Sometimes it is necessary to explain what you expect
Posted By: sara on 2009-05-18
In Reply to: Today is my 1st weddding anniversary and my husband didn't spend time with me.? - goldy
Sometimes it is necessary to explain what you expect. Maybe he will or cannot fulfill all your expectations. But maybe he'll learn and also, maybe, you will learn that all your expectation might not be fulfilled.
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Do you expect...
that an adult who was never taught to shake it off as a child suddenly knows how to do it just because they've become "of age"? At what age do you suggest we teach people that suicide is their own responsibility instead of someone else's?
Did they say when we could expect this?
I could definitely use $1,800.
Well you know, it always happens when you least expect it but (sm)
But you have to at least be out there to ever meet anyone. If nothing else, there are men who like to have just email friends. There is a free dating site called plentyoffish you can go just check out. I have a newly divorced friend who has met some people to date on there. But there are always people who just want to talk also. Or maybe start out with a male walking buddy, something like that.
Why do people expect
You to do something for them, when they know there is no way in @#$% you can do it.
Why am I still here?
I'm sorry, but what do you expect the shelters to do? sm
I worked in an animal shelter for over two years. We go a lot of feral cats in at the shelter. If they were somewhat friendly, then yes we usually put them up for adoption under the title of "good barn cat." If you can't get near them, then there really isn't anything to do BUT to put them down. There is no use endangering the people at the shelters OR the other animals at the shelter with a cat that has been wild too long to tame. JMHO, sorry if it irks you.
Believe me, I am a HUGE animal lover (hence the reason I worked at the shelter for so long). I don't like to see any animal suffering, but sometimes it is necessary. 
What do I expect the shelters to do?
I am not their boss so I can not say what I expect them to do, not up to me. I only do what I can do. I don’t know where you live but here the animals are not kept in so called shelter for 3 days, then put down. This place kills animals twice a week, mostly pits. I don’t take animals to shelters because here the outlook is very bleak for them. I do what I can helping out the furries. What the shelters do is not up to me. Where did you get the idea I expect the shelters to do anything??
Just don't expect a luxurious room unless you are sm
willing to pay big bucks. Most hotel rooms in New York City are small. The assumption is that people don't spend much time in them, but are out and about. Plan on at least about $200 per night. Maybe a little less if you book far in advance.
You need to go back inhouse is you want or expect that. sm
Problem is, as you know, inhouse has now gone to a company. "Deserve"' has nothing to do with anything out here. If you think so, I invite you, form a union.
Until we have anything near to that. you sign a contract, or no contract, and you agree to cover certain hours, on certain days. That is the way it is.
That is an extremely fair pay and I would expect
them to do a great job for that. I have had the same problem with them starting out good and then having to go behind them like you said. I would first start out clearly stating what you want done and that you expect a good job consistently, even 6 months down the line. That is what I've been telling everyone I've talked to is that I need a consistent job each time.
If you expect $60K to rain down from heaven think again
My Bible tells me that the Lord will provide (and has provided) for all of my needs, it does not say he will send money raining down for me whenever I get myself into excess debt. Rest assured that the Lord will provide the faithful with all that they need and plenty of what they want. It is your right to believe otherwise, but do not step on my Christian beliefs in the process.
Luke 12:28, "If then God so clothe the grass, which is today in the field, and tomorrow is cast into the oven; how much more will he clothe you, O ye of little faith?"
I think we expect that kids won't like veggies, and ....
I think that generally, in this country we do a very bad job of cooking vegetables. And, I think that we just generally expect that kids don't like vegetables. I grew up eating a Mediterranean diet. My grandparents and most of my neighbors were Italian immigrants. We lived in a part of NJ where you could grow just about anything. We had lots of fresh vegetables, lots of fish, and my grandmother made all of her pasta by hand with a combination of white flour and semolina. I don't think any vegetable was cooked longer than a minute or two, and there were always piles of vegetables at every meal. It was just part of the diet.
I have a Korean foster son, and he enjoys things like smoked squid legs and seaweed. It's just the normal diet for his culture. Kids in other countries eat all sorts of things that Americans consider ghastly. So, really, I think it's more just our culture. Americans tend to give kids more bland, smooth foods for a longer time, and then later, the fast food, high-sugar, high-fat culture kicks in. It's just so bad for all of us. I remember thinking that roasted peppers were the best thing in the world, and I clearly remember eating them for lunch when I was too young to go to school. I don't think you'd find too many American parents who'd consider roasted peppers toddler food! LOL
That's my theory, anyway.
