Some of us are fortunate enough to NOT be cold-hearted shrews!
Posted By: AnonMT on 2009-02-19
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who care only for themselves and nobody else. We care deeply about our loved ones and it is extremely difficult to turn them out, even if it is the right thing and only thing left to do! It's not about backbone, lady! Where's your compassion? This is painful for her. She is watching her father sink further and further into mental illness and she feels helpless. She wants to fix him, take care of him, and make him better, but she is realizing she can't. That's a painful realization -- the realization that no matter how much you love them, no matter how much you try to help, it will never be enough, you will never succeed, and the only thing left to do is save yourself.
Curious Girl, will eventually do what she needs to do, but doing what is right can be just as painful as something that is wrong. What she needs are shoulders to cry on and people around her to tell her she's a good person NOT criticize her and tell her she needs to grow a backbone!
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What a good-hearted boy he is!
I'm sure he will grow into a fine man and some lucky girl out there will hit the jackpot, husband-wise!
Congratulations on raising a fine son!
Broken hearted. SM
Last Wednesday evening I called the police regarding dog barking right next to my house. It was just terrible all day, 12 hours the dog was at the door and they did not let it in, then they left. I kept leaving the house and coming back to avoid it. It was day off. This has been a problem with these people,who have beautiful dogs. Some days not bad at all, some just terrible. I finally could not take it any longer. I waited for the police to come out in front of theh house and the neighbor and his wife drove up shortly afterwards. When the neighbor first saw the police he apologized for his barking dog, which was still going crazy. When I, trying to be upfront and honest, told him I called and was sorry for doing so, things got bad. He was swinging his arms around, denying everything, etc. He said the next time my car is stuck in the snow I can just remember what I did to him. I never ask for anyone's help, but a few times he helped get my car out. I take care of myself and never, ever ask anyone for help. Now it is silent next door. I love dogs more than anything and just wanted the police to help me speak to him. The policeman said that the guy handled it very immaturely and told the guy he was blowing this out of proportion. I am sad and feel terrible living here now. Please help.
Marilyn...you are a big-hearted
woman and a positive role model for those children. I applaud you for stepping in.
I just want to say what a kind-hearted post this was!! (sm)
If only everyone in the world could be so understanding of each other!
I still find it hard hearted...
Comparing your father in law to a father is not the same thing. This woman is an adult and her father was there while she was growing up. I just think that raising children earns a little compassion and respect. Call me silly. I also think that it is a little unfair that we only get one side of the story. I just hope that she does not write him off and live to regret it. Heaven forbid we act as caring people during the holiday season.
it seems awfully hard hearted for people to say to ignore him...
After all, he is your dad. I do not know what you should do, but I don't think that cutting him out of your life is going to help him any. Sometimes, I think people do things for attention because they need attention.
You are very fortunate
I am too! I have a great hubby also but for different reasons. Ain't love grand!!!
I'm so sorry - but think how fortunate she has been! (sm)
She has obviously been loved and well cared for her whole life. There are so many homeless puppies out there. You have given her a good life so feel good about that. I know it will be hard still, but know in your heart that you gave her a good life, ok?
Yes, so fortunate
Eventually my husband and I want to move to a smaller house, but I can't bear to leave the neighborhood! It's wonderful to have supportive friends so close by. We all laugh about how nobody dares to move.
How do you deal with unreliable but kind-hearted friend? (sm)
I have a friend who is so sweet and kind, wouldn't hurt a fly, but never has her act together. Chronically having financial issues, phone turned off, electricity turned off, borrows money, phone back on, phone back off, etcl, still more financial issues. Always cancellig plans at the last minute, sometimes with no call, because of course, phone is turned off. She has a fairly good job, and although I know money is tight, it seems she keeps overextending herself. But she is so nice and good-hearted. But I am still frustrated with all the no-shows and cancellations and constant issues. Have you ever had that type of situation and do you just keep dealing with them because they are sweet people or do you just stop dealing with it? Does dealing with it make you an enabler?
Thank God your son is okay! My prayers for those not so fortunate. nm
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We are also fortunate here in our area...
we have a small (1500 sf) home, 2 bedrooms, 1 bath, will be remodeling the bath and kitchen in the next year and adding 2 rooms upstairs. We live on 15 acres, have a 4-stall horse barn, a shop, a beautiful view, live in the country, mortgage is only 1100 a month and property taxes are less than 1000 a year. My dh only paid 185,000 for the place and it is now appraised at over 350,000. Used to live in California, so know the whole story about home prices there. We have Californians who migrate here and buy houses sometimes just by seeing a picture on the internet, never even come up to look at it in person.
You've been very fortunate...sm
You've been kind, taken care of folks and like you said, Karma (what goes around comes around).  Cat
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pXDonUxBxig
Your grandmom was very fortunate to have you too! (sm)
how many grandchildren would live with their grandparent through college and still talk about them with so much love years later? That is so sweet and wonderful that you both had such a good relationship with each other!
