Sometimes its not, but other times its great - see message
Posted By: me on 2009-05-26
In Reply to: nm - TThat does not sound that great.
I spoke about the negatives. The stuff I have to "work at". There are other times where we laugh and laugh and laugh through the day. We tease each other, horse around, and laught. We'll watch movies and really enjoy the time. He does do the dishes for me and won't let me do any of that. He said seeing as I work all day he takes care of that and he cleans the bathroom and if I ask him to he'll even vacuum for me. He spends his time in his room doing things on his computer and I spend time in my room working and doing my stuff (and this works for us - we don't have kids). We love doing family genealogy and he compliments me on my quilting projects. He encourages me to do anything I want to and tells me how smart I am and he's glad that I enjoy what I do (I really do think he's going through a midlife crisis right now). So it's not all bad, but I was just commenting earlier on the negatives that I do have to work at to keep the marriage together, and you are correct..sometimes (most of the time) it is not that great. But I've been doing this 26 years and is just a routine now.
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Yoga is great with the stretching, many times chiropractors can really help....sm
mine used to do gentle manipulation, he had one of those "traction" machines to help realignment, and also did accupuncture, I also invested in an inversion table for at time, it stretches out the spine and really feels good! Just be careful with those things! Perhaps before you do anything you could see your doc and obtain lumbosacral MRI? Sometimes it can be an occult compression fracture in the LS spine, that happened to my dad. Hope this helps!
the underlying read-between-the-lines message of the insurance lobbyist's message was (sm)
to, yes, appeal the denied claim. However, she lobbies for the insurance companies. She comes across sounding like she's on the patient's side but in reality she is on the side of the insurance company. The insurance company gets to deny whatever claims they want right off the bat. That leaves the SICK patient (who needs the coverage NOW when they are sick) to have to go through the appeals process. That could take quite a while. Imagine a cancer patient being denied some form of treatment that is going to help them. They now have to go through the appeals process (or pay out of pocket) in order for that treatment to be covered. In the MEANTIME their cancer is progressing. From the point of view of the insurance company, if they drag it out long enough they don't have to pay for it at all. That same insurance lobbyist was on 20/20 a little while back and basically came right out and said that the insurance companies COULDN'T AFFORD to pay for coverage for sick people. She's not on the patient's side.
Oh, please! End times! People have been saying that since the beginning times!
It's just sensationalism. It seems that journalism has gone to a warm place in a handbasket. I briefly majored in journalism back in 1980, and what passes for journalism now would have flunked any of us right our of an entry-level course! It's all sensational reporting, because networks think that brings in the viewers, and thus drives up the advertising price that they can charge during broadcasts.
Another of my pet peeves in "journalism" is the phrase "Unconfirmed sources say . . . " Yeah. Right. Unconfirmed sources is just another way of saying, "Rumor has it . . . "
Next time there is breaking news, listen for it. It's said over and over again, because the networks and stations want to get the news out first. I don't know what happened to fact-checking and pursuit of the truth in journalism, but it's all about getting info out fast, and keeping the public tuned in with the most sensational reports that they can put out there.
Back in the days of the Roman Empire, people were treating each other pretty badly and in unbelievable ways, too. Crucifixion comes to mind. So, I don't really think modern news reports are pointing to end times any more than at any other time in recorded history.
Limbo. Great song, great game. Also,
The girls all line up and walk through a room as if they are modeling on the catwalk. Get a couple of bright colored boa's from the party store. It's a real riot and the kids have a blast especially if a couple of brave boys grab a boa and do it too. We've had many a birthday party doing this and it was totally hilarious.
Wow!! What a great attitude! I love that - great perspective!
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What great determination and help from a great friend! :) nm
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I am sure that you are a great mother and a great cook,
and that you tried everything, now try the 'hunger diet'.
Right away all 3 times...
luckily everything went well all 3 times. My best friend wasn't so lucky and miscarried soon after telling people.
We have been there many times..
and we loved Fort Wilderness camping resort the best. It is a bit pricey but you can barbecue outside or cook (full kitchen) inside the cabin so you do save money there. There is a lot to do right there in the camping resort, fishing, boat and bike rentals, pools, restaurants, an arcade for the kids, snack bar, etc., so just a wonderful family experience. There are also lower *value* priced resorts right in Disney also. But I would definitely suggest staying in a Disney resort; everything is right there; transportation to the parks, etc.
