Shower/Wedding gifts
Posted By: SCMT on 2007-06-20
In Reply to: Copied this so it is not to "you" just some rules. - pdqtrans
The only time that I give money or a gift card as a gift is if I am traveling to the wedding and then it is just easier than trying to pack a gift, get it through security, etc. When I take a gift, if it is something that is duplicated or something the couple does not want or need - I leave it up to them to return it - I let them figure out where it came from and how to return it with no gift receipt. Today's brides and grooms are a bit too greedy and ungrateful for my taste - I can't count how many thank-you notes I have never received - so I make them work if they want a return - which now days usually cannot be for cash.
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Wedding shower...
My niece is getting married in August and is having a shower in July. Long story short, they live together, have been for a looonnnggg time now. On the invite, it says "Money preferred" with a bunch of $$$ around it. They're calling it a "greenback shower"...Is it just me, or is this totally disgusting and greedy? Makes me not wanna go. Also, I am not even sure how much to give. We never see them, only at family functions (DH's family..... )...anyway, is it just me that feels this way?
wedding shower
I agree. I think they have a lot of nerve expecting guests to "finance" their life together. Are they getting married after so long just to make some bucks? Or are you supposed to help offset the cost of this wedding? Are they registered? I'd give her a gift (if that's what you'd prefer). If you feel you have to give money, I'd probably stay in the $25.00 range or whatever you feel comfortable giving. Of course, you could always make an excuse and not go. After all, they'll probably want money as a wedding gift also!
Good baby shower gifts? sm
I am going to my first baby shower ever, and I am not a mom so I need some ideas for good gifts for the shower. She is not finding out what she is having so I have no idea what to get and want to get a gift that she will use. Any ideas appreciated.
I have been asked to handle the bridal shower for my niece's wedding and I need ideas!
My niece is 18 and getting married very young, but not getting married because she "has" to, if you know what I mean. However, the maid of honor is my other niece who is 17 and not in a position to plan and pay for a bridal shower and so I've been asked to plan and then co-host the shower with my neice, the maid of honor for my niece, the bride. Confused yet?
And the wedding is in August! So I need to decide on a theme, location, and get invitations out by July. I want to do something unique and fun, but right now I can't seem to work up a unique idea to save my life! Help!
50th wedding anniversary gifts
they are 68 and 66 years old - a very active, healthy couple. . the date is less than a month away - any gift ideas? It is my fiance's sister and brother-in-law and he is not good at giving gifts and asked me to come up with something.
oops - baby shower - wrong shower!
Sorry, tired eyes here. The thank you notes envelopes might stand and you could make a puzzle with baby words.
Baby shower gift or shower
Anyone have some creative or unique baby shower gift ideas or shower ideas? or what is something that you couldn't live without when you had your baby.
I have heard of giving a book instead of a card and signing the book. Also heard of wrapping the present in a blanket or crib sheet instead of spending money on paper to throw away. I have heard of charging an "admission fee" of a package or diapers or 1 package of diapers buys a raffle ticket for a prize.
You need to send a wedding gift if you attend the wedding - sm
If possible you should drop it by the brides or grooms house, etc. so you don't have to take it to the wedding, and so they don't have to worry about transporting the gifts from the church or the reception. You should always send a wedding gift if you attend the wedding though.
This wedding, the wedding party will be releasing butterflies!
Apparently, you can buy live butterflies, individually packaged, that can be released after the ceremony. The bride and groom are 65 and 68 years old, for crying out loud and this is their second marriage. This wedding is the craziest thing I've ever seen!
shower...(OP)
Thanks y'all for all the great replies...apparently I am not alone in my feelings here!
Anyway, as I mentioned, this is my DH's family...the ultimate shower-givers. They give a shower for every baby (in my family, it's 1st baby only...unless--like mine--they're 8 years apart), every wedding, new home purchase...anything you can think of. BUT...the kicker is...if I don't show up to this thing, next year when my DD graduates and I have her grad party, they WON'T show up...that's just the way they are. So, I'm thinking of taking a "vacation" that weekend and just mailing a card with my "greenbacks"---BTW, love the fake money idea---after all, that's all she really wants, right?
Ah, families---aren't they just WONDERFUL---
Shower curtain or not?
I have a bathroom that goes off my office and really not used but having a dinner later on and I do not have a shower curtain here. I had the bathroom painted and did not want to get a rod that would have to be on the painted part as afraid it would pull my paint off if removed. The shower/tub is a wrap around and being as I do not have another shower curtain in the house (enclosed showers) wondering if anyone can tell me, does the rod fit on the shower part or would it fit outside, that being on the painted part. I hope this makes sense. Any suggestions?
