So you're saying there IS a problem & the solution
Posted By: is to NOT talk about it or try to...(SM) on 2007-07-02
In Reply to: Post from main board ie Michael Moore movie Sicko - Passin by
come up with solutions? I'm sorry, but that doesn't make sense. You also sound a bit racist and seem to have something against the poor. Maybe you should work on that. Geez.
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My solution
I had this happen many, many years ago and it affected our credit score, etc. I finally went on line and got the names of the Chairman of the Board, members of the board, etc. very high up personnel. I sent a registered, signature and receipt required to the chairman with copies to all the members of the board and needless to say I got immediate reaction. I also cc the local mortgage company with their names, etc. on it. Be sure to get a copy of your credit report to make sure that all the payments are being reported to being "on time" or that could also mess you up and you can sue for that. Tell them you will be seeking the advice of a lawyer if this happens again. You are right, if your credit report has been damaged, you have been damaged and can receive compensation. But somehow find the President, Chairman of the Board, etc. and write to them with a cc to this local office manager and the bafoo that you talked with. Good luck. It will take your time but it is well worth it.
Solution???
Find someone who wrote them a check and have them pull it up in their statement and you will see their bank on there on the back of their check.
My solution
Sleep less, bake more. Just bite the bullet and stay up some night and make the dough and then a day or two later cut them out and bake them. I had to do that for years and years, but I had a big incentive because all those doughs at the grocery store give me massive heartburn. Of course, I eat them anyway and the stay up all night anyhow because I did. So, see you could just make your own yummy dough and avoid heartburn. Don't you love how I have "organized" you all up? See if someone you know will double their batch and share dough with you if you can't afford to lose the sleep. I have done that for friends in the past. We all need to stick together in the baking department.
One solution
Maybe all those who are offended by MERRY CHRISTMAS should just stay out of the stores and shop via catalogs during the CHRISTMAS season. Or, the store could require them to receive and sign a disclaimer/waiver at the front door. Or, the stores could post warning signs; they post warning signs about other stuff. After all, is really should not be a HUGE SURPRISE to shoppers during the CHRISTMAS season that some folks may just want to say and hear, MERRY CHRISTMAS!! DUH. If it is true that Lowes' employees are fired if they actually use the word CHRISTMAS, I will be one of those that boycotts the store.
Unfortunately, these come off. Not 100% solution,
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my solution...
i try to get the hubby to switch cars when i'm low so i never have to fill up. LOLOLOL
my solution
to hand the bills over to my husband. He doesn't like me saying "we don't have the money" so when I took a paycut to stay at home with kids (joint decision) and he couldn't get used to less money coming in, I handed him the checkbook and said "its your turn for a while." We have no extra money anyway so he can't mess things up that bad. I know he will pay the bills and all that. He just needs to see for himself that we have to cut back. It has taken about 9 months but now I crack a smile every time he tells me "we need to wait until we get paid again" or something of the like...he's finally realizing how expensive things are and that every couple dollars adds up.
i have a solution.
three would work. i have thought about this before. one would work days, one would work afternoons, one would work evenings. you could stay at hom. a living room with a tv and family room with a tv would probably be a good thing also. this way your schedule would not collide. you could get the fixing of the house stuff done, and probably have enough money to pay the bills.
My solution
This girl is evidently sick in the head. If she is going to college and all that she also knows full well what she is doing and planned this out a long time ago. This is what I think, ready...
1. The baby's and her previous children should not be made to suffer. Take care of them and let people adopt them who can give them a good home.
2. All money paid to this girl should be spent to pay off hospital bills and she should not receive one penny of it.
3. Whatever is not covered should then be sent as a bill to this wacked out person.
4. This wacko should be institutionalized. In my opinion (I say that cos I'm not qualified to say that with certainty), but in my opinion she has got some major mental problems.
5. She needs to be sued by the state. Here she is...no job, evidently going to school and she goes to BH and has this procedure done. Usually when parents are doing IVF they have planned out ahead of time whether or not they can afford it and the future baby(s). She knew she couldn't afford it and she had it done anyway...this is theft of public money, and if she was counting on welfare to foot the whole bill they should sue her.
