She can always change doctors. You
Posted By: sm on 2009-03-03
In Reply to: Friend in kidney failure, on dialysis now, said she could not understand "them" (ESLs) - Very, very ticked off
do not have to see the one they send to consult or whatever. It is the patient's right to choose their doctor (of course, as long as they are in their insurance plan).
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Change Your Brain, Change Your Life
I read a book once with the above title. I can't remember the author. He has done a lot of testing (and imaging) and says that often people actually have small amounts of brain damage they are not aware of that cause chronic behavioral issues.
He says that even little incidents of falling off a bike, etc. can cause damage that people aren't aware occurred.
I'm not saying this is your son's case, but I think you will have to keep investigating. Even with those who have damage, they are able to use meds to help the brain compensate for the affected area, which helps greatly.
I'm sorry you are going through this. It has to be awful for the whole family and hurtful to know your son is feeling in such a way to act that way.
I'm sure there is an answer somewhere. I hope you find it soon! - Please keep us posted.
You cannot change kids. Can only change the way
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Doctors don't always know
Unless there is a close proximity to eating a new food or being exposed to something unusual and then developing a rash, a lot of times it is impossible to determine what the culprit is. It could be anything from a new brand of cereal to someone's cologne where he works. They will only send him for allergy testing if he continues to have repeated problems.
Oh, but doctors are much
too important to see people for ear infections and sore throats, especially for just a copay, LOL.
For something routine yet urgent like that, I don't mind seeing an NP, but I don't like waiting 3 hours at an urgent care when I have strep throat with fever and chills.
And I want my medical professional trained in this country and speak English I can understand.
My current doctor is usually pretty good, but her office hours are short, closing at noon on Friday, but if I call her after that she will often call something in or advise after hours if she's on call.
But what is it about skin problems? I don't care if it's a PCP or a dermatologist, if you have a problem with itching or nonhealing wounds, I can't get any respect or real help. What's the problem?
I have many doctors who say is
instead of are. One more I hate--"This is a patient that" instead of who. We should all know that patient's are people unless you transcribe for a vet.--an libary
Why do doctors do this?
First they make you wait out in the lobby and then they make you wait in the examining room. I don't mind a wait as long as I can be in the lobby and talk/see people. I despise having to wait for a long time in the exam room. I get lonely.
I wish the nurses could time it so you only had to wait in the examination room 5-10 minutes.
i refused to go out with doctors
as i sure didn't want to be married to one...(didn't want that lifestyle) but wish you the best!
I know and have worked with several doctors
Actually as a Transcriptionist I was glad because so many times you'd get Dr. Smith (if they got married, then which one?) Well, if they keep their maiden name or at least hyphenate it that made my life a lot easier. I think it also may have something to do with the fact that if they are in practice, everything must be changed and imagine the expense? Also if they are well known, they maybe do not want to jeopardize that. As long as the couple is happy, and he is not offended, I think it is just fine. Congratulations! I would address the letter Drs. April Cox and Richard Grant. JMO. 
I know!! Aren't there any other doctors? - LOL (sm)
It's our little half hour escape to fantasy land!
I know doctors don't always have the answers
I've been in the medical field since 1971.
I was just venting a little - we were so relieved it wasn't bedbugs, and we were hopeful that we would find the real cause and be able to eliminate it. It was kind of a let-down when we didn't.
As far as we know, my husband hasn't been exposed to anything unusual at home or on the job, and his food intake has been normal - nothing unusual.
The only thing we can think of is we moved into this house late last summer, so he did mow the grass a couple of times, but of course different things grow and bloom in the spring than in late summer and fall. He does generally have the usual allergies involving itching eyes, runny nose, sinus congestion, etc., but he has never had a reaction like this. He was a Boy Scout and went camping and hiking all the time, so I know he knows what poison ivy looks like! And it doesn't look like poison ivy rash.
Maybe somebody out there has had a similar experience and can help us - let me describe his symptoms. It usually starts out as a series of small red bumps that are in a fairly straight line. For example, in the crease of his right arm, there are about six little red bumps going straight down (proximal to distal) from the crease in a space of about 1.5 to 2 cm. There is another line, about 1 cm medial to that one, running up the arm (distal to proximal), about the same distance. When he scratches them (he tries not to, but sometimes you just gotta), they appear to turn into one big linear welt.
Any ideas? TIA. And many thanks to those who have been following our "saga". 
I can't stand doctors like that who won't
listen. At least a colonoscopy is good for about 10-15 years, LOL.
