Severe Financial Problems?

Like many, we are really suffering. My husband's employer filed Chapter 11. He kept his job, but his salary has been cut in half.

I have been out of work and looking for months, though I do get a few hundred dollars every month. All that goes toward our household expenses.

We are so far behind in our rent that the landlord's kindness is all that stands between us and eviction, but it's coming.

I know the only solution is more income. My husband WAS persuaded that he would have to find a second job, then I had two interviews. He felt optimistic that I would get on or the other, but I didn't.

Now he says he shouldn't have to get a second job if I don't have one. I understand how unfair that must feel, but his job hasn't paid our rent for nine weeks. Fair seems kind of beside the point.

In previous relationships I've gone through hard financial times, and the men really rose to the occasion. I don't know what to do. My husband plays video games several hours a day while we are going under.

We could have eviction filed on us within two weeks and I'm scared to death. I haven't even been able to get a minimum wages job. I feel that he's just going to ride it down and live in his car.

What should I do? What should I say to him?

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When you say you backed them financially, are you a part of the organization's structure, or are you basically doing it as a donation? I could be really wrong, so you definitely need to check with the IRS, but I think to be able to deduct those expenses, you either need to be part of the organization's corporate structure or the organization needs to be a 501 non profit.

head on your shoulders. Your little one is lucky to have you. I don't wish ill on anyone and hope I didn't come across as sounding as though single parents don't deserve the EIC. They certainly do. Public assistance is another story though and that's why I distinguished between the 2 in my statement. Too many get it that shouldn't.

It's not stressful to have the savings; for me, it's stressful getting it in there. We also do a lot of pre-tax savings, but I still like a refund. Thanks for the well wishes. We're hoping to start rebuilding this month. Houses cost a lot more now to build than they did 10 years ago and we've got 2 kids more than we had then, too.

is giving away a free download of her book. Go to Oprah's web site and download, "Women and Money," free until tomorrow at 5:00. I love anything about her and thought I'd share this! Free stuff is also good!

gum recession and bone loss? I did not go to the dentist for some years, but kept up a very good routine at home. I have no cavities and my teeth are very clean. I use an anti-plaque, antibacterial rinse daily. I floss regularly, but just recently switched to floss instead of dental tape. I am now using the tape again, as advised by the dentist I saw Wednesday. He said in areas where I have wider spaces, if need be to use actual yarn. The dentist said my care was actually too good. He said that I am literally brushing way too hard, and that regular cleanings at the dentist are essential because bacteria between the teeth and gum line actually clings to the plaque,giving it a place to hang on and grow. My father also had this problem with bone loss, and the dentist and hygienest said this is hereditary. My dad had upper and lower dentures when he was still a young man. After a thorough exam by both professionals they feel that if I come in every 4 months regularly (which I am going to do religiously), continue a good home routine being much more gentle with brushing, etc., that I can possibly keep my teeth for several years, possibly 10. Some areas are worse, and my lower teeth in the front are the most affected.

The dentist said to buy very soft tooth brushes and hold them between my two fingers and very gently brush in a circular motion to avoid more gum recession. They told me these brushes are made by Colgate and are very, very hard to find because when people find them they buy several at a time. If anyone has seen them please let me know. I looked again yesterday and only found soft, medium and hard.

I stopped going to my dentist when my insurance was cancelled when management changed.

Sorry for rambling. Hope all this made sense. I hope I have helped someone today. Please look for those soft brushes.

You all have such a wealth of information that I just know someone will have a suggestion for me! I have had severe dysmenorrhea my entire life. I am talking pain so severe that it feels like an elephant is standing on my back and lower abdomen at the same time for 4 days a month. I am now beginning to have pain outside my cycle that is nearly as bad. Various doctors have suggested birth control pills, which I cannot take due to the severe nausea from the progesterone, to help the severity of my cycles. I am currently on a progesterone cream with, you guessed it, the same nausea I get from the birth control pills. What else can I try? This nausea is 24 hours a day and 7 days a week and makes me feel awful. I just want some relief from the pain of my periods without nausea as a trade off. Thank you so much for any help you can provide! :-)

I found this Super E Natural vitamin E ointment for $5.00 at my local drug store and it went away almost immediately. Hope you find something that helps!

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I came across this blog today on Craigslist: http://www.thechaistory.blogspot.com/

And if you have a dog, it's a must-see. It details what happened to a dog that was severely injured by a dog toy called a "Pimple Ball" made by Four Paws, Inc. The dog ended up losing his tongue, and the pain he had to endure was excruciating.

The dog's owner relates that the Four Paws Co. hasn't owned up to the fact that its toy is dangerous, and he's calling for a international boycott of Four Paws, Inc. After watching his video links of his poor dog's suffering, even though I have cats, I plan to be sure I don't purchase ANYTHING from this company, andhopefully you won't either.

I have been coughing and kind of achy, yesterday hurt all over, no fever, but in the middle of the night last night, woke up with horrible pain, to the point of making me cry all the way from my shoulder to the joints in my hands. Both shoulder joints are sore, but the right arm hurts all the way down. I have taken Advil, used muscle rub and am working with my arm propped on a pillow. Anyone ever had this happen? Wondering if it is just muscle pain from being sick or if I got something out of whack in my cervical spine from all the coughing!! This stinks!!!