And you can't go to Disney and not go to the Magic Kingdom! Universal and MGM are nice but don't compare, IMO. And Epcot probably is more for older kids/adults.
The kids will love the water parks, Typhoon Lagoon and Blizzard Beach.
Anyway, here is a good website if you don't already have it.
http://disneyworld.disney.go.com/wdw/index
Most of all, HAVE FUN!!!
behind the times
Well, if you're behind the times so am I. My daughter has been taught since she was a baby that if someone takes the time and effort to give you a gift, the least you can do is take the time and effort to send a written thank you. Especially if something is mailed and you aren't able to thank them in person. I have a cousin who is the perfect example. When my husband died 2 years ago, I never got so much as a sympathy card. OK, fine, some people just don't know what to say in that situation--uncomfortable with death or whatever. This year we both have daughters graduate from high school. I was sent an announcement and party invitation which was out of town so couldn't go. But I sent a card and money the same day I sent MY daughter's announcement and invite. Did I ever get a thank you, written or verbal? Nope. Did they send my daughter a card? Nope. My mom went to their grad party and asked if they'd received my card (hoping to shame them) and they just said, "oh yeah, it was just so nice of her." Absolutely no qualms about taking without any gratitude and never reciprocating. I'd sent money because I didn't want to punish the daughter for her parents lack of social skills, but it appears that the apple doesn't fall far from the tree. I can't wait to get a wedding or birth announcement from this girl. Whether she knows it or not, she's received her last gift from me.
end times sm
I agree 200% with you and I am ready to go. All have the choice to believe or not. Yes is been talked about since the beginning of time, but our Bible tells us exactly what the signs are. Besides, even IF it were not true, don't you agree the Christian life is a better way to live than anything else? I believe its true and I don't believe we have much longer here. I am waiting and watching!
How many times are you going
to mention that his father never contributed any money, not a penny? Since you keep repeating it, it must be very significant in your mind. His father never contributed a penny to raising him. Now there is a rift between you and your son because of money. Anybody else out there think these two points are more connected than they may appear to be on the surface?
how many times have you
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How many times does this have
First, you have to find out if you qualify. Then, look online on the IRS website to find the schedule according to your SS#.
Of course, if you didn't use direct deposit for your taxes to begin with, they will send you out a check and those won't be sent out until later.
It is not a crock - we got ours on time, according to the schedule!
DD has had this 3 times sm
and each time a different diagnosis. First thought to be a swollen lymph node (from cat scratch) and put on antibiotics. Second times many months later was thought to be a cyst and put on antibiotics. A year later again, was told it was MRSA and put on antibiotics. Each time it went away and since the last time in Feb. hasn't not returned. Still don't know for sure exactly what it was but antibiotics did the trick every time.
LOL!!! One of the few times I actually
LOL'd when I typed those letters . . . heavily!
Times gone by......... sm
I remember when I was a child the "dime store" in our town. It had everything from pencils to yard goods to toys to old medicinal remedies. They had a wonderful candy counter where you bought your candy by weight. You made your selection from the glass-fronted counter that was juuuuust above eye level for a small child. The clerk would scoop out the desired amount of candy with an old brass candy scoop and weigh it on an old balance scale. Then she would put the candy in a little white paper sack. There were all kinds, jelly beans, butterscotch that melted in your mouth, peppermint that really cleared the sinuses, and wonderful little maple goodies to name but a few. It tasted so much better than candy tastes these days. And yes, they had Evening in Paris and Old Spice and hankies for both mom and dad. I even held my very first job there in high school where I helped take inventory every year right after Christmas. We had to count each and every item (well, probably not the jelly beans) by hand. I remember counting boxes and boxes of pens and pencils and rulers. I miss that store as it closed down many years ago when the big discount houses started opening up in the nearby "big" town.
At times she can be
hot and other times a mess. I remember her being on Ellen recently and the Pussycat Dolls (I think it was them) were also on there. This was also when Ellen had the dunk tank and if I am not mistaken the person that got in the dunk tank that day was in a great bikini. At the end of the segment wtih Pam she had to take off her coat and show she was in a bikini as well. She admits that she loves the attention. This woman is famous for being...well famous.
I have read that she is really a good mother. Everyone take that one with a grain of salt, go ahead, wrap it around a margaritia if you like!
