Silly Girl shouldn't have to treat her
Posted By: Stardust on 2008-11-30
In Reply to: Hubby with hearing and greedy problems - Rosemarie Danelle
husband like a dog or a child. After all, she is his wife, not his mother. If she wants a pet, she can go to the animal shelter and get a dog. She married a man and he needs to act like one. It sounds like she gives and gives, and he takes. I think Silly Girl should start taking care of herself for a change.
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Ok, call me silly, now I do feel silly - sm
With so much tabloid stuff being talked about and this reporter trying to find out this or that from anyone and everyone, I though you were talking about us. India didn't even come into mind.
And I'm sorry but as much as I loved Michael Jackson and his music (even though he had his problems) I'm getting tired of the coverage. Yesterday for 4 hours solid all it was, was MJ, MJ, MJ, MJ....no other news. Nothing about Farah Fawcet either. Not even one mention of her in four hours. Just MJ. This is the same guy that all these reporters/journalists were trying to crucify for his "wrong doings", and now they are all acting as though they cared so much about him.
don't be silly....no you are not
You just don't have the same likes and dislikes. I grumble about my inlaws to my husband occasionally, but I am also very grateful. So many people just do not get along with family. I feel blessed and can live with an ugly outfit now and then :)
Boy, she sounds like a collecting fool =)
Okay silly, I am sure you can say
Moo goo gai pan!
That's silly.
They have a giant house (without a mortgage) and lots of room to roam in rural Arkansas. The world is plenty big enough for the Duggars. They are a self-sufficient family complete with a loving mom and dad - still married and in love. How often do you see that nowadays? I think it is extraordinary and beautiful. God bless them.
They treat you this way cause you allow it.Can only
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I'm in a silly mood so......here goes.....
CORN!!!
Silly mood....
CORN AND MASHED POTATOES...... HAHAHAHAHA LOL (Thanks for taking the time to make me smile this a.m.)!!!!!!! 
Very silly question - I know but have to ask (sm)
Did you cry when you knew divorce was looming, even though you knew it was for your own good? Did you have any doubts wondering if you really could have made a difference and "fixed" it? I am a "fixer". If something is wrong, I have to make it right. I feel like I can't fix this and it drives me crazy! To comply with what he wants me to do wouldn't fix it and wouldn't make me happy. And I have no control over how he feels, so I can't fix that either.
not a silly question at all....sm
Nope to all...I had a huge psychological background and while it took quite awhile to figure out he WAS (still is) a passive-aggressive - I know/knew far too much about those types of people and you try to *fix* for so long to NO AVAIL. I don't believe passive-aggressives want help and while some seek out help - many many many more do not.
I was saddened that this *idea* didn't work, of marriage - and my child was 9.....that was a huge concern....but I remembered something my mother said...may she R.I.P....said it was better to raise a child in a happy divorced home than a miserably married one. I tend to agree. My child adjusted rather rapidly I thought - only concern for child was *other kids in school* but child realized immediately (and very unfortunately that it is this way) that every other chair in the classroom was a child of divorce.
We did try therapy and I watched him lie to therapist and try to manipulate therapist...some of these types are very insecure and even feel threatened when you DO lose weight, due to their own insecurities. You sound young - I did it at 42 (divorced) and never looked back and push the child into *developing a relationship with the father* (we do live in same state, it's a good thing I think)
I hope this info helps.....I know that every time I broke up with a man, I regained my self-esteem and today I will not compromise that....ever_again!
best of luck :)
p.s. 5 years postdivorce, I lost and kept off to this day 50 pounds!!! Dumped the weight (him), then dumped my own weight and really like the person I've become all these decades :)
SILLY STRING
How does the silly string detect trip wires and why did she need approval and from whom did she need approval?? Both of my sons ages 26 and 20 are currently in Iraq with the U.S. Army (oldest one drives a tank and the youngest one is an Army Scout and goes out on missions driving a humvee looking for the enemy) I would be very interested to know the answer to this.
my silly typo
I said the doctor dictated "The patient was placed in a sling, no make that splint" and I typed "spling". Just thought it was silly and gave myself a chuckle, that's all.
I think fussing over a name is silly.
