Son's wedding - Grandma is insisting
Posted By: that certain people be invited that our son on 2007-04-23
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does not want at THEIR wedding. How do I, as the groom's mother, handle this. This has put us in a very awkward situation and I am not liking it at all. She calls me and then immediately calls our son and is leaving nasty messages on both phones. Threatening messages, may be a better word for it. By the way, grandma is also my mom.
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When Misha first started insisting on
sleeping outside because the weather had turned cold and she was a husky and she was quite insistent about it, I thought she was too young to be sleeping without her pack. So I would turn on back yard lights to check on her. Sometimes I would see she was lying out there with all her stuffed animals collected in a little semicircle in front of her.
Awwww. I miss her too.
You need to send a wedding gift if you attend the wedding - sm
If possible you should drop it by the brides or grooms house, etc. so you don't have to take it to the wedding, and so they don't have to worry about transporting the gifts from the church or the reception. You should always send a wedding gift if you attend the wedding though.
This wedding, the wedding party will be releasing butterflies!
Apparently, you can buy live butterflies, individually packaged, that can be released after the ceremony. The bride and groom are 65 and 68 years old, for crying out loud and this is their second marriage. This wedding is the craziest thing I've ever seen!
being a grandma
My son-in-law hits the baby. He acts like he is all hyped up on drugs andis really aggressive. There is nothing I can do.
You should give your kids a book about how really smart and gifted children act like heathens when the eat junk food. There are tons out there. Maybe they will take the hint.
my grandma....
Has some money and my mom tries to help her decide what to do with it. I still don't understand what your sister's deal is. Are you implying she WANTS the money when your mother passes away? My mom also speaks about my grandma "losing it", but never mentions MONEY. I think it is right of you to put your foot down with your sister but ALSO discuss the will with your mother. I'm not sure the kind of relationship you have... but I know that my mom can do it with my grandma. I hope you can too
a grandma at 40 wow!
my mom was pushing for that then too but she had to wait until she was 50! ha :)
congratulations and best wishes to your kids and thank your son please for enlisting in the service!
Why should Grandma have to .........sm
help raise 14 kids that her obviously disturbed daughter wants? Grandma raised her child and that child is now a grown adult and supposedly capable of making her own decisions. If she decided to have 14 kids, then she should raise them and not the grandmother.
grandma here...sm
New 1st-time grandma here... I suggest Baby Einstein DVDs, bibs, diapers, Boppy pillow, cloth diapers/burp rags, Onsies in different sizes, books...
I learned from my grandma's and we did that for my FIL.
His service was the best...just friends telling stories about him. I think the reason for the "saving" is because my grandma's funeral was in Iowa. Plus, honestly, I didn't expect that. It was horrible.
grandma care
Does anyone know any good sites for information on taking care of the elderly. My grandmother is 82 and is in a steady decline, but all i find online are places to put her and in care aids. Thanks for any help.
grandma's house
No, I would not make them go - Not all people are meant to be the Norman Rockwell grandma. Why should you subject your children to that? Let her take them for an afternoon or even a whole day if she has something fun planned, then get them before bedtime. I have two grown sons, 31 and 33 years. My older son used to love to go to grandma's house. My younger son hated it. All kids are different. Let them choose. JMHO.
Anything I want - kids are going to Grandma's!
Grandma Got Run Over By A Reindeer (NM)
decision on grandma
I decided to email tell my grandmother i would bring the boys to her house Tuesday to do their Christmas visiting. I haven't contacted my mother, she lives beside my grandmother; maybe she will come over when she sees my car. Who knows?
Thought it was my grandma
We moved into my grandmother's house after she passed away. One morning while I was asleep that paralyzing episode happened to me. I always thought it was grandma's ghost. For years after I had nightmares about it. For some reason I thought she was mad because her things were moved and she wanted things exactly the way she had them.
I am old enough to be a grandma, but had my son very late in life.
I am tired all the time, but glad to have him. I just can't get off the floor when I play with him there. Anyway, paper dolls! And imagination! And club houses we made with chairs and sheets, or boxes. But we had to put everything away when we were finished playing, and only play with 1 thing out at a time. Today I was just thinking, by the time I finish picking up the house, the kids are back home again and the house is trashed. Ugggg. My parents never nagged at me. They did not have to. I knew 4 o'clock meant vacuuming and that I'd have to wash the pots and pans if I were naughty instead of my mom doing them. And there were no automatic dish washers, or even phone answering machines! So much to remember. If my mom were alive today, she would not even imagine the things we have and how computers have changed the world!
