Should add, these neighbors are not nice at all! I am afraid of what sm
Posted By: I really feel horrible. on 2007-09-04
In Reply to: Something terrible happened today. I hit a dog in the street sm - I really feel horrible.
they will do to me and my family if I tell them what I did. I'm just being completely honest with you.
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I wish I had more neighbors like you!...sm
You obviously have a good heart and good intentions. I'm also a sort of paranoid person but not to things like that. Every year, I mail Christmas cards to our families and only get a few. DH's family doesn't ever send out cards. I always say I'm done doing cards, but then what would that prove? That is me and I won't change me. I want my kids to grow up and do the same. Don't change. And I also believe in karma!
Neighbors
Unfortunately, this seems to be the way these days. I moved into my house 10 years ago and the people around me were older and very friendly, everyone knew everyone and people helped each other. All we had to do was ask. Now, most of the people around me have moved out and new younger neighbors have moved in. Nobody speaks to anybody else except to complain about something, and I have found that they would much rather complain than do something to correct the problems. I have tried to put together a neighborhood watch based on people telling me they would be interested... only to have nobody call to confirm they would be coming after I made an appointment.
What I would do is give more to the people or organizations who you KNOW appreciate what you do for them, and just not worry about the rest. You are not a bad neighbor, we are just few and far between these days. Things are definitely not like they used to be, too much is happening and people are cautious. I would not waste a minute being depressed over this, they sure are not worrying about you! I thought the reason people decorated their houses was for it to look nice, you are just appreciating what they did and saying so. Nothing wrong that I can see.
Hope you feel better soon, and I sincerely appreciate what you do with your donations to the animal rescuers.
My neighbors do that too!! LOL (nm)
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my neighbors are all
anal retentive fuss-buttons. I guess it could be worse, they could be a bunch of messy, dirty people. They're not very friendly though. They're all older and retired, and we're younger and still work, so I feel they don't respect us.
How are your neighbors
Well it started off to be a wonderful day. I made myself a cup of coffee, grabbed a new book I wanted to start reading, and just wanted to sit on my back porch and relax in the morning breeze and listen to the birds, but 5 minutes later it just went downhill. Problem is my neighbors have now decided to play music quite loud. It wasn't loud enough that you would call the police over, but they opened their back window and their back window is right next to my back porch (which is the only area in the house to be able to sit out at. So forget about reading and the peace and quiet. Came inside and the neighbors on the other side decided to mow their law, and then neighbors next to them are hedge trimming. So, now im on the puter looking up other places to live that are a little more in the country where neighbors are not so close (right now if I was to talk to one neighbor the other 4 neighors on all sides of me would hear the conversation. I grew up in the country where the closest neighbor was my grandparents and it took us 5 minutes to walk to their house - so I really really really miss the peace and quiet.
Wanted to know what other people think of their neighbors and if they get equally uptight when their neighbors place loud music (and its not like classical or smooth jazz or anything - it's party music, lots of bass and drums and chipmunk voices singing). Oh yes we have another neighbor who decides to mow his lawn between 8:30 and 9 pm, and the other neighbor across the street (we call him Mike the Mechanic) has opened a car repair thingy at his house (but no business signs) and he's rebuilding engines, sodering, banging and clunking with people showing up at 10 pm and later and they'll be out talking and working on cars. Drives us nuts! And on top of that school is not even out yet and there are lots of neighborhood kids that scream and play on the weekends (some are funny and a delight to watch, and some are obnoxious), so know once summer vacation hits it will be worse (we moved in last September so we don't know what the summers are like yet).
Is anyone else like us and does anyone think there is any place in America that you can get some peace and quiet from all the noise.
My neighbors
and I have talked to her quite a bit. Her husband is also out of town most of the time so she is on her own. She has home schooled 3 kids total. I believe she is down to 1 now. From what she has told me the biggest thing is to have a strict schedule, just like the children would at public school. They still have to wake up early mornings and keep school hours. They don't get to take random days off because they just don't want to do school now or something else comes up. SHe also kept an area of the home for "school" with desks for more structure and privacy. She also said when her husband is home he enforces the homework to give her a break. She has also said there are a lot of home schooling websites and organizations out there. She does field trips and everything like normal school would. Apparentnly they are easily found online. Hope that helps but sorry I can't say from experience.
Let me tell you about my old neighbors..
