Similar situation, my hubby drives 1 hr 45 mins to work from house and sm
Posted By: I say yes on 2007-11-29
In Reply to: I have a situation regarding my DH's job... - I need advice please...sm
he suggested 2 nights a week staying at a hotel that his company would pay for if the company apartment was full. I say company apartment "lightly" as it is a room above the office and just has bed, AC window unit. At first I was hesitant but then I drove it one way in the morning and again in 5 o'clock traffic and said you must be nuts! He gets up at 4:30 am to be at work by 6:30.
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I believe Jamie McMurray drives for them now and has for a while but.. my hubby would know.
I'll ask him when he gets home..
similar situation
I had a similar situation not too long ago with my mother in law. Everyone thought because I worked at home I could take my mother in law to her doctor appointments and grocery shopping and anything else she needed to do. I informed everyone that I started a job with a new transcription company and I could no longer come and go as I please during the day. I told them I am logged on to the new company's computer starting at 8 AM until 4 PM every day, and I have to be there when work comes through or the company would know I was gone and I would lose my job. It really has worked. No one bugs me during the day anymore. They finally think I have a "real job". 
A similar situation (sm)
I also read your post from below and now I feel compelled to respond. My sister went through a very similar situation. She has always been overweight and her ex-husband married her that way. He gave her grief in the entire relationship about her weight, threatened divorce, the whole bit. He, too, was very picky about how the house was kept, how his meals were prepared, etc. Like you, she did what she could to make him happy, but it never seemed to be enough. It seemed the more he ragged her about losing weight, the heavier she got. He just couldn't understand that (he never had a weight issue). They separated at one point, she moved out, only to move back in several months later to try to make things work. Guess what...it didn't work. She finally made the decision to leave for good, now she is remarried and very happy. And she is still overweight but her current husband doesn't mind (he's heavy too!). I saw my sister spend many years unhappy and it is so good to see her happy now. She and her first husband didn't have children together, but her current husband has two sons that she absolutely loves.
I know the thought of divorce must be extremely scary, and I know there are children involved. But you need to be happy, and your children need you to be happy and healthy. It doesn't sound like things are going to change in your situation. I think you know you have been there long enough to figure that out. You need to do what is best for you and your kids, and if your husband can't accept and love you for who you are, then he doesn't deserve to be with you. Just my opinion!
Best of luck to you. Keep us posted on what you decide to do!
I am going through a similar situation...
My husband said the same things about me. He left 2 years ago, then cried and came back saying he made a huge mistake. He tried to be happy for the last 2 years and a month ago, left me and our 3 kids again. He was never happy. He said he did not feel anything for me except contempt basically that I have kept him from doing the things he wants to do, fish, hunt, etc. He says he will always feel a fondness for me and the time that we were happy and the fact that we have 3 wonderful kids, but he cannot be happy with me. If he does not like who you are, then let him go. Or you go, whatever you need to do. Especially since he hit you. That is one thing you should not let go. My husband never hit me, but he was getting to the point that he hated me. I still love him, but I think the best thing for us is to not be together anymore. He is being selfish (my hubby and yours). Go, and find someone someday that will love you the way you are, flaws and perfection. That is the hope that is keeping me going, that there is still someone out there who will treat us like the goddesses we are. Hang in there!! You can do it. It will not be easy or happy, but in the long run, you will probably be better off.
my situation is very similar...
i was about 40 lb overweight, didn't want to go on a 'diet' or give up my food types. I started walking 30-45 min x5 days a week which helps tremendously. I joined CalorieKing.com ($55.) a year, and did not change my food types (hardly). but i log my foods eaten/exercise on line and it calculates my calories consumed/spent. (also gives nutrient breakdown). Its been less tedious and i've lost 13 lb (3 months incl holidays!) and not trying real hard. The website has lots of helpful information and is very educational. It has helped me. I've lost inches and have fit into a smaller size jeans already. I forget for sure, but believe there is a 30-day money back guarantee (or ?less days). Might check into it. p.s. i saw results in 2 weeks as i recall.
