Some daily exercise does wonders for mood, self-esteem, and changing your shape. Start off with

• I wish I had an eating disorder - I know some of you won't agree
  • Eating Disorder - Lilly
    • I'm sorry to hear about your niece, Lilly - clhmt
  • Unfortunately you're right about society and - sm
    • GREAT post - gotta be happy in yer own skin!! - nm
  • Very concerned about you....sm - casey
  • I am appalled at this message - trose
  • Be careful what you wish for. - no msg
  • My weight, unlike yours, has nothing to do with - Lou
    • Unfortunately most men say that to women who are overweight. - sm
      • You would really be surprised as maybe this is how your hubby is but - Lou
        • I have to say mine is pretty normal.... - sm
          • I am not saying my hubby doesn't look - trose
            • Looking at men, hmmmm - Jessie
          • What I see on this board is the fact women - Lou
            • lol, and my little post prompted this? - sm
              • Not really, did it hit home with you or - Lula
  • Maybe you do have an eating disorder. You don't have to be thin - me
  • You might try Weight Watchers sm - luv2type
    • Im starting WW today !!! I have done it before and it works. (not OP) - I just had some family stuff going on that I didnt
      • That's terrific for you.... - luv2type
  • instead of doing some negative... - for attention...sm
  • Some daily exercise does wonders for mood, self-esteem, and changing your shape. Start off with - a few minutes & build from there. nm
  • I agree about society and options, etc. (as - unfortunate as that is), but sm

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Dear Butter and Clutter,

I was married to "your" husband for 12 years.  To paraphrase you "he had a good job (lawyer) and was sometimes nice."  But mostly he wasn't.  He had good qualities too, mostly he had a good job and liked me and found me very attractive in the beginning. 

As the years went by things got worse.  Nothing I could do was good enough.  And I tried everything.  Therapy, cooking, cleaning, weight loss, you name it, I did it.  He was mean, sullen and critical.  He was also angry and violent toward others and drank to excess.  I even stayed with him after I found myself in the hospital in another state diagnosed with a tumor the size of a grapefruit and a 50/50 chance of dying within 3 weeks, and he didn't even come to be with me when I had emergency surgery.

One day I caught him with his secretary.  It felt like a slap in the face.  When I asked him why, he said she looked like I did 10 years ago (at that time).  That was my wake-up call.  I had thought about leaving him for years and was afraid to.  I didn't make much money having just started my own little MT business.  I had cashed all my stocks and 401K to put him through law school. I had no money at all.

But I left.  What I realized was that this wasn't about him.  It was about me and what had become of me over those 12 years.  I was beaten down, my self-esteem and self-respect were gone.  I had allowed myself to be belittled and emotionally and mentally abused into thinking I was underserving of love and respect.  That I wasn't good enough.

I am now with a man who loves me unconditionally.  He's been by my side through breast cancer, financial despair and even gaining a few pounds!  He's a truckdriver, not a lawyer, and I thank God everyday that I know I deserve to be loved and treated this way.

You do too.

I've been taking Effexor XR for years, and it's practically a miracle drug for me.  I have chronic depression, chronic fatigue syndrome, and social anxiety disorder.  Effexor pretty much "cures" all of these things for me.  It was only prescribed to me for it's antidepressant effects, but it helps a great deal with the social anxiety disorder (and fatigue), which is a huge, huge plus.  It hasn't caused me to gain or lose weight, so no problem there.  

Now, Effexor was not the 1st antidepressant I tried.  There were others that seemed to worked for me but the side effects (constant headache, stomache ache, drowsiness, insomnia or what have you) were too much to deal with.  After trying many over the years, Effexor is the one that works the best for me. 

I have heard that Effexor is awful to stop though, and I believe it.  I take it at night because it makes me drowsy and if I ever forget to take it - woo boy!  I wake up feeling practically like I have a hangover (very dizzy and groggy) and I have to take it right away.  I've been taking it for years and I do worry about the long-term effects of it, but it helps me so much I don't know that I'll ever stop taking it. 

Now ~Wellbutrin~ on the other hand, made me feel like I was going to die after just one dose!  (See my post about in on the Mental Health board here.)  I wouldn't take that again if my life depended on it. 

So, everyone is different.  It can be very long, tough process of trial and error finding the med. that works best for you, but it can make a big, positive difference in your life if you can find one that works well for you, whether you just take it for a little while or (like me) long-term. 

CORN!!!

CORN AND MASHED POTATOES......  HAHAHAHAHA    LOL  (Thanks for taking the time to make me smile this a.m.)!!!!!!!  

I was just wondering if anyone here had any experience with changing your OB in the last month of pregnancy? Or if anyone knows anyone who changed their OB late in pregnancy?

Without going into too many details, my OB was away on a personal emergency this week and her partner was not in the office due to the holiday. I was having some problems this week and I needed an OB on Friday. I called but my OB's office only had a recorded message. There was no answering service. So I stuck it out until Satruday and went to the emergency room at the hospital where I was supposed to be delivering this baby. The Triage Nurse at the hospital was so awful and mean to me that I burst into tears and stormed out of there. She didn't flat out refuse me medical attention, but she gave me such a hard time about being there that she made me feel very uncomfortable, and in so many words she forced me out. She was the nastiest most unprofessional person I have ever dealt with in the healthcare industry. DH agrees.

So now DH and I are totally turned off to that hospital and I don't feel comfortable at all delivering there. Fortunately for us, we have 2 other excellent hopsitals close to our house. The problem is, my OB only delivers out of the hospital where I had this incident. So I was thinking of changing back to my old OB for the end of the pregnancy. He delivered my nephew and my sister said she liked him and had no problems with him. But he has not dealt with me pregnant. I just went to him for 2 annual checkups several years ago, then decided to change over to my current OB because my sisters and friends raved about her.

And it's really been a textbook pregnancy -- no problems with me or the baby. He would just need my records sent to him, and he'd need to know that I will be a scheduled c-section. Really at this point all I need is for someone to go in there and get the baby out for me.

Any advice? Do you think he would refuse my case since I'm 35 weeks already? The whole incident is unfortunate, and I love my OB, but I am so turned off to the hospital that I'd be willing to go with another OB just to be able to deliver out of another hospital where we'll feel comfortable and taken care of.

Was Eastern time delayed for some reason- my regular clocks on the eastern and 2 clocks fell back an hour? What is happening?

Has anyone recently changed 35 mm slides into pictures? Do you know who can do it?  I just found loads of slides from my honeymoon 28 years ago.  I forgot my husband and I used to take slides. 

TIA

that one shouldn't read too much or watch t.v. when it comes to the VT shootings. Well, curiosity got the best of me and I read (with great regret) first accounts on 4 students who survived, played dead, jumped out windows, etc. The first student who emailed his story to People.com puts you right there with him. He played dead.  Everyone in his class died except for him and this other girl and she was wounded. I have 3 sons. My heart just broke, literally, for the first time since hearing about the tragedy. I've been sad for them, but not like this. How absolutely horrifying and terrible what has happened there. I am cringing over here at what it must have been like, the loved ones left behind, and the healing that must now take place..

I will pray extra hard tonight for everyone involved. 

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