Good for you! I think a hot shower sometimes can
do wonders. I know what you mean about the flashing in the field of vision. My mom and I get that, too. She describes it as zig-zaggy lines. I only had that about 3 times, but was at the mall and was trying to read a price tag and could not understand why everything started to look wierd. You are right. . the headache came later. My mom said if she took something the minute she saw the flashing, etc. she was okay, but it she waited too long she got a terrible headache. I am glad you avoid that one! 
shower head
 I'm looking for a shower head that will help me get all the shampoo & conditioner out of my hair. I have one that allows me to adjust the settings and that helps. I think the problem is that I am so short that even with the high pressure it doesn't completely remove all the shampoo since I am so much farther down than the shower head. I want to get one of the removable ones but before I went and spent the money I was hoping for suggestions. Whenever I go to my hairstylist, my hair always feels so much better for a week or two after she rinses it with that high-pressure sprayer so close to my head. I'm sure her shampoo makes some diffference too, although I'm pretty sure it is just not being able to completely rinse my hair out that is causing me the frizzies. Thanks for any suggestions on a reasonablly priced shower head.
I moisturize right out of shower, then go sm
do other things getting ready, then do my BE. I think it is better if your face has dried.
isn't that a baby shower?
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Try baby oil in the shower but
Also, only pat yourself dry after showering and make sure the water is not too hot, and then put the baby oil on.
My fav lotion so far and I've tried quite a few is St. Ives the one with collagen. It's not even that pricey.
Another good one is Eucerin as mentioned above, but also Avon has Moisture Therapy that is wonderful and hubs loves that one plus one from Bath and Body Works but it's pricey but he says it stays with him. He hates "the girly stuff" but he doesn't want eczema patches to form.
Does it clean the bottom of the shower/tub also?
nm
Pop in the tub with him next time or invite him into the shower with you. Might
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Give 'em a shower! sm
I spray mine with 409, let it sit for about 10 minutes and then shower it off. Or, I stick them out in a down pour and they get nice and clean.
After your shower, elevate legs
and rub lotion into your feet. The massaging action with your feet elevated really moves the blood out of them that collects during a warm shower.
why pay for him to have heat, bed, shower, food.
nm
Run a hot steamy shower in the bathroom and
Put the baby in the bathroom alongside of you, of course, but not in the shower. Just try to get the baby to get the steam from the shower. I used to do this when mine were little, and it worked great.
baby shower gift
I see all these different gifts here and they are all just wonderful gifts. Something that we REALLY appreciated after the birth of our twins was a couple of friends paid for a housecleaning service to come over and do a one time big cleaning for us. We were a month early with them and while I really appreciated every single present we received, that one was a biggie. Also, your time. While the cleaning people came in, the hubby came over and helped my hubby get the cribs together and a dresser (we were not quite ready (lol)) . And the wife helped me with the children and picked up some food. Also restaurant gift card or now even a Visa gift card would be great. That way it can be used for anything they need, now or later on. Hope this helps. Main thing is, give it with your heart.
Rock. Bath or shower?
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Pedi. Bath or shower?
shower...treadmill or elliptical?
nm
He takes his cellphone in the shower????
What the heck does he do for a living? If it does not require constant use of his cellphone, then no, you are not being paranoid! Do you always hear him on his phone? Does he make it a point for you NOT to hear him?
I don't know you, him, or the situation but something about this is bothering you to the point of putting out feelers here. I would not let him know about your **paranoia** yet, but I would not let him move in permanently either. You need to take some time to find out about this feeling you have. Could be nothing, but you need to find out on your own before discussing it with him.
I just went to a sweet bridal shower..
It was at a restaurant in a private dining room. The mother had a stuffed animal that the bride had loved forever and it was dressed like a bride and there were pictures of the girl at various ages holding that stuff toy. A short letter was read from the animal about all of their adventures together and how she was all set to go with the bride on her honeymoon.
All of us were given nice poster cards, decorated with lace, and we were told to write down some advice for the bride. Later on she read them out loud (some were funny and most were good advice). Then they were laced together into a book for the bride to keep.
We had a cold salad lunch and had cupcakes decorated nice for dessert (beats having to cut a big cake). Gifts were opened and then we were on our way. Forget to mention the groom and the father of the bride showed up with roses for the bride and then they ate somewhere else. A bridesmaid dress on a hangar was displayed and I think there were some little decorations on the table.