Similar situation
Fights/arguments are coming more and more often. Split our checking account/bills up several months ago. When others ask me why I stay, I always say because of our son (7 years old). Funny thing is, husband travels a lot and my son told me just yesterday how much he enjoys it when it is just him and I. So, maybe I'm just too chicken!
My situation was very similar (SM)
except that I had such low self esteem I did stay and periodically it would happen again. I was scared to leave him because I had no family or support system to go to and had children with him. Looking back I wish I had left after the very first event but it took a long time for me to get the courage and the self respect. We are now divorced.
It's a tough decision particularly if you have children. How is he if you argue with him? Does he respect you? Lots of factors to take into consideration before you decide what to do, but I'd agree with trusting your gut.
Similar situation here
My aunt is 86, so vibrant, did all her housework, cooking, etc. Fell and broke her hip about 2 1/2 years ago and really threw her for a loop. After rehab she continued to do her own shopping although on a walker, cane occasionally. I talked to her about someone close by her to assist her and she would not listen to me. When she told me she had fell 3 times (once getting groceries in) I made appt with her doctor's office. They told me unable to talk with me- I said they did not have to - just listen and makes notes of what I had to say. I traveled out of town, met with the office manager, told them all I wanted them to know, told them this was her favorite doctor and named why she came there and lo and behold, the next visit that month with the physician he told her it was time for her to get help, maybe assisted living or with a relative, she should not be living alone anymore. She almost worships this doctor. That was last month. This month she is moving to be with her son and his wife who will provide the care she needs. There are ways to take care of things like this. I know.
I had a similar situation
5 years ago on Christmas eve I got online to find that $5K was missing from my checking acount. (oh yeah, nice christmas gift) I then got on to check my credit cards and noticed an amount for under $30 had been charged at some restaurant in a different state, and someone made an online purchase to Sears for a purchase of about 1400. Luckily bank refunded my money in 24 hours (I had proof I was never in the state - luckily the bank where the withdrawal was made had cameras, and the teller who let the woman withdraw $5000 without putting a cash hold for 48 or 72 hours or whatever she was supposed to do was fired. Credit card was cancelled and new one issues and of course investigation started.
It's getting more and more frustrating how many criminals are out there. Don't get discouraged though, it's not your fault. As they say sh!t happens. I've got some more criminal stories to tell, but got to run for now. Will post more later about some scams going on.
I am in a very similar situation (sm)
if you want to talk please email me - pmic9999@yahoo.com
My daughter going through a similar situation
and her attorney told her not to allow the child to take anything from home to his place and not to allow the child in the door with anything from his place. This all began quite innnocently when my daughter - Mom- kept sending favorite doll with her daughter and 9 times out of 10 the father would forget to bring back with her causing huge bedtime problems, etc., and lots of stress on the family as he did not drive - and the burden fell to his mother to bring the favorite doll back over and you can imagine the stress. So - the attorney decided nothing leaves the house with her and nothing comes back in - it put a stop to the slurpees and garbage Dad was sending home with her right away!! Best of luck.
I had a similar situation but not exact...sm
when we bought our house 2 years ago. I had to have my office sign something of that nature, but not saying I would still be working there after so much time like yours. I faxed the form letter to them and they faxed it back for my broker's records to give to underwriter. I also had to provide my 1099s from the previous 2 years. On the day of the closing, we had to sit there and wait for them to call my office one more time just to make sure I still worked there, which they didn't do with my husband. It seemed to be a pretty strict procedure but can understand why they would. We also refinanced about 8 months after moving to get a better rate, but didn't have any problems because we used the same broker. Good luck!
