Sorry meant sequins - this is a forum not work - please forgive me for not proofing
Posted By: waiting for the lightning - nm- on 2008-01-14
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Baby Proofing
My friend and her family are coming to visit this weekend. She has a 9 month old who is coming with her, and we have never had a baby at our house. Besides making sure the floors are clean and there are no little things for her to put in her mouth, is there anything else I need to be concerned about? (i.e. spraying certain things, cleaning products, etc?)
Thanks! I'm so excited she's coming! She's like my little niece!
Baby Proofing
Cover your plugs or outlets.
Exactly. This forum is about OUR
opinions. I have been bashed many a time for MY OPINION on something.
I do not care either if he is or not, but I think he is.
I do not think, however, that Simon should be making remarks about his lifestyle choices. Things are getting WAY OUT OF HAND on this show. He was down right NASTY and RUDE to Ryan.
I think you can forgive
but that doesn't mean you have to live with it. I have forgiven my EX-husband. lol
Should I forgive? and if so how??? (sm)
My husband hit me about 4 years ago...he slammed my head into a pole on our carport and pulled my hair, bruised my arms, cursed in my face. It was a shock to me because he had never acted that way before, although he had been somewhat aggressive in the past. It wasn't even a big argument, and I was stunned. I left for a week and made him go to anger management counselling. He went to two sessions, I came back home and he quit going. He has never hit me again. It has been four years. But he was never terribly sorry.... I have never felt the same way about him since. I have never wanted to be intimate with him since. I don't even like him touching me. I have prayed, been to marriage counsellors, tried to change my feelings toward him and I just can't.
It seems ridiculous to me to think of divorcing a man for something he did four years ago but I can't seem to feel anything for him anymore. What do I do?
I think you should forgive them both...
maybe not forget, but try not to hold a grudge. Keep in mind that your mother raised you and loves you the way you love your own children and it probably hurts her terribly that she hears nothing from you. It's Christmas time. If ever there was a time to try our best to be Christ-like, I suppose this is it.
I would definitely forgive them sm
and move forward as you normally would but would be cautious in the future. Should they gossip about you in the future I would definitely curtail your time around them - they could be toxic
Please forgive the typos . . .
Trying to help feed Baby Alive while typing. LOL Apparently Santa did a good thing this year.
I found a forum for you. sm
http://www.medhelp.org/forums/OvarianCancer/wwwboard.html
I happened upon this after reading your post because I have a cyst on my cervix that has me wondering.... I found this forum, I don't know if it interests you, but I just thought I would put it across. I wish you all the luck, and I'm sure you'll be fine with the medical technology we have today! Take care and God Bless fellow MT. 
maybe there should be a hillybilly forum!
with the way this is going.
there's a states forum here, hit TX once there..NM
How many times could you forgive...
Your spouse for having an affair? I just found out that a friend of mine's husband has left her twice for another woman and both times she has forgiven him (this happened before we met). I just don't know if I could do that twice, once MAYBE, but certainly not twice...how bout you?
I say forgive, of course, but forget, NO WAY......sm
To be a true friend and truly care for someone, you first have to respect them and honor their dignity....how can care for anyone, friend, lover, or whatever, if you cannot be TRUTHFUL? How can you say you respect someone whiile blatantly lying to them? As a Christian and hopefully good person, I belive we always have to forgive, but to forget as if nothing had happened, that is impossible, I would think. She betrayed you by lying, not by seeing your ex, that is HER problem if she wants a second-hand loser, but friendship is a sacred bond, I am sure you can forge some newer, better friendships, can you ever feel any confidence in this woman again? Just my firm opinion, I had this done to me many years ago when very young, and although we tried, the friendship was never the same, for obvious reasons. God bless in your decision!
I can forgive, but how to forget?
a few weeks back my youngest son was injured. My mother came by to bring him some ice cream. For some reason something i said or did made my mother angry. I did not know this at the time. My husband and I went to lunch with said child, my mother and grandmother the next day. I noticed they were acting rather stiff and one time hubby, child and I went to the bathroom. When I walked back to the table M and G promptly stopped talking. Confused, the next day I called and asked the grandmother if I had done something wrong. Out of the blue she stated that she didn't think i should not let one child do something without the other (speaking about a birthday party they were BOTH invited to) I laughed and told her they had both been invited, that the child invited all of his friends and their brothers and I would never dream of self inviting my child to a party!!! Anyway I called my mother and told her the same thing. They both still sounded rather stiff. Well along came Thanksgiving. My MIL came over to our house so we didn't go to my grandma's house. My sister in law then told me all the things that were said about me...that I treat my oldest like crap, my youngest is a spoiled brat, etc. and that my grandma was actually CRYING because she believes my oldest is treated so badly. I honestly have NO CLUE where they got all of this!! I was flabbergasted!!! I just wrote them both off and just never really wanted to talk to them. No confrontation, nothing. I didn't even return their calls.
