo one of our bathrooms where it was leaking through. When I threatened to go public with how many roofs were put on homes and checks paid in the field, at the owner's home, standing in their yard, and knew this folks didn't need a roof, then they actually gave me enough to replace our roof. If I sound bitter, I am. This is ridiculous. I cannot help a hurricane blew through, but one could argue spilling bleach in one's floor is their fault, not nature. My mother has an old home, over 90 years old. She has done the best she can with what she has, but when they came out and told her that she would have to pay a deductible to fix part of her room, and then another deductible to fix another part of her roof, because both problems didin't come from the hurricane (like they know this for fact), I blew a fuse. I went ballistic on them. She did get a check in the field from an adjuster at first, but it wouldn't even cover removing the old roof, let alone replacing it with a new one. After the hurricane, she had leaking in several rooms in her home. I pitched a hissy fit. They then came back out and I got a roofer to meet with them, and she then got enough to actually replace the roof and supposedly to fix the ceilings in her house....though I don't think it would cover all that. I called our state insurance commissioner and let into him.....I told him I would expose the garbage going on. People 1 to 2weeks after the storm getting all kinds of paid repairs, but those of us who had to wait later on down the line for an adjuster, were being told they couldn't find a problem. No, the money started flowing out like a river, and then after a few weeks, they start telling their adjusters to tell anyone else they don't see a problem. Bull!
Her life was more...
than Stephen King and John Grisham together could have conjured up. Maybe Howard Stern was a plant in her life by the millionaire's family or maybe someone else close to her was planted by his family. I don't know, but it is the most sensational story I've ever heard in my life.
life
I knew her from when she worked on the North side near the airport. She had Daniel with her at the motel not far away. I was a waitress and we had a meeting for all the employees of a new club and she came and had Daniel with her and I had my son (now almost 19) with me and they played for a bit and she would come to my house on occasion with him.
To be totally honest when in the clubs people are introduced as "family" so I dont know if her "sister" was actually her "sister".
I was a different person back then and unlike her I was able to get away from all of that. I wish things had worked out differently for her and especially for Daniel he deserved so much more.
I hope for Daniellynn??sp?? that she has her mothers spirit and tenacity and her brothers sweetness so that she can see through all this and know that her mother and brother loved her very much.
too bad; it's not WHAT you know in life..nm
Get your own life!
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Just another day in the life of...
I just read on MSNBC that China executed the ex-head of the Food and Drug Agency for taking bribes to okay substandard drugs citing, "Such cases have brought shame to our administration and revealed serious problems in approving antibiotics blamed for, at least, 10 deaths and other substandard medications." I sometimes wonder how much this sort of thing is going on in the rest of the world??
and Not in MY LIFE...........
Its her life though
You can't plan someone's whole life for them, or tell them they are ruining it because they have chosen a different path than you chose for them. She has to make her own mistakes and learn things in her own way. What you might call a ruined life could end up making her very happy in the long run. You do not have a crystal ball in that regard. Everyone has had a "bad boyfriend" or several and its a learning process. You can't choose who someone else is attracted to.
When I had children I realized they will not be a carbon copy of me, they will have their own experiences, feelings, etc. from day one. I made up my mind when my child was little that even though I might not like or agree with my child's life choices, I'm just going to have to grit my teeth and bear it. Its about what makes them happy, not about what makes ME happy.
Oh I want her life!
That is so cute! Anyone else allowed in that chair, or is that her's?
You know, I saw that plastic snowman in the window straight off! We had one like that when I was a kid too! I think we had a halloween decoration or two made out of that same funky chippy plastic. Very retro! Thanks for posting the picture!
She's got the life!
A vet told me years ago when I took in a young stray cat that the strays "seem to instinctively know the best places to show up" so they can have a good home. I think he's right! Looks like she picked the perfect home!
My life now could not be better
I am at a point in my life where I do not have to answer to others, can do what I want, have money to travel, don’t have to work 3 or 4 jobs to make ends meet, in fact working part now, have money in the bank, a loving husband, my daughter, family out of state. No one makes your happiness- only you can make it. I do not count on my children for happiness- I wish them well and that is all I do. They are on their own and hope they continue to be able to. I feel so blessed every day- I thank the good Lord above for my husband, he is a jewel. My daughter loves her stepfather - he had a birthday recently and she left him a message wishing him Hbirthday and tells me she is happy for my happiness. I would not wish to return to my earlier years for anything, so glad I am where I am in my life now. Totally blessed woman.
that was my life for the day, thanks.
I could see me wishing I HAD done all that preparation! If I ever go on safari, I'm taking you with me!
Life was fun up until about age 8,
and then it started getting more complicated.