The doctors told us our son was going to die.
That was my worst Thanksgiving ever. It was in 1986.
DEAR DOCTORS
It has come to my attention that you all have a severe god complex disorder. While you may think that you are amazing and immortal, that does not mean that I hang on every burp, fart, yawn, snort, sniffle, gag and chewing noise that comes out of your body.
I know you may not realize that there is a LIVING BREATHING person at the other end of your dictation, but there is. One who is extremely grossed out by your bodily functions.
Also, if you don't understand already, time is money for us. Every minute you spend umming and hmming and shuffling papers, is money we lose. Every minute you spend flirting with the nurse who has just walked in the room is equal to about 11 lines of dictation for us. So please, say what you have to say and HANG UP.
So lets review: before you come in to dictate from now on please eat, clear your throat, blow your nose, use the restroom, take some Bean-o, get your papers in order, close the door (preferably lock it so the nurse can't come in), and get your thoughts in order. Then pick up the phone.
Thanks!
Your MT
As far as I know, doctors are allowed to do this
in certain states, but they still need the approval of the nearest relatives.
They do this if somebody is terminally ill and the patient himself expresses the wish that their life should be ended.
Doctors here are down playing it.
They are telling us it is no worse than any other flu you get. They also say the worst is over. However, my daughters Girl Scout trip they were supposed to take tomorrow still got cancelled as with a lot of UIL events.
Doctors do not always listen
I needed bilateral ear surgery (typmanoplasty and mastoidectomy) not too long ago. The physician left it up to me which ear to do first, depending on my pain and hearing. I chose the left due to the amount of pain and drainage.
I reported to the hospital (a very prestigious teaching hosptial - in US New and World Reports top 5) that morning and the OR consent form stated the wrong ear. It said the right, rather than the left. I explained to the resident it was wrong and he proceeded to ARGUE with me, that I should just sign the consent form. I finally asked to see my own surgeon prior to signing and he agreed with me and changed it and reversed the OR equipment etc.
In my case it would not have made much difference since I needed 2 surgeries any way.
But what about the older, scared, and confused patient with no family there?
Maybe the patient did state the prima donna physician did not listen.
One of the main doctors I work for
goes into a lot of detail about the patient's complaint and even what they think might be wrong wtih them. He also mentions personal things like if going to college, recently had a death in the family, etc. Hopefully you have typed a few of those and you can tell her that some doctors really do listen. Good Luck!
Guns versus doctors
Doctors
(A) The number of physicians in the U.S. is 700,000.
(B) Accidental deaths caused by Physicians per year are 120,000.
(C) Accidental deaths per physician is 0.171.
Statistics courtesy of U.S. Dept of Health Human Services
Now think about this:
Guns
(A) The number of gun owners in the U.S. is 80,000,000. (Yes, that's 80 million)
(B) The number of accidental gun deaths per year, all age groups, is 1,500.
(C) The number of accidental deaths per gun owner .000188.
Statistics courtesy of FBI
So, statistically, doctors are approximately 9,000 times more dangerous than gun owners.
Remember, 'Guns don't kill people, doctors do.'
FACT: NOT EVERYONE HAS A GUN, BUT ALMOST EVERYONE HAS AT LEAST ONE DOCTOR.
Please alert your friends to this alarming threat. We must ban doctors before this gets completely out of hand!!!!!
Out of concern for the public at large, I withheld the statistics on lawyers for fear the shock would cause people to panic and seek medical attention!
the doctors overdosed him can't blame him if he
now refuses to take it!
We'll have to swap doctors
For unclear reasons, the accent that gives me trouble is a Hispanic one (and I lived in CA for 20 years, so it shouldn't!). When the family watched the movie Bend it Like Beckham, the kids had to get me to translate both the Britsh and Indian accents into American English so they could follow the story.
Doctors with attitudes and other issues
Just got back from the neurologist's office. This is a doctor I have seen now approximately 3 times. I try my best to furnish any and all reports I think necessary for a physician either prior to seeing them for a particular issue or when I see them such as recent MRIs, lab tests, office notes and the like from another physician's office that I think might be pertinent to why I am seeing the present doctor.
Have foot issues (along with a couple other things) but 2 weeks ago I called 2 different podiatrists offices where I have recently been asking that they fax (given number) office notes to the neurologist. Both offices I had visited for the same exact foot issues, no diagnosis and no help. The neurologist did not have the information requested from the 2 other offices this morning, 2 weeks later. When I told him had lots to talk about he said well start. I did and then he told me I was supposed to have told all that information to the person who took my blood pressure, checked my reflexes and so on. Well, not a mind reader here and I told him had the other offices done as requested, then maybe he would have some information before him to go by.