I grew up in a family where everyone had about five or six nicknames each. We answered to anything anyone called us. In fact, it was a great compliment to be "tagged" with a special name that was only used between two people. My dad called me "Abraham" all of my life. I have no idea why he'd call his only daughter Abraham. Never questioned him on it, but it was a special tag he and he alone had for me.
So, if your friend has changed his name, and for the past 10 years other people have called him by the new name, that's great. But between he and his family, his name is his name. They might even feel a bit rejected since he changed the name he was known by within his family. Their feelings are just as valid as his.
I don't understand the way the word "respect" is tossed around these days. His family does not "respect" his new name? Must people agree with everything another person does in order to respect him? Respect and agree are two different things. Maybe his family think that he does not respect them since he wanted to throw off the name he was known by in his family?
Was this gotten off some silly conservative
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Silly gifts....
My hubby tries! He got me 2 pair of socks and a pair of slippers! He did not read the package the socks came in....They were for foot odor! Haha I won't let him live this one down for a while! He made up for that with an iPod docking station though! As far as food, I am sooooo stuffed I cannot eat another thing. I am still playing with my kids' toys. The toys out now are so much better than the ones we had growing up!
Maybe this sounds silly, but have you
tried leaving the TV on. MA parents dog got so addicted to animal planet she became a couch potato. She had a doggy door and used love to go outside but when the TV was on didn't seem to budge. She put on a lot of weight and the vets solution was turn off the TV. It worked.
CST vs EST HELP! silly question
If I have something to do at 2 PM CST, and I'm in EST, what time do I have to do it? I just can't seem to get the numbers straight....
This is silly to admit, but...
I'm hooked on Guitar Hero III! My husband kept telling me wanted to buy so we could try and I kept resisting. Well, it went on sale at K-Mart, so I gave in, and to my dismay...I'm hooked. I just turned 36 and I'm playing that darned game like I was a kid. My husband loves it and so does my daughter. Strange family activity, but hey, it works.
Never had a cat before? You are in for a real treat (sm)
Cats are just so cool. I have 3 dogs and my 20 year old cat just died in Feb. They work their way into your heart just like dogs do, but in many ways are so much easier to deal with. And they have this way of looking at you when you give them the "wrong" food that day, like you have just totally lost your mind. If you're gone for a few days, your dogs will be so excited to see you when you get back. Cats will act like they don't care, and are just so uninterested that you came back (till an hour or so later when they decide to "forgive" you. As you can probably see, I miss my baby. Best of luck with yours.
TLR- ice cream treat
And by the way thanks to some of the ones that don't mind reading them!!
I decided to take a much deserved break a lot earlier than usual from the craziness going on today and plus it was so beautiful out I couldn't sit any longer. Cupid and I went to Bruesters Ice Cream for a treat. He was sooo excited he ran up to the stand!! I think he knew something special was waiting there for him! It was the first time we went to there so he didn't know what was there yet. The first thing the girl asked me was if I wanted a doggie dish. When he got it, there was a little dog biscuit stuck in the icecream. It was so cute. I hope your having a good evening, later.
Just found the best cat treat EVER -- sm
it's called Kitty Kaviar-- but I think it should be called Kitty Krack, LOL
It is thin dried flakes of real tuna and my cats cannot get enough (and they are fairly finicky).
My male kitty is diabetic and with these treats he lets me test him and give him his shots without any fuss whatsoever.
No not treat yourself -- see message
I type for a psychologist well known in my area whose caseload is 75% ADD. He does a lot of natural remedies and supplements. A good book is Brain Gym that helps with exercises to train the brain to be focuses. A lot of exercise is necessary. Lots of protein, DEH, etc. But without getting him evaluated you are shooting in the dark as to what will and what will not help. Insurance pays for it. But there are a lot of natural supplements and things you can do but you need an expert to work with you and not just an MD that puts them on medications. I have two nephews that have it, they went to this doctor and diet, exercise and supplements have helped tremendously and now in high school they are off medication. If you had an infection or a medical problem you would go to a doctor and not treat yourself so don't treat this yourself. Patti
They say docs won't treat them?
geez, I'm afraid...
trick or treat?