6. Throw the doc in jail that performed the procedure and take away his license.
7. Sterilize the nut case.
Sorry if I sound harsh, but these are hard economic times and we're all listening to this whacked out lady that all she is interested in is money. She could care less about the children. Just a prop for her to receive more money that she does not deserve.
The health and welfare of these innocent children should be saved.
Oh yes, lastly sterilize her. When someone puts their own interest before their childs and knowingly has them as a way of her "making her millions" they do not deserve to have any more.
My solution...sm
You don't have to cook dinner for him and the mistress. If your husband wants to still hang with him, that's his prerogative, but you simply remove yourself from it. If he shows up at your house with her, find a reason to leave the house for a bit. If they invite you out, decline.
You don't have to give a reason to him, or her. You're not obligated to host him (and her). If your husband wants to...he can.
I understand him not wanting to upset the long work relationship, but you don't have that. It sounds like your husb will understand you not wanting to be a part of it.
Your solution is the better solution, put her into
this assisted living place you found for over $ 1,000.--a month.
Then your aunt has more freedom, you can visit her and I agree, living with relatives is always difficult and gives reaon for arguments.
my solution also
I didn't really plan on getting up at 4:00 a.m. to be able to leave by 5:00 but it seems like that is the best idea.
My solution to your stress
just BEAT HIM. LOL. J/K of course.
I would be upset too. Look for another company to go through. Unreal.
I know this is not a solution to your problem but
I couldn't help but respond to what you told your daughter about the police. Children should be taught that police are there to help them if they are ever in need and not be frightened by the thought of them. If you tell your child the police will take her away from you she will only think that police are bad. when I was younger I heard a mother tell her son that if he didn't start behaving that she would have "that police officer lock him up". I was terrified. My mother did help me through this and actucally took me to a police station and let me meet officers so I wouldn't be afraid. BTW, my son finally stopped his constant running at about age 3. Now if only I could get him to move a little faster, sigh, teenagers.
Simple solution
But of course, this what I would do - may not seem acceptable to you.
IF YOU STILL LOVE THIS MAN, you move as close by as possible into another type of home that you can afford to build/buy.
WHO SAYS you have to live under the same roof to be happily married? think outside the box!!
IF YOU FORCE him to move he will be as unhappy as you.
Use that equity you have to save your marriage - I'll bet he'd agree to this.
Then you can be together in TWO houses.
Well, I have a simple solution
My husband and I have been married 8 years now and guess what, never celebrated the first anniversary yet! No kids from this marriage and if we had, could have had 2, 3 or 4 years prior and years later they still would not know.
Have you tried this simple solution? sm
What about a DrinkWell fountain for pets? I have had them for, well, perhaps 15 years now. My cats (two of whom are Maine Coons and LOVE any kind of water source) all love it! It is not just a source of drinking water because they all play in it with their paws, so it has become a source of fun too, which is great because they are wanting to drink at the same time. There is something about the moving water that has always fascinated my cats. Give it a try! 
I haven't found a solution
At times, the burning in my foot is bad enough I cannot stand to wear shoes. I haven't really found any one thing that helps. I have found that as long as I'm busy, I don't think about the discomforts I'm having. I've tried changing my socks during the day either footies/knee highs. I've went for walks, helps to get my mind on other things. I don't know that Montel has a book, but I've seen him talk about his MS somewhere. Terri Garr is an actress that has it too, I believe she has a book.
I'm an unusual case. Required 3 neurologists conferring between them before making a decision. Presented with tingling in both feet, which went away after 2 months. Four months later had right arm and right leg incoordination, off balance. Prednisone relieved the symptoms 95% gone. I am left with right foot neuroathy and minor incoordination of the right arm/hand. F/U MRI showed more lesions in brain and spine. I'm unusual because I've not had optic neuritis, my spinal tap was normal, visual evoke and brainstem tests were normal.
cold hands solution
I found the best solution for when your hands get too cold to type. I filled an old tube sock with rice. Pop it into the microwave for 4 minutes or so. Put the hot sock in my sweatshirt pocket. I can stick my hands in for a quick warm up most of the afternoon. It also keeps the rest of me pretty toasty. ( it is only -3 degrees here!)