Thanks both of you! I do expect to make some people mad (sm)
Don't really care. My enough button has finally been pushed!
I cannot stop laughing! You mean you actually expect me to SM
keep the SAME PICTURE??? LOL! At least if I endure this today I have a slight CHANCE of a better one!! 
I live in PA. . . not sure of my options, but I'm headin' for the mirror right now to FIX STUFF!!! 
"If you expect less than perfection, that is what you'll get?"
That is pathetic.
Someone should report you.
Sorry to say it, but life doesn't always turn out how we would expect.
My DH and I have been home together for over a year now. We both lost our jobs, and we're both working part-time at home now. Sometimes we drive each other nuts and need a break. Sometimes it feels like we're joined at the hip. We often finish each other's sentences. Other times we just stare at each other because we have nothing new to discuss. It's definitely brought us closer instead of driving us apart. We have a lot of common interests, and we're motivating each other to pursue new career fields. We do take the time to get out of the house once in a while.
More and more people are working from home now. The problem is that the home worker needs to not isolate him/herself. Sounds like your DH has done that. Doesn't he have any friends or hobbies? Any outside interests?
I would expect your choice to go tonight and the reason?
It seems to me that anytime a contestant in any way wants to refute what a judge, especially Simon, has to say they do not last that much longer. I thought performance last night sounded off tune several times. I expect Danny to continue on as he is a big favorite with the fans. Adam, don't care for him and the rocker chick, not at all.
Public board. Expect many different kinds of posts.
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What else would you expect in a state that brings you Hillary Clinton.
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Well I got a notice from the IRS that I could expect my stimulus check by May 30 and I didnt
get it today. I will get mine by mail. I wonder how far off it comes from when they say it will come.
I know, and if you try to explain this to the MT,
you are met with nothing but hostility..........You're not alone!
No need to explain yourself...
anyone who has kids (of ANY age) understands completely. God bless!
Sorry I don’t get it, explain.
NM
Explain, please.
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This might help explain it
I've never had one, but this link takes you to a pretty good Q & A about it. It doesn't sound like a very bad/painful procedure. Hope this helps. Good luck.
http://www.aafp.org/afp/20020315/1167ph.html
Did you explain all of this to your son?
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Perhaps did not explain sm
We have youth programs where a member of the department will come and talk to kids about the dangers of the internet. You know they never listen to parents, and you don't want the fact that you went in there yourself to come up. Some parents visit these porn sites regularly, not saying anyone here, but then they don't realize the kids can log on and get in there easily once they're in there if only by mistake or by surfing the web and being directed there. Perhaps some don't know the horrible crimes that come out of youths being lured by porn and the sooner it's dealt with, the better. I don't mean to have the police come in uniform with sirens and lights blaring. There are simple solutions to this problem and I am all for putting away these slime balls, some of them are judges, ministers, etc., so-called trustworthy people hurting our youths. Perhaps I misspoke but you may have read more into it. It's a common problem we all share and it could end up with a dead or kidnapped kid. I'd rather get tough early and save a life. Overreacted, maybe! I would never roll on the floor laughing about it but then again, we're all different.
You will have to explain
...how if I "get some of it" (what does that even mean?) -- If I have sex I will be more likely to abandon my principles?
If this is what you mean, it demeans you to suggest so; that in the absence of anything more intelligent, this is the best you can come up with. I think it speaks volumes about whom I am dealing with.
Like I said, I don't intend to start a revolution, all I need to do is be true to what the data show as well as to what I can see with my own eyes when watching a video of an infant getting circumcised.
It is already a movement, with numbers of infants being circumcised in the U.S. declining & more. This makes me happy. So no, I'm not starting a revolution. I'm simply doing my part to help this already existing movement along. It's all any of us can do, stay true to our convictions & have intelligent debate, & hopefully not stoop to suggest that someone "getting some" will make them see things your way.
Can anyone explain why
There are so many children being kidnapped. I understand about occults, drugged out parents selling kids for drugs and a whole myriad of other issues, but why is this happening now.
These cute sweet innocent kids are being slaughtered, yet garbage is allowed to roam the streets. I saw on Glenn Beck yesterday about some guys dog who was murdered and one guy is in jail while 3 others are still out roaming around. What is happening to our nation. Is there something in the air that is turning these people into animals.