Why, why are people not doing their jobs? It has nothing to do with the economy (this was happening at least 5 years ago when the economy better) but people are so slack now days it just ticks me off. Blowing smoke out ears as I write this.
Most doctors I know prefer women that are open....sm
and not trying to act like someone they aren't. Just treat him like a regular person and hopefully you'll have a great time.
Doctors who spell out simple words,
and leave you hang out to dry on the most obscure term or referring physician spelling if it is an odd name. I'll be darn though, they will spell out "the" t-h-e, p-a-t-i-e-n-t, but never the hard stuff... . ????? I wonder why? People using cell phones when they are driving and not paying attention. People that pull out in front of you, and then go 5 mph. I hate it when the grocery bagger puts all the soap products in with my meat or food goods! Great, now the roast smells like Dove Cucumber and Melon bar soap? Hubby is going to think this is delicious!!!!! UUGGHH!
Seek another opinion - alot of doctors are
hysterectomy-happy. I've typed many reports where women had hysterectomies "just in case." Seek another opinion or even two more opinions.
We need DOCTORS in charge of our health care,
!
I don't understand the ethics of the doctors involved
xx
She should check with her doctors, there are other meds that might not cause diarrhea.
Such as Prevacid, Aciphex, Protonix, or Nexium. (The GI doctors I work for say that any of these should be taken one hour before breakfast.)
Or Zegerid can be taken at bedtime. H2 blockers such as Tagamet, Pepcid, or Zantac also might help, they can be taken at bedtime. Her doctor or a pharmacist would be able to tell her if there's a problem with any of these while taking tamoxifen.
Also, it's important to eat the last meal of the day early and not lie down for at least a few hours after eating.
She could elevate the head of the bed (just putting more pillows there doesn't help) or get a wedge mattress or possibly one of those wedges to put under her pillow(s).
Disregard the ' in doctors ... whoops. No Message
Need an autopilot tuneup.
Many doctors are blatantly, proudly prejudiced against TG people
I have spoken to transgendered people who have been refused treatment for even a common cold (and other health issues which have NOTHING to do with gender) from physicians. Some doctors will only, and then reluctantly, touch a transgendered person if they are in a life threatening situation; then discharge them the second their life is no longer in danger and tell them to seek followup treatment elsewhere and not to come back. So much for the hippocratic oath.
A-HA!! Now I remember. The plot thickens. I guess there are no other doctors in the world (LOL)
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I am sure when the clients get professionally transcribed reports and the doctors find our
reports accurate nobody is thinking of pajamas or sweats. The home environment just allows us to be a little more relaxed and take showers, etc. on our own schedule. What in the world does that do to undermine what we know and do? As far as what others think of our job in a home environment walk a mile in our shoes, or slippers, whatever the case may be.
Doctors, lawyers, judges for neighbors doesn't give a person class. - DUH
nm
Well, if you are not going to change your
mind, then do not expect anyone else to change their mind about you either. You cannot call people judgmental and then be judgmental yourself. Or you can, but you just look ridiculous doing so.
And by the way, I went into this field so that I could be home with my kids. I also have held a job outside of the home for many years and had my kids home with me while I worked, but they were older where they could amuse themselves most of the time. They are in school now and I have them doing something part time during the summer, but the other times they are here with me. I work just fine like you do and I can hold a job outside of the home. I've done it before and I will be doing it again in a couple of years when I finish school. I've never made a post though about the things you mentioned.
So...your conclusions are flawed.
well then I think we should change the name
change
Honestly, the only possible way he could change is by telling him. But beware it will only change for a bit and go back to the way it was!
...just happens to you. You can change it.
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Believe I would have to change my name.
Right off the bat, made me think of Pol Pot. If your not familier, Google him.
An attempt by Khmer Rouge leader Pol Pot to form a Communist peasant farming society resulted in the deaths of 25 percent of the country's population from starvation, overwork and executions. Responsible for 2,000,000 deaths of his own people.
Sorry did not mean to ruin anything, just made me stop and think.
Change
I remember the Riley Hospital incident, I just had forgotten that it was there at that hospital. I want to know WHY the vials are not brightly colored OPPOSITES? While not having seen one of these vials for a while, I assume they look they same as they always did. The company who makes these needs to take a look at its packaging and ACT ON IT. This is so hard to take. I can't stop thinking about it.
