Soooo let's talk casinos and gambling

I had lunch today with my women's golf group at a buffet inside one of the local casinos. I was astounded to see how many people were in there, gambling away, mid-day, mid-week. I must admit, I've never been in a casino before this afternoon, so I am totally in the dark as to what the appeal is.

Any of you here enjoy the games, the gambling, the atmosphere (at least it wasn't smoky!)? What's the draw, cuz I sure don't get it?

• Soooo let's talk casinos and gambling - GabbyChick
  • Gabby, I am with you. I went for the first time in my life last summer. sm - MT and worn out
  • We go every New Years with friends - mtmomof2
  • Sometimes we go. - sm
  • I absolutely love it. We have to drive - sm
    • casinos and gambling - ss
      • I love it too. - MT
        • I love it too. We go a couple of times a month.. - phillygal

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As I said before in another post, I miss everyone so much...

So, I have absolutely NOTHING to talk about.  Love my new job, love that spring is on the way, and I love that my belly is absolutely filled up with pancakes my husband kindly made for me just now...even though it's lunchtime and not breakfast.  I'm one of those freaks that could eat breakfast-type foods at every meal. 

...and that reminds me that it's almost that time of year to order some baby chicks for next month.  Laying hens, not for meat or anything, just eggs and entertainment.  I can't wait for warm weather--it's been a long HARSH winter this year.  In fact, I think we're due for another ice storm at the end of the week. 

I hope everyone who stops by to read my note about nothing finds themselves and their families in good health.  Miss you all, even the ones that can't stand seeing that "Hayseed" name up there. 

I still don't plan on watching it.  When they brought on Rosie, I saw a side of Barbara and Elizabeth that I don't like.  I never cared for Joy so guess the show just isn't for me!!!  I liked Meredith and Star.  The original group made for some interesting, intelligent conversations. Don't need any more crap TV. 

bye bye Rosie

As the Tacoma newspaper headline read, Phinally!  Wish I could skip work and go to the parade...just like when I skipped school in 1980 for that parade. 

Do any of you cat lovers have info/ideas about allergy to cats?  I absolutely love them but immediately start itching then wheezing when I get close to one.  This year my daughter started feeding a stray cat.  A few months later the cat started "talking" to her, and shortly thereafter led 3 little kittens up to her.  Forward 7 or so months to our freezing winter and 3 more darling kittens.  She set them up in a spare bedroom, but of course they are beginning to trapse out and about (4 weeks old).  They are adorable.  The 2 grandsons of course are carrying them all over the house and bringing them to show grandma how cute they are.  So far Benadryl and a lot of CPAP is keeping me breathing.  An allergist told me years ago that taking "shots" did not help with continuous exposure.  In another 3 months or less, hopefully, the weather will be where they can safely be set up outside.  Also my daughter has promised they will all go to the vet and the momma will be spaded, and whatever else needs to be done for them.  But 8 cats!! and they are all adorable.  Help!! Thank you ever so much for any advice/input/experience you have.

on my bedrom walls, I'm thinking a light sage color.  If I paint the walls the sage color, does the ceiling get painted the same or an off/white?  If I paint the ceiling the same color as the walls wont the room feel much smaller and "cave" like?  I have comforter with olive, sage, dark brown colors.  Average size room with windows on 2 walls so there will be light coming in.

Thanks for your ideas.

He is what the shelter called a beagle mix, but if he is mixed with anything I will eat my hat... Okay I do not have a hat, but I would be surprised...LOL.

Here is a pic of him..

[IMG]http://i120.photobucket.com/albums/o182/mamahawn/chip3.jpg[/IMG]. 

I hope your transition is as easy as ours was.  We have 2 other rescue doggies, both lab mixes and female and the three of them were fast friends.  Of course we have no diningroom left with 3 creats in it, but who cares... 

