So sorry for your loss. Just know that she had 18 wonderful years.
Posted By: trose on 2008-01-14
In Reply to: Thanks for the posts on my furkid dying - Grieving a lot
Unfortunately so so many animals don't have anywhere near that. Take time to grieve and don't let anyone stop you from taking all the time you need.
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I am very sorry for the loss of your mother. 33 years ago, I saw this and NEVER forgot it - sm
I saw this on a tombstone when I was 6 years old, and I never forgot it. I don't think it is appropriate for your mother, but like I said I never forgot it. The tombstone read.....Remember friends as you walk by, as you are now, so once was I. As I am now, you soon shall be, so prepare for death and follow me.
It gives me chills to think about it.
Again, I am very sorry for the loss of your mother.
My husband is 7.5 years younger. Been together almost 20 happy years...nm
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My feelings; people shacking up together for years and years
and then all of a sudden deciding to get married don't need a thing, obviously. A shower should not even be given. I lived with my now husband a while (nowadays who doesn't!) before we married and I also had been married before years ago but he was not....so of course HIS mom wanted a shower. I told her absolutely not unless it was just the immediate family, his mom, sisters, etc, more like a celebration/get together. And so that's what we did. Showers are tacky, period. Unless it's a couple of young kids getting married straight out of the house and that doesn't happen much anymore.
Been with a man 13 years older, now with a man 4 years younger.
Younger is better, at least in my case ;)
Sorry, meant 75 cents. Still, that was years and years ago.
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I studied to be a scopist years and years ago
Back in the early 1990s I took a course called Note reader Scopist. They read court reporter notes (those long skinny papers that looks like a cash receipt) and types them into documents. I had found the course through something called At Home Professions but just didn't finish it because it was too expensive for me. But I am familiar with them and even found my book from the first course I took. Looking back I think it would have been a blast if I had kept up with it.
It is definitely legitimate. A lot has changed since the early 90s, so I'm not too familiar with the industry now. I do remember what was really weird was it didn't take a lot for me to learn it. For instance I could look at a line of court notes and see something that looked like: NV p srn - and I seemed to know exactly what it said. Just weird. My DH used to say that I understood it because I was an alien and my ship crashed in Roswell. HA HA HA Anyway...that's what I know about it. But if you Google note reader scopist or at home professions i'm sure you could probably find a lot of info.
I have been vegetarian on/off for 35 years, was vegan for about 5 years sm
not that hard. Right now, I am having so many issues with food allergies and celiac disease, having to give up nightshade veggies...nothing left to eat. I am eating some meat now, but not when the gastroparesis sets in!
Being vegan is not hard...unless you are a celiac. This is how I figured out the celiac part because so many of the meat analogs and vegan packaged foods use gluten for the protein and I got really sick from it. I gave up all the premade things and the whole grains with gluten and I was fine.
There is vegan and then there is VE-GAN. By definition, vegans don't wear, use or consume anything that is derived of animals...no leather shoes, most shampoos and toothpastes are off the list, as are deodorants. No wool or silk. Anything with soap usually has animal byproducts. It is very involved and rather difficult to do.
Giving up meat, eggs and dairy is no big deal, except for cheese. You hear that ad about "comfort proteins" in a baby formula and there is such a thing. Mother's milk, be it human, cow, goat, whatever...contains a chemical that triggers the release of endorphins in the brain so that feeding feels good in more ways than one. The purpose of this is ensure that the nursed young want to nurse and thrive. Human milk has a lot of these, so does cow's milk and cow juice triggers the same reaction in the adult human brain. Cheese is concentrated milk and therefore these chemicals are also concentrated. As a result, cheese is an addictive substance. This is the hardest thing to give up when going vegan. Vegan cheese substitutes are nasty and they don't melt. If a dairy-free cheese melts, it contains casein, an animal protein and not vegan.
I studied this years and years and years ago
Most definitely is legitimate. In the late 1980s I studied to be a note reader scopist through a group called At Home Professions. I loved it, but unfortunately could not continue due to no funds. It was reading the court reporters notes which looked like a grocery receipt with a bunch of letters scattered on it. The weird thing was I found it extremely easy. For instance I would see a line that looked like: av e cr, and for some reason I would know what it said. My DH told me that's because I'm an alien and my ship landed in Roswell. HA HA. Well I know that a lot has changed, after all it's been over 20 years since I took the first course and know a lot of it is computerized now, but it is most definitely legitimate and I've heard people like to do it. I think I remember one of the courses was in medical terminology and another course was in legal terminology. Should be able to find a lot of it on google, or maybe go to your local college if they offer it and talk to an instructor.
How wonderful
You have a great brother...and he must feel he has a great sister :)
Have a great Thanksgiving!!!
Wonderful!
You have a right to be proud! Lots of teenagers are really caring and so sensible. Speaks loudly of how he was raised. GOOD FOR YOU!