Sorry it's long.... We live in a nice quiet subdivision in Central Florida, lots of kids, big parks, nice people, have lived here 22 years and most of neighbors here for 15+ years...well used to be. My best friend/cousin is Deputy Police Chief of city so stops in regularly. My neighbors across the street moved in 2-1/2 years ago, drove a Cadillac Escalade, worked at Wal-Mart. Got to know them a bit. Found out they bought their house for cash because the father won a few hundred thousand in the the lottery. FOund out they did drugs and kept my distance. Hubby lost job so they got a new hobby, breeding pit bulls. Nothing like seeing a yard full of pit bulls every few months. Animal control put a stop to that as did the owner of the female pit bull dog, whose dog they stole to breed.
Last year in January traded Cadillac in for brand new mustang which someone crashed into a wall 3 weeks later, had no insurance on it and that was their downfall from there. Totaled mustang stayed in front yard up on blocks for 6 months or more before they sold it for 2000. COde enforcement came and went with them.
They like to drink A LOT and play rap music..boom boom boom until 3, 4, sometimes 5 in the morning. Wife doesnt work or does work until she quits, gets fired. Convicted of welfare fraud, found this out by searching for convicted felons/child abusers/sex predators in my neighborhood one day. The couple like to fight daily, police called constantly. They also liked to do drugs and soon a family of 2 adults 3 kids turned into tons of people hanging out daily and/or moving in. It was really nice to see another person moving in to their house walking on the sidewalk towards their house carrying their garbage bag full of clothes/stuff. Rap music started playing loudly from 10 a.m. on, cars stopping in their driveway and driving off as fast as they stopped. Cops now becoming aware of what is going and watching the drug dealers. A few busted, sent to jail but out of jail as fast as they go in.
The week before last Thanksgiving their electric was turned off because they were caught stealing it and then the water soon followed. Both companies had to put locks on it because they kept trying to turn them back on. They kept stealing our water, we think. Somehow our hoses outside would get turned on at night and we would find them on in the morning. After 2-3 weeks with no electric I called child neglect hotline as I think it is neglect, turns out it is not but the state gives them a generator that they run for 12 hours a day. Love the sound a generator makes but a lot less aggravating than rap music.End of March, one of their great new roomies was arrested for murder but we all know he didnt do it, he was framed, he's a good boy, he wouldnt do that (what every person says when arrested for a serious crime)
Then May 5, 2008, the greatest day EVER. They had to move out. It's never nice to see a house foreclosed on but for once I was so happy to see a family go along with their hanger ons. Their customers, I mean friends keep stopping when I am outside asking me where Kevin went. I tell them to try the local jail.
Your mom's neighbors should not have...sm
dogs if they can't have a fenced in yard to keep them in their yard. Nobody wants someone elses dogs coming over making messes in the thrash and trying to bite and going to the bathroom in their yard. Dog owners should be responsible but not all are.
Are we neighbors?
Mine gives away stuff too, her husband doesn't know, and now that they are retiring their credit card debt is a big problem.
That is what I was afraid of
Dh and I have had our 401k for years and this is the first year we each dipped out of it to make ends meet. I was working from home and got pulled in-house. I am spending $100 a week on gas plus another 120/week on daycare. I don’t know if I should count daycare our not because I would have my kids in daycare anyway. I am not talented enough to do MT and watch kids at the same time. Also, I am have been buying new clothes, buy lunch, vendors in the hallways selling anything from jewelry to clothes to stuffed toys to benefit the Children’s Miracle Network, United way, Hospital Auxiliary, or just goes into a fund for fellow employees who maybe suffering from hard times. Then there is always the in-departmental fund raises for birthdays, “so and so is going on a cruise lets pitch in a dollar” or some ones kid is doing a fundraiser for their school, sport or whatever and then coworkers selling Avon, Mary Kay or whatever and I just feel the pressure. Never in my life had I felt the pressure to spend, spend spend as this year that I worked in-house. What’s worse our name tags function kind of like a debit card, just swipe that sucker and they payroll deduct.  Sorry to vent but I want to be back home!
Were you afraid he would (sm)
try to take your children in spite? Were you afraid he would be worse during and after the divorce process??
I'm afraid to.