My secret to happiness what something my grandma
told me.
My grandparents were opposites. I asked her on their 50th wedding anniversary how they had been able to stay together so long. She told me this:
You can sacrifice things in your life for the person you love and vice versa. But, if the person loves you and is worth loving, they will not require it of you.
my great-grandma did similar
to what i am told the neti pt stuff does. she would have me plug one side of my nose, and have warm salt water in the sink (basin as she called it) and have me sniff that water into one side and then the other side of my nose. then i'd blow my nose. gosh i hated it, but by golly, it unclogged my head when nothing else would.
Grandma has a question: Are those baby slings SM
any good? Are they comfortable. My daughter will be delivering her second child in Novemeber and I wondered if those things are comfortable, as I was thinking about buying her one.
Do babies like them? Do mothers like them? Thank you.
Time to move out of your grandma's house nm
x
Another grandma here and I admire people who have the patience (sm)
to deal with longer hair. I think they have so many more options as to wearing it up, down, whatever. Enjoy what makes you happy. Who the heck made those other people the judge of what is appropriate for our age?
When my grandma died, it was only maybe 2 months before I got my inheritance. sm
Her will was pretty basic and well spelled out, and nothing was contested by anyone. She had been in the nursing home for quite some time and that bill had to be settled first, and her home had to be sold (which it did extremely quickly since we took the first offer). But she died the end of October and it was still winter when I received my check. I don't remember the exact month, just that it was still cold when I was chasing after the mailman, LOL.
Hopefully yours will progress smoothly. Wills can bring out the worst in people, but it doesn't need to.
Thank you very much, I am begining my journey with my 81yo grandma and really needed that. thanks
xx
Should I make the kids sleep over at Grandma & Grandpa's? (sm)
 My MIL frequently asks for my children to sleep over. In the past, I would force them to go a couple of times a year. The problem is they cry and beg me not to make them go, even now when they are 7 and 10 years old. My MIL is a good person, but she doesn't ask them what they want to do, she tells them what they are going to do. "Now you are going to help me make cookies, then we are going visiting." She doesn't do anything bad, but their home really is incredibly boring. They are very active in their community..but it is sort of "all for show" and they like to take the kids around and "show" them to everyone. I do understand this, but you would not believe the begging and pleading and crying I get from the kids not to have to go. Would you make them go? If so, how often?
We've done that! You can bring pets to my grandma's nursing home on certain days (sm)
You have to go through a little evaluation with your animal, but they have cat days and dog days and you can bring your pets. Walter is a huge patient sweetie - 120 pounds of shiny black fur and muscle - he is quite young and very solid and built. Some of the residents love him so much. He will just slowly walk up to someone he feels might be receptive to him, and when they put their hand out he gets under it and next thing you know he has his big head in their lab and they are slowly petting him, over and over and over. It is so heartwarming when you are watching.... I mean literally your heart is so full you can feel it in your throat. I've had to hide my tears every time.
Sometimes a resident, usually a gentleman, will talk about a dog he used to have with the clearest memory.
A funny thing happened when Walter was getting some attention from a women in a wheelchair and he leaned against her and I saw her wheelchair was slowly being pushed across the lawn.
LOL; were you at *my* wedding?
I think it took me almost a year to get them all out - but 100+ is a lot of handwritten thank yous! I know, no excuse ; )
The Wedding
Yes, you are just being petty. Obviously, you love your dad, but really ... What difference does it really make to YOUR life how much he paid for the ring, how much they spend on the wedding, etc.? Rejoice in your dad's happiness and grow up. You only go around once in this life. Let your dad enjoy his golden years. I say, "Good for him - go Daddy!"
Lilly
When is the wedding and where are
you staying?
wedding
Wedding is 05/17 at Mandalay Bay but we are staying at New York, New York - this is my first trip to Vegas and I'm pretty excited. . We are staying 3 nights.
Would you go to a wedding of
a step neice that you have not heard from for over 20 years? I am so against this, plus I have not talked to her mother or aunts for the same amount of time. I cannot afford to get something to wear with the paychecks I have been getting, giving a gift, etc. I think the only reason I was invited was for the gift. I am trying to get out of it but it is my stepfather's granddaughter and he has been very good to me so I would be doing it for him only. How could I get out of this without hurting my dad? It is this Friday and I have done absolutely nothing to get ready for it. Unfortunately, I already sent in the RSVP card for dinner.