From those early years I remember wonderful summer nights in Wisconsin with the windows open and cool breezes coming in, the June bugs hitting the screens, summer pajamas. I remember riding bikes and pretending they were horses. I remember shopping for fall clothes when we were lucky enough to get some instead of having them all hand-made from ugly Jiffy patterns. I remember the WI State Fair and winning 3rd and then 2nd prize in the twin contest there. I remember vacationing in cottages in Vermont when I was 4. I remember climbing our maple trees and being about 50 feet high and that was a normal thing to do.
I remember my first kiss from a boy when I was 3 and he was 2. He tried to talk me into walking down the sidewalk to watch a store being constructed and I had to explain my mom wouldn't let me do that.
From later years I remember good times camping with the girlscouts and the time we found a secret place to go near our house where there was a grove of sumacs you could sit under to get away from the world.
You know, we all have needs in life, and
recognition is one of them. Good for you for doing something beneficial for animals, and it doesn't hurt the animals that you'd like others to know you have done something nice in life. I know the Bible says that kindnesses done in secret will be rewarded in heaven, but life is tough and to get through it, I don't see why we can't have a little pleasure or satisfaction out of life now and then to help make the druggery of life worth putting up with. If you want rewards in heaven, you can do something else anonymously, I suppose.
Hers and your life may be - sm
a lot shorter than you think since he has been screwing up his courage and back to banging on her door, etc, and he carries a gun, not a good combination.....get the restraining order, find out how to make it permanent, video tape everything he says and does on her property (with date/time stamp), as poster above said document everything, they can pull phone records and see he calls you and her 30 x a day, etc., call the cops every time he comes and harasses, the cops will take care of it I hope.... they might not like it but that is what they are paid to do so use them, I would just call them when he threatens suicide, don't tell him, just do it, and video tape the threats, etc. Good luck.
oh, get a life.
Just a few observations from living in the south. I never said anything about eating squirrel, rabbit, etc. Someone else must have gotten to you before I did for you to be so defensive. Thought true southern belles were sweet! Or is that a generalization that is wrong also?
I will tell you and from how my life has gone
my life was so down at 1 time but rut was what I called it. I too was the entire breadwinner, had a househusband. I did it all and not a cent from him, everything in my name but I felt like I was the person in charge, I felt superior, I really did. I was supporting 6 people at 1 time, everything (these were his g'children as well as my own daughter who lived with me). He died, I remarried and now I have a person who helps me everyway, financially as well as supportive. The other husband was a real dog, ran around on me and caused me so much stress. It was like a 1000 pounds lifted from my shoulders when he died. I never wished that but when it happened that is how I felt. My life is wonderful now. I am saying, the support and love I feel alone is priceless. I still work and hubby pays the bigger bills, I catch the smaller ones. I know where you are, I have been there, I have struggled, I have been stressed but it can and does turn around a lot. I know this. Probably with him it is like just another child around taking care of them, huh? I have gone from much abuse to none at all. Here are good wishes your way.
I cannot believe for the life of me that
this so called mother put another child thru such as she did. The raping and killing of that precious child. How could she? I would probably be glad to hand her some knife blades if I had them available and could get to her. Hopefully they would be extremely sharp enough to cut her throat ragged, sounds good enough for me.
Please don't take this the wrong way
but after reading your note and the way he is "flirting" - sounds like he's thinking below the belt. Unless that's what your're interested in also he could be trouble.
Um, wrong!!!
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what is wrong with you (OP)???
How in the WORLD is playing peek-a-boo with your child ICKY?? Wow, hope you aint a mom..........................
it is very sad, but you are wrong about these
horses being exploited. I have horses. I have been part of the horseracing business and my husband's life was spent riding racehorses. These are very well-taken care of animals, and by nature love to run. They generally work for minutes a day (except on race day) and then are pampered the rest of the time. There are exceptions, but these horses are very much loved by those that work with them. There was absolutely no monetary benefit to keeping Barbaro alive. They could have collected huge amounts of money through their insurance had they put him down right away. They could not breed this horse; Tb's cannot be AI'd. They tried to save this horse because they loved him and he had poured his heart out to run his best. Just yesterday after watching the Sunshine Millions races, i told my husband that they've tried long enough to save him, that it is time to put him down. I agree with that decision.
wrong -- MOST don't end up this way.
Many of these horses go to working ranches, competition of other kinds, like barrel racing, etc. There are also numerous organizations set up by the racing assocation and others to find them homes in the general population. If you really want to know where much of your packing plant horses come from, look at the BLM, wild mustangs. They sell here for $25. yup, even bred mares. So these people that have no heart, buy em and turn them around for a profit at the packing plants. BTW, a feed lot is generally a term for steers in a concentrated lot being fed-up for slaughter, and horses are used there to work the cows.
VERY wrong! What would
you think if you caught your husband in the same situation. It seems to have become an addiction. Stop now cold turkey. Read the 5 love languages book and see if you cannot reconnect with your hubbie or go get some marriage counseling.
