Sorry to say it, but life doesn't always turn out how we would expect.
Posted By: Me, too. on 2009-03-06
In Reply to: What should I do? - sm
My DH and I have been home together for over a year now. We both lost our jobs, and we're both working part-time at home now. Sometimes we drive each other nuts and need a break. Sometimes it feels like we're joined at the hip. We often finish each other's sentences. Other times we just stare at each other because we have nothing new to discuss. It's definitely brought us closer instead of driving us apart. We have a lot of common interests, and we're motivating each other to pursue new career fields. We do take the time to get out of the house once in a while.
More and more people are working from home now. The problem is that the home worker needs to not isolate him/herself. Sounds like your DH has done that. Doesn't he have any friends or hobbies? Any outside interests?
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I think the lyrics come from the book of Ecclestiastes.
Hey, have at it. If you want a lazy, apathetic, not affectionate, doesn't listen, doesn't make
can reach him!!! Let me know if you're interested.
Do you expect...
that an adult who was never taught to shake it off as a child suddenly knows how to do it just because they've become "of age"? At what age do you suggest we teach people that suicide is their own responsibility instead of someone else's?
Did they say when we could expect this?
I could definitely use $1,800.
Well you know, it always happens when you least expect it but (sm)
But you have to at least be out there to ever meet anyone. If nothing else, there are men who like to have just email friends. There is a free dating site called plentyoffish you can go just check out. I have a newly divorced friend who has met some people to date on there. But there are always people who just want to talk also. Or maybe start out with a male walking buddy, something like that.
I have a life, a great life at that. I just happen to include my canine family
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Why do people expect
You to do something for them, when they know there is no way in @#$% you can do it.
Why am I still here?
Sometimes it is necessary to explain what you expect
Sometimes it is necessary to explain what you expect. Maybe he will or cannot fulfill all your expectations. But maybe he'll learn and also, maybe, you will learn that all your expectation might not be fulfilled.
I'm sorry, but what do you expect the shelters to do? sm
I worked in an animal shelter for over two years. We go a lot of feral cats in at the shelter. If they were somewhat friendly, then yes we usually put them up for adoption under the title of "good barn cat." If you can't get near them, then there really isn't anything to do BUT to put them down. There is no use endangering the people at the shelters OR the other animals at the shelter with a cat that has been wild too long to tame. JMHO, sorry if it irks you.
Believe me, I am a HUGE animal lover (hence the reason I worked at the shelter for so long). I don't like to see any animal suffering, but sometimes it is necessary. 
What do I expect the shelters to do?
I am not their boss so I can not say what I expect them to do, not up to me. I only do what I can do. I don’t know where you live but here the animals are not kept in so called shelter for 3 days, then put down. This place kills animals twice a week, mostly pits. I don’t take animals to shelters because here the outlook is very bleak for them. I do what I can helping out the furries. What the shelters do is not up to me. Where did you get the idea I expect the shelters to do anything??
It doesn't make me mad but it doesn't sound intelligent either (sm)
I am sure if all of those people who were aborted were living, some would be good and some would be bad, in the same proportion as there is good to bad now. Your statement makes no sense. So somehow the babies who were aborted were meant to be aborted because they were bad seeds? Whatever. Sorry, that's just silly.
It doesn't always work that way though - some give but it doesn't come back like that nm
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Just don't expect a luxurious room unless you are sm
willing to pay big bucks. Most hotel rooms in New York City are small. The assumption is that people don't spend much time in them, but are out and about. Plan on at least about $200 per night. Maybe a little less if you book far in advance.
You need to go back inhouse is you want or expect that. sm
Problem is, as you know, inhouse has now gone to a company. "Deserve"' has nothing to do with anything out here. If you think so, I invite you, form a union.
Until we have anything near to that. you sign a contract, or no contract, and you agree to cover certain hours, on certain days. That is the way it is.
That is an extremely fair pay and I would expect
them to do a great job for that. I have had the same problem with them starting out good and then having to go behind them like you said. I would first start out clearly stating what you want done and that you expect a good job consistently, even 6 months down the line. That is what I've been telling everyone I've talked to is that I need a consistent job each time.
If you expect $60K to rain down from heaven think again
My Bible tells me that the Lord will provide (and has provided) for all of my needs, it does not say he will send money raining down for me whenever I get myself into excess debt. Rest assured that the Lord will provide the faithful with all that they need and plenty of what they want. It is your right to believe otherwise, but do not step on my Christian beliefs in the process.
Luke 12:28, "If then God so clothe the grass, which is today in the field, and tomorrow is cast into the oven; how much more will he clothe you, O ye of little faith?"