He was just a sobbing suicidal mess before the Concerta (54mg qd) and fluoxetine (40mg qd). I'm afraid to take him off that stuff! I don't know that he could handle being that down again. He's doing so well in school on that too. He has As and Bs, with one C compared to being years behind his peers last year. We go to the doctor again Tuesday morning. I know he's trying his hardest to help my son...plus I'm a sobbing pile of snot every time we visit about my son. The Respirdal (1mg qhs) seems to be helping him as far as the rapid cycling mood swings and the insomnia. We tried to talk a little bit about his maybe hearing things that weren't actually being said....thanks for letting me vent here. None of my friends understand. They all have been blessed with children who seem to function well and aren't high maintenance if that makes any sense.
What are you afraid of?
I pose that question to you because it was one that I had to deal with after wanting a real relationship but for some reason could not fully commit to anyone. That is not to say that I dated more than one guy at a time, it is just that I would not completely let him in my life. My fear was having something bad to happen to my girls by this man that I brought into their lives. So, now that they are grown, in and enjoying their lives/family, I want someone in my life for me....but that fear keep me from committing. Does that make sense to you? And it will always be there for me...
LOL! That's what I was afraid of...nm
I actually am more afraid of who is in
the kitchen than I am of the meat, especially our local restaurant because I see him shopping at the same store I go to and they are a family owned business here for a number of years. But I certainly see your point.
What I'm Afraid Of...& Not
I'm scared to death of flying. Have never been on a plane and never plan to be on one either, unless it is a dire emergency and I have no choice. Hurricanes scare the bejezzums out of me. After going through Andrew, Katrina, Rita, and Gustav, I think I will go as far north as possible next time...if I can afford to. I never want to go through that again...even being 90 miles inland, it is still terrifying when they hit here (the wind is what we have to worry about). I'm afraid of losing my home, my family, and dying alone as well. I'm also afraid of dust and pollen...I'm highly allergic to both and stay indoors when pollen season hits (which is three times a year here...for dust, I just try to keep the house as clean as possible).
I'm not afraid of spiders (unless they are black widows, which we have here), non-venomous snakes, raccoons, tigers, dogs (used to be), or being on or in the water.
I'm afraid
I'm a little scared to try this. I'm 45, but I'm really scared it'll tell me my brain is 72!!!
Are You Afraid Of Getting
Are you afraid of getting old? I'm talking about getting up in age & not being able to do for yourself, having to depend on others for your care.
No, I am not afraid
I honestly do not think that far ahead, and prefer not to worry what may or may not happen.
I'm very afraid of getting old and I'm not too far from it.
I have no daughters, just sons, but not one of them seems to want the responsibility of taking care of us in our later years. We do not want to go to a nursing home. We want to die at home.
I know I could not live alone on our property without a helping hand if something would happen to my DH and have been thinking about what to do since his surgery 2 years ago.Where would I go? What would I do? I surely don't want to leave this property after living here over 40 years, but don't know of any way to do it if something would happen to him.....and so, I think about it all the time. Even now, I have trouble taking out the ashes and definately (sp) could now carry the coal in now, yet living in the "country" for over 40 years, I don't think I could live in a town again to save my life.
No. Too afraid..sm
Too afraid I would transcribe everything absolutely strict verbatim, including background/cell phone conversations and the like.
Maybe that is the reason for my neighbors
still having their lights on the house, and ON.
that would be right - if neighbors esp are Russian
We had new neighbors move in who
had a similar theory about what was acceptable.
They had a habit walking into their neighbors houses without knocking. My parents were too polite to say anything, so they were clueless that they found it appalling. We didn't normally lock the doors when we were home, but to keep them out, we kids started locking them when everybody was inside, just to befuddle the barging-in neighbors. One time my dad had been working in the yard, and he was doing his usual change out of his work pants at the back door. He had privacy because he would announce he was changing, and close the door at the top of the stairs so that he had closed doors on 3 sides (door to garage, closed back door, closed door into rest of house, and open doorway into the unfinished basement. The clueless new neighborgirl decided to have a visit, came thru the open (big) garage door and opened the door into the house, where my dad stood, crouching with pants around his ankles. Oh the bellow that came out of him!
That new neighborgirl did drop by and barge in quite so often after that ...
anyone have trouble with their neighbors...????
beginning to wonder if there could be anything worse to have to put up with. I have been dealing badly with these people for almost 2 years now and am in the process of remodling to sell out and find a better spot to live. my neighbor is going down hill quick. what used to be the all american suburb, has turned into trash neighbors...sorry had to vent!!!!
