Showers for 2nd marriages
Posted By: Need Opinion! on 2008-06-18
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My cousin called and asked opinion on wedding showers. Her daughter is marrying for second time and she doesn't know if it is proper to have another shower. She has her own home and has everything she needs. This is the first wedding for future groom. We had same discussion when my son married for second time. His future wife had also been previously married and they both live together and have everything. She went and registered at several places. Her response was she didn't need anything but sure wanted things. Isn't that a bit greedy? Any opionions? Same with second and third baby showers. When I grew up you got one for the first and that was it. If a huge gap between babies maybe a small second one but not one for every baby.
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It broke up both our marriages.
Our two kids, their two kids, parents, other family. She lives in Texas now, on her third or fourth marriage. My ex never did remarry (he is also bi - as I said in another post today). Her ex is on his 3rd marriage.
Thanks for your kind thoughts. But as for me, I met a wonderful man whom I have been married to for 9 tremendous years and am very happy now. It just was such a betrayal that it still bothers me from time to time.
Oh, and no, she never did say she was sorry. It's like I never really knew who she was...
The question was not are you for/against gay marriages
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I stayed for 27 years. It DOES not get better. It gets WORSE. He will never accept responsiblity for HIS failure. His problems did not start with you (no matter WHAT he says). This is HIS problem. Nothing you did or said caused HIS problem. The roughest part about leaving is getting YOUR head straight. I highly advise getting professional help so you can fully and truly understand and accept and live with what I have told you. IT IS HIS problem, not yours!! Run and don't look back. It will take a while for you to come to a full realization of the stress you are living with now, but peace is in your future. LIfe is going to be good again. It will just take some time to heal, and for goodness sake - DON'T EVER FORGET ABOUT IT!! Always remind yourself why you left. Hopefully, it will keep you away from him forever!
$$$ for showers
I would purchase a gift (a small one) and then make copies of multiple pages of monopoly money - to wrap the gift. They didn't indicate what kind of money they wanted - just lots of it - and lots of monopoly money is what they would get - either that or i would go to the dollar store and buy some play money in the kids section and wrap that in with their gift - just a subtle hint at how uncouth their greenback shower really is - I would also confront the hostesses - so that they know that this is unacceptable in the future, should they ever host another shower.
showers
I think it's appropriate to bring a wedding gift to the wedding of someone on their 2nd or 3rd marriage, but I agree that a shower is tacky if the bride has been married before, since like you say, the shower is really for the bride. I'm also not fond of wedding invitations that tell you where they're registered. While it is actually helpful it seems like they are saying, "please come to my wedding and buy me a gift that I have picked from Target."
I think a baby shower for a 2nd baby is fine if the 1st was a girl and the 2nd is a boy, something like that. I think (and this is just my opinion) that once you already have the clothes for the gender of baby you are having you shouldn't have one, but I have been to lots, some specified as diapers-only baby showers. Close family and friends will probably gift them anyway, but no need for a shower.
Three main reasons why marriages break up...
money, in-laws, cheating.....
Just had 3 of my own baby showers not too long ago :)
My favorite game was the one where one of my party throwers melted candy bars in diapers (1-10) and made everyone guess what kind of candy they were. It was cute because the candy bars looked like baby poop :) Candy bars used were like babyruth, crunch, twix, reeses, etc. I thought it was very unique and quite funny for everyone to try to guess.
Another game is to have everyone guess how many toilet paper squares the mother to be needs to fit around her belly. This can get a little insulting, as I had some friends guess 20+ tissues, and I was only 11 tissues. It was quite funny though and a short quick game.
Another game I have seen is sending around a bag of mini-diapers (ones you cut out of paper) folded in half with 2 out of the 10+ diapers having a little paper made poop inside (double sided sticky tape to make sure it stays in the diaper and so you can't see it from the outside like you could with glue). Something cute and quick.
I love the baby items game where the items' letters are all mixed up and you have to guess what item it is.
If you look on-line you should be able to find some other ideas too.
Congratulations on the grandbaby :)
Learn how to socialize again and would have to take daily showers - yuck!! nm
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Also might want to have cornstarch baby powder for in between showers. No Message
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