Well, have a granddaughter, similar situation
never hear from her, in same town, no calls, no visits. She graduated high school this year- I got invite - did not go, my gift nada. Why should I put myself out if others don’t seem to care about me??
similar situation a while back....sm
I blew a fit years ago and just told my husband that I'd rather be consulted about any plans than to be informed after the fact considering we're in this relationship until death do us part....(a cleaver unto thy husband came to mind, but that was cancelled by the thou shalt not kill clause). Yeah, I was hot, but he got the message and we've lived happily ever after.  Cat
My neice had a similar situation....
My vet and hers said feed her what she will eat and that there was nothing wrong with boiled chicken, veggies, etc., and add a vitamin to her diet. Many animals are fed "people" food as their daily diet and are perfectly healthy. In this case, you are trying to sustain her health until her mom gets home. My vet believes most dry foods on the shelves aren't healthy. I try to buy Royal Canin or Pet Promise foods but they do cost more.
I just recently got out of a similar situation
Although it had many other fatal flaws in it, one of them was the fact that the majority of the shoulders he cried on were either women he had once had relationships with or women who wanted to have relationships with him. These were the women that when we had a fight, he would call the second I was out the door. I hate to say that single men and single women can't be friends, this was always just something that made me uncomfortable. Maybe it was intuition, maybe it was just my own insecurity. He denied there was anything to it...just friends he said...in the past he said...until he ended up inviting one of them to a BBQ he and some friends were having (he needed someone to pick up some beer because it started before I could get there). Her chin hit the floor when I showed up and he swooped me up and planted one on me. After she attempted several well-aimed barbs my direction for a few hours in the afternoon, she finally could hold back no longer and unleashed her venom on him....telling him that she had assumed she was his date for the BBQ and wondering what I was doing there.
To a degree, I do believe him that he had no romantic interest in these women- they were ego strokers for when we were fighting to reaffirm his manhood. However, he also drank to excess, so I always worried just how much stroking his ego (and other things) might accept with active enticement. Of course, the BBQ wench was just one of many, and between his femmes and the unholy alliance/reliance he has with his drunk-azz cousin, after a year and a half I could take no more, grabbed up my dogs, and headed home to Normalville.
So congrads to your DD. While she may hurt now, believe me when I say that it would have gotten no better and ended up totally messing with her own self-esteem.
Similar situation....(long and babbling, lol)
My sister's neighbor got into a heated argument with his wife, which caused her to leave the house with their small children. She called 911 from her cell phone and asked if they could dispatch an officer to do a well-check on her husband. I should point out my sister lives in a rural area with everyone on 5-acre parcels of land, so she neither heard the argument nor saw the responding PO show up to talk to Jerry.
She did, however, hear a huge shotgun blast in the early evening but, being in a rural area with rattlesnakes, etc., didn't think much about it.
The wife came home the next day and fortunately was ahead of her children when she entered her house and the first thing she saw was what was left of her husband. He had apparently used a deer rifle to take himself out shortly after the PO had left the night before.
When the area was released by the authorities after their investigation, she had some family members go in and pack up her things. I don't believe she ever went back into the house herself. She immediately listed it for sale.
A few months later, a new owner was in the home, having relocated to the area after a 'personal tragedy' in another town. During the course of doing yard work one day, one of the neighbors stopped by to chat. In the course of conversation, this neighbor brought up Jerry and how he had suicided in the house.
The new owner was horrified. As it turns out, the 'personal tragedy' they had moved away from was that their own son, who was about the same age as Jerry, had also committed suicide via gunshot in their home. They had no idea about the history of their new home or that just a few months before the previous owner had taken his own life in their new abode.
There was talk of suing the real estate company/agent for lack of disclosure (this happened in CA), but I don't know whatever became of it. The new owners immediately relisted the home when they found out its history and apparently left the area.
Since there was talk of a lawsuit and settlements, I'm assuming CA must have that disclosure law as well.
While I'm not sure knowing a suicide had occurred in a home I was interested in purchasing would dissuade me, I'd still like all of the information above board and out in the open so I could make an informed decision. I think we should all be entitled to that.
