Shoulda walked over and said,"Here, honey. Let me
Posted By: help you with that." nm on 2007-11-08
In Reply to: Husband did a bizarre thing - may be offensive so - Read at your own risk
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I'm sorry. Shoulda kept opinion to myself.
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Coulda, shoulda, woulda.
No offense, but life is too short for regrets. Celebrate your successes instead of beating yourself up over regrets. You made the best decision you could with the information you had at the time.
Thanks for your input. I shoulda put in my original post .. sm
the components of chittlins and mauls.
Hey I know,
Thanks for clearing the way out there....Been down here so long that when my kids (grown men) and hubby ask for certain things, and a deer leg lands on my doorstep, I just can't waste anything.  Cat
I think mom is getting walked all over.....nm
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been there, walked out and sm
didn't look back lady. There is help out there if you want it. What do you think domestic violence shelters are for? Why do you think these morons do this stuff? BECAUSE THEY GET AWAY WITH IT! If you stay, your son should be taken from you. I am not nswering you anymore. You obviously do not want out. some women just like drama!
YIKES! I shoulda proofread before posting. Forgive all the typos and omissions!
oh and YOU have walked in her shoe(s)????....
How often does he get walked and for how long?
I watch a lot of Cesar Milan's shows. One of the things that I always notice is when he has a dog like yours a big part of the problem is the dog is not getting out enough or for long enough time. Not saying this is the case with you, but that's what I've observed on his show.
You have to start when you get his leash out and reach for the door. Never let him run in front of you. If you watch The Dog Whisperer, the dogs he's working with are always on a very short lead. They never walk in front of him. When your dog starts to get excited, make him sit and calm down. Then put the leash on him. Don't let him go out the door in front of you. That's letting him be the pack leader and you need to be the pack leader. Hold him back and make him stop - as calmly as you can - and then walk out the door with him at the same time. The same goes for the actual walk. When he starts to pull on the leash, stop and make him sit down. He'll figure out pretty fast that pulling is a bad thing. At least this works when Cesar does it.
http://www.cesarmillaninc.com/tips/basics_masteringwalk.php
I'm walking in your shoes, but I walked further
There is only so much you can do. If she is a danger to herself or others, you can get an involuntary committment from a court to have her placed in a psych ward. It depends on your state how many witnesses you need and how far gone she is.
My dd stays with her dad (my ex) and I have had to cut off all ties. She finally got into a methadone program and got a job (which she quit when she got a garnishment on her paycheck for past-due child support) and is going to the local county health department where she was placed on a mood stabilizer. Every time I have talked with her over the past year, it seems she is worse than the time before. I don't think she is on the right meds. I have had to cut off all contact with her because I am raising her child and I just do not have the energy to be everything to everyone.
Like your child, my dd was depressed - I even saw it starting at about the age of 9 months. She was cycling in manic/hypomanic moods by the time she was 7 years old, only back then we didn't know what it was. We just thought she was high strung and spoiled. When she was 11, a close friend of hers from school committed suicide and she began self-mutilation. At the age of 14, she got kicked out of several psychologists offices because she lied and manipulated them. She lived on the streets in New Orleans at the age of 15 and it took us a year to find her. She finally came home with her boyfriend so she could get off the street and promptly got pregnant. She was "okay" while she was pregnant, but after the baby was born and the guy left, she got into drugs. OxyContin is her drug of choice. She chose that life including stealing her dad's credit cards and lots of other things I would be ashamed to post in public. She chose that over her child. I am now raising that child and I don't see things getting better even with all the "help" she is getting.
I'm sorry you are going through this, but one thing I do know is this: If you keep giving her money, a place to stay, food to eat, clothes to wear, she will NOT have any personal motivation to get better. She can sell the food and clothes for drugs. She can use the money for drugs. She will use you until you are all used up, and then what good will you be when she finds she really needs you for something important, like making different choices for her life? I wish you all the best. I know how heartbreaking this is for you. Funny thing is, I get okay with not having a relationship with her until I talk to her, then I fall apart for a few days and have to disconnect again to keep going ahead with my own life. So for me, I have to allow her to make her own choices even if it means that one day soon I could be attending her funeral.
