So tired of this happening.

• So tired of this happening. - truffle
  • You will only have people posting about how sweet their pits - Dogs

The messages you are viewing are archived/old.
To view latest messages and participate in discussions, select the boards given in left menu

I don't have kids and don't want any.  Like I said, I wanted to get this done when I was 20 (maybe even before, don't remember exactly), but the doctors either refused to do it or looked at me like I had 3 eyes when they found I had no kids yet.  I told them I was definitely not going to change my mind about this, and I was 100% sure.  So, either they don't think women can be sure about this, or they thought I couldn't possibly be a woman who didn't want kids (like something is wrong with that).  At any rate, it still makes me mad as I didn't start with the chronic pain until my mid 20s, and it would have been much easier for me to do this back before it started and my health was better.

I'm mostly worried about the pain aspect as the slightest bit of pain is intensified a thousand times over, and I already have way too much to handle.  I was trying to avoid the surgery and get an IUD instead.  However, like I said below, I was told it is not recommended in women who have not had children.  So, the tubal is kind of a last resort. 

Plane looks intact and people on rafts in the really, really cold water.  Not sure if people are still inside.  Hope everyone is okay.

dictated:  It is on the right side and it did not cough with clearing. 

Should be:  clear with coughing!

I used to have to go down for a nap during my lunch break and if I wasn't careful, I'd oversleep by at least a good hour.  I even tried working a split shift, which only made my fatigue worse because I'd take the 4-hour break in between just to sleep.

My husband is on the verge of needing insulin shots due to his very poorly controlled diabetes.  His latest health report scared him enough to make him a willing participant in a strict diet.  I am also on this diet to help make things easier.  It totally bites the big one but I'll tell ya, WHAT A DIFFERENCE in my energy level--his too!  We figure it just had to be the sugars and carbohydrates that were dragging us down. 

No more breads, pastas, rice, or taters....all the things we really loved.  We do munch all day though but on teeny portions of good stuff--mostly raw things like fruits, veggies, or bits of egg & lean meats.  No more cream or sugar in our coffee, and that's just limited to 1 cup of black a day.  No more butter either--my personal favoritest fat. 

Been on it almost a month now and I can honestly truly feel a difference.  I almost have enough energy to start exercising, which I didn't have before. 

I'm 5' 10" and topped off at 230 but am now down to 220 just by this diet alone with no exercise.  I'd be happy at 185 but once winter hits...man, I just don't know about that!  I haven't been to a doctor in about 2 years either, but I'd recommend you visit one if you can, just to rule out stuff, ya know? 

Hope you feel better soon!

the pictures both of you sent are beautiful. The cat looks like one of my niece's. Lisa had a tonsillectomy Monday at age 45 and I am going over today on my day off to help her and to feed and care for the two cats!  What a day this will be. The red one comes up to me and stares at me with those big yellow eyes and actually puts his nose against mine! I try so hard not to laugh, but I lose every time.

I am sure a lot of you are in the same boat I am, but I just need to vent.

I am 50 years old, married for 33 years, have a 26-year-old daughter (schoolteacher) who lives at home.

We run our own business, plus I do transcription.  I receive no help whatsoever.  I run the office for the business, do all the housework (dusting, dishes, laundry).  I am hating to get up in the morning because I know I just face the same thing every day.  My husband and daughter are very busy as well, but I wish they would just pick up after themselves.  All I do is  pick up and never get to serious cleaning or organizing.  I am going in circles all the time. 

I am ready to pack my suitcase and run away.  There has to be more to life than this. 

Thanks for letting me vent.

Bet you don't miss that heavy wet snow....after shoveling your car out for 1-1/2 hours and the snow plow comes back and spews it in your face and you've gotta start all over again.  Scraping ice off the windshield, trying to deice the locks to get into the car.  Getting stranded in a blizzard with 2 kids (at least you had the presence of mind to bring blankets, extra clothes and snacks).  Rolling down the interstate, hit a patch of black ice under the snow, do a coupla 360s and the kids say "Mommy, do it again!" cause they thought is was fun.  Shoveling the roof of your house so it won't cave in.  Clearing the driveway and walks, putting down rock salt so nobody slips.  