No, I just said I feel sorry for your neighbors.
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Thanking god for my neighbors.
I got lucky when I bought my house about four years ago and am surrounded by home owners. Many of our houses are duplexes or duplexes converted into single dwellings (like mine). We had one bad group down the street on the corner (the landlord lived next door) and they were almost impossible to get out he spent gobs of money to get them out and in the mean time they trashed his property. The neighbors all kicked in to help him repair. This time he checked all the references and made sure none were bogus it took an extra month of the property being empty but he has had no problems with them and they are extending their lease and other than that home there is only one other house that rents and the owner (a sherriff) lives on one side and rents the other. My suggestion is try to move into a neighborhood that has very limited or restricts renting.
VEGETATION AND NEIGHBORS
Hi: Do you know them? If you do, have you said anything? If you haven't then assure them that you "don't mind" if they come on your land to cut back their vine. If this is not a possibility, then get some of that vegetation killer and put it on the vines on your side. I think some of them even will go back to the root, so maybe it will kill the vine on their side too. That might not be all bad for you. So, when it is all gone on your side, re-landscape your areas and dig down with one of those sprinkler shovels (the ones that cut and look like a pancake turner straightened out) and put a barrier, like chicken wire or something more solid. I think they hve plastic things for that at Home Depot. I guess it wouldn't help your lawn if the roots are all in it,, but maybe you could cut and roll it back and put in some Zoysia grass if it is legal in your area or another grass lawn. I have a trumpet vine I have been nursing along for 4 years and the weather is so bad here that it is still a tiny thing. Maybe I should pull it out?
yep, friendly with ALL my neighbors
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Are you sure you aren't one of my neighbors?
Sure do have the same attitude. Have a good day!
Friendly with all the neighbors except
for the ones directly across the street - they are loud, obnoxious, lazy and don't know the meaning of the word neighbor and are raising their 2 kids to be the same.
Personally, I have neighbors who are sm
teachers. The rule in the high school here is that Cell Phones are to be turned off while the students are in the classroom. If it rings, it is confiscated. I totally agree with that rule. School is for learning, not text messaging, etc. However, in case of an emergency, of course, they should have the ability to dial out in an EMERGENCY situation.
How many neighbors could you borrow something from?
If you're baking a cake and run out of sugar or an egg or something similar.
I've got three.
Is it because of the neighbors in general
or just that you don't want to impose on anyone? I have 3 that I can borrow from and have. My very best friend who lived across the street up until last year was someone I always went to and vice versa. We could borrow anything from each other and I mean anything. We joke with each other all the time now when I need to borrow something really crazy that I wish she was still here because if I asked the others, they'd think I was nuts.
Neighbors want tax breaks because
they say this purple house is bringing down property values of their own homes.
PS: I think the neighbors have a problem with a
People I know who've relocated from Calif. to Washington (or Oregon) felt they had to change their car's license plates on crossing the state line, in order to avoid persecution. Usually folks tend to blame Calif. for their property values (and TAXES) going UP.
What a nice response by a nice mom
What a gracious, well-adjusted response to a rude, obviously maladjusted poster--Hard to imagine someone with such an empty life and such a petty spirit that they would take the time to post criticism about a kid's feet! (Some people really have major issues, LOL!)
I'm afraid I don't know cats...sm
Nearly as well as I know dogs, so I can't answer your question about whether it's normal or not (the hardened nipples) but it doesn't sound normal. It can't hurt to call the vet and ask.
I would also suggest that you make an appt. (if you haven't already) to get her spayed ASAP, because she can and very likely will go into heat again right away since it's that time of year (some people call the warmer months 'kitten season.')
I happened to find this website yesterday, while looking for something else: http://marvistavet.com/html/body_giving_birth_to_kittens.html
Here is a quote from it:
>> Nursing the litter generally suppresses the return to cycling but the average female cat is back in heat about a month after delivery of the litter. If she has access to a male cat, she will likely become pregnant before she is finished weaning the current litter. >>
Wow, before she's even finished weaning the current litter? Amazing (and a little shocking?!)
If you go to your regular vet, you can probably get her in to be spayed pretty quickly, but it will cost more than a low-cost spay/neuter clinic. (Might want to get her teeth cleaned too if she needs it, since she'll be under anesthetic anyway, and the anesthesia is usually the biggest part of the cost.)
