discuss this with her or, better yet, see doctor and have her given some form of birth control. I think this is imperative. If she is having sex, I don't think she is going to stop. You somehow have to convince her to act responsibly. Condoms would be the best thing.
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That wasn't even the point of the OP. She wanted to know about in-laws or anyone else just walking in without knocking. My family and friends don't have to knock before they come my house. That was my point.
I live in a rural area that I grew up in, everyone knows everyone else. I have a nice, loud watch dog who lets me know when anyone is around. The windows are locked. The doors are locked at night and when we leave the house. I know what kind of a world we live in. The Pony Express brings the paper every couple of weeks back to the sticks. I try to stay informed.
Better Safe Than Sorry
Better to be safe than sorry, especially with beef -- that can be a very bad GI problem if the beef has gone bad with bacteria.
Happy New Year!!
is there nothing safe?
How can any of you get so excited and downright mean about something as basic as a vitamin question? Gee whiz, it's just a discussion board. So contentious.
Can't make them safe.
A 14 year old I know was killed on his bike a few weeks ago. You can't make them live in a bubble. I will pay for my kids insurance and their cars. Of course they will have rules, although our state has plenty as it is for young drivers. I will teach them to be responsible drivers, walkers, bike riders, etc. Just because life can be hard, doesn't mean you have to make it be harder. I moved out of my parents house just before my 15th birthday and took care of myself. While it can be done, it doesn't always have to be.
If they kids are safe there - just let it go.
Some families do holidays as major events. If the stepmom and her family are half descent people and the kids are safe there then don't worry about it. :)
Wow, this just blows me away. Last year or early this year a mother aged 17 or 18 gave birth to her 2nd child without parents or anyone for that matter knowing she was pregnant. She walked into an Omaha Hospital and left her child in a restroom and walked out. Please note at that time Nebraska was the ONLY state which did not have a safe haven law on the books. It was pushed through shortly after and is now a law FINALLY. Which is good because now mothers, who do not want to or cannot take care of their children have a safe place to take them without being in trouble for doing so.
Well, to my understanding this law (NE only), does not have an age limit as to how old the chid can be when dropped off at the hospital. Other states have it cut off at 14 but none have ever seen a child OVER 3. This information came from a radio show about the new law yesterday. Since the law was put in place a mother dropped off an 11 year old, a different family dropped off a 9 year old and this mornings news has the following
OMAHA, Neb. -- The state has taken temporary custody of a teenage girl who was dropped off at an Omaha hospital Saturday under Nebraska's new safe haven law.
A representative from the state Department of Health and Human Services said the girl, 13, was left at Immanuel Hospital around midday. No other details were released.
The girl was the third child dropped off at Nebraska hospitals in the past week.
The state's safe haven law took effect in July and allows parents to abandon children at hospitals and other locations. The law does not set a minimum age after which a child can't be left without prosecution.
Does anyone have any thoughts on this? I agree with the law all the way. I am just concerned about the after shock of having an older child dropped off at the ages stated above, what kind of damage is that doing to the child? I do not agree with child abuse and know that older children are abused all the time but is there not another way we could deal with this?
Just wondering what everyone else was thinking.
It is already from a safe contact
I can open all mail, but where pics should be (and were before hotmail changed the look) are just boxes. It isn't just from one contact, but from all my contacts that I used to receive pics from. Now what? I sent an email to the contact site, but they have not answered me yet.
This one is completely fail-safe:
It's expensive. It's bad for your health. DUI's are expensive. AND, in 2008, if you're DUI and kill someone, you can be charged with MURDER, instead of merely vehicular manslaughter.
So I'm havin' a Coke, staying sober, and hopefully I'll live to enjoy yet another year.
my kids had a safe haven to come sm
home to and they knew it and still know it. They have come back twice when times were tough and we didn't charge them a dime until they got on their feet in a couple months. I just think is an injustice to not charge them at all and let them go and do as they please when working and not going to school. You don't get to blow your money as you please as an adult, why should they if they are not in school?
Abstinence is not Birth Control, it is SAFE SEX.