Not chastising you, or someone in a similar situation. It's the people who abuse the system by ly
about their under the table income, assets, shiny new car/S, high def tvs, etc., etc. et cetera.....
My poor hubby, I'M the snorer in our house.
He says I'm not loud, but if I'm flat on my back, I always snore. I never did it before I gained the weight I gained over the last couple of years, so I'm hoping if I can shed some pounds, the snoring will stop.
Just tell your hubby the guy at work is gay.
My hubby is the jealous type too. I am pretty flirty but would NEVER cheat on him. I would just tell him he's gay.
Hmmm, I don't think that would work for my situation
because it's not a civil split. We both want the dog and I think it is going to come down to the Judge's decision, just not sure what criteria they base it on. Thanks for all the replies.
My hubby does this work also and says it is the most difficult
job he has ever done. No - it is not physical - you are not outside in the element - but it is draining. I agree with others - put headphones on him and make him sit at your desk - just make him type a paragraph - I guarantee he will change his tune - so sorry - don't let him get to you - he obviously does not appreciate you
That is hysterical. Do the guys who work with your hubby
My favorite time of night is when kids and hubby are asleep and the house is quiet...
Usmoms need some quiet time too...don't feel bad for feeling that way...I am sure we have all imagined what it would be like not having kids or a husband...but then that thought goes away and someone yells "Mommy" or "Honey"...LOL...
Rainy, cool, dark. Home working with plenty of work. Hubby and kids are sm
picking up toys, taking them to Goodwill. LOVE days like this.
I've tried lots! Mmmm. They always take me more than 30 mins though. I get her mag, too. nm
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Saw the news 5 mins ago, it is $300 indiv, $600 couple. nm
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What TV commercial drives you
With me, it's the one for NutriSystem! I'm so sick of hearing about that "smoking hot body" and the "trophy wife!"
Every time it comes on, I want to 
Anyone else want to share?
Accepted - but my MIL drives
So I keep my distance. She's a martyr at times and very gossipy so you have to watch what you say around her. SIL takes advantage of her all the time. I try to remain cordial and let DH worry and deal with her.
This drives me crazy too.
Unless you put your purse in your trunk before you leave your house, what's the point? It's obvious what you are doing and that you don't plan to be back for a while when you do it in the parkinglot of a hospital, mall, etc. I think it would be just as easy to pick a lock on a trunk as anything else, not to mention for someone to approximate and come back in 7 or 8 hours and wait for you to come back and get you then.
I hope this lady is okay. It's such a terrible thing. They need to get whoever did this off the streets.
Mine is exactly the same way, drives me nuts- sm
He does not understand why I can't keep a picture perfect house. He was raised by a neat freak so he thinks I should keep the house like his mom, immaculate. Not. We are not living in squalor by any means, but it can get messy quick with 2 kids and 2 dogs. Apparently no one but me knows to take dirty dishes to the sink, etc. Granted the house does need an overall/good cleaning/organizing, but help in not making it any worse would be appreciated. The kids help some and are slowly getting better, but there is still a lot I have to do myself and just don't have the time to do. Seriously thinking of hiring a housekeeper/cleaning service for either twice monthly or weekly cleaning. I still need to declutter but that would make my life a lot easier. Maybe you could do the same and hire someone to clean twice a month. I just wish I could take off for 2 weeks and get done around here what needs doing. I will probably take a week off of one job after school starts up again which will leave my days basically clear so maybe, just maybe I can get a few things done around here that need doing!
2 teenage drives - both boys, sm
One is in college and has not had any type of ticket. Did hit someone already, and he had to pay half of her repairs. We paid the other half because we wanted him to save for college. The second has just gotten his permit. If either of them get a ticket, they will have to pay for it, and go to driver's school. Would probably take away driving priviledges for a while on the youngest. definitely would not ignore any offenses!
