Should I make the kids sleep over at Grandma & Grandpa's? (sm)
Posted By: Anon - definitely anon!! :-) on 2007-11-20
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 My MIL frequently asks for my children to sleep over. In the past, I would force them to go a couple of times a year. The problem is they cry and beg me not to make them go, even now when they are 7 and 10 years old. My MIL is a good person, but she doesn't ask them what they want to do, she tells them what they are going to do. "Now you are going to help me make cookies, then we are going visiting." She doesn't do anything bad, but their home really is incredibly boring. They are very active in their community..but it is sort of "all for show" and they like to take the kids around and "show" them to everyone. I do understand this, but you would not believe the begging and pleading and crying I get from the kids not to have to go. Would you make them go? If so, how often?
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Anything I want - kids are going to Grandma's!
(((don't feel bad we sleep with our kids too))))
comes to mind and fires, we just have a better peice of mind sleeping with them. they have gotten so big my hubby sleeps with one and I sleep with the other!
Sounds like YOU picked a real loser to sleep around with and have kids with.
You have no one to blame but yourself.
Coronas with limes! It's a girls' night out!!! The kids are at sleep overs and
I am going out! Woo Hoo!
$100 K from grandpa
you mentioned dad has psych issues. has your son been checked for this? i suppose i'll end up being a meddling mother because even as adults, if my children show signs of mental illness, drug abuse, whatever. i will do my best to get them help.
My grandpa took this
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Anyone find as you get older you get a more interrupted sleep pattern and sleep less and wake up
more at night. Any suggestions for this.
Something you can make for kids if you don't sew(sm)
My son put on his Christmas list this year "another blanket with love in every knot." Two Christmases ago, I made each of my kids a blanket "pocket" they can get in. You're probably seen the blankets that are fringed and knotted all the way around? I did two of those only left the top open so they can get in. I bought two of the soft throw blankets with pictures (at the time Strawberry Shortcake for daughter and Mucha Lucha for my son) and then went to the fabric dept and bought a solid color blanket material that matched the picture. Cut fringe on three sides and then knotted it all the way around. I told them that I had put love in every knot. They LOVE them. Have never used anything so much. They sleep under and sometimes in them at night and bring them with them in the mornings when they first get up so they can snuggle up in them. My son has outgrown Mucha Lucha so he wants a new one with a checkerboard on the front. So I'm making more this year - it's great for me because I not extremely domestically talented, and the kids love them because I made them.
your kids could make cards, etc...(sm)
draw him as an angel watching over his family or something.
or you might look up angel crafts on the net and find a project they could make and give the family.
I can't believe you just wrote it's not okay for your kids to make mistakes.
"Just becuase UGU all forget things and make mistakes does not mean that my children need to be raised to think it's ok to do so."
Good god, I hope I never meet you or anyone else with your twisted sense of right and wrong.
Grandpa from Tennessee taught me to cook it
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All spanking does is make kids respect you to your face (sm)
it does not teach them anything at all. When my kids were very young and I could not reason with them, they did occasionally get a swat to get them to listen to me, but once they are old enough to reason, there is no reason to use physical force on them. I am telling you, all it does is raise sneaky kids.
Kids at grandma's for me too! Pizza, pizza, pizza!
Yay.
Absolutely, but I shake myself out of it quickly to make it a happy time for my kids and hubby. nm
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Sleep....beautiful sleep.... nm
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Well I figure I can make my own hours & be home when the kids are home (sm)
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being a grandma
My son-in-law hits the baby. He acts like he is all hyped up on drugs andis really aggressive. There is nothing I can do.
You should give your kids a book about how really smart and gifted children act like heathens when the eat junk food. There are tons out there. Maybe they will take the hint.
my grandma....