Abstinence is truly the only SAFE SEX....but it is NOT considered birth control........
Here's a couple of safe pet food sites.....
http://www.flintriver.com/
http://www.petpromiseinc.com/
I hope your family stays safe. It looks really bad.
I hope they decide not to ride it out though. I have been watching on TV all day. Senator Kay Baily Hutchinson was just on Fox News and she believes Galveston is going to be underwater due to the storm surge. Not sure where your family is, but hopefully they thought better about staying and left.
Good grief, they deserve a safe sm
plce to live! They are not going to remember the big house, etc when they are grown. They WILL remember the abuse you subjected them to and did not get out.
Why not stay safe AND support the US economy
San Diego, Santa Barbara, Santa Monica/Venice Beach, LA Jolla, Pismo Beach, etc.
Also early spring is the best time to see the Grand Canyon, Southwest, etc., before it gets hot, and the hordes of tourist busses arrive.
So you think cell phones are safe? This is troubling! This is probably what it does to our brain power - like putting your head in a microwave,
:(
Hope you are safe in the Midwest with the terrible storms..
that are ravaging the area. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your families.
Kids want/need bounderies. Makes them feel safe
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Actually, relatives in suburban PA don't lock either and I feel safe there, roo. sm
But i would not feel safe in my own home unlocked, even though I'm in a gated community with tons of outside lights, etc. For some reason I feel safe in someone else's house more than my own.
Is it safe to drink unopened canned items
That have been refrigerated for a couple weeks. Found a can of pineapple juice my husband put in the refrigerator a couple weeks ago, but didn't open. I know it's not safe to put open cans in the refrigerator, not sure about something that has not been opened yet.
I have relatives in fairly rural Maine who never lock, and I feel totally safe there. nm
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Well, hello, learn something new each day
my daughter came by tonight to eat some collards and black-eyed peas (money and luck here "supposedly" in the south for this next year and darn if she didn’t tell me she has floaters and have had them for years (she is 34). I was talking about asking the people on the MTs if they knew of any treatment. I thought was sorta an older type deal but apparently found something new today.
You sure do learn something new every day in this biz!
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We can also learn from...
We can also learn from other countries' histories and examples -- like Turkey. Today, mass demonstrations in Turkey protesting Islamist government influences and demanding secular law. And we can also learn MUCH from England. NY Times reports that Muslim Sharia laws are now in effect in 3 municipalities near London. On the British version of our "Sixty Minutes" show, a local Muslim cleric's response to the interviewer was: "Who SAYS Britain belongs to the English?!" No, the U.S. has the most liberal immigration policies in the world but certainly common sense and fair play should prevail. "Gratitude'' and ''tolerance'' for one's homeland do NOT equal acquiescence to people here illegally. Nor does ''gratitude'' and ''tolerance'' mean simply handing over one's country to those who want to relocate here but then attempt to turn this country into a replica of THEIR birthplace -- with very little return ''tolerance'' for the ways of the natives already here. Yes--natives--People and descendants of people who came here legally, lived, worked, and built this country, generation after generation, and adopted their NEW country's ways. Not insisting that people be ''tolerant''of their attempts to turn their new homeland be a replica of the country they left.
Learn to say NO
I know it's tough when it's your own dad, but hasn't he burnt you enough already? Lock your door and don't answer it. If he catches up to you and asks you to let him hang out or do his laundry, say NO. Enough is enough.
Good luck. You have to learn to say
no, grow a backbone and. Others only take advantage of you because you are letting them. The children should be helping you out because you have age on you and yet you are being a doormat for them. What would they do if you died? Tell them no way and stick to it, otherwise you have no life to call your own.
Learn some Spanish
This whole thread in my opinion has been blown out of proportion. While living in California, I saw an attitude with SOME of the so called minority races who felt that they were "owed something." I was raised in the Midwest, and grew up in a family that did not tolerate prejudice against any race in any way, shape or form. However, as I grew older, I began to see things in the corporate world that were definitely not in the favor of the white American. I for one, have become fed up with calling a company and speaking to a customer service representative from India or elsewhere, who gives a name like "Dave, John or Mike" and you know definitely that is not their name. Plus the fact that they can barely understand English and as a consumer, I cannot understand what they are saying. We have a LOT of older Americans now with computers and the newer technology, and think about them trying to understand someone who can barely speak English.