Want to redo my shower, need ideas
I have redone my bathroom last year and blinged it out, dark gold for the walls, slate for the floor and then had granite vanity top put in. I have a jet bathtub that is never used, hubby and I both shower. The shower itself is just plain Jane, nothing special. I could have the tub taken out and expand the shower over but not sure what I want yet. I have been thinking about some rock detail or tile detail for inside of the shower. Anyone out there who has done remodeling for the shower? Thanks
Aquasana shower filter system
Does anyone have this? It sounds great and I'm thinking about getting it. Curious if anyone uses this or something similar. tia
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Bath/shower gel? Pair of earrings?
Nightgown/pajamas? Gloves/ scarf? Candle? CD or DVD? Purse? Movie tickets?
Me too, the detachable shower massage comes in handy! nm
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Really? People are invited to a shower over the phone?
If I were invited to a shower via a telephone call, I might think that my inclusion in the party was an afterthought. It's far nicer, and manners dictate, that a written invitation be sent for a party, especially when the party includes gift-giving.
There is no way to defend asking guests to address their own envelopes for thank you cards. I stand by the opinion that it is tacky. If you know someone well enough to ask them to a shower and expect a gift from them, then you should make the effort to get their address and send them a written invitation.
Gave 'em a shower - look brand new - thanks!! (nm)
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Shower girl only, have jacuzzi, don’t use, don’t care for other
NM
Hawaiian Ginger Calgon Shower &
Moisturizing lotion, my grandson Cameron gave me the last time he was here, for my B-Day before he went back to Hawaii....Very nice! I just used some of that old time favorite White ginger, I think, over at my sista's house the other day....
Shower on first break in the morning after working almost 3 hours, then
change into street clothes, causal, jeans and blazer, whatever. Then out on my break to the mall for human contact, music, something nice to drink, then back home to finish up my last shift. Works great for me and I never, ever go a day without showering, sometimes bubble bath, completely dressed, ect. This schedule is great for relieving pain with the warm shower/bath and helps me get the job done.
Donnie and shower. Go to movies or rent a movie?
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Anyone have any good/unique baby shower games?
My oldest daughter is having a baby at the end of June and I am throwing a baby shower. I would like to do a couple of simple games. Any ideas???? Thanks in advance.
I would not let my coworkers throw a baby shower BEFORE the birth of my daughter...
because both of my sons were born unexpectedly 2-3 days before their baby showers were planned. We had the baby shower 3 weeks after she was born.
(Was kind of embarrassed also to have a baby shower for the 3rd child anyway, but it was more gracious to allow them to throw one.)
I take a shower before I start work and put on makeup but just wear comfy clothes...
I don't get dressed up or anything...maybe taking a shower before you start working would make you feel better...I can't work if I feel dirty--lol
LOL; were you at *my* wedding?
I think it took me almost a year to get them all out - but 100+ is a lot of handwritten thank yous! I know, no excuse ; )
The Wedding
Yes, you are just being petty. Obviously, you love your dad, but really ... What difference does it really make to YOUR life how much he paid for the ring, how much they spend on the wedding, etc.? Rejoice in your dad's happiness and grow up. You only go around once in this life. Let your dad enjoy his golden years. I say, "Good for him - go Daddy!"
Lilly
When is the wedding and where are
you staying?
wedding
Wedding is 05/17 at Mandalay Bay but we are staying at New York, New York - this is my first trip to Vegas and I'm pretty excited. . We are staying 3 nights.
Would you go to a wedding of
a step neice that you have not heard from for over 20 years? I am so against this, plus I have not talked to her mother or aunts for the same amount of time. I cannot afford to get something to wear with the paychecks I have been getting, giving a gift, etc. I think the only reason I was invited was for the gift. I am trying to get out of it but it is my stepfather's granddaughter and he has been very good to me so I would be doing it for him only. How could I get out of this without hurting my dad? It is this Friday and I have done absolutely nothing to get ready for it. Unfortunately, I already sent in the RSVP card for dinner.
Wedding
 If it were me, I would just send a card with a small gift in it. This way you won't have to spend any money buying something to wear. You are probabably right about just wanting the gift.
16 yo gifts
some ideas: A set of weights and a jumprope for working out,a gift card for tunes for his ipod, the complete set of all Rocky movies. My 15 yo is an athlete too and works out constantly. He loves our weight set more than anything.
I appreciate all my gifts. sm
I wear what I don't like. I set out for all to see what I don't like as well. I use everything whether I like it or not. I never put anything in the closet that I get. I never take anything back. I only exchange what doesn't fit for what does. I believe that if someone is nice enough to take the time to get me something, then I should take the time to wear/display it. JMHO.
If it says no gifts
then I don't take a gift. If you want to give her something privately at another time, you could probably do that.
no gifts
Will this be a high-end catered party or could you help the hostess with all the running around to different stores picking up ingredients, cake, decorations or prepping in the kitchen? I would honor the no gifts request. Cat
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