Has some money and my mom tries to help her decide what to do with it. I still don't understand what your sister's deal is. Are you implying she WANTS the money when your mother passes away? My mom also speaks about my grandma "losing it", but never mentions MONEY. I think it is right of you to put your foot down with your sister but ALSO discuss the will with your mother. I'm not sure the kind of relationship you have... but I know that my mom can do it with my grandma. I hope you can too
a grandma at 40 wow!
my mom was pushing for that then too but she had to wait until she was 50! ha :)
congratulations and best wishes to your kids and thank your son please for enlisting in the service!
Why should Grandma have to .........sm
help raise 14 kids that her obviously disturbed daughter wants? Grandma raised her child and that child is now a grown adult and supposedly capable of making her own decisions. If she decided to have 14 kids, then she should raise them and not the grandmother.
grandma here...sm
New 1st-time grandma here... I suggest Baby Einstein DVDs, bibs, diapers, Boppy pillow, cloth diapers/burp rags, Onsies in different sizes, books...
I learned from my grandma's and we did that for my FIL.
His service was the best...just friends telling stories about him. I think the reason for the "saving" is because my grandma's funeral was in Iowa. Plus, honestly, I didn't expect that. It was horrible.
grandma care
Does anyone know any good sites for information on taking care of the elderly. My grandmother is 82 and is in a steady decline, but all i find online are places to put her and in care aids. Thanks for any help.
grandma's house
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Grandma Got Run Over By A Reindeer (NM)
decision on grandma
I decided to email tell my grandmother i would bring the boys to her house Tuesday to do their Christmas visiting. I haven't contacted my mother, she lives beside my grandmother; maybe she will come over when she sees my car. Who knows?
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We moved into my grandmother's house after she passed away. One morning while I was asleep that paralyzing episode happened to me. I always thought it was grandma's ghost. For years after I had nightmares about it. For some reason I thought she was mad because her things were moved and she wanted things exactly the way she had them.
Son's wedding - Grandma is insisting
does not want at THEIR wedding. How do I, as the groom's mother, handle this. This has put us in a very awkward situation and I am not liking it at all. She calls me and then immediately calls our son and is leaving nasty messages on both phones. Threatening messages, may be a better word for it. By the way, grandma is also my mom.
I am old enough to be a grandma, but had my son very late in life.
I am tired all the time, but glad to have him. I just can't get off the floor when I play with him there. Anyway, paper dolls! And imagination! And club houses we made with chairs and sheets, or boxes. But we had to put everything away when we were finished playing, and only play with 1 thing out at a time. Today I was just thinking, by the time I finish picking up the house, the kids are back home again and the house is trashed. Ugggg. My parents never nagged at me. They did not have to. I knew 4 o'clock meant vacuuming and that I'd have to wash the pots and pans if I were naughty instead of my mom doing them. And there were no automatic dish washers, or even phone answering machines! So much to remember. If my mom were alive today, she would not even imagine the things we have and how computers have changed the world!
My secret to happiness what something my grandma
told me.
My grandparents were opposites. I asked her on their 50th wedding anniversary how they had been able to stay together so long. She told me this:
You can sacrifice things in your life for the person you love and vice versa. But, if the person loves you and is worth loving, they will not require it of you.
my great-grandma did similar
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Do babies like them? Do mothers like them? Thank you.
Time to move out of your grandma's house nm
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Another grandma here and I admire people who have the patience (sm)
to deal with longer hair. I think they have so many more options as to wearing it up, down, whatever. Enjoy what makes you happy. Who the heck made those other people the judge of what is appropriate for our age?
When my grandma died, it was only maybe 2 months before I got my inheritance. sm
Her will was pretty basic and well spelled out, and nothing was contested by anyone. She had been in the nursing home for quite some time and that bill had to be settled first, and her home had to be sold (which it did extremely quickly since we took the first offer). But she died the end of October and it was still winter when I received my check. I don't remember the exact month, just that it was still cold when I was chasing after the mailman, LOL.
Hopefully yours will progress smoothly. Wills can bring out the worst in people, but it doesn't need to.