As one who drives a larger vehicle (sm)
it cracks me up to hear people with large cars complain. Since I bought my Mountaineer (2007), the price for a tank of gas has gone up about $10. I fill up every other week, so that's $20 a month. Unless your car payment is right to the limit of what you should be spending, that increase in fuel cost should not be putting you over the edge. Now I understand that for those on very limited budgets who need to save every penny this can be a real problem - these are not the ones I'm referring to.
Case in point, I have a friend who bought a much larger, more expensive vehicle than they needed or could afford, and now they can't afford to sell it either because they owe so much more than it's worth. She complains about the price of gas all the time. I keep telling her that if she can really AFFORD to drive a Cadillac Escalade then it shouldn't matter to her how much gas is. Needless to say, that just pisses her off.
To answer the original question, our travel plans will not change bsaed on the price of gas. We look forward to going to the beach every year, and can make the trip there and back and do all the running around while we're there on three to four tanks of gas.
Ugh! When did weddings and births become fund drives? nm
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Rachel Ray also drives me nuts with her voice.
I like the woman who does Barefoot Contessa, calm and relaxed with a soothing way about her.
My DH drives a Chevy Malibu Maxx...
I have a 2005 Buick LeSabre and we also have an older Ford Explorer that DH kept to use for hauling "stuff".....
I've never had anything but an American made car........... LOL, I'm not exactly a car salesperson's dream customer........ I keep my cars forever......
1972 Plymouth Duster
1984 Buick Skyhawk
1996 Buick Century
2005 Buick Skyhawk..........
only 4 cars in over 30 years......
...sinks later on down the road after it drives and the grooves reappear. nm
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That song drives me crazy! It keeps running through my head!
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Need help with ideas for remodeling house and decorating. We bought a house
in fair condition about 10 years ago, got into some medical problems, and have just now paid off the mortgage. Hubby and I agreed we would do nothing to the house for remodeling because we wanted to pay it off first, then the medical bills. I need to know of some websites/magazines/books to start researching for how to go about this. These will be major repairs - roof, septic, basement, windows, pretty much everything except wiring. Where do we start? Maybe hire a general contractor just to do an evaluation and give us recommendations? Hubby is a handyman but cant seem to get a handle on where to begin. We would like to do as much of the work ourselves as possible - labor of love and all that...
Thanks for any and all kind suggestions!
How long have you noticed your hard drives lasts when you are on the computer 24/7. My computer is
doing odd things and it looked like the hard drive is getting bad. It is about 2-1/2 years old. Actually the whole computer is about 2-1/2 years old.
Yes - does not work! Hoax if you ask me. MetaboLife doesn't work either.
The only thing that works for me is exercise and eating correctly! No quick fix, unfortunately.
These, or something similar?
http://www.sendliquor.com/id100234list42product.html?ovchn=OTHER&ovcpn=FindGiftWine&ovcrn=FindGiftWine&ovtac=PPC
http://www.redenvelope.com/re/gifts/product_display/product_information.jsp?nc=1&oid=20650259&pcd=PERFORMICS&mptc=BPER&src=clickserve.cc-dt&cm_ven=Performics&cm_cat=Affiliate&cm_pla=FindGift.com&cm_ite=DDI%20Link
http://www.sienajulia.com/cgi-bin/shop.pl/page=item.html/auto_id=5214/department=01/category=01027/page_number=1
I can't vouch for any of this stuff, these are three items that came up when I searched findgift.com with "Spanish" as a search term and narrowing with "wine".
Good luck!
I had a similar but now use sm
Wolfgang Puck's open face grill, buy on HSN.com. 1200 watts, get to 550 degrees. You can actually GRILL a hamburger or steak. The Foreman ones only kind of steam food, very inadequate.
Something similar here sm
I also live in a small town and we have many Indian docs and they usually bring relatives here and to run hotels and motels they have purchased. I know of one family that did this 25 years ago. A Comfort Inn right up the road from us is owned/operated by an Indian family that live in our neighborhood. Truely some of the nicest people I have ever met.