Wedding
 If it were me, I would just send a card with a small gift in it. This way you won't have to spend any money buying something to wear. You are probabably right about just wanting the gift.
Yes - the wedding was on TV, he married
he did marry the air-head, he called her princess.
Wedding Ring ?
Do you have more than one? I have a wedding and engagment ring that DH gave me that I used to wear all the time, along with a diamond band my mom gave me years ago. Last summer my mom gave me her engagment ring that she really never wears anymore. Since then, I haven't been wearing the engagment ring DH gave me, I wear the plain gold band I got married in, along with my mom's two rings that she gave me.
DH says he doesn't mind as long as I wear the wedding band that we got married in. I guess it's a superstition thing with him. He understands that I miss my parents (especially my mom), since they live in Florida and we are in New York.
How do your SO's feel about stuff like this? Do they even have an opinion about what rings you wear or don't wear?
She was a wedding present
From my husband to me. When we brought her home she weighed just 1.5 pounds. She was so scrawny. We almost lost her twice and boy did she cost us a fortune, but it was well worth it. We found out she had asthma when she was about two and when I found her she was turning blue. She was on steroids for a long time. She weighed 20 pounds, quite a change from when we first got her. Then she ate fake pine needles from our Christmas tree one year and had to have emergency surgery to get this huge wad of needles out of her intestine. She was the sweetest cat and wouldn't hurt anything or anyone. She used to sleep on my head (on my pilow) which drove my husband nuts. LOL. She purred like a race car. I'll miss that definitely. I still have a, what I call, a wacky 10 year old black cat at home. I think he knows she's gone. Thank you so much.
I had a no child wedding except for immediate - sm
family; so to hopefully appease the very few that could not bring their kids (3 couples) I just had my 2 nephews carry my dress train. We had a swim party reception and I did not want to have to worry about parents getting drunk or inattentive and having a child drown. I knew my SILs would watch their kids as they are both somewhat overprotective, plus they were used to doing this when all the family was over anyways. But the post below is good about the gifts, or maybe directing people to the guest registry; handing out the "favors" or whatever you may have there for the guests.
Wedding shower...
My niece is getting married in August and is having a shower in July. Long story short, they live together, have been for a looonnnggg time now. On the invite, it says "Money preferred" with a bunch of $$$ around it. They're calling it a "greenback shower"...Is it just me, or is this totally disgusting and greedy? Makes me not wanna go. Also, I am not even sure how much to give. We never see them, only at family functions (DH's family.....)...anyway, is it just me that feels this way?
wedding shower
I agree. I think they have a lot of nerve expecting guests to "finance" their life together. Are they getting married after so long just to make some bucks? Or are you supposed to help offset the cost of this wedding? Are they registered? I'd give her a gift (if that's what you'd prefer). If you feel you have to give money, I'd probably stay in the $25.00 range or whatever you feel comfortable giving. Of course, you could always make an excuse and not go. After all, they'll probably want money as a wedding gift also!
Wedding question. SM
Okay, I'm confused as far as the gift process. I am invited to the bridal shower and the wedding and reception. My question is this, do I get two separate gifts - one for the bride for the bridal shower and one for the happy couple for the wedding? This is an older couple (in their 50s) and this is the second marriage for both.
If so, I need some nifty ideas for a bridal shower gift. Nothing naughty like lingerie or sex toys (which would be hilarious) because the bride is very, VERY refined and would not find any kind of humor in it at all. Plus the bridal shower will probably be elegant and tasteful and will make Emily Post proud. So I guess I should wear a bra and show up with a tasteful gift. 
Thanks!
Another wedding question... SM
I posted a question a few weeks back about a wedding I'm about to attend and whether I needed to give a gift at the bridal shower and the wedding...
Anyway, the wedding is this Saturday. I've been asked to be in charge of the guest book, whatever that means. The dress I bought for the wedding is red. Yesterday, I'm told that the bride isn't happy with that and that her wedding colors are periwinkle and some sort of pastel green.
Now, I'm very irritated. I'm told that I'm not part of the wedding party, but they just want me to make sure everyone signs the book. No one told me that I need to try and match the wedding colors and now five days before the wedding, I'm told the bride doesn't like that I have a red dress!!??