I'll do it. I walked him last night
along with Sasha. He is not a big puller, a bit of a wanderer and sniffer, but he was happy to follow Sasha's lead and all of my gentle directions, which is fantastic! There is no need to give strong corrections to this dog. When we came to a corner and had to turn right and cross the street, I told Sasha, GEE (which means turn right in musher's terms), and she instantly turned right. To my surprise, Cedric instantly followed her. To me this means that he is very happy to have strong leadership and has no need to be a dominant dog (although as Cesar Milan says, if a dog feels a void in leadership, he will always try to take over and fill the position). So for this reason and the other training I have started and seen quick improvement, this is going to be a very easily trainable dog. Yay!
I agree! My BP & I have walked out of restaurants without paying (sm)
if the mgr. wouldn't ask the people with a screaming baby or out-of-control toddlers (running around & actually eating off of other people's plates! Gaaack!)to do something about it. At movie theaters, if people bring screamers in with them, we go out to the mgr. and ask for our money back. My mom raised 6 kids and went to church with all of them every Sunday. If anyone (including the infant-du-jour) made any noise, they were removed immediately. Older kids had to sit in the car (with H*-to-pay when we returned home!), and babies/toddlers sat with her outside 'til such time that they calmed down again. And weddings? Forget it! She never subjected any of her friends' weddings to small children or babies. And we were trained, at at APPROPRIATE age and ONE AT A TIME, how to behave in restaurants. We had to use our "indoor voices", keep our napkin in our lap & our elbows off the table, and eat with the correct forks, etc. And in fancy restaurants, we were trained beforehand that we were NOT allowed to even ASK for a hamburger. That alone prevents many restaurant-meltdown scenes!
wow? You're a whole lot nicer than I am. He finally got the hint when I walked right past sm
him and didn't glance his way once. I'm so bad, but who in the world wants to be intimate after typing on colonoscopies where a patient was not properly prepped?! OR on a patient whose genitalia is basically inside out and she's having every ectomy, otomy, and repair known to mankind?
Honey!
I am not sure why, but honey always helps when I get that really tight and irritated feeling in my throat. Even just taking a teaspoon full before I go to bed helps, especially for when you have the irritating postnasal drip. And its great for kids who get that tickly cough in the middle of the night. Give it a try!
Thank you both. I am going to get some honey (sm)
I have not been tested for mono but I have been around 2 children very recently who were diagnosed with mono. I told the doc this but I have had mono in the past so she said that probably wasn't the problem now. I definitely trying the honey and pepper. I would stick a bar of soap down my throat right now if I thought it would help...lol. thank you
You're not alone honey . . .
Being a wife and mom is a labor of love. Women give so much of themselves. The kids probably won't get it until they have children of their own and experience the same thing. It would be nice to feel appreciated now and then, a little thought behind the gift is all you're asking. Crawl back into bed if you want, or how about a hot bath and a glass of wine. Try to do something nice for yourself. I know it's not the same but what can we do? Chin up.
I have heard this too, but it has to be honey - sm
made in your local area, that way it has the pollen, etc. from your area to help your allergies. My neighbor just started doing this about 2 weeks ago and swears it is working. I am thinking about trying it too (cannot hurt) as my allergies (pollen, dust, mold) are a lot worse this year though the worst is over for me now.
Oh honey, I am a woman...
just can do things on my own...have a large home too and still manage to have lots of time, a clean house and work 10 hour days. I can easily afford a housekeeper too but why when I am perfectly capable myself. DH gets to come home to a home cooked meal every night, a very clean home and a happy wife who does not complain! Not all men want simpering, helpless women.
You could try mixing it with honey or
adding a bit of juice to it.
Honey, she is not MY daughter....
she is a child that I gave up for adoption who is someone else's true daughter. I have stated that I would be willing to meet her face to face, but just because I don't have the warm fuzzies you think I should have about meeting her doesn't make me hateful. Do you feel that all of us who gave children up for adoption are supposed to want a relationship with them? That is an irrational way of thinking, as far as I'm concerned. Am I curious, yes; am I regretful, no; do I harbor bitterness towards her, no. That being said, I am not so curious that it would haunt me to the end if I never met her.
honey and eggs
If you really want a side business, keep chickens or bees. People like to buy organic food.
Honey, you wish you had it as good as me!! :)
Thank goodness I'm not one of you who eeks out a liviing typing fingers to the bone, worrying about bills, etc. Have a good life and know it! Thanks though for your concern!
Merry Christmas to all!