Are those mini-pins!  A while ago I was running with Walter (my dog)  and we came across a lady with 2 mini-pins.  Walter wants to meet everyone and the lady said they were friendly so we let them sniff, but all of a sudden they were all over Walter with little tiny flashing teeth.  Walter yiped like a little baby and skulked away and the lady said "oh my they never do that."  Why do they always say that, like it is my big dog's fault? 

Well anyway, just this weekend I saw the mini pins in her car at the market when by coincidence I parked next to it.  When I opened my door they were up on the dash and leaping at the crack in the window and snarling and barking at me.  I know they could not get to me but I cringed and hustled away.  They looked really scary!  I swear I felt like they could jump up on me and grab on something like my ears or something and not let go. 

But I am sure they are sweet... NOT!  But it goes to show you never know... they are all animals, after all.  And like people all have very distinct personalities, very much formed by their family (the people family, I mean).  I could tell the owner of the mini pins was kind of a ---- well you know, not that nice... she left them in the hot car, after all... and they were pretty much a product of their upbringing.

I too actually think pits have some of the sweetest dispositions I have ever met in a dog. 

Any discussion or decisions about your son's feelings should be done with your son.  This is an ideal situation to guide him in a positive direction.  First of all, you are his mother and always will be.  She may be doing the parenting tasks for now, and should be respected for giving of herself, but she should not interfere in your relationship with your son.  Unfortunately that happens too often in families of divorce these days.

Ask how he feels about what is being said.  Ask how he responds to it...or does not not respond at all.  There may come a time where he listens to the garbage, then can stand up to her and say, "Aunt _____, I appreciate everything you are doing to help me with letting me stay here.  There are some people who would not do what you are doing for me.  But, my mom is my mom and I love her.  She is always going to be my mom and you are always going to be my aunt.  I feel I am lucky to have two different mom figures in my life that I can count on to help me learn how to deal with adult problems."

This sounds really dorky and I'm sorry others were as harsh towards you.  I hope you put your own feelings in check and focus on your son's feelings as those being the ones that should be focused upon.  He will be coming back to you one day, and everything that happens while he is away will stay with him.  How you react is going to have more of an impact than what she says/does, especially when it is negative.

I know something of what you are going through.  I am raising my grandchild.  My ex's family did not speak to me for 10 years, but now that I have custody of my grandchild, for my ex's sake, they have been more genuinely caring and welcoming to me than my own family.  There are a lot of words from the past being swallowed by my ex-SIL.  I have proven that beyond myself, my decisions first reflect the best interest of the child.  Everyone, even the child, feels it and knows it to be true.  From that, respect is being rebuilt.

Good luck to you and your son.

Sit down with him and tell him very calmly that you feel uncomfortable with this situation and ask him why he feels the need to do this. No matter what he says, keep your cool, and do your best not to say anything to make him feel defensive. Just be very clear about your feelings and your desire for him to stop this behavior.

To be honest, I doubt very much he will change, and I don't blame you for not wanting to live with this situation. The reason I am suggesting that you talk to him about it is to make it clear to him exactly what the problem is so that if/when you seek a divorce, he cannot claim that he didn't know there was a problem.

Internet addiction, particularly internet porn addiction, is a serious problem and is not easily "cured". I'm glad the two of you don't have any children. That will make things much easier, at least when it comes to legalities. Emotionally I know it is devastating, and I am very sorry you are going through this.

where my husband and I stand regarding number of times per week/month... whatever.  We are in our early 40s and we do at least 3 times a week and he seriously thinks it should be daily.  I think he gets it more than most; maybe not.

This place is what I mean....

Sometimes I mention to people, that 'someone on the MTStars' said this or that, and they look at me like I have three heads or something!

I just seem to know lots of people who don't even KNOW what a message board is ... just wondering if it's cause I live up here in the boonies?

I would talk to her about getting a restraining order against him and possibly pressing charges for the threats and harrassment.  I know this may sound extreme, but your dad sounds pretty unstable.  I get the idea that maybe you don't want to be the one to turn him in, that's why I suggested you talk to your mom about doing it and go together to do it. 