OMG! I was going to say something similar... sm
Same timeframe and same team, but off by 2 years in age. Unfortunately, my brother was home from Penn State and I gave him my Game 6 ticket. After all these years, I still slap myself on the forehead when I think about that. I was in Philly with the other million or so revelers the next day, though!
I'm doing something similar..
I live in Florida also and am planning a little weekend gettaway for myself. I know it sounds weird, but this way there will be no computer and absolutely no way I can be conned into working. I picked a fairly cheap little resort place that is right on the beach. It's not very fancy, but it has a kitchen. I want to wake up and hear the water and see the sunset at night. I did spend a little more to get a place that had more of a private beach so it would be a little quieter. Just think about the things you want to do and what is more important and then decide. Will you be at the beach more, or golfing more? Do you want more peace and quiet? Or do you want a place where kids can run around - if so golf course probably not a good idea.
Anyway, whichever you choose, have a great time!
I might have something similar
but do not really know your symptoms well. I sleep on elevated pillows (and people also told to elevate the head of their bed with reflux), know which foods bring on this such as coffee, chocolate, spicy, white rice for me, and some cereals but 1 thing I will say, the gastroesophageal reflux disease symptoms are not to be taken lightly. An ongoing problem with this can cause esophageal cancer, Barrett's esophagus is a precursor to this. I would do any and all I could to make sure this is under control.
I went through something similar...
Except not on me, on my son, who I think was like 4 or 5 at the time. They wanted to put a white filling in a baby tooth, and make me pay the extra for it. So glad I didn't let them, found another dentist who put in a silver one and shortly thereafter, the tooth came out. So sorry this happened to you, but unfortunately you'll probably do more harm than good by not paying the full amount, cause they will try to ruin your credit.
maybe similar
i keep getting toe pains in one that is almost crampy-like, and really slows my steppin'. it comes and goes. I'm just afraid its arthritis, but haven't been checked...is yours crampy? would like to know if you get it figured out.
I tried something similar with my cat.
I just wanted her to stay on the deck though She did really good for about a year and then slowly stated creeping down the stairs and eventually started jumping over the side to go on a bigger adventure. Going over the side was when we had to stop letting her go out because she was so quick about it. At first we used a harness and leash and then a water bottle and would squirt her when she came to the edge and that worked very well. We just had to be out with her.
I have also seen cat runs in magazines before. They are long tubular shaped cages or enclosures (not always metal) and some you can even put up to window height so you can leave the window open or add a door so they can go freely when they like. I am not certain where I have seen it but it was one of those magazines that are full of stuff that no one really needs but make great Christmas/Birthday presents for people who have everything. lol I'm sure you could find them on the internet somewhere.
I actually have one similar to this sm
I live on my own. My house is not too big, only about 1100 sq ft. Truth is, I live in my bedroom and my livingroom, where I work. I use the kitchen too, of course. I don't use all of it all the time. My house is well insulated and the furnace runs about 4 times a hour in the dead of winter. I am heating a whole house I don't use. The only place I need warm is around my desk so my hands don't freeze up. I can't stand really bulky clothing either, though I do dress warmly. I have a space heater by the desk. It keeps the whole livingroom warmer, as a fact, but not the whole house. I keep the thermostat on the furnace kinda low.
Now, when I have company, or when it is my day off, I have a space heater with fake flame. It has a blower and blows heat into the room. It is pretty and really puts out heat. If I run that for the entire evening, the furnace doesn't run at all, even though the thermostat is 20 feet from the heater, because the room is toasty. It is electric heater versus gas furnace. The end result was that gas cost me an average of $75 a month versus $110 the year before. The electric bill went up, but not more than $20 a month. The net savings are marginal at best. The comfort increased, however.
Now, I am a little crazy sometimes, I admit it. I bought a CD with fireplace sounds. I play it as a loop (75 minutes long) when I run the *fireplace* and sound makes it feel warmer! I run the sound low enough that the TV or stereo is audible, but you'd be surprised what the sounds effects do for added warmth. I got laughed at, until I had company...
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