Thank you very much, I am begining my journey with my 81yo grandma and really needed that. thanks
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We've done that! You can bring pets to my grandma's nursing home on certain days (sm)
You have to go through a little evaluation with your animal, but they have cat days and dog days and you can bring your pets. Walter is a huge patient sweetie - 120 pounds of shiny black fur and muscle - he is quite young and very solid and built. Some of the residents love him so much. He will just slowly walk up to someone he feels might be receptive to him, and when they put their hand out he gets under it and next thing you know he has his big head in their lab and they are slowly petting him, over and over and over. It is so heartwarming when you are watching.... I mean literally your heart is so full you can feel it in your throat. I've had to hide my tears every time.
Sometimes a resident, usually a gentleman, will talk about a dog he used to have with the clearest memory.
A funny thing happened when Walter was getting some attention from a women in a wheelchair and he leaned against her and I saw her wheelchair was slowly being pushed across the lawn.
It didn't work out due to combining of kids and step kids. nm
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You don’t need less sleep
you just sleep less and I just tell the younger ones to enjoy their sleep while they can. I miss the days when I could sleep 10 hours or so.
sleep
don't go to bed right after you have been doing a lot of 'mental work' reading works well to help me fall asleep, not necessarily stay there. I find when I am the worst is when I do a lot of mental activities right before bed. I just can't 'turn it off'
getting enough sleep
is one of the keys to losing weight- if you don't get enough sleep it actually makes it harder to lose weight, I think because of extra cortisol. Plus we probably eat more when we are tired and need more energy.
I know how you feel though- I was able to lose 70 pounds but now have come to a dead standstill where I keep gaining and losing the same 5 pounds and never going below that. I still have at least another 30 pounds to lose. Its very frustrating!
Sleep MD
You can find this at walmart. I'm going through the same thing, and I don't want to take anything strong because it just makes me fuzzy the next day. Sleep MD works pretty well. Give it a try. 
I always sleep better when I have our 7 yo between us
Hey, Unreal.. I also nursed her until she was 3 years old. Really unreal, huh? I sleep much better when she sleeps with us. She has a 20 yo brother who slept between us until he was at least 7, then always would bring his sleeping back in and sleep on the floor next to our bed. We continue to have a strong bond with him even though he is grown up and now out of our home. And no sicko hanky panky going on in our bed either. Country MT, your son will be closer to you for the rest of his life because of the close, loving bond you are forming with him right now. It will make all the difference in the world when he goes through those teen years, believe me.
i used to sleep like that :)
I'm thankful for people like yourself that take these animals in. My family (and extended) growing up always got their animals from the pound. All our's and our daughter's have been abused, rejected and/or abandoned. It is so rewarding to see them happy and your friend looks happy too!!
Have you tried Sleep MD?
You can buy it otc in drug stores and Wal-Mart. It works pretty well and has "natural" ingredients - not sure what's in it but you don't have that foggy feeling when you wake up.
sleep
Are you stressed about something? Try putting on some soothing music at bedtime and do conscious meditation, deep breathing to relax yourself and let go of the stress. Other than that, there are herbal preparations that help.
I NEED my sleep!
I've gotten by on less than 8 hours of sleep, but it's not a pretty sight. I'm like a zombie and can barely keep awake in the afternoon. But I really like to sleep, too! I like the feeling of drifting off, and I love the feeling of waking up after UNINTERRUPTED sleep. And there's the rub! Hubby snores, and he wakes me up. Or, because he goes to bed before me, he's already snoring when I come to bed, and that keeps me from falling asleep. Ear plugs don't do it for me. Now that I have a son in college, I've taken to sleeping in his room when he's away, and I get much better sleep. I've been able to train myself to sleep less in the past, perhaps just 5 hours a night. But I couldn't sustain it longer than 2 or 3 weeks before I'd just crash and burn. I think some people can do it, but I'm not one of them.
sleep
I think more important than how many hours you sleep is what you do with the hours you are awake. I can be very productive, or waste a lot of time.
These are associated with sleep,
not having attacks or strokes. Go back to your fly by night medical degree license.
At that rate, I could make in a week what I make
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Perhaps you should consider a sleep study for him...nm
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