If you go to a low-cost spay/neuter clinic it will cost less, but you might not be able to get an appt for 2-3 weeks or more. If she's in heat again by then, they will either not do the surgery, or (more likely) they will charge a little bit more for it because it makes the surgery a little more complicated (increased risk of bleeding when they're in heat).
I hope she's okay as far as her nipples. Can you let us know/give an update?
How many parents here are afraid to
let their kids play outside because of the numerous kidnappers and pedophiles wandering around your neighborhoods.
*Jou are afraid of my Guatamalaness!*
And how about the Guatamalan peasant soup he made up? I laughed until I cried first time I saw it!
Why are you afraid people would think you
Vagisil isn't just for yeast infections, just itching or irritation, so it wouldn't hurt for him to try it. You did say he used talc, but has he tried corn starch or baby's corn starch powder before going to work? Zinc oxide (Desitin?). Have you tried changing your detergent? Since he does use his arms all day, there would be constant friction in those areas, so a corn starch product might help cut down on friction, which seems to be what is causing his problem.
Ummm...a lot I am afraid
When we added our son about 4 years ago (he's 20 now with his own insurance, thank goodness) ours tripled! We're about to add our daughter too...but not til she gets a J-O-B...good luck!
Of course you're afraid
If you weren't afraid, that would be worrisome. The fact of the matter is, you haven't been in a marriage in 3 years. Separating is just making it official. Maybe he realizes this too. Divorce is never a one sided thing. It might be more one person that the other, but it's never totally one partner's fault.
The trial would be a good thing. It might clear both your heads.
You are so right. Often afraid to reply
becuase don't want to offend anyone. I really didn't think you were being mean, just want to make sure. BTW, my kids and my furkids are genuises! LOL!
Sounds like you are afraid of something!
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I am afraid it would just infuriate him (sm)
I am so sorry about your friend :(
Over the years I have learned ways to calm him down some, by making him feel more in control of everything that goes on. If I get a restraining order right now, to him that is going to be the first shot fired and who knows what he would do after that. But I know there would be repercussions for me for doing that, for sure.
Afraid is not really the word....
I'm not sure what is but I am in such a midst of unknown and my age is CONSTANTLY on my mind, but only because I feel like I should have done so much more by now. I am not old by any means, (turn 28 next month) but I am heartbroken about it. Only because I just started doing the single thing, going out, having fun... I moved across the country last month... My mom always wants me to come back and settle down, get a "real" job because MT is not going to be around forever...
I just feel like I wish I did all this stuff when i was in my early 20s, not my late 20s.
When I was younger (just a few years ago) I really wanted a family and a house and a husband... now I dont care for those things. I still want them some day, but I don't feel the need like I once did. I just feel like my time is running out in the next few years but there is no end in sight to how i feel now (so much freedom!)
What I am truly afraid of is this: My biological clock not ticking ever again...
Nope, afraid not. nm
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Afraid of the vaccine
I'm just afraid of the vaccine, especially if they rush it! I'm pretty sure the 1972 flu was the Hong Kong one. I had that.
Huh?!!? I'm afraid "macho-man" here
Can't think what's macho about this joke - if anything it's quite the opposite.
My parents have horrible neighbors.
They are nice people, but their three daughters are always dressed in dirty clothes. You will often see one of the girls out in the yard with no clothes on and they are old enough they should have clothes on. There back yard is totally trashed. They have junk thrown everywhere and the kids are out there playing in the junk with dirty or no clothes on. They have several dogs that they can't keep pinned in and we often find them in my parent's yard taking a dump or just walking around. They had two goats and when my dad caught one in my mom's garden, he shot it with a BB gun. They had two ponies in their back yard, which isn't big enough for one pony let alone two, and the one pony had what looked like a old tuna can stuck to its hoof. They never mow the front yard. They have junk all over the front of the house. I don't even want to think about what the inside of the house looks like. Their dogs come over and my mom has tripped and fallen over them as she suffers from MS and her balance is not good. Both the parents have dark long brown hair and if you see them from the back, the only way to tell them apart is by their tattoos. My mom has called the humane society about the animals several times. Nothing has been done. I told my mom to start shooting animals at random as they enter her yard. LOL!
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