So today my grandma stops by unannounced and begs me to forgive her and that she wants to see my boys some time during christmas. SHe won't talk about the incident, what sparked it or even what the heck my mom thinks is so bad about how i have treated my oldest. I'm at a loss. On one hand I really want to get together with her. She is just going on something that someone else told her about me. On the other hand I feel like my every move will be judged if I am around her with my kids. I told her I forgive her and I honestly do, but i'm not sure how to get past this. I'm having a Christmas lunch Saturday with my brother. Should I invite her or just say to heck with it and not see her?
Posting on a forum
is not completely private and anonymous, as we have to give out our email address.
wrong forum board - this needs to go on
Does anyone use the Chat feature on this forum?
Anyone use the CHAT on here?
and also forum boards seem to be a place to hit..
to hit and run....and not take responsibility for a post....I learned this 11-12 years ago when I first got online - people love to hit and run....especially on public boards/forums.
And you're right - that poster has a whole other set of problems ongoing.....
delusions of grandeur come to mind...........
Have any of you been reading the Politics forum?
I wonder if anyone has been getting any work done.
Dr. Feel here, (not really a dr just play one on this forum)...sm
The only true advice I can give you without knowing you and your situation personally is if you love this man and it is a good marriage, talk to him and figure out the problem. Don't waste time being mad over something that does not involve you and him, or fix what is wrong if it does. My husband, whom I had been with for 20 years, was killed a little less than 2 years ago, and I would give just about anything to have him here to argue with about those sillly things in life or even the really important things.
no more forgive and forget posts
http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20081219/ap_on_re_us/palin_johnston_arrest
...and another member of the Forum Taliban is
You people are nothing but terrorists seeking to impose your private notions of correctness on the rest of the forum population. We will be grateful if you retire to your cave somewhere in Afghanistan.
I was just posting my opinion. That's what a forum is for.
I really, really dislike it when people - especially men - use tasteless jokes to tell a woman what he 'really' thinks and what his intentions are. When the woman gets upset about the CRAP he is talking, he justifies it with, 'I was just joking!' NOT!
Please forgive the double post. Wise NM
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Be the bigger person and forgive! Course my opinion
forgive me-I didn't realize you were the grandparent!
 but I also think you, as a grandparent, can supply all the info to CS....my situation was entirely different and I'm sorry I didn't realize you were the grandparent before I posted...
And God Bless you for taking responsibility for your grandkids, my parents would have done zippo!!  
The poster wrote 4 sentences on an MT forum.
You don't know her, can't judge her. This place is getting so catty and ridiculous.
What makes some people forgive so easily and others not so easy? sm
The reason I ask is that I am in a very unique situation. I have a family member (an in law) who basically hates me. She and I have sort of been at it on and off for 8 years. She's a very mean person, very judgmental, hates everybody. I mean, seriously. It's bad. She rubbed off on me for too long. We were friends! I used to point and make fun at others ONLY when around her. When I finally caught on that she was not a very good influence and that I was so easily pursuaded by her meanness towards other people (backstabbing, etc), I began to keep my distance. And she caught on. Now she hates me. For no reason, really, other than I don't call her anymore, don't hang out with her anymore. And here lately she has been doing evil things to me like returning cards I've sent to her family with a giant "return to sender" on the envelope, getting her sister against me (I mean, come on, how old are we??), etc. She will be at my mother in law's for the holidays with her kids and I am cringing inside. In fact, just today, I received a nasty email from her when I got home saying some pretty mean things, calling me crazy, insane, etc. which I know I'm not, but it hurts anyways to hear stuff like that. She has a very hard time forgiving people, I've seen it over and over in her life, and now it has come to the fact that I need her to forgive me in order for ME to have peace in my life. It's just the kind of person that I am. I am totally willing to look past all the mean things she's done and said the past year and try to move forward positively!