Could somebody please explain?
I signed up for Twitter and signed up for some news feed things, thinking that I would then start getting text messages of news updates and/or links to news stories. So far (several weeks later) I have gotten NOTHING, NADA, ZIP except a couple Twitter friend requests from obvious spammers.
What exactly IS Twitter? How is it supposed to work?
Signed,
Clueless Facebook User who DID manage to get Facebook up and running but doesn't quite *get* the attraction of it all... LOL!
Well that may explain some things...
A friend of mine had a tummy tuck also and is now gaining weight in areas she never had problems with before. She was told that since along with the belly fat many fat cells were also removed the fat has to go somewhere and goes to those other areas. Honestly, I'd rather it be equally distributed if it were me. Now she has a flat *stomach* but above and below the tuck area are bulges as well as her butt and legs are getting extremely big. I hope this is not the case for you. It seems that once you have it done you basically cannot gain weight or this can happen. She is now sorry she had it done :(
How do you explain the difference between...
a republican and a democrat to a teenager?
How are you going to explain to son in a few years why
fasd
Can you explain the sentence
I've be typing from home for a long time?
Explain my sentence...
I've typed from home since my 12-year-old was 2. Most of the time, he was right next to me. Then along came another. My hubby and I split days. He worked part-time and I worked part-time. We felt it better to not have the income and keep the children at home with us. My kids are 5 years apart. My son started school 1/2 day, so my working at home was great. Now, they are 12 and 7. I work at home full-time now and my hubby works full-time at his job. I am here for them, but they are in school all day. I am strictly an IC, so I adjust for whatever I need. I do not need the benefits, hubby has those. I do watch my children, but I have typed at home for 10 years now, and nothing too dramatic has suffered. Did I put my 7-year-old in preschool? Yes, I did. Did I have to jump up and down a lot? Yes, I did. Do I regret any minute of it? No, I do not. 
Not that I feel I have to explain anything
but they are the same age, almost 18.
You are right. I'm just curious. It would explain a lot.
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and now you *will explain slowly*???? sm
Now this post you just made is incredibly condescending - *explaining slowly* - as if we are the village idiots.....please leave this thread - you already took this thread down to your level of denigration....and now it's time for you to GET_OVER_YOURSELF....
I don't feel I need to explain myself to you
I was simply voicing my opinion. Geesh, I'm glad you're not my neighbor.
Explain Bunco please sm
I do not know what a Bunco party is, no clue. From what I can figure out, someone asked you to pain other peoples' toenails. That would be very insulting to me. Perhaps I am misreading something here. My experience with other females has been negative socially. There are not that many "true friends" out there, just a bunch of back-biting b------s in my town. I had someone call me yesterday just to clearly gossip. When I didn't "bite" she kept asking me if I had heard from X, Y or Z and when I didn't have anything negative to say, she sounded disappointed. I refuse to gossip, it's a downgrading, vicious habit that I refuse to get into. I consider myself a professional and refuse to do anything less. Painting toenails would be a total turnoff to me, a kick in the teath really. Then again, I don't know what a Bunco party is, perhaps it's a grooming party. No idea, so can't comment, just can relate to the back-stabbing behavior. It's something in the water around here anyway and I refuse to partake of it.
I wish I could explain this campus to you...
It is an old town with the NIU campus at the heart. The main buildings are located near a lagoon, where the whole community can ice skate and feed the ducks in the warm weather. Classes can be held in large lecture halls, while others can be held in individual buildings located within walking distance. It is not like a big high school where you can monitor the doors and have a big xray machine when everyone walks in. It is spread out over a huge area, like a small town in itself with multiple buildings. I was there today, and there are old buildings and new multiclassroom buildings and just a mixture of traditional and new structures. I just dont see how the security could be much better than it is...
Hard to explain. So sad.
Hey moderator -- please help us out here, explain to
Okay, let me try to explain this one more time
The reason the moderator bans correcting someone's grammar/spelling, etc., is because it is RUDE! You were rude to correct this woman's grammar. I did not correct your grammar; however, I did point out that you are not perfect either. Given the situation, you were rude. You can complain about it all you want, and most would agree that incorrect speech is annoying, but I don't see anyone agreeing with you that it was correct to point out the woman's mistakes to her.
I find it very difficult to believe that the moderator is going to ban anyone for doing exactly what you did to that woman. Sounds like the pot calling the kettle black to me.
Working at marriage, can you explain?