I'm figuring the way this day is going that I will turn off my lights, sit in the basement and eat 2 bags of Snickers instead of handing it out tonight. I hear those little candy bars up in the pantry calling my name. I figure I am saving the neighborhood kids from cavities, weight gain, stomachaches and a night of bouncing off the walls. I know they'll thank me later.
What did YOU do for HIM???, does he treat u good every other day? nm
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can you treat a UTI over the counter?
I am one of those lucky MTs that dont have health insurance and that makes it pretty annoying when I have probelms. Like right now I am sure that I have a UTI, but dont want to go to the ER and get that $600 bill. I bought some AZO and cranberry vitamin. I figure I will drinks lots of water and see what happens... any suggestions? Thanks a lot!
Maybe you shouldn't take any.
Curious as to why you listed biracial up there. What does that have to do with anything?
It doesn't sound like you really want any of them. Maybe foster care where someone wants to take of them would be a better place.
so therefore, i shouldn't have this cat and should get right of it
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My scarecrow ... and my silly dog story
This was so cute that I just had to share it. You really have to know this dog who we get a great laugh at because he is a genuine "klutz"! He actually falls over his own feet! I cleaned out the flower beds of things that were done for the season, put up my fall decorator flags, and all that stuff, and in the midst I put up my little scarecrow that you can find at the local Dollar General stores. Sunday morning right after I got up, I heard dogs barking. We live in a very rural area and no leash laws here. Our road is a dead end so it is not heavily traveled. I looked out the front window and saw the usual collection of neighborhood dogs but they weren't barking. I went to the front door -- and there was Mr. Whiskers (our "klutzy" dog)-- barking at the scarecrow and simply petrified of the thing. Another great laugh from this dog. He is always doing something to amuse us -- except when he insists on getting the paper out of the box every single time it comes - then GRRRRR!!!!!
How do silly rumors get started? sm
To make a sort of long story short...I picked my daughter up from school yesterday right before her last class of the day. She had no idea I was picking her up early. (she missed school earlier in the week due to strep and had to work last night so I wanted to give her a little extra time to get her make-up work done. She has art 7th so I knew that would not be anything major to miss. Anyway, I saw one of my son's friends while I was waiting for my daughter. We didn't get to speak cause they were changing classes and she was in the middle of a group of kids. After school during play rehearsal she told my son that she saw me and told him I had to get my daughter early becuase she had cut her hand. Another friend then chimed in that it was bleeding really bad. They were totally serious. These are good girls and I don't think they thought they were lying or just making a joke. They really believed this. I have no idea where they got their info and there is absolutely no truth to it what-so-ever. Honestly I think this is funny. I am not upset at all...just wondering how rumors get started and how they grow and grow and grow.
Never watched it in the first place because it just seemed silly.
Now that I hear about it, I'm glad I never wasted my time on it or any of the other celebrity and/or talent type shows. I've been on a long hiatus from t.v. watching. I'm just waiting for Lost to return this winter.
You know I know that sounds silly to a lot of us women (sm)
but the majority of men would at least have that cross their mind when paddling a teenage girl who is not related to them - seriously. And someone in authority who wants to paddle students - I think that's just scary. A few years ago I would have disagreed but it is reality.
My 8-year-old still sings and does silly
things when he is alone. I love listening to him, it warms my heart. My 13 and 12-year-old are past that stage so I am definitely hanging onto this!! He still likes it when I wash his toes for him and does "this little piggy", or "this little snowflake," depending on the season!!! He still comes up to me and hugs me and says I love you mom. Yea . . . hang onto that and never forget those sounds.
Just a silly story about canning
When my brother and I were growing up we did not have a meal at home without applesauce. (He and I are both still a little that way) My mother decided to make homemade applesacue and can it to save money. Well canned applesauce certainly doesn't taste like White House. We hated it but we learned to love it. When we ate it all we begged for more but my mom hated the process of making it and canning it so much she refused to make anymore. When then had to go back to White House and it took forever before we learned to like it again. LOL!
No it isn't silly to miss your dogs so much...sm
I would be lost without my babies.
I meant the indians, silly nm
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Michael Vicks ... I wish I could treat him the same. sm
I'm sorry but I am writing letters to every single sponsor of his and to the NFL and the Falcons.