Just thought I'd share my idea. Happy Friday.
A recently used solution against this group
was applied by Hells Angels. No joke.
The Hells Angels motorcycle group was nearby where a protest was being held and they showed up! Ran off every single one of the Westboro derelicts.
First time I've ever been in favor of Hells Angels.
You do know about the recall on wetting solution
that is causing blindness for contact wearers? I do not know the name of it but can probably google. By the way, I have heard using honey can alleviate allergies. I just heard that now, but worth a try if I had them.
Maine Solution to Insomnia
Shot of Allen's Coffee Flavored Brandy, AKA fat a$$ in a glass.
One solution when she gets to calling, unplug your phone - sm
for 15 minutes or whatever. I used to have to do that for some crank who would call me every night (a guy I would not go out with) for months. I did it for about 6 months, when I finally pluged it back in at night he had given up by then, yeah. How about call block on her number, sure it would make her a bit angry but maybe she would get the message to leave you alone during the day.
Kim Komando's Solution for thowing out stuff
I thought this might be of interest to some...Rather than throw away junk, try this.
www.kimkomando.com
www.freecycle.org
Frustrated by Google map route? Solution
I was just playing around with a route that Google map gave for a particular To and From location, and was frustrated (as usual!) with the illogical-appearing route it chose. I never knew you could click on the map and have the option of Change Route appear, but you can! You just drag the mouse to the route you'd like, and it will reconfigure the way you want to see. NATURALLY the route you chose really does turn out to be shorter in distance and time. Problem solved!
Have to agree that the biological parents are not always the best solution. But we were just discus
MTs working at home with their children. I meant to imply that I certainly didn't think it was neglect or abuse for mom to have a set of headphones in her ears.
Sorry you had a bad experience with a CASA volunteer. But afterall they are all people too and the primary intent of the children's justice system is reunification with parents if possible. Sounds like they were probably just lacking enough evidence/proof to terminate parental rights at that time.
I still love giving gifts and have a solution with my family. sm
We all buy gifts for our parents (there are 4 of us, all married) but we wrap them all in the same paper and they are from everyone. That way, if someone is having a tough year, then it still looks even. Over the years, all of us have had a year that extra money just was not there during 1st babies, 1st homes, high gas prices, unexpected bills, lay-offs, new jobs etc. This way, our parents don't know who did what and they can't turn them down or worry about one family when they don't want to share with them their troubles.
We treat the kids similarly. We all buy for all the kids (7 total) but no set limit. Some years, when having a good financial year, they get big presents, some years they don't. They all get to open at least 5 presents (counting Grandma and Grandpa) and we torture them until after dinner before they can open gifts! There have been years of Dollar Store gifts and years of video games. We all look for things during the year that we can give to all equally. Last year, I found pajama bottoms at Old Navy for $2 in the summer and bought a pair for everyone, including the adults. One year, my sister got them all Uno decks which were $3 each because that's all she could do and they are still the favorite gift and go everywhere. Uno tournaments, using all the cards are a family tradition and we make up different rules all the time!
I am fortunate to be in a good position the last few yeas and have bought more extravagant presents. Not to show anyone up, but because I can. Not to make up for the very lean years, which were many, but because it is easy for me to do right now. We don't have jealousy and I don't expect anything in return because if I need something or want something, I usually buy it for myself. I just like to give gifts and can, and everyone is fine with that.
But I have to tell you, my best gifts from the others are from years when there was no money and have now become tradition ... strawberry jam from my SIL, fudge from my brother.
Christmas is what you make it. We are loud and loving and crazy and if we exchanged soup cans, the kids would still love it. It is what you make of it and how fun you make it for them.
You're not 'low-class', you're FUNNY, & a good writer!
Which is often the case then someone is the first to cast stones!
You're surprised? I'm not. They're not going to stop voting....
as was mentioned in a prior post. Imagine if they succeed? They just may.