Guess I'm fortunate
My husband is such a fantastic cook that we rarely go out for dinner. My birthday was last week and he gave me a choice of any restaurant I wanted to eat to celebrate. I thought about it for a couple of days, then just asked him if he could make his grilled rib steaks, shrimp scampi with angel hair pasta, and mixed green salad at home. It cost about a third of what getting a similar meal at a restaurant would have cost, and I swear it tasted better.
I don't grab fast food for lunch anymore...I usually heat up whatever we have left over from the dinner he's cooked the night before, so I guess it costs me $0 to eat lunch.
I don't ever want to go back to the value menu cuisine I ate before I met my husband, lol!!!
Rose, the good-hearted, animal-loving ditz!! But with
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Fortunate ours are picky in this case....sm
Our cats won't eat anything but Little Friskies and Fancy Feast, and Meow Mix dry food, so thank goodness for that. Our dogs have eaten Mighty Dog, which is on the list, so I am a little concerned.
We were fortunate enough to receive one for coal...sm
Considering the high cost of heating oil, natural gas, and kerosene, we're very grateful...Thanks, Santa. Cat
Yeah, I hate that. I am fortunate to have - sm
a great eye doctor, no long waits either. He is very thorough and recently saw a spot on my daughter's retina. She had cancer almost 4 years ago now and anything out of the ordinary must be checked. We went back in for a repeat retinal scan and found it unchanged, diagnosed as a freckle, though he will continue to follow it to be on the safe side. He did a full exam on her though we were only to get the scan done, and only charged us for the scan. He is a good eye doctor in all respects. My neighbor recommended him to me after I complained that I had been bouncing from place to place for about 8 years trying to find someone I was happy with (newish to area), and did not blind me when dilating my eyes. He has a retinal scan machine and no need to dilate eyes, which is great as it takes me 12-18 hours for my eyes to get back to normal, hard to drive let alone work. My doctor does use dilute solution if you request it, and uses it in the summer for all so you are not so blinded in the sun. But I'd look for a smaller office, less patients, no chains, and one that has a retinal scan machine. Good luck.
consider yourself blessed/fortunate/lucky sm
went in with the best intentions, tried as hard as I possibly could, 15 yrs and 4 marriage counselors and countless tears later, I am posting the message below
COLD!!
 I live in Wyoming and it is freezing...high of about 5 tomorrow with icy north winds and -15 for tonight. I am tired of snow, I want summer so I can complain about no rain and being hot.
Wow, that's cold!
We don't know individual circumstances of every single person. Things happen. Sometimes we can control the things that happen to us, sometimes we can't.
If no one helps these people, we add to our future burdens on society. Help them find a way to help themselves and be productive, learn a lesson or two, take care of their own, take care of someone else.
Guess you have never made any kind of mistake in your entire spotless life. Good for you!
Unfortunately, the rest of the world's population is not so perfect and we make mistakes and hopefully learn from our mistakes.
At least with a cold pak. The need to be kept cold. sm
whatever, even if you keep them cold, they are total junk food, eaten cold or warm.
Just because they like them, like McDonalds, you don't have to feed them that junk. Yuck.
Anyone tried Cold-FX yet?
If so, did you experience positive results? I am looking for any help I can get this winter! Thanks!! 
cold hands
I bought a pair of cotton gloves from CVS and cut off the fingertips. cotton won't make your hands sweat and they are very comfortable and keep the heat in. look for them where the first aid products are. if you can't find them someone in pharmacy can help locate them for you. you get several pair in the box and are very cheap!
I'm 45 and get COLD flashes!
While I'm glad I'm not suffering from hot flashes, I'm amazed at this cold business. It was 85 the other day, and I actually had a sweater on! My doc is sending me for thyroid studies, but she said that she's seen this happen occasionally, too. My mom and maternal grandmother also never suffered from hot flashes, but often complained of cold flashes. Go figure.
It might be cold where you are and they trying to find
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Hot/cold sweats
I have been having worsening hot/cold sweats for months. They are very embarassing. I don't think they are hormonal. Had hysterectomy in 1999 and had those hot sweats for a while, then went away. Not on any hormones. These sweats happen with no warning, nothing, just all of a sudden get very flushed, hands feet cold, and sweat profusely head and face, Im talking sweat running down my face. Docs dont know and are not really concerned about, but I have not really pushed the issue, but am ready too. Does this ring a bell with anyone? I have thought it could be a side effect of a med, but I have been on the same meds for years. If anybody has any answers I would sooooooo appreciate it.
They get cold really easily (sm)
They are low to the ground as you know, and don't have much fur on their tummies so they get really cold easily. I have had one for 13 years and he has always lived inside, stays outside a lot during the day but comes in whenever he wants and sleeps inside. He gets shakey shivery freezing cold if he is outside in the cold for long. I do have two outside dogs who are quite happy out there but they are not dachsunds. I would at least make sure he has somewhere to sleep where he can be warm. They make really great pets.
i think i'm catching a cold
in the library yesterday at school, someone sat across from me and kept coughing, and i thought this is just freakin great, now i'm going to get sick again. I didn't want to switch computers because i wasn't going to be there long, and it takes so freaking long when you turn them on and log in that switching really wasn't worth it. So here i am feeling like i'm starting with something. Yesterday, I really felt like tellling that person that i was going to kick his @$$ if I ended up with his cold. I'm just really tired of catching things all the time.