So, fast forward. I've written her an email basically BEGGING for her forgiveness and saying I'm sorry for whatever I've done to hurt you (I know I've hurt her by not wanting to be around her,etc), and told her it wasn't good for us to be on the outs like this. I am pretty sensitive (if you can't tell already), and I really, really, really wish she could get past all of this and just forgive. We all need a little forgiveness, don't we?? What do you think? Why is it that some are so easily forgiven and others will go to their grave filled with HATE? I don't understand it one bit.
I'm not saying I'm any better than she is. I know I'm not. I just don't have an evil vein in my body to not forgive people and I HATE when others talk about others behind their backs. It's mean. I grew up around that stuff and once I reached adulthood and realized that I didn't need to talk about others to make myself feel better, I hated being around it. Give me some advice. Should I send the letter?
Please help me. Would you send it? She obviously needs love. What would you do? Would you just tell her to forget it and move on or would you be like her and hate back? 
YIKES! I shoulda proofread before posting. Forgive all the typos and omissions!
My wife doesn't let me hang out on a forum dripping with all you gorgeous chicks unattended....sm
And every now and then I catch her eyeing me in a speculative sort of way out of the corner of her eye while idly twirling the little Beretta that I was foolish enough to teach her how to shoot.
Now, I don't say she's actually made any verbal threats. No, no - nothing like that. But it's not too hard to interpret the occasional warning shot that whistles past my head.
Yes - does not work! Hoax if you ask me. MetaboLife doesn't work either.
The only thing that works for me is exercise and eating correctly! No quick fix, unfortunately.
You dont work for them, you work for YOU. If you
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I TRIED to work, WANTED to work, but
So now I have to scramble for the rest of the week, trying to catch up on what I didn't do today. And of course, working today was in hopes of catching up on whatI didn't do last week. This job is a never-ending hamster-wheel of lunacy.
Sorry.. I meant
to say that they will assess a penalty on you this year. If you are unable to pay back the loan amount, prior to the end of the calendar year, the IRS will expect penalty fees. Your 401K company is obligated by law to turn this information over. If you close out your account, expect to have up to 40% withheld.
Meant to add
It seems as though almost all treatments for cancer have side effects which include a possibility of cancer later in life.
Oh, meant to say
I was going for guardenship of my father - set to be filed in court on Monday and he was killed going to see this woman over the weekend. I had no qualms about having the courts to step in, wanted them to because he did not want to listen to me, his only living child and next of kin.
I don't think she meant this towards the OP, but to --sm
the poster above her.
OMG! Meant SIL!!! LOL!!!
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Meant to say IS IT POSSIBLE? NM
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Meant to put JW, not JV
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Meant to ask you below
Could you tell me what an M-team and an S-team are? Also, do you know what an LEA is? It may be that we are in different states and the terms are interchangeable with something I have heard of (I think I read something about an SST team, may not be the correct letters though).
Glad you were able to get things to go your way! We have always been pleased in the past and our son has always progressed very well in their programs, receiving A's and B's on his report cards and major behavior improvements, but they missed the mark on this one, and when my husband signed acceptance of their plan after their refusal to try what we thought would be best for him, he told them what would happen and his prediction has come true.
Perhaps this was meant for OP?
Not sure why you would intend it for moderator--didn't see anything in mods post that you had to stop.
Sorry, I meant --looking at it the right way--- no msg
LOL -Yep, what is what I MEANT to say - sm
Running on no sleep and just not making sense. I stand corrected!
it's exactly what she meant, you know.
nm
Well.....I meant....sm
the time before the first ice age. Kinda of hard to believe that we are heading to an ice age when temperatures around this part of the country can top 100+ degrees in the summer and stay up as high as 70 in the winters. Weird weather.....
Anyhoo.....I also like to melt about a half block of the big block of Velveeta and add a can of chili to it and heat through until bubbly. Really good with Fritos, too!
I meant...
I know someone with a dog that gets loose often, and sometimes it is beyond your control.
Well it is according to how he meant...sm
how he meant it. If he wasn't playing around and was serious then I would be mad. I mean you never want to call your child names.
yes, that's what I meant - Thanks!
nm
(I meant, " CAN'T see...")
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What I meant was...sm
There's no debate because I am not arguing against ESC research.
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