I came from out of town for this thing so this dress is the only dress I brought with me! I'm working from my hotel room so we could be here this whole week because my daughter is the flower girl and they needed to do a fitting for her and she had to be here for the rehearsal. Now they are suggesting I buy a new dress?
My response to the bride was if she doesn't like my dress, she can buy me a new one. Now her daughters are telling me I'm being difficult and ruining their mothers special moment. The groom does everything the bride tells him too, so he's not on my side even though he's my family. I have half a mind to get in my car and drive back to Missouri with my daughter and tell them all to take a flying leap!
Am I being unreasonable here?
WOW. Yes what a crazy wedding
Glad you have been demoted to program passer outer. LOL. Butterflies and 65 and 68 years old. CRAZY. Keep us posted about he reception. I am sure that should be a hoot too.
Enjoy yourself. It is almost over. LOL.
BTW - I am going to a wedding Sept 1st. They are going to have a pig roast. How about that?? I am from NJ and never been to a wedding like that before. Should be very exciting. Can't wait.
Going to an outdoor wedding on Sat.
where they are having a pig roast. Never heard of such a thing at a wedding, so should be interesting. Sunday going to my sister-in-law's summer home, as she calls it, (her trailer at a campsite). She loves it there and then laboring on Labor Day. Have to work. Enjoy the unofficial end of Summer.
Wedding poem? sm
DH and I are renewing our vows for our 20th anniversary. At first we didn't think this was going to happen but just found out it is a go and it is happening Wednesday. Would like for our daughter to read a poem. It will just be DH, DS, DD, myself, the preacher, and the Lord. Any suggestions. Am also posting on Christianity board for additional suggestions for DS. Thanks for any help!
What about Betsy's Wedding???
It is kind of an older movie with Molly Ringwold when she was very young and Alan Alda. This has got to be about the funniest movie I have seen. Also get Big Trouble with Peter Falk and Beverly De'Angelo, Robert Stack and others. This and In-Laws are about the funniest movies I have ever seen. Anyway we all get down in the dumps at times. I kind of dread the holidays sometimes because my sister's husband is so very rude and they are all very materialistic -- all they care about is money -- it is kind of hard to be around people like that. His mother just recently died and I don't think he shed one tear or even cared. It was just business as usual. Kind of shallow person. Oh well. Takes all kinds to make the world they say. So you just cheer up girl. Hope you feel better really soon.
Suzanne
destination wedding
I've thought about this - with just a few friends/family. . maybe a cruise or somewhere you could spend honeymoon?
This is just a simple wedding. Nothing more,
X
Met at my brother's wedding.
My Big Fat Greek Wedding.
xx
I have my wedding/engagement rings and now - sm
my mom's. My dad gave them to me after my mom died. However I cannot wear any of them since I have gained 70 pounds since I first married. My rings still fit after 30 pounds but now I just cannot do it. I bought 2 fake bands in larger sizes, but they are too tight now too. I am working now though to lose the weight and with any luck wear my rings again in about 5 months. As far as I know it does not bother him that I do not wear my rings, though once I get thin again we will see if that attitude changes, I have a feeling it may. As for my DH, he has worn his ring about 3 times, a waste of $750 (luckily that was a wholesale price and not retail--I have connections). He works with electron microscopes though, and it is dangerous for him to wear his ring, though he could if he really wanted to and was careful, but then he'd probably end up losing it. A co-worker had his on and an electron beam arched and literally welded his ring and finger to the gun in the microscope. Poor guy had quite a burn on his finger and quit wearing his ring after that. So most of the engineers there do not wear their rings. I do not have a problem with it though. He tells people he is married with kids if the subject ever comes up.
Curious as to who is paying for the wedding?
x
La Venta Inn wedding - what to wear???
I've been invited to a wedding in CA at the LA Venta Inn the weekend of Thanksgiving. I would like some input on what to wear. Looks like a pretty nice place and I know they are trying for a sunset wedding ceremony - like around 4:30 with the reception at the Inn afterwards. I know it gets cool in the evenings, but if anyone has any suggestions on what to wear - I would appreciate it. Sounds like a formal or semi-formal affair. Thanks.
My father's 4th wedding was HUGE
They had a big Victorian wedding. They had a huge rehersal dinner, wedding and reception. She was married once before and had a small wedding. She wanted a big wedding. Maybe your father and this lady want to have a party with their friends and family?
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