Is this right or wrong?
I am a female in my early 40's and I have never been married and do not have children.
With every job I've had, some people feel the need to interrogate me about why I've never been married.
I never bring up the topic myself.
I usually answer, I've never found any one, maybe I will meet someone, etc.
I recently started a new job and have told co-workers when they ask if I've ever been married, I tell them I am divorced.
Now, I barely hear a peep about being single, whether these folks tell me they wish they were single or complain about their kids.
I just think it is rude to ask someone why they have never married. I would never ask someone why they married their spouse.
Is this right or wrong?
It's definitely wrong.
That you're so good in bed that limiting yourself to just one man would be a crime against humanity.
Then ask them, "Which one is YOUR husband, by the way?"
So everyone else was wrong, U only one to get it right? nm
nm
You are so wrong
As a former teacher, I'm appalled at your ignorance. Teachers start at salaries lower than truck drivers. Of course it varies from region to region, but generally it is about $28k to $29k. Some of these positions require a master's degree or a specialist degree, which is above the Bachelor's degree.
As far as the hours teachers work - they are really never off duty. They have papers to grade, meetings to attend, clubs to sponsors, committees to serve on, parents to phone, write, email, and and websites to update daily. Then, there are the workshops and/or college courses they have to attend to keep their credentials current.
Summer vacation? Who teaches summer school? Who works 1 or 2 jobs to supplement the lack of income for the 2 summer months, to keep up the student loan payments, take a college course or a workshop mandated by the school district or the state dept of education?
Then, there is the fact they aren't allowed to be human. If a teacher is seen drinking in public, smoking in public, or smacking their own child's bottom, they are bound to be pilloried by some self-righteous citizen.
You need to shadow a teacher for a week and then coime back and tell me how easy the job is and how well paid they are.
If it were easy, everyone would be doing it and we wouldn't have the teacher shortage we have.
Did I mention the number of teachers who are assaulted and permanently injured by their students every year? I'm waiting for 60 Minutes to do a story about that instead of the extremely rare but so publicized cases of teachers having sex with their students. Anyone else notice that it's the female teachers who get the publicity? I know a lot more male teachers having sex with their students - of both sex - than female teachers.
Nothing wrong with that-
it sounds like my friend who comes over to my house and hangs out with me and cleans my house for me. Sometimes I give her money when she needs it and I can afford it; Also she drives my other car and I pay the registration and insurance on it. She is unable to work and the amount of disability she gets is impossible to live on.
There's something wrong with her, all right! nm
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Nothing wrong at all with it sm
The Clydesdales live at Grants Farm in St. Louis, a wonderful place to take children. The Budweiser story is rich with American history between President Grant and one of the founders of Budweiser's daughters - we took our 12 and 7 year old on a tour of both Grant's Farm and the Budweiser factory. The horses are beautiful a part of American history dating back into the 1800s. I would guess this box is worth far more than the $20 you paid for it.
My 2 cents.
So what's wrong with that?
How about what everybody uses wrong - me and I.
And it is always her and I or my husband and I or my daughter and I, no matter what the context.
Are you going with Mary and I to the show? WRONG!
She gave a nice gift to my husband and I and the kids?
WRONG!
And everybody does it and it drives me crazy. The RULE is so simple, just drop the first person or reverse it in your head, and there's your answer.
Are you going with.....ME?
Are you going with....me and Mary?
You wouldn't say, Are you going with I? Nor, are you going with I and Mary?
Please, people!
Thank you :)
lol
No you were not wrong, and if it were me (sm)
you better believe I'd be touching his stuff, moving it around, whatever would tick him off the most. Childish? Sure is, but so was what he did.
I think you are 100% wrong on this
The stories we are hearing now are so out there. I was born in the 40s and never, ever heard such crap when I was growing up, young teenage, young adult and so forth and I have always stayed up with the news, etc.I was just complaining of the same this morning about what people are doing now, school teachers having sex with 10 year old, people throwing their lives away for ?? I can honestly say these things NEVER happened in the 50s, 60s, 70s like they are happening now. I have lived these years and remember well. I have been aorund the block and so glad I don’t have young children now. Asking or telling them to move would make no difference with the kind she is talking about. A lot of kids killing now just for you saying anything to them. I, myself, would have called the police and got them to intervene. Saying something only sets you up for something worse.
So what's wrong with being gay? - nm
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Yes, I'm wrong - UR right sm
I overheard a conversation at the butcher's about a weight loss product which was totally mispronounced and the conversation was truly disgusting about the person's side effects. My appetite was ruined. I didn't quite get the name. You are right, it is another product which name escapes me right now. I hear so many that I do get confused. I just wanted to check on these disgusting symptoms. Never mind, thanks!
only way to go wrong with B&B is if (sm)
the girl has perfume sensitivies. Achoo.
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