It would be really nice if it just fell on the grass like in those old Currier and Ives pictures/cards.   Cat    

the second or third job anymore, or else I would try again. I did it for 20 years. but I'm burned out. I'm no spring chicken and will be celebrating another year older on Monday which also doesn't make me happy, but time does not stop.

Hubby is retiring next year and I'm really trying to stop him as it means only $1400 a month coming in for him...of course, he has no bills, while I have all of 'em.  My reitrement bennies are only $700 a month because they deducted SS from me when I first went IC and didn't have to pay taxes because I was at a loss those first years. It's a ripoff. I had gone from $800 a month in the ྌs to $200 a month 3 years later. Now I'm back up to the above amount after 10 years. What a ripoff!

I hope you're a lot younger than I am and can get yourself out of debt before you are like me. I wish you the best.

I am sick with a bad cold or maybe the flu, not sure, so I know I am more emotional because of that...but my husband made breakfast this morning, waffles, and called the kids, then after they started eating said, "oh, do you want to come eat?" So I went in the kitchen, and he had melted butter for the waffles, but he had left the paper wrapper in the bowl of melted butter.  Without thinking I just took it out and put it on a napkin to throw away, the tablecloth is plastic and it was on a napkin so it is not like it was going to hurt anything.  He started fussing, "why did you have to take that out?"  I said I didn't know, didn't really think about it.  "Well I was going to take it out after we were finished eating, I didn't want a greasy spot all over the table."  I said, " I put it on a napkin, there is no grease on the table so don't worry yourself over it."  So then he said, "well why couldn't you just leave it in there? I was going to take it out later."  I said, "it just looked kind of gross sitting in there, I'm sorry I took it out."  Then I went to get a fork and noticed the bowl he had used to mix the pancakes was sitting on the counter - he had used all the mix in the bowl, just still had some left on the edges, so again, without thinking (I'm a mom and a wife, it's just second nature to me), I took the bowl and put it in the sink and filled it with water.  He yelled at me, "why did you do that?"  I said, "I am just soaking it so it will be easier to clean."  "Well, I DIDN'T WANT YOU TO TOUCH IT!!" So I said, "Nevermind, I don't want to eat." I put my plate on the counter and left the room and started crying...I guess because I am sick I just can't take things as easily.  So I was in the next room crying and he says, "why do you have to make such a big deal about everything?" and I said, "why do you have to be mean all the time - you don't have to talk to me like that, it is unacceptable for you to talk to me like that."  So now he is mad because in front of the kids, I told him the way he talked to me was unacceptable.  But I don't want them to see him act like that and think it is alright, so I am going to continue to say it is wrong.  I dont want my daughter to think it is ok for her to be talked to that way or for my son to think he should talk to women like that.  My husband's father has always talked to his mother that way and still does. They just had their 50th Anniversary, so he thinks it is ok...it is NOT ok.  I am not going to just sit back and smile about it like she does.  And that makes him soooo angry! 

He had rented a room for us for New Year's Eve - but he has been so mean lately I don't want to go.  It was expensive and is nonrefundable.  I don't see the point of going there trying to act like we are so in love when we are not, so now I told him I am not going to go.  Why torture myself being locked in a room with him for all that time?? 

He is the same one I wrote about a while back who scraped up my good cake pan and who thinks he may be an alcoholic.  This past Friday, he took the day off from work, went hunting all day, was supposed to be back about 7...called me at 9:15 and said he drank too much and was not driving home.  I was glad he wasn't going to drive drunk of course, but why does he have to keep going out getting drunk?  He goes on several day-long hunting trips and can't call, sometimes he says because of no cell phone service and sometimes he says because he was so drunk he couldn't see to dial the number.