I don't know how many times I have said to DH
when I see the way someone is dressed or how ridiculous their hair looks "That poor girl just doesn't have any friends." I remember in high school there was a very pretty girl that had several friends, but her make-up line was unreal. I could not believe her friends never said a word to her about it.
All my friends and I had little sayings like "LOT" for lipstick on teeth or "The sky is blue" if you needed to wipe your nose. What is so wrong with graciously and politely telling someone you care about the truth?
Yes! Several times and it needs it sm
really bad now. Hubby out of town on business and will be home tomorrow. First thing he said when I talked tohim tonight was he dreaded mowing the lawn when he gets home! It has been raining cats and dogs making it grow even more!
I had 2 different times.
What I mean, is I had my 2 oldest when I was 24 & 26 (they are 23 months apart); I had my younger 2 when I was 33 & 35 (they are 20 months apart). There are 10 years between my oldest and my youngest. I guess I had the empty nest syndrome after sending the younger of my oldest 2 off to school! :) haha
Have seen that one several times and
if anything, thought he was whiter than usual but believed it was Jackson.
This has happened too many times to me. sm
I have been hired and they told me I will be taking on all their offices to later find a temp sitting there. Then they'll say "I never said I would never keep you." This was not contracted services.
It hurts. I had that happen to me last year and I don't think I've recovered yet. Told the client I don't catch clients up. She said ok. I started work without a contract (not good). Then I felt trapped in the deal. She negotiated everything in her company's favor and then one day suddenly said stop. They were "caught up." I wondered how did I get into this?
I realized the following:
1. Never negotiate your services.
2. Never start work without a contract.
3. Always meet them (no telephone negotiations).
4. No giving prices over the phone.
Wish I had other ways to weed them out. So many OMs where I live who want to cover their bottom line while misleading MTs. I have been so reluctant to market because of this. They fish MTs out. It hurts.
did these happen at once or different times? nm
Precious... Too many times...
we overlook what "grown-up jobs" mean to our young children. They want to help, "butt" (how cute) most of all they want to feel you need them as much as they need you. Thank you for sharing your special time with your daughter and your son I'm most sure appreciates what you are doing he just hasn't expressed that yet. You will most likely get another "surprise" from him when he has his new room... You're doing great spoken from another "Mom" who likes to bond....  They won't be this age 4-ever... cherish it... only happens once....
I've been to NYC 3 times now, just
for day trips, but I would recommend that you get a ticket for the Gray line double decker bus thing. I think it is $50 a person, but you can get on and off as many times as you want, and it stops at most all the tourist attractions. I thought it was money well spent. Since we had a little trouble navigating the Subway the first time we were there. And I was a little scared of the taxis. So this was a good way to get around.
The few times it has happened to me - sm
I just kind of pried it out using a nail file by going under it like I was getting dirt out, then cutting off the extra nail/ingrown part, then putting iodine on my cut. Hurts a lot less with it out than in. Obviously if it is ingrown rather deeply I would not advise this, and would go to a podiatrist immediately. If his toe just started to hurt then you probably caught it early enough and can avoid a doctor visit by doing the above.
Will probably move a few times
I get bored easily and do not like being in the same place for a long time. Been here for 10 years and just waiting for youngest to go to college in 3 years so I can move. I want to move to NYC area for a few years because right now I live in a rural area and am going crazy. After NYC would like to maybe move out West for a while and then maybe back to Eastern seaboard.
times have changed
dont make a big deal about it or it will become a big deal. so buy her the little sports bras that look like half T shirts. this is also good in the winter as it helps keep them warmer. no big deal.
times for cash cab
6 pm and 6:30 pm EST and Cash Cab After Dark at 11 pm EST on Discovery Channel....Enjoy the game!
I have been to N. Carolina several times
but hubs thinks he can vacation no where besides Vegas?? I do my own trips with tour groups and then we go to, you guessed it, Vegas again!! We are into mine and our trips, works for us.
They pray 5 times a day. sm
They also wash their feet after they pray. They also wash their feet after they use the bathroom or pass gas unless they are wearing leather socks, in which case the gas may pass freely. No pork, and theoretically they are not supposed to eat any kind of meat that is not killed by a fellow Muslim. Also, dog slobber is verboten. I saw on the news where the Muslim cashiers that work at Mpls Target stores refused to scan pork items that people were buying. It's all this politically correct BS is going to be the death of America.
I read this 3 times, and it was very
hard to follow. I was very interested in what it turned out to be.