If I could, I would treat him the same way he has allowed those poor dogs to be treated.
I would treat them like Paul Revere (SM)
Make em history! You are better than that. I used to always try to figure out why someone acted a certain way. . like you I wondered what the problem was. Found out from a wonderful psychologist who helped me over a terribly painful relationship that went bad . . It DOES NOT MATTER WHY. . what matters is that it happened. You need to move on. They are just not nice. I would think you took up bowling in the first place to have a good time! GO FOR IT elsewhere! GOOD LUCK!
Thanks for the treat...awesome photos!! nm
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don't enable him to treat this way - especially with child to see
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But did you and your no account brother treat her
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What a nice treat...I get stuff sent to me..
that way from Philly, cheesesteaks, hoagies, good pretzels, TastyKakes...it's nice to be able to get something good from home when you live so far away!
So then you WOULD treat a woman like a criminal?
what's that phrase, judge not lest...?
Treat everyone as if we all worked in the same office.
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If you have not yet seen the deer and cat video treat yourself to
something wonderful. Copy and paste and enjoy. This is truly beautiful.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rooyt3ptNco
They shouldn't be treated the same
A 15yo and an 8yo should not be treated equally anyway. If the 15yo wants what the 8yo wants, tell him/her they can have the same bedtime, curfew, privileges etc. if they want everything to be fair.
You're right. I shouldn't
tell him it will be a long time before I die. I was just trying to comfort him. We have also talked about how everybody will die when God decides it is their time. We are regular church members. He has been raised in church and knows all that, I guess it's just now really sinking in. My husband will take care of my kids if I die. As far as if we both die, we have that taken care of also. We were married 18 years before we had them. They are definitely God's little miracles to us! I'm sorry for your loss, but you're right; you will see him again someday and I'm sure he has never left your heart! God Bless you and thank you for your kind advice.
Shouldn't I have a better self-definition by now?? sm
I am up early, not sure if this will interest anyone, but want to sort of wonder "out loud" on here for a moment. I am 40 years old, yet I still am ambivalent about my religious beliefs, my political beliefs, etc. I find myself not being steadfast either way...I don't know if that means I don't yet know who I am (though by now you would think I should!) or if that means that I am just always going to be a flexible thinker? I sometimes read posts on the liberal board and the conservative board and I can always see both points of view and find ways that I feel they are both right and sometimes both wrong so I never lean to far to either side. I grew up going to a Christian church and I believe in the general overall beliefs of Christians, but then I don't discredit other religions that others grew up with either. And I don't necessarily agree with everything that most mainstream Christians believe. Does all of this mean I am ignorant? Or is it ignorant to be too closed-minded to believe that others also have valid points of view, that I don't always have to be right, and that there is more than one way to be "right"? So sometimes I feel "undefined" and wonder how I can ever define myself...then other times I think I have defined myself exactly as I want to be. Does anyone else feel "undefined"? and is it a good thing or a bad thing?
What amazes me, though it probably shouldn't
is the number of people on this thread bashing someone for doing things right, when anon up above just suggests the OP file bankruptcy. What's wrong with you people? You think it's okay to just turn your back on the mess you've created? Not one of you commented on that poster's suggestion, yet you waste your time bashing someone who does have their act together. I would rather have PhillyChick in my corner anyday over anyone who thinks it's okay to just rack up debt and walk away. You people need to get your heads checked.
Before you say it, this has nothing to do with whether the OP has extenuating circumstances or not. The OP wasn't even asking about bankruptcy. The OP was asking for suggestions on how to pay things back, and for that, I applaud her.
well it shouldn't be. She should at least get to get a second opinion (sm)
I think she is being diagnosed to easily with something that can stay on her medical record and that is so unfair.
Maybe because no one has said to them they SHOULDN'T wear it...
nothing uglier than muffin top under too tight shirts, fat thighs in too tight jeans, sucking down an soda and eating a burger. Some people need to look in a mirror, or better yet, shop at a real department store, spend some money on good quality clothing, stop trying to dress like a teenager, and bring along a friend who will tell you how you REALLY look in the clothes you try on.
not dumb, stuff happens, silly dilly *lol*
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