I read these posts and I told my DH yesterday we were going to have to work at marriage and he wanted to know what?? I am asking the same of the readers here. I am in my 60s, 10 years older than my hubby and we have been married for 6 years now (previous husband deceased). I am so in love with this fellow, probably for the first time in my life and he with me. I adore the ground he walks on and just think he is the best thing since popcorn. I work at my transcription job but I don't get this about marriage having to be worked at. I have grown children. This is his first marriage and he has no children. He is a hard worker as am I and we do not fight, ever. There have been absolutely no big spats at all, none. He takes the big debt and I have the smaller. We have separate checking accounts and that is fine with me but if need be we are both on each other accounts. If I want to go to dinner, the show, to visit someone, no problem and the same with him. He was our (late DH and my) friend for over 30 years and I think possibly by being his friend first of all, he is now the best hubby I could ever hope for. I never in all those years even knew he noticed me, quiet, shy, reserved, barely holding conversation with me, mostly he and the other DH. There is nothing I would not do for this man. I want to hear from others about working at marriage because I am just not understanding. Probably some of you are saying this seems impossible but I am living my dream like I never imaged I could have.
I wish all physicians would explain to patients..
that although they are prescribing a medication which is primarily prescribed for XYZ, that is has also been found helpful in treating ABC. A friend of mine who had recent rotator cuff surgery was given a new script by his pain clinic physician for a chief complaint of increased pain. My friend looked up the medication on the internet, only to find that it was prescribed for depression. He was under the impression he was given a pain medication prescription. Needless to say, he expressed his displeasure to the physician regarding this and as a result, has lost trust in him and has left his practice.
OK, I'll try to explain the ick-factor...
He's creepy...always has nude women on his show, degrades females in general, and just plain perverted. Makes my skin crawl, seriously. He makes Howard K look like an angel, IMHO...that to me is icky...
I LOVE GG and will try to explain what happened...
I'll try to explain what happened last night. Lorelai got drunk and sang a karoake song - I will always love you - to Rory, but Luke walked in and she started singing the song to him. It was so adorable that I actually cried :) Every word of the song was a perfect fit to their relationship! Anyway, Lane's husband got a lead guitar gig with some band and is going on tour for 2 months with them. She was going to go with him and bring the twins, but realized it would be too hard. Luke and April had to cancel their boat trip because April got in to some fancy science summer camp. Rory had a breakdown after getting another rejection letter from another newspaper job and thinks she will never get a job. Then at the end, Logan asked Lorelai's permission to ask Rory to marry him. It ended with him asking that, she (Lorelei) was just staring at him with her mouth open. I think that about raps it up.
We all have opinions...you don't have to explain yourself to the world (sm)
I'm sorry you are getting bashed. I did disagree with the decision, and I kind of thought you would end up regretting it. But you did involve her in the decision. If one of my kids was asking me to just go ahead and let them take the paddling, I might agree to it. You're fine. When we are on here it is so easy just to spout of our opinions - me included. But if we were all sitting face to face in an office working together talking about it, it would not be nearly as offensive. When things are in writing they seem so much more harsh. Don't be too hard on yourself.
It was hard to explain to my 7 year old
He adores Zoey 101. She is like a dream to him. He knows about having babies, but he does not know why she would at her age. He is so disappointed this happened to her. He does not know why or how yet, but he knows that he might never see her on the show again. It was sad as I watched this and saw his sadness.
Too bad this young lady did not have enough self-esteem to tell the guy "no." Or to even know that this is not good for a young girl, etc. Where's the parents and the morals. Maybe I am a dinosaur, but I was taught kids play even at 16 or whatever you may have crushes, but in my day a kiss was a big deal. Now kids are having kids (though this has happened through the ages), but someone able to be on TV and the movies would have a better education about saying no, and or at the very least birth control. As it is my 7 year old is confused, what does this mean for 16 year old girls who say no to guys and then this happens, they must be confused.
Sorry if I sound antiquated. I guess I should have grown up in a different time period.
Explain the huge difference please. (sm)
Is it between alcohol and pot, crack and mushrooms, crank and LSD? Please, explain to me the huge difference. To me, all drugs are drugs, but maybe some are more preferential to you.
Please explain "too busy"?...nm
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Please explain how the OP is abusing this child? Do...
you know something we don't know? How have you come to that conclusion? Perhaps you need a job to keep you busy and not try to control the lives of others. You sound like a control freak....
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