So in other words, reward him for pulling this crap?
Posted By: sm on 2009-02-25
In Reply to: how to kill a husband crush - women
Not me. I would confront the situation head-on & nip it in the bud. Otherwise, it will just happen again with another woman.
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Words that aren't words. Top of the list? Conversate.
PLEASE!
Makes me cringe and shudder in disgust.
re: Pulling
I understand about the hair pulling. My niece is now 14 and has trichotillomania. She has been pulling her hair out since the age of 2. She seems to not do it as much anymore, unless she is doing underneath long places to cover up the bald spots. She did it worse under times of stress, and it was always worst around the holidays. good luck to you.
Dog may see this as reward for howling. You may
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Whatever, reward your husband
with sex for going after another woman. I don't treat my husband like a pet, nor do I use sex as a weapon or a reward, but to each his own. I prefer the grown-up method of confronting the situation, but as I said, to each his own...
Why should you reward kids for doing what they should in the first place?
Like have some sense, not acting out in public, minding their parents and/or other elders in charge. I believe it you give allowance or do something for the children, it should not be a reward type situation. No wonder the kids are so rotten now days.
That's how you reward her wonderful efforts to better
herself by taking the initiative to go to college? Do you have any idea how many kids are content to sit in their butt and do nothing? You should count your blessings that you have a young lady with the intiative to go to college and you should REWARD her, not PUNISH her. There is PLENTY of time for her to find out about the "real world." You require her to work and if that's not enough, you take part of her earnings for yourselves? Holy crap.
Sounds like he is a negative weight pulling you
I'm sorry to hear about your situation. I agree with what some others said about at least taking some time apart to see how things go. I also agree with consulting with a family law attorney. Almost all attorneys have free consultations, so you could talk to several lawyers for free and find one you feel comfortable with. They often give free advice before you even hire them (the one I worked for did anyway).
It stinks that your husband is so insistent about keeping the house, but if you do end up divorcing it may be hard for you to live there anyway with all the memories, so a new place might be good for you. It would be hard on your kids for sure, but it is probably hard for them to see their mother belittled and to witness a seemingly loveless marriage as well.
Maybe your husband doesn't want to focus on his own shortcomings so he is focusing on yours or maybe he is just too much of a perfectionist and too selfish. Have you guys tried counseling?
If you do end up spending time apart you might end up feeling incredibly free without someone constantly telling you how WRONG you are when in fact you are only human and have flaws like everyone else. He obviously has flaws too, and I would bet money his place would not be spotless and perfectly "organized" if you weren't there to clean it for him! He probably has no idea how hard you work. You deserve to be loved unconditionally, and even if you guys break up and you don't date anyone for awhile, at least he won't be there trying to dampen your self confidence and the love you have for yourself. Good luck and stay strong!!!
is there a difference between foil highlights and pulling through cap sm
I've had both these done to my hair before. I'm just wondering, does one dry hair out more than the other? Seems to me when I have highlights done pulled through the cap, my hair seems dry.
Thanks
Our dog bit a girl "that was pulling his hurt ear"
Well the girl's foster parents sued my parents' homeowners and they got their money. So, you need to contact the police again and find out how you can go about filing a claim. My parents' homeowners insurance went up after that, even though the little girl "provoked" the dog. The provoked part didn't matter. So, I guess what I am trying to say here is that my parents were "your neighbors" and they got sued and their insurance premium went up. We're going back quite a few years, but I'd bet those people that own that dog will lose their homeowners once you sue.
I would have to bet though that the "foster parents" of the bitten dog probably got legal assistance for free too, since they had about 10 foster kids and were getting a fat check each month and obviously not supervising these kids for that girl to have pulled my dog's ear. My dog jumped our fence and cut his ear, that girl pulled on the dog's ear, yet the police said that my parents were still responsible for the bite. I highly doubt that child really need the surgery and probably never even got the surgery, but those foster parents I'm sure took that check right to the bank.
That may sound harsh and by all means I know that not all foster parents are irresponsible, but in my opinion, my parents got the raw end of the deal.