Cold Mountain
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How to you start car when it's that cold?
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Really odd. I had a cold about 3 weeks ago and got another one now and a lot of
other people are having the same problem. This is very unusual for me to have this happen. Not much fun! I really dont get around many people at all so I have no idea where they are coming from.
cold hands/feet
Any ideas for cold feet and frozen hands (fingers) when working?
On a cold wintery night . . .
the night my mother was buried. My daughter and I came for her funeral. That night we slept in her bedroom, her bed. I closed my eyes and tried to sleep, but I kept seeing these images, like flashing, scenes of people and neighborhoods, going very quickly and changing. You know how people say their life flashed before their eyes, it was like that. My daughter said "do you think Grandma is here". I immediately said yes. Turns out she was having the same experience. We started talking to my mom. We weren't scared, we felt that she was the one who was scared. Maybe she didn't know what to do or something. We told her what a great mom she was and she had to go to her next destination, that we were all okay. Then it was just over. It was nothing tangible, very subtle, but I'll never forget it. I've watched some of these shows but never heard of anyone experience anything like this or an explanation for it. It was almost like we were seeing her memories.
cold hands solution
I found the best solution for when your hands get too cold to type. I filled an old tube sock with rice. Pop it into the microwave for 4 minutes or so. Put the hot sock in my sweatshirt pocket. I can stick my hands in for a quick warm up most of the afternoon. It also keeps the rest of me pretty toasty. ( it is only -3 degrees here!)
Just thought I'd share my idea. Happy Friday.
Those work great on a cold. But this is
in my chest and neck nodes with body ache. Yech - flu.
Second day of quitting cold turkey...
Today is my second day of quitting smoking cold turkey. I have some patches, but that is it. I am determined I will quit this time though, without a doubt.
This morning has been really hard not having a smoke with my coffee. My nerves are just on edge. 
Any words of encouragement would be greatly appreciated!!!
If you go outside in the cold with a wet head you'd get sick...sm
the principal at my daughter's school thought that was still true until I showed him studies that showed it doesn't make you sick, it only gives you a cold head. I wouldn't let a child go outside if it's below 20 with a wet head but I do have a child that hates blow drying her hair and doesn't mind a cold head, so I leave it up to her when it's above 20 outside and she gets a shower before school.
Quit cold turkey because
admitted to the hospital with asthma exacerbation and put on theophylline. That is probably the worst thing ever, sped me up, no sleeping, sweating and I swore if I could get out of the hospital never again. That was 1998 and not 1 cigarette after then. I hated the theophylline more than I loved the cigarettes. What I thought would be outpatient treatment in the emergency room that day changed into a 2 week stay. I was put on prednisone and gained 26 lbs in 2 weeks, horrible. If a doctor now says prednisone, I said what is my second choice? I am remarried and thank goodness stopped the smoking, this hubby is so much against it. I never, though, call anyone else down on their habit if they smoke because I have been there myself.
Heat or cold for a toothache?
Advil isn't working much anymore. Heat or cold to the outside? It's going to be a long weekend.
I would get some really cool/cold water
sounds like an extremely good idea to me, wished I had thought of that earlier.
Just lotion or cold cream or something like that (sm)
I would be afraid the baking soda would be too abrasive and he'd have mark from that. If you get most of it off tonight and the rest in the morning it shouldn't be that hard to get off.
Yes, exactly, like I am getting sick but not quite. Almost like I have a cold, but it never develops
I feel vaguely nauseous, hot a lot at night, hands hot all the time. Almost feel like I am going to come down with a cold but just as you said, it never develops. I never knew those were rheumatoid arthritis symptoms. I am sorry for your diagnois. Do you do ok with medication?
That is cold. My furnace is broke...sm
Getting it repaired tomorrow. YAY! Freezing sucks! It has been in the 30s at night here in South MS and that is too cold for no heat. I do have the little electric space heaters though so that helps. Heat tomorrow finally!
Not to bad if you like snow and sleet and cold.
Good ole life in the midwest. 72 here on Monday and Tuesday, below freezing, white stuff, sleet and cold/damp here. Good day to work from home and gomake another cup of hot chocolate. BRRR.
Ditto, I would think anyone with a cold sore - sm
would know not to kiss anyone, especially a newborn. Obviously the mother was not thinking, it was her baby, etc., unless she did not know she had it, and/or that it was herpes as all cold sores are and very contagious and spread by kissing, contact, etc. It is very sad the nursing staff did not say something to her prior, during, after the birth as this all could have been easily prevented.
Water with lemon, hot or cold. nm
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Anybody else coming down with a summer cold?
I am 16 weeks pregnant and I woke up yesterday with a sore throat. I never get sick during the summer and the only thing you hear about going around right now is the swine flu and I am all paranoid because I am pregnant and I know that my immune system is more susceptible. Just wondering if anyone else has caught a summer cold?
No, they are both cool to touch. It's cold here so I'm always chilly. nm
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I always put them in the lunch boxes with a cold pack. NM
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