I think we expect that kids won't like veggies, and ....
I think that generally, in this country we do a very bad job of cooking vegetables. And, I think that we just generally expect that kids don't like vegetables. I grew up eating a Mediterranean diet. My grandparents and most of my neighbors were Italian immigrants. We lived in a part of NJ where you could grow just about anything. We had lots of fresh vegetables, lots of fish, and my grandmother made all of her pasta by hand with a combination of white flour and semolina. I don't think any vegetable was cooked longer than a minute or two, and there were always piles of vegetables at every meal. It was just part of the diet.
I have a Korean foster son, and he enjoys things like smoked squid legs and seaweed. It's just the normal diet for his culture. Kids in other countries eat all sorts of things that Americans consider ghastly. So, really, I think it's more just our culture. Americans tend to give kids more bland, smooth foods for a longer time, and then later, the fast food, high-sugar, high-fat culture kicks in. It's just so bad for all of us. I remember thinking that roasted peppers were the best thing in the world, and I clearly remember eating them for lunch when I was too young to go to school. I don't think you'd find too many American parents who'd consider roasted peppers toddler food! LOL
That's my theory, anyway.
Thanks both of you! I do expect to make some people mad (sm)
Don't really care. My enough button has finally been pushed!
I cannot stop laughing! You mean you actually expect me to SM
keep the SAME PICTURE??? LOL! At least if I endure this today I have a slight CHANCE of a better one!! 
I live in PA. . . not sure of my options, but I'm headin' for the mirror right now to FIX STUFF!!! 
"If you expect less than perfection, that is what you'll get?"
That is pathetic.
Someone should report you.
I would expect your choice to go tonight and the reason?
It seems to me that anytime a contestant in any way wants to refute what a judge, especially Simon, has to say they do not last that much longer. I thought performance last night sounded off tune several times. I expect Danny to continue on as he is a big favorite with the fans. Adam, don't care for him and the rocker chick, not at all.
Public board. Expect many different kinds of posts.
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What else would you expect in a state that brings you Hillary Clinton.
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Well I got a notice from the IRS that I could expect my stimulus check by May 30 and I didnt
get it today. I will get mine by mail. I wonder how far off it comes from when they say it will come.
Your turn
Can anyone's life possibly be as boring as yours obviously is?
NOPE!
:) :)
Okay, go ahead and post - Your turn!
Maybe you could turn it around
for yourself. Look at it with a different perspective. Do something to help someone else to make yourself feel better. God bless you!!  Something I did was donated money to WorldVision they have a wonderful gift catalog that helps people around the world with things like seeds for plants, wheelchairs, etc. It is okay to have the blues at times, I love this time of the year but have difficult days during this time of the year as well. It is okay! Take a day at a time and enjoy. 
Certainly you CAN turn them in but not a law to do
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If he did, it would probably turn out like
Taylor Hicks, don't hear much about him.
Don't you think if his dad was willing I would turn to him first? (sm)
Do you really think you are the only person who knows right from wrong and has values? You have no idea how hard I try to do the best for my children in every aspect. I went to four marriage counsellors, talked pastors, read books, prayed and begged my husband to make our marriage work. His mother had cancer and I waited two years for her to get better so that I would not add to everyone's strife. Now his mother is sick again with cancer, found out after I left, and she has called me and expressed that she understands why I left. I let my childrenspend the whole Easter weekend with her and their dad even though I missed them terribly. I am really a good person. I'm also very offended.
would you turn this other mom/son in?
The case where the 13-year old boy has cancer and his parents don't want him to take the chemo/radiation treatments, so she took off with him. They want Native American holistic help instead. If you saw them, or knew where they were, would you turn them in?
Gas - when you turn it off - it goes off...
Do you want us to turn off the T.V. when there is coverage?
The infamous and famous make the news. It is difficult not to form an opinion after such controversial information is revealed.
This stuff would not turn me on, would it you??
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Turn on some music (sm)
go to a tanning bed if you do that sort of thing...maybe after work? Sounds like Seasonal Affective Disorder?
Has our country taken a turn for the ...
Our once great country, I afraid, has just turned a corner for the worse. I have watched as the mentality of our country has gone from setting your mind to something, working hard, and you can accomplish it to giving up, sitting back, and letting somebody else take care of them.
I was brought up, as many were, with a good work ethic that was instilled in us by our parents. With the idea that if you want something you had to work for it, and by working for something you learned quickly the difference between wants and needs.
There were always incentives for a person to strive to better themselves. Whether it were financial incentives, or just the pride you gained in knowing that you did something yourself, it didn’t matter.