Good luck whatever you decide. 
so, you think we should reward them by paying for their bed, heat, water, food?
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I agree. Both of them. Talk about class but I must say Rachel is pulling in the bucks with her
shows. I love watching Paula put butter on all her foods and STUFFING it in her mouth.
What saved the folks on the edge was pulling up the emergency brake
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When puppy does her business where you want her to, reward her with a piece of food treat.
And when she pees in house, use paper towels and then place paper towels (soiled) to the area in the yard where you want her to do her business. Dogs tend to prefer where they smell the odor. Be patient. This dog is young. Confine her to an area where the floor will not be damage (tile or vinyl). Take her out six times away,including first thing in AM, right before bed, after she eats her meals. Pull water up a few hours before bedtime. Do enjoy your new puppy dog.
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Leave a big sign on her nightstand, tough situation! Some are thiefs, offer a reward!
nm
Like crap!
I am so hearing you! Even when I go to Dunkin Donuts, the coffee tastes terrible. I told my husband that I don't think that they are using Dunkin Donuts coffee anymore. I would kill for a decent cup of joe these days. It sucks when I make it at home and it also sucks from Dunkin Donuts. I have started buying Rock Star Juiced energy drinks for the a.m. to get me moving, but I really need a good cup of coffee. 
No, I think the whole thing is crap
quite honestly. That was just one of my gripes.
If this would actually do anything to make us safer then I suppose I would be all for it regardless of the cost, but it won't.
What a crock of crap!
First of all, my child would not attend a school which forbids dancing, rock music, hand holding, etc. For him to be suspended if he takes his girlfriend to prom at another school is ridiculouos! What he does on his own time is none of the school's business. The school sounds like some kind of cult or something. I say they can go f*c* themselves.
sick of that crap!!!
Kids aren't safe anywhere.....Just this weekend in sunny Atlanta we have an grandfather kill his 6yo grandson and wife over a watermelon and a guy with a shotgun go in his backyard and threaten to blow his brains out!!! There are tons more other stories about people getting shot and everything here, it is common.... My husband uses guns to hunt and that is what they should be used for.... THE SHOOTING NEEDS TO STOP!!!! I AM SO SICK OF PEOPLE GETTING SHOT or THREATENING TO SHOOT PEOPLE!!!
If the houses around you are crap, your value will also be lower than it should be.
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there's a world full of crap that we can do away with.
nm
Here's the spider that almost made me crap myself!
Wow, you know your spiders! It was indeed a garden spider...Argiope. Website does indeed say they are harmless but I don't believe that for a second! Fangs were as huge as my head they were!
I just went out and documented the whole fiasco as best as I could...therapy really. I found the spider and took a picture of "her." Apparently only the ladies get this big. As I was taking pictures, I found 3 more!!! That's 1 spider per square foot!! You can read about it here: http://www.perin.org/Residents/Ellie.html and just scroll down until you see "August 2007."
I'm gonna go type now because it makes me feel safe. Yep, 2 beers into me, nursing a third, and I'm hittin' the keys. Should be interesting.
You fell for that ONE OF A KIND crap, too?? nm
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my brother used to pull that crap. SM
My mother tried everything with my brother. Finally, one day, while the brat was in the middle of one of his fits, my father came in and was shocked at what he saw. My father went outside, got a bucket of water and threw it on my brother right there in the floor of the kitchen. Needless to say, my brother NEVER pulled that crap again.
Holy crap woman!
You have some big babies!! Noah 3 weeks early and still weighed 9 lbs 14 oz? Someone needs to put you up for sainthood. I bet you had a few choice words during labor.
Sounds like a scam. Crap like that costs the rest of us
Ridiculous.
It would take VOLUMES to explain all the crap she has pulled over the years. nm
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human crap who dump babies should be publicly ....
nm
burned the crap out of my belly with mashed potatos
I was just stiring instant potatos and then somehow it jumped on my belly and now I have this 2-3 inch mass of skin that has blisters, some of which have popped, and this one 2 inch round lesion that just looks gross. I probably should have gone to the hospital, but since I have no money I just treated it over the counter with antibiotic ointment. Has anyone done this before? If so what did you use? It is painful!!!! I bought this lidocaine stuff, but it hurts worse. At least it is healing!!! I am a dum dum!!! Those potatos were out to get me darnit!!!
lets pray he gets the maximum time; piece of crap that he is.
nm
I thank you all for your words.