I am also a relative newcomer to the Miami area and again, as I mentioned before, I was raised in the Midwest, where even the Hispanics and other minorities that I was raised around learned to speak English. If for example, you or I moved to France or Germany, we would be expected to learn to at least speak the language to a certain degree and that is the point that I am trying to make here -- when one moves to America, they need to learn to speak ENGLISH and it should not be the other way around.
I know kids have to learn, but this seems
Hang in there. When my son was 5, he went in a little country store and helped himself to some Skittles. When his dad made him take them back in and explain he had not paid for them, the lady told him "that's okay, you can have them". We could have killed her. HA! We explained to him that this was serious and the lady was being nice, etc. etc. Hang in there and be sure your son realizes this isn't funny, this is serious. If you have to pay the $100, make him pay you back somehow. Good luck.
You'd think she'd learn from seeing all her sister is going through - NM
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you can only learn if you have a brain
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I think it means you are still willing to learn (sm)
Something I have noticed about being "defined" is that sometimes it gets in the way of learning something new or even correcting old cherished ideas that are really wrong.
I have come to have definite and convictions about things, but it took time and something I still do is draw contrasts with other ideas to see if I still am comfortable thinking the way I do. Some things I have become more sure of, some refined and others discarded.
If I was going to give advice, I would say to keep asking questions about things and when you get answers, analyze whether they really make sense. It sounds like that is already what you do. As you go, you will become more sure about some things you believe now and other things are yet to be discovered.
One more thing I would advise: Keep an open mind and don't discount anyone as possibly having the information you need to find what is right and true.
My mom never learned how to sew or cook or anything, but she can farm, fix a car engine, etc. My gram on her side never knew how to do any of those things either, unless you count stitching up wounds (she was a nurse).
But luckily I married into a family full of southern tradition and they are teaching me things like making my own jam, pies from scratch, and yes even sewing once we get moved closer to them!
child can't learn
I got in a hurry and goofed on the family relationships. Anyway, my daughter, her step-gran, and I take turns keeping her after school. My daughter's teenage son also helps with flash cards, alphabet video games, etc. He wants to be a teacher.
Very cool. Learn something new every day!..nm
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Then learn how to use my tax dollars to the best advantage
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As you age you will learn that a good answer
to a person asking a rude question (which this is and happens to be none of their business) is Why would you ask this- - or I have gotten to the age where I respond by Why would you ask such a rude question? No one has the right to ask you things like this so respond appropriately. You do not owe a nice response.
did your kids learn anything about penguins?
or did you just go on and on about how boring it was. Maybe if you paid attention to the story line (and explained it to your kids) of acceptance, or how penguins live, or at least enjoyed the music, your kids would not share your opinion.
4 weddings, don't you learn by your mistakes. 1 is more than enough. Nope, did not learn from mistakes
but I sure got it right this time, married 7 years and love the ground this guy walks on. Am glad I kept on because you know something, I have found the love of my life and if I had stopped (which thought I would do after the last person died) I would have never known such happiness and bliss.
here's a suggestion - LEARN some Spanish
Sorry you had a bad experience at Jackson but Jackson Memorial Hospital is like #16 best hospital in the country. I have friends with cancer being treated there and believe it or not, they are getting good, consistent care.
I, for one, have 2 addresses, and I would use Hollywood Memorial Hospital FIRST...it, too, is a county hospital but for Broward. Used to be that Mount Sinai Medical Center on Miami Beach was my hospital of choice in the 1980s but today it's Memorial.......in Hollywood.
As for the Hispanic community, the Hispanics are the largest minority now in the USA - there are like 50 million of them here in the USA today. ALL our ancestors came from somewhere else, unless you are a true Native American, and so practicing TOLERANCE would be in your best interests.