Isn't wonderful to know there are still some wonderful
teenage boys out there. My son just turned 17 and he sounds a lot like your son. He loves so many of our Christmas traditions, but at the same time is a typical teenage boy. My son loves to cook and loves to help decorate, just don't tell anyone.
Wonderful - thanks
That is wonderful - thank you very very much. I am sending to all my family and freinds.
Wonderful! I have all I need and most of what I want.
NM
Wonderful!
Thanks for the tip. I'll have to watch for it.
This is wonderful.
I forget the man's name right off the top of my head, but he has a book about this; ironically enough you can "charge it on your card" to purchase! So, kind of funny there! I checked out the book at the library instead, figured out what to do, and still have not gotten around to it. I need to get it all down on paper, and I've asked for $200.00 a month extra from hubs for what he gives me towards bills (he pays our entire mortgage) and I tend to to take care of the rest. However, he does put his own gas in the car and treats us for different odds and ends, fast food, movie night, day at the beach, you get the picture...
The only problem I see with this is the way I get paid. I am an IC. I only have one online company that truly pays me on time. My other accounts I bill every other week but they don't always pay right away (could be a week lag sometimes) and another I only get once a month. Also, the work fluctuates. So, I may make $1.400.00 a month with one account but if the docs go on vacation, that can bring it down to say $600.00 a month.
So while your plan, I agree, is wonderful and yes it does work, and yes I'm going to give it a try, doesn't always pan out "budget wise" income wise for me personally being an IC and having fluctuating work. I might add the online company I range anywhere from 14,000 to 20,000 lines a month given the work is there, I work from a pool; no line quotas, and no set schedule. So, I need to be on my toes to grab the work. I do have a lot of accounts to choose from, but when I go out twice a week to pick-up work, I am away from the computer, hence losing some of those jobs I could have grabbed. I check all day long until 11 p.m. to make sure I take all that I can.
Sorry this is so long, but I think that's where I am so "floundering" on this "budget" thing where I am never sure if I'll have "my end of the budget" every month. I don't have a set income, but I would not trade this profession for anything; been doing it 20 years, and love it and love being at home with the kids (school age), but still...
You tat - how wonderful
When my mom was alive she told my her aunt tried teaching her how to TAT but she would go so fast my mom couldn't keep up. I've got the tatting needle, shuttle and "tatting for beginners" book but I just was never able to get it. I do like to knit, though I have to admit the last time I knitted I was in 4H in school and made slippers.
I do cross stitch too.
Wonderful!
What an amazing testimony to God.
I'm very sorry for your loss. NM
NM
I am SO sorry for your loss--sm
I have followed your posts about Misha since you started and had high hopes that all would be well with her. I am crying now, and feel her loss probably as much as you do. I love animals and have had many in the past, some that I too had to let go. It is not an easy thing to do and I feel so badly for you! Misha is comfortable and happy now, and at peace. You will see her again and she will see you. Sasha may grieve, as well, now. I wish you all the best in the future. Take care.
Good bye Misha. You touched so many hearts!
ks
I am sorry for your loss, too. .. nm
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So sorry for your loss also..nm
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Your loss
I am just so near tears reading your loss. I am so, so very sorry.
So sorry for your loss :-( nm
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I am so sorry for your loss.
jm
I'm Sorry for your loss - NM
NM
I'm sorry for your loss
My pets are my family, and I know how you feel. Hang in there...
So sorry for your loss
Sending cyber hugs. Believe me I know how it hurts. I'm sure kitty is at Rainbow Bridge, happy, healthy and full of life.
I'm Sorry for Your Loss Also - NM
NM
Sorry about your loss. when my dog
died last year, it was traumatic for me. Search Rainbow Bridge on the web. It is an inspiring story you may enjoy reading... susan
Sorry for your loss...
The recent news is just terrifying. I have 3 indoor cats and feed 6 outdoor cats the neighbors left when they moved. Luckily, I never fed my cats Iams on a consistent basis, but I have once in a while, as well as others.
Deeply, deeply sorry for your loss :(
I am very sorry for your loss...
I lost my brother to suicide almost 8 years ago. It shattered my whole world because we were so close. I have a big family, but my family to me was my mom and brother.
It was by far the hardest thing I have ever had to deal with, ever. I went through many stages too, and still to this day I sometimes think maybe it was just a dream, not real. I know it was real, but this other side of me thinks this from time to time. It is really hard to put in words.
It does get better though. With time, you start to heal and pick yourself up and move on. It is during this time though that you have to lean on whatever comforts you have, whether that is God, your friends, your family, etcetera.
All of my grandparents are gone now too. Unfortunately I was never close to any of them other than one grandpa who passed away first.
Good luck to you and hang in there...it will get better.
I'm so sorry for your loss.
The reason I was buying the ultra-premium dog foods with no gluten products was because I was trying to get Misha healthy, so her illness actually protected my other dog from an early death.