It is going to be tough when we go back to the dog park and people there ask about her. I walked Sasha today, even though it was pouring down rain. We will have to learn a new way of living now.
there are 3 little words
that I say to my little pup - coffee and cookies, and he is ready to charge out the door! I then put him in my jewel beaded doggie bag and in we go for our order! This makes his day! Everyone that see him laughs. One girl that works at the coffee shop took a picture of him on her camera phone to put him on a college paper she was doing! there are days when he barks in a very different tone to try to get me to take him! You have to see it to believe it!
so in other words--sm
she got herself pregnant, did not want to pay the consequences of HER actions, but still wanted DADDY to pay for her college expenses, and she is now profiting from ending a life....yeah...that sounds reasonable to me (not)! Maybe she should not have had sex, not gotten pregnant, and had the gumption enough to have paid for her OWN college expenses. She would still be in the position she is in now and she would have earned it ON HER OWN! JMO
no words particularly but
I hate when the doctor calls the patient elderly and they are in their 50s, or middle-aged and they are about 35 or so.... elderly primipara...
I cringe when I type a mastectomy or some kind of radical surgery on the vulva or a pelvic exenteration..
There are no words....
You had me on the floor with the instructions...but that picture is just freakin' awesome!!!
There are no words
Thank you for posting this. I will surely pass it on - as soon as I stop crying!
Way with Words
I snuck into the Bathroom last night, put a color on my hair, the works, did a facial, shaving, showering, etc., blow dry and style, put on a new modern blouse and leggings, Came out and guess what Slim (DH) Oh bout time you stopped wearing that sock cap, your hair looks da* good. Bout time you got out of them sweats... I was getting ready to go to my grandson's music recital at grade school! I thought that was mighty funny!
Can't do this in 6 words
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Six (6), six words. nm
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I really appreciate your words
You have no idea. I painted a dining table and someone we knew offered me $1000 for it but I could not give it up because that meant that we didn't have one. My hubby says "so, we will go get another one and you can do another one". But they never are the same.
He offered to sell my headboard I painted. I have this huge 5 x 8 headboard I painted with a picture of a beach scene and has palm trees for the posts. He wanted to sell that off too. I was a little heart broken, cause I made it for my bed, not someone else's. I am not sure how to get past that.
So in other words, you really cannot
afford to travel elsewhere?
Beyond words
I'm SO sorry to read this. I can't imagine how humiliated and embarrassed you were, especially in front of his friends. I have my 'bad' moods and days where I don't feel so well, too, but it would never occur to me to take it out on my husband or daughter. I'm so sorry you had to deal with that, and I'm glad he left to go play golf...and I certainly hope he comes home realizing how crappy he was toward you and shows his appreciation!
Every time I read a post like this, my heart goes out to the poster and I go give my man, whom I take for granted WAY too often, a big hug and a kiss.
Hang in there, girlfriend, and don't let him bring you down ~HUG~
Xtra words
They are probably smarter than we think - extra characters?
any words of wisdom?
We have opened our home to a lady and her son (formerly our neighbors) who have been left homeless after her husband left her for another woman and stopped paying rent, thus they were evicted. She is functionally illiterate, but she is trying to find work, and has worked in the past. We are doing our best to make her feel welcome and be a support system during this difficult time.
Before she came to stay with us, I made sure the bedroom (actually my daughter's bedroom, who is now sleeping in the spare bed in her brothers' giant bedroom -- really no problem there) was comfortable and furnished the bed with an electric blanket, a down comforter, a quilt, and a trunk with extra blankets, as this bedroom is at the corner of the house and if the door is closed it gets quite chilly. When the weather dropped down to subzero, I got out a little tabletop fan/heater to warm up the room before she went to bed, which I do in my room also, because I can't sleep with a cold nose. However, now I am finding that, even with the temperatures in the 30s outside, she is running this heater all night long! I'm scared to see just how much this is going to raise our electric bill, and I don't feel it is necessary with an electric blanket. I don't want to offend her or make her feel unwelcome. She is in a delicate spot. Do you think I should just let it roll off my back, or should I ask her to turn the heater off before she goes to sleep? What would you do? It's not going to break me, but things are really tight around here anyway, and more so now that we are feeding the two of them and providing transportation for them as well.