At least you wait until they're cooked! LOL...we're raw dough
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Sounds like you're doing great! We're also making out...sm
daughter pay for gas and insurance when she starts driving. She hasn't started driving yet because she doesn't want to get a job to pay for that privilege. That's her choice. We're also making her pay 1/2 of the fees for the state required driver's education course.
Things you're afraid of vs. things you're not
I didn't used to be afraid of spiders, but I seem to have developed a fear of those little beasties. I also can't stand boats, water deeper than my hot tub and bridges. I'm also fairly convinced that UFOs, if not aliens (well, isn't anything driving those things?) are real, so that kinda scares me, yet it is strangely fascinating. I'm also afraid of El Chupacabra, though I'm very certain that's not real. It's one of those "hahahahaha" fears.
Things other people fear that I do not include snakes (awwww, they so cute! they look like they're smiling!), rats, gangbangers (except Mara Salvatrucha, move them up to my "scary" list), poverty, death, traveling at high rates of speed with almost anyone sober, bats (CUTE!!!!!), homeless people, Sasquatch, most of my male friends, bears, mountain lions.
Fear is such an odd thing, don't you think? So much of it is relative to our own experiences in life, yet at the same time some of them are downright irrational.
So, how 'bout you? What will send you running screaming in the other direction, and what things can you take care of when someone else goes running screaming in the other direction?
you're welcome. nm
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I see what you're saying...but
heaven forbid, they break up and one of them dies, wouldn't you want the same thing. If she were to die, wouldn't she want her husband to have the same choice she is wanting??? I guess I'm just concerned with pushing this on the husband and he doesn't want to do it. I hope it all works out though. This is a hard decision to make.
You're welcome!
I hope you can come up with something, I've "been there and done that".
Should be you're not, not your not
and actually in the minority as I do work a full 8 hour day, no chasing after kids, walking the dogs, doing housework so you got it exactly right, in the minority as opposed to a lot I read about on here.
Aww, sorry you're going through that...sm
My husband can get into moods also, but I honestly won't allow him to talk to me like that. In every relationship I've ever been in, I wouldn't allow it. In the beginning when I was pregnant with our second child, I wrote him a long letter telling him I needed more help and would not accept anything less. I was so stressed out with working at home and taking care of a 2-year-old and being pregnant. That was it! Ever since then, I swear he does more than me! If he talks to me in a certain way, I demand an apology and I get it, not always right then, but a little later. He knows I won't take it. We've been together for 15 years now, and that is a big thing in keeping us strong. He doesn't take my crap, either:-) He's still my best friend so it's worth it to make it work. Stand up to him and make him respect you! I say that with much care.
Because you're mom, LOL.
Moms just know these things.
We're all in this together ...
I think. It's always reassuring for me to know that other people are dealing with the same stuff I am.
She was furious when she found out I had gone through her purse, but too bad. You live in my house, you live by my rules, sweetheart.
Another thing that gets me is where she was getting the stinkin' things anyway. She works in a restaurant where her coworkers smoke but I hope they would know better to get them for a minor. As far as I know, she hasn't started up again.
you're welcome--sm
a lot of physicians are almost insistent on someone taking the synthroid, and it makes me wonder how much stock they have purchased with the manufacturer. They always try to say we don't need the T3 that is included in the Armour, but I know I feel a whole lot better with taking it. I didn't even know I had a thyroid problem until I went to a doc with flu like symptoms and wanting to sleep 14 hours a day. I saw a doc from India in an urgent care clinic, who I had never seen before. I was hardly in the door yet and he said *how long have you had that goiter?* I was stunned. I had seen so many doc's in between and none of them ever picked up on this. I was on synthroid for five years, and never really felt much difference. I read up on thyroid problems from all sorts of web sites and decided to try the armour. Unfortunately my doc at that time would not prescribe it for me. HE did not believe it in. *hmmmm*. I had to go to an endocrinologist, as well, and still had to BEG to try it. He reluctantly gave it to me and it took a while to get it up to the level that would even out my TSH levels, but I am now at 120 mg and seem to be holding. I do feel better, but as I said earlier, I still battle with weight loss/gain. but every body is different. stick to your guns, get what you want, and check back in three months or so and let me know how you are feeling/doing. email me if you wish.