If I remember correctly, you're married, right?  Is your husband at all willing to get involved and maybe tell your dad to stop.  Maybe he could get through to your dad a little better.

For the short term with the phone calls, I would answer it the first time he calls and tell him before he even starts talking that "I'm working and I will call you when I'm finished."  Then hang up and when you are done, call him.  Lay out the ground rules during that callback -- i.e. talking about mom is off-limits.  Be firm.  If he continues to call you after you tell him you'll call him back, turn the ringer on your phone off.  My phone still lights up, so I can see that someone is calling, but there's no constant ringing to interrupt.  It might take a few times, but be persistent and hopefully it will work. 

Your mom is going to try to defend him, so I think you may need to really tread carefully there.  It's like when you have a kid (or were a kid) if Mom said do this, you did that, just out of sheer orneriness.

Now as to him sending her his debit card number, I'll be shocked and surprised if any repair shop accepts just a number like that for payment.

Have you tried going to the local police to see if they have any info on him or if they know of anything similar happening to anyone else?  You could tell them the bit about the debit card - maybe there is a way to find out if it is stolen or not.

Beyond that, I really don't know what to tell you.  Mom is an adult.  I'm assuming she is a mentally competent adult, so you can't have her committed or anthing like that.  Does she live alone?  This is far out there, but is there a possibility you could get to her computer and put a filter of some sort on that would block him ?  I don't know if that's possible or feasible.

Good luck.

I am the grandma, but I'm raising my granddaughter.  Both parents have supervised visitation, but don't visit.  My ex-husband, my GD's only grandfather, comes to get her every couple of months for a visit either alone with her or with his family.  When this happens, she gets loaded down with presents.  Even though there are other children in the family (although she is the youngest), none of the others are not treated equally.  They all feel "so bad" for what has happened to my GD (granted it HAS been bad), but a special extended family dinner, huge bag of toys and candies for Valentine's Day was just too much for me.  I asked him to please consider and talk to his family about these excesses.  I reminded him that if he/they continued to treat her as "damaged," she will consider herself as being "damaged" and will always have a victim attitude and have the expectation that she should be treated differently.  Once he thought about it from point of view, he understood better and things have cooled down.  They still visit, but the gifts are fewer and not as over-the-top as before.

I think the same thing happens to children of divorces.  The noncustodial family tries to over compensate for not being there as much as the custodial parent.  I don't think your daughter needs to speak to the new "wife", but should try to have a reasonable and nonthreatening talk with her ex about always trying to think what is best for the child...not the adults.  Every time I need to make a decision, I always ask myself "is this in her best interest."  I've had to make some hard decisions, and this philosophy has made everything easier.  Good luck.

bad about the rheumatologist, but compared to where I was a year ago - mine has been a godsend.  He has me taking tramadol for generalized pain and when it gets severe I take hydrocodone (I've only been in treatment since January), he says we'll keep me on this for now as long as its managing the pain and when it doesn't work then we'll change it (so far so good - pain comes and goes - the fatigue is the worst by far and like you said nothing can be done for that), I take 900 mg of Neurontin for the tingling/numbness in my legs/feet, 150 mg of Zoloft and Zanaflex for the muscle spasms.  He also has me walking 30 minutes a day, stretching exercises and once my pool is opened for the summer he has given me a instruction video on some water aerobics to work on to help the muscles.  I really hate that so many people have had failed attempts with the rheumatologist becaue mine has been great - (let me knock on wood that it stays this way)...thanks for the advice though in case something should change and he not be an advocate for my health in managing my pain, etc..I know where to go..

I just bought a Will through Suze Orman's site (love her!), but was wondering about the part where you need to bring 2 witnesses with you to get it notarized. Has anyone done this or know how to go about getting this all done? The people I would trust to go with are in the Will, so what do you do? Can I go to the library or Currency Exchange? I watch her show and finally cracked down to get one since I am 39 with a family. Any experience or advice would be great. You can also e-mail me.

Thanks!