My loss-
I lost my first pregnancy at 16 weeks. At that time I was completely heartbroken. I was confused and mixed up as to why it happened. It has taken me a long time to remember the date of my miscarriage and date the baby would have been born without making myself completely depressed. I have now seen all the events in my life since then and I have come to realize, which was so hard for me to hear and accept at that time- is that things may happen for a reason and be for the better. It is the worst to hear, but it is what you need to find on your own. I am sure your blessings in life will find you, whether they are a wonderful and happy life with your husband, the joy of a pregnancy to fullterm with a child to love or anything else in life that brings a smile to your face and peace in your soul. My child would have been 10 year this August. I always take that week of my estimated due date and just give a moment to think about what could have been. It does take time and I hope you find some comfort in time. My thoughts are with you and your loss.
Am sorry for your loss.
and am on oxygen at night, nasal cannula, not CPAP, and I absolutely hate it. I wake up and it has come off, so it really is not doing me any good. I should probably ask to be switched to CPAP. Again, very sorry for your loss. P.S. Am going in for lap band surgery and so hope to get rid of the oxygen totally in the future.
So sorry for your loss.
I lost my sister several years ago to cancer so I can relate. It makes you realize just how fragile life really is. What a beautiful way to honor your sister, thanks for sharing the pic.
First of all, I am very sorry for your loss.
A friend of mine and former boss lost her husband very suddenly in a work accident when they were both in their early 30s - 5 years ago this week actually. I think she might have tried the online way for awhile, but I know she ended up going to a grief counselor in person eventually, which really helped her. She took her 2 small kids for a few sessions as well, if I remember correctly, and when she was about to remarry, her finance went as well.
I'm not one to take meds unless I absolutely have to, but have you considered seeing your doctor for some sort of antidepressant? You sound very depressed, which is understandable. And people that tell you it's time to snap out of it can take a flying leap as far as I am concerned. Everyone grieves differently and at different paces. One step forward and 2 steps back a lot of the time. Just when you think you have a handle on it, something goes haywire.
((((hugs))))
I'm so sorry for your loss...
I'm close to my mom also and I do dread that milestone. We lost her sister suddenly 6 years ago, who I was extremely close to ("second mom"), and it took a long time, a couple of years, for me to be able to even think of her without crying.
Beliefnet.com has some good reading resources on grief, I think. I think they have forums also, but am not sure. It's definitely worth exploring the site, though, since they often mention other resources outside of their site.
Good luck to you.
I am so very sorry for your loss - sm
May she live on in your heart with the good memories you shared together...
I'm so sorry for your loss. sm
She has gone to the Rainbow Bridge where I think you are right, she is sunning herself and happy.
This is one of the most heartwrenching things to go through but it sounds like Mochi was in a lot of pain and was ready to rest and that was truly the last, best gift you could give her in setting her free.
Fly free without pain, Mochi.
So very very sorry for your loss. nm
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So sorry for your loss.
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Sorry for your loss. RIP CJ nm
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Sorry for your loss . . . perhaps you could
sprinkle them somewhere that the two of you enjoyed together or as a family, since neither of your children are interested in having them.
I'm sorry for your loss.
She's warm and comfy now. There will be 4 cats at my new job. Apparently some interact with the workers, whether they are expecting it or not. Should be interesting to be cat ambushed while concentrating on a new job, LOL.
For some happy news, I just scheduled a July vacation. My brother and his family are going.
Other family members could come also, but it's hard to get everybody to agree on a location. Some of the best-off family members are balking at the cost of the hotel instead of just saying "Wow, it's right on the beach and it has all these amenities and we are going to have a blast." Oh well, those that go will have fun and those that don't will wish they did.
I'm very sorry for your loss.
He was just adorable.
Sorry for your loss
and the grands that I reffered to who lost their gc to foster parents by the state was the state of Georgia, just outside of Atlanta. The child was taken from the hospital at age 2 weeks and adopted by the foster family at age 9 months, even though the grandparents (who already had the older 2 siblings in their care) were petitioning to adopt. This is a valid reason to keep kids with family.
So sorry for your loss. nm
I'm so sorry for your loss.
I lost my "first child" at 13 in 2000 and still miss him deeply. The pain does eas with time and the good memories stay, though it does take much time. God bless.
Very sorry for your loss
Thank you for sharing your story.
I am so sorry for your loss. She was a
beautiful girl. Hugs.
Very sorry for your loss..sm
You obviously gave your sweetie a good home and took wonderful care of her. Furkids do not have such long lives without constant love and attention. You had no way of knowing the exact time she was ready to go. You did your best to make her comfortable, and I believe she knew that and appreciated all you did.
When I lost my 17-year-old Whiskers in November, he was in an emergency clinic and I was not there. A scenario I never imagined. I was incosolable because, let's face it, 17 years (18 in your kitty's case) is such a long time to have someone in your life. There is a website that helped me through the grief--www.petloss.com. It may or may not be to your liking, but please at least check it out. You can write about your kitty and just get all the emotions out.
Please write again and let us know how you are doing. ((((hugs))))
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