Your thoughts?
I do not have any words of widsom, however...
What you are doing for this lady is just amazing--bless you! The world needs more compassionate people like you 
Just a thought though, maybe she is afraid of the electric blanket? I have one friend who refuses to use one, even though her own home is absolutely freezing. She said one caught on fire when she was a kid (like 30+ years ago) and she will never use one again. Is privacy an issue? Could she leave the door to the room open at night so the heat from whatever the other source is can warm it up a tad?
Again, I think what you are doing for her is just AMAZING
says who? you, with all the capped words?
lol
I never said that - don't put words into my posts....
no need for sarcastic posts
I said pot.....
all you mentioned is most assuredly highly addictive...
been there, done that - need no lectures from an anonymous sarcastic poster 
Thanks for those words, yes, I am looking forward - sm
to some road trips next Spring and Summer; and maybe this Fall as well. This one sounds just like what you had; same set up inside, beds pull out, bed over the table, whole thing cranks up with a turn handle on the outside. It does have a stove, sink/water; with the hook up outside. Very basic but what else do you really need. Probably cook outside most of the time anyways (have a portable coleman grill too) and I have camp training from Brownies too as a co-leader so open fire cooking is not a problem. We have laptops for movies if necessary to have the kids chill with while we chill outside maybe; and for comfort will put in AC/heat eventually, but we would never use it it the heat of the summer probably, more Spring and Fall so we can do w/o the AC. My DH is so excited about this, as I said he has been really wanting to do this for years. He never got to do anything with his parents (they never went on any summer vacations) so he is like a kid all over when he gets to do things he never did before. I am hoping now that we did get this maybe to do a road trip next summer for at least a week, maybe the Smoky mountains down in TN(after we have AC), or head to NY or maybe Maine, go places we have never been and do whatever. It is getting poured on right now so I will find out tomorrow when I pick it up if it has any leaks at least!
Thank you for all your responses and words...
...of encouragement! I've always been strong and considered myself to be a 2-legged workhorse, often out lastingmore limber 'kids' and even men when it comes to doing heavy-duty tasks, so to be completely worn out after only a few minutes of mildly strenuous activity is a major bummer to say the least.
When I say 'crippled up' I guess I mean more stiff and sore than physically crippled wtih limbs and joints I can't straighten out. However, the pain is so bad I can't even get out of bed without almost falling down and the snap, crackle, and pop when I move around first thing in the morning can even be heard by my husband.
I do sleep like a log though...nothing wakes me up...I'm down at 10 p.m. and up at 7--and only because I have to pee, otherwise I'm sure I'd sleep until almost noon. I used to only need 6-7 hours of sleep a night and was a morning person...the annoying kind who could jump out of bed, get dressed, and have chores done, house cleaned, and all ready to sit down to work by 7 a.m...now I absolutely dread getting out of bed because it means I'm gonna be a hurtin' unit all day.
I've been tested for Lyme and that was negative. The other blood test did have letters...I'm thinking it was that ANA thing but not 100% sure.
The only thing I've taken for pain relief is Tylenol or naproxen but neither work really well and that naproxen just eats my gut away. This early winter certainly isn't helping and I've been dreaming by visiting Realtor.com of finding some place else that's not as artic.
Oye. Time will tell. I have another appt this Friday so we'll see what happens then. Thanks a bunch for listening and offering me advice and well wishes. They are all appreciated like you have no idea!!!
Thank you for your kind words - NM
NM
Thanks so much for your kind words
Under my first post, I wrote what the reasons were for that counselor to be so grouchy, and the principal apologized. No matter. The kids are happy to be back at our old school and so am I. Your note here did cheer my day!
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