Are you saying it turned out to be the cat's anal glands being impacted?
Men are just weird some times##
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How many times were you engaged
Before you actually got married? I married the only man who asked me to marry him seriously. I knew on our first date that he was my destiny...how bout you? 
I would wash several times - may even
try putting baby oil in first or something - it eventually will loosen and come out if exposed to enough water. Then maybe try to comb out.
I have seen the movie several times and of course
cry every time. I told DH I wanted the movie for Christmas and he got me the book. I had not read the book before, and honestly, I liked the movie better. That is the first time I have ever liked a movie better than the book.JMHO!
both teams - not times .lol.
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We go several times a year but
we have crazy schedules - I work 60+ hours a week at 2 jobs, husband travels a lot during the week, weekends are filled with sports, etc. When we do go to grandparents though, as soon as we walk in the door, it's "leave the dog alone, stay out of the corral, don't dig in the yard (they have lots of land), don't this, don't that". The kids are expected to just sit on the couch and watch TV quietly (2 are teenagers and 1 is 7) - that's no fun???
How many times could you forgive...
Your spouse for having an affair? I just found out that a friend of mine's husband has left her twice for another woman and both times she has forgiven him (this happened before we met). I just don't know if I could do that twice, once MAYBE, but certainly not twice...how bout you?
I saw her on TV several times when they featured her on one of the SM
health stations. They told her story from birth. She is adorable. Her name was Kennedy.
the last few times I was in our local
all the people working the windows were pushing the 'forever' stamps, telling everyone about the rate increase coming and you should buy some now before it goes up again. One postal worker even told one of the customers if she lost the stamps for 5 years and then found them she'd be able to use em.
Personally, we snail mail so few things in our house these days that when I bought 3 books I figured they will probably last us about 5 years.
nah, just young the first two times. nm
Do you know how many times yesterday
that I started to ask this same exact question and then deleted it??? I had the opportunity the last two days to tell him I wanted out but I got scared and just stayed in the back of the house.
For as many times as he violated s/m
your trust, I don't see a problem with it. Not to mention, you were right with your hunch that he was back to another addictive activity.
I believe that one of the other posters is correct, you need to get into alanon or some support group and concentrate on yourself. He needs to be in treatment and I would make that a requirement if you are to stay with him. He is not a bad person, he just has a problem. A big one, but it is only up to you on how much you can take.
I have a friend that installed Spyware on their computer to check on her husband. He also has a problem with drinking, gambling and internet porn. She has the spyware set up to catch certain phrases such as sex, gamble, poker, vicodin (has a prescription drug problem too) and the program sends her an email (to whatever account she specifies) and then she will go and check to see exactly where he has been. She keeps an eye on things this way and once she sees him visiting somewhere often, she knows he is falling off again. Just an idea... He doesn't use anyone elses computer and does not know that she is doing it, which is deceptive, but they made agreements in counseling that she would be checking up on him until he can prove he is being honest, never mentioning how she would be checking up on him.
Best of luck to you.
How many times have you seen that doctor? (sm)
Has he been your regular doc for a long time? I know insurance companies will ask for medical records but if you have only been to this guy once or twice, you probably have another office whose records they can use.
How many times have you been married?
How many times have you been married?
Took after my mother, 4 times for me
NM
13 times, is that unlucky? sm
Actucally to one man for over 20 years. We renewed our vows at 10 years and again at 20 years. At 10 years it was just the 2 of us and the minister and at 20 years it included our children. I would marry him again tomorrow.
Tough times
I just skimmed your post and didn't read the others, but I know that often children will feel the mom is more to blame for a breakup between parents, so he might feel a little betrayed by you right off the bat, making him more sensitive to anything else you say or do.
When you think about how hard it is for adults to understand their own emotions and then present them to another, it makes it easy to understand why children have such a hard time.
I think the best thing is to try to help him feel comforatable sorting out and expressing his real feelings to you. Most of our actions and words are the consequence of a deeper/bigger emotion and not the actual issue.
I have been contacted a few times
Just filled out a survey for JD last week. In about 10 years I have been notified about 4 times. Once had to serve for a week. DH has never been contacted ever (and he's the one who is not working). When I did serve I mentioned that I was in the service and that my best friends husband is a police officer. Didn't seem to phase them and I still had to serve. My sister told me to just say "If they weren't guilty they wouldn't be there in the first place." HA HA
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