Thanks honey! We would be fine without my job thanks
to living right and not beyond one's means. And BTW, bon bons are fattening, you won't catch this MT with seat spread! Well, this has been fun, but my work day is done and Christmas vacation has begun! So, toodles to you all. Very Merry Christmas!
Did you try the pure honey?
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I think the honey is starting to help....at least (sm)
it is temporarily soothing. Thank you all for your suggestions
Honey, I feel your pain..
We have 5 friggin kids..THREE of which are teenagers and the oldest is almost 26 but going to college full-time so I have footing that bill along with all of his other bills he has acquired as an adult..Then, we have the almost 20-year-old daughter who is unable or just doesn't want to work..so we took her back out of the homeless spectrum and got her a home..which we are footing the bill for...Thus, is the reason mom has to work 2 FT jobs..So, my answer to our kids thinking they are EVER moving back home when we boot them out is this...We're buying a motor home when they're gone. On the back it will be named "Kid's Inheritance." Then, as we pull out of the driveway, and if we see them in the rearview mirror, we're hitting the gas!!! and it's like this.."kids, if you can catch us, you can move in, but we won't be doing the speed limit." How's that !!! As you know, as a parent, you have to spend your time laughing or you will just start bawling uncontrollably until they come haul you away.
I just read that someone mixes it with honey in a cup of s/m
hot water twice a day. She cannot believe the difference it has made overall, and NO hot flashes!! It seems too good to be true. I will try the tablets first and if that does not work I will try the "tea" mixture. Thanks!
Not judging honey, believe me, I speak...
my mind and you could tell if I was judging others. This place is teeming with unhappy, whining, complaining women (just look at some of the posts all over this site) and that is not a judgement, it is fact. As far as being in the same situation as others one day, if you read any of my posts you would see that I have been there, done that and changed my ways. Should something happen, we have learned to save money, have enough put away to last a year and not have to touch any retirement, etc. That took a lot of determination and hard work on our part and we are proud of it.
I am get a good chuckle out of some women who accuse other women of "living off their husbands" and "where would you be without his money". I can make my own money, but my husband doesn't tell me that i need to work and doesn't tell me how much I need to make. He is the provider in this family and has never once asked me to work harder, earn more or get a different job. Remember when men used to do that and our mother's stayed home and raised the family and didn't work? Are you jealous of your girl friends or family members that don't have to work or who live debt free or do you hold that judgement for those you do not know?
Enough of this for now. I'm sure someone will have something to bash me about later on...go ahead, it just shows how very immature some women can be.
raspberry no caffeine hot tea w/honey nm
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Honey, if you are the one posting about all the problems sm
with your father, you need more than jut a phone block. I can't say exactly what needs to be done, but you are here every week (and you need a place to vent and ask for help, so keep coming here), but there is so much more to your problems than "dad always calling, always at the house, always asking about mom". You need a legal analyst to come into this situation and get some formal help and training. I sincerely hate that you are going through this, but your life sounds like a soap opera and I honestly think you need more help then we can give. Good luck and prayers to you.
Oh honey...go take a pill and have a stiff drink too...
some kids are just plain bratty and mean, bios and steps, no matter what the age. Many kids know how to manipulate the situation to their advantage, especially kids from divorce. Some of us are adult enough to see through it and make others aware. Nothing wrong with kids coming first, however, parents need to know when to reign little Tommy or Susie in and stop catering to them all the time.
I did that yesterday with the Honey Nut Cheerios snack mix
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Baby Cakes, I LOVE it...thanks honey!
BTW, you are hardly starting a revolution. It is a little piece of skin...get over it (or maybe GET some of it!)
Honey, you're not here by accident, the world did not just "happen"!...
Will pray for you!
Hand him a lonog honey-do list one day after work,
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Burt's bees hands down - have a tube everywhere - original, don't like honey
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Find a local beekeeper who sells honey. I know, sounds crazy. but sm
here in our town of 200,000, a local beekeeper sells honey from the local bees where people with severe allergies will go and buy a bottle, eat 2 tablespoons a day for a few days and SWEARS by this method.
This is the only natural cure I have seen that actually works. The bees pollinate the stuff you are allergic to and then you eat their honey....and then you become immunue to the allergens in the air and it works.
Honey, I grew up on the south shore of Long Island, NY in hurricane territory...
ya know how to duck and cover. I've never been through a major earthquake or a real tsunami yet though. Hey, there's always time for that. Cat
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