I wasn’t long ago that people had that “small town” mentality, and everybody knew their neighbors. And those neighbors helped each other out, in any situation, it was just what you did. And people were so proud that some times help would have to be disguised, you remember the lines like..”Mom made more stew than we could eat, could you help us out by taking it so that it doesn’t go to waste?”
But, somewhere along the line those thoughts of some (I guess now the majority) have changed. Some how, if somebody works hard to gain something others feel entitled to have the same things, even if they didn’t have to go through the struggle to earn it. Some how, things like big screen TVs, cell phones, and shiny new cars have wrongly slipped from the “wants” list to the “needs” list.
Somewhere the incentives to strive for betterment have been replaced by incentives to be lazy. The easy way out and hand outs are now the norm. The feeling of pride about being self sufficient is supposed to be replaced by guilt for having more than others.
The “small town” mentality is gone and our neighbors have turned into strangers. People no longer help out their neighbors or even themselves, instead they sit and wait for the government to come solve things for them. And when help does come they complain that the help wasn’t good enough or didn’t come fast enough, the pride is gone.
Well, I refuse to think that way, my small town roots and work ethic runs to deep. I refuse to let somebody take care of me while I am willing and able to take care of myself. I will continue to meet and know my neighbors and help them out when they need it. I will continue to work hard to take care of my needs and by doing so, my wants will take care of themselves. I will continue to volunteer for things and give to charities of my choice regardless of what the government wants to take away from me and give to the undeserving.
My hope is to change the thinking back to the way it was. The sun will rise again tomorrow, I’ll keep doing what I do, and this country can be great again….at least in my little corner of it…
How did it turn out, what did you bring???
Love to know!
it was about 3 years ago and if I can turn him in I want to (sm)
I have been upset with him for years for keeping me from turning my husband in. I thought I had to wait for another major incident before I could report anything. Can I actually go back now, 3 years later and report him? Because I would like to.
You said when you turn gas off- it goes off, welllllllll
not all the time. I had left the home, hubby came home and heard the clicking sound. Now I know why he tells me just to stay out of the kitchen. Clicking, what clicking. I don't hear any clicking......
We have a 48 hour turn on our Paps
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oh puh-LEEZE!!! Turn the channel if you don't like it. nm
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People don't turn gay, they either are or they aren't - sm
so either he is bisexual or he is gay but married you to appear normal, or maybe he wanted kids and figured that by marrying a woman that would be the only way he would ever have children. First thing I would do is go get checked out medically by your OB/GYN for STDs, HIV, etc. If your sex life is less than wonderful then he is probably gay, if it is great then he is probably bisexual. I have a friend (male) who is bisexual, while he likes sex with women he prefers men. Obviously it is time you had a very serious talk with your husband and don't be snowed by his explaination which I am sure will be quite inventive. No straight man would be caught dead looking at gay porn (unless it is 2 women) or calling gay sex lines. I hope there are not children involved because that is going to make this harder for you than it already is.
Seriously, no law. You dont turn 1099 into the IRS.
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Weight watcher turn off
I checked out their program this past Friday. I hate when the receptionist starts trying to tell me how losing at least 10% of your weight will do this and that. Being in the medical field I feel that I could put more in than she would know, such as excessive weight can play part in some cancers, high blood pressure, diabetes and on and on. I got the feeling that when I mentioned I worked in the health field and then started to say what else weight supposedly plays a big role in she did not care for. I really do not need lecture from lay person.
Why do most people turn Christmas
Into such a fiasco? Christmas should be for the little ones who believe in Santa Claus and whose eyes light up when they see the presents underneath the tree. Getting gifts for grownups is ridiculous. You are celebrating the birth of Christ not your family!! Get a grip - 
she could turn into a mercedes nichols if they don't do anything about it.
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Upside down tomatoes, how do they turn out?
I love home grown tomatoes but do not have a garden. I have seen some of the ads for the upside down ones and thought I might could do those. Anyone had any luck with those?
We actually turn down the volume when Adam
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Turn of the century in New York.
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And I think he brain-washed Anna, got her to turn
against her mother, got her to go to the Bahamas, knowing good and well he was not the father- if he were do you not think he would have DEMANDED a DNA some time ago?? So simple if you think about it. He did not give 1 at the end and last night when his family was on Entertainment Tonight, I could tell by the way they were talking was not his, telling how they hated for the kid to be taken away- it is NOT his kid. He was the same as kidnapping the child, otherwise like I said the DNA would have been done at the beginning. Use your senses, ok?
I turn off the food channel when she comes on. I cannot deal with her at all. I would much rather
watch anyone else on their but her.
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