If that's what they're doing ...
it's fine with me. I thought it was interesting, but different that we suddenly focused on 2 characters I didn't remember. But there they were in scenes from the past that I did remember, LOL.
No, we're not out there saying come on
But by nature cats do roam. We have a big field in our back yard and he only goes out early in the morning and goes through the brush. He comes up on them when they fly up and he will jump straight up after them. I have gotten many away from him simply because the first thing he does is bring them to the back door, but when he meows to be let in, they fly away. My husband and I certainly aren't thrilled about it, especially during the springtime, but cats do go after birds and the big old hawks flying around our house could easily scoop up our tiny little female kitty, and I suppose that would make it even?
You're right
Trying to leave while he is there, especially in the middle of an argument, is a gesture, not a serious attempt at leaving. All it does is make him angry and more vigilant.
And you're right that even the best organization can't guarantee complete safety. But they can offer shelter, advice, compassion, and some safety. It's better than trying to do it on your own.
I'm sorry if you have been in this situation before. No one should have to go through that. But unfortunately, many, many women do, every day.
Maybe you're right about his
tummy hurting. You can give dogs Pepcid; ask if you can give something like that to your cat to try.
Are you aware of any weird low-cal foods your cats like? Like cooked vegetables? If so, maybe that would help. Or offer grass to chew in the house.
I'd go to one of those holistic places and see if they have suggestions. They might even have aromatherapy for cats, HA!
I agree it's hard to correct a cat's bratty behavior. Next time consider a dog, LOL.
Tell us what they're about, or if there's another
author you could compare them too. Are they romances, mysteries, stories about moms or what?
you're welcome............sm
there's a lot to them to explain and I will supply one of 1000s of links...but to me it's like a person is damned if they do, damned if they don't living with one of these types....
here's the link :)
http://www.ptypes.com/passive-aggpd.html
You're not alone in this
Hi,
I found out yesterday that my 15 year old kitty Dimas has bone cancer in the jaw. Last week the vet determined he had cancer according to the blood tests but couldn't find a tumor. Then over the past 5 days he developed a huge bony tumor on his jaw. He might only have a few days left and I have to decide when to put him down. I'm convinced that he will let me know when he's ready. Meanwhile, I'm a mess and am so terribly sad to be losing my buddy. Please know that I feel your pain and my prayers are with you and your kitty.
Lisa
You're not alone in this
Hi,
I found out yesterday that my 15 year old kitty Dimas has bone cancer in the jaw. Last week the vet determined he had cancer according to the blood tests but couldn't find a tumor. Then over the past 5 days he developed a huge bony tumor on his jaw. He might only have a few days left and I have to decide when to put him down. I'm convinced that he will let me know when he's ready. Meanwhile, I'm a mess and am so terribly sad to be losing my buddy. Please know that I feel your pain and my prayers are with you and your kitty.
Lisa
You're so not alone on this one!
I've been going through some extreme stress of late...I actually asked for a "mental health day" yesterday and was refused...and I don't ask for nuthin' unless I really need something. I was going to take that time to go for a hike in the woods--that always clears my head and relaxes me.
But right now I'm waiting on a delivery of firewood soon...I find that taking an hour or so to stack it or chop it works for me, but that's just because I'm a psycho. ;-)
I hope you find some relief soon--I totally know where you're coming from!
Can't really help, but you're not alone!
Unfortunately with mine I pretty much always ended up in the hospital on IV medication after days of vomiting. I got them every month with my cycle, so eventually the doctor put me on the Depo shot so I wouldn't have my cycle and that pretty much stopped the headaches. However, I just stopped taking the shot for other medical reasons and I definitely fear those headaches! I'm so sorry you have to deal with them!
You're welcome
Neither of my parents was alcoholic but our family was MAJORLY dysfunctional. So I can definitely relate. And I have a son who is 20 years old. Seems just yesterday he was in middle school....sigh.
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