Men that hit do not change...
sure, they can go through anger management (sitting around with a bunch of other women beaters talking about how much their mate irritates them; hmm, wonder why they don't change), they will say they are sorry, it won't happen again, buy you nice things to appease you, go for periods of time not using you or your children for a punching bag, etc. You can see by many posts below that you need to get out now....you can either take that advice or not. Staying does not make you a hero or a martyr; you can't change him, won't change him and for the sake of your children, either send them somewhere safe and stay and be a doormat or take charge of the situation. As I said earlier, BTDT, twice as a matter of fact. It took me until age 40 (I'm 48 now) to realize that I wasted too much time on 2 men who were insecure, angry, lazy, and no good before I got out. My life began at 40 and yours can begin any time from this moment on. You have gotten some very good advice here today; use it and quit making excuses why you can't leave. It can be done.
I think this is all going to change now
that we're heading into a recession/depression. Shoe repair places are experiencing huge increases in business. People are replacing engines in cars instead of replacing the cars. Hard times aren't all bad. We have much to learn from the Greatest Generation that lived through hard times.
What would you change if you could
If there was a time machine and you could go back in time and change one thing that would affect the rest of your life what would it be. And if you were to go back where would you stop the machine. I was just watching the Time Machine the other night and that's what made me think about it.
My major decision I would change would have been to go to a different high school with different friends (that would have changed all my future decisions).
If I could go back I would stop the machine to the night before I started the 2nd grade. I'd love to do it all over again (minus the bad decisions). 2nd grade was the best time for me.
What would you change if you could
If there was a time machine and you could go back in time and change one thing that would affect the rest of your life what would it be. And if you were to go back where would you stop the machine. I was just watching the Time Machine the other night and that's what made me think about it.
My major decision I would change would have been to go to a different high school with different friends (that would have changed all my future decisions).
If I could go back I would stop the machine to the night before I started the 2nd grade. I'd love to do it all over again (minus the bad decisions). 2nd grade was the best time for me.
Exactly right! Nobody can change what is put down in a will,
only the testator can make changes (codicils) to it. When he is dead, nobody can, not the one who holds the POA, not the executor, not the lawyer, not the state, because there is the will!
All the named persons have only an administrative/executive power to make sure that that what is written in the will gets executed.
Get out now. Men don't change.
I stayed in for 22 years, and even though mine was a nice guy other than the unwise and selfish spending, it ruined everything. There were other issues too, but the money one alone will leave you feeling helpless and hopeless. Meds won't solve the problem. Getting out will.
Wow! what a change!
Good for her!
Oh yeah, sure. I think we'd all like to change a lot more
than welfare laws and regulations in many states, but it ain't gonna happen, sister. The laws are made for and benefitted by the poor and the rich only, not the in between. Middle class people get squat and are taken advantage of in every way. And I think we all pretty much fall into that category.
Some things never change...
I believe this is the very thing that Joseph was afraid of way back when. Judgement.. We can not judge until we know the full extent of the situation, even then we have to be careful with our conclusions.
No, you won't change me otherwise. I'm not judging
the Bible. God will judge in the end. I simply don't shop at stores that sell gay and lesbian items.
don't change a thing sm
I've been married 12 years and have had a very happy marriage. I too never understand what's to work at.
I also was just friends with my husband for 10 years before we started dating. Never knew he cared for me.
Count your blessings and give your husband a big kiss!!
And again, she cannot change his behavior, only hers
will not back down on that one. Lots of reason for divorce. Staying because of the children is an absolute wrong way to work at a marriage. She finds him disgusting, surely the children notice or they will when they age a little. I would not care if I had 10 children hanging onto my apron strings, would not want to stay somewhere that I am so unhappy I ask outsiders what they would do. My mother divorced in a time when no parents divorcing, believe it or not, and when I went to elementary school I was asked why no daddy. I turned out well, felt it had no adverse effect on me. Saw him, didn’t see him, ?? Really loved my stepmom though. He did do a good thing right in his life by bringing her into it.
sudden change
I won't say this is your case, but from my experience (and some of my acquaintances) a sudden change in behavior might mean there is someone on the side - of course if you are with him all the time that may not be the case. My ex, who had never bought his own clothes, suddenly bought a new outfit and his own cologne. Hope that's not your case, but keep your eyes open.
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