See, that's was exactly my initial response to the negative drug test. SM
Posted By: MissouriMT on 2007-09-11
In Reply to: why ground him? - see message
I felt like relief that my son, even when faced with the temptation, resisted the urge to smoke pot with his friends. I actually congratulated my son and told him how proud I was that he hadn't been taking any drugs or smoking pot. But then I wondered if he should be punished for having a bong in his pack. He obviously didn't use it, but why did he have it?
Now I think I may lift the grounding, but set some rules about him avoiding being around the 23-year-old guy and basically having him check in with me routinely when he is out and as long as he follows the rules, then I'll trust him.
Geez, I don't think I'm going to survive the teenage years and they've only just begun! I can only hope that when my 7yo daughter reaches her teens, she will go a little easier on me!
Thanks everyone for listening and offering your advice.
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Lets test the one giving the drug test, and (see message)
Lets make people who need to buy groceries take drug tests. Want to go to McDonalds? Hey need to take a drug test first. Need to renew your car registration - take a drug test. Want to go to a movie, better take a drug test. When will the insanity stop.
Can we drug-test the Senators too?
I don't think connecting unemployment benefits to drug-testing is a good idea. In fact, I don't think drug testing should be random at all. I think it should be reserved for cases that are on a need-to-know basis. And no, I have never used drugs, never tried them. It's a matter of civil liberties and constitutional rights against invasions of our privacy. Next thing you know, they'll be testing us for lipid levels after we're seen frequenting a house of trans-fats.
And while we're on the topic, decriminalizing drugs would go a long way toward reducing drug-related crimes. Nothing is perfect in this discussion though because drugs really are evil. It just becomes a matter of damage control.
She'd like to learn something new to cook. There was a negative response to her inquiry
and I just wanted to smooth it over and give out a pretty good recipe. I've been making a similar recipe for about 35 years, growing my own veggies, fruits, canning and freezing food.
We're not here to make each other feel like crumbs. Please try to be nice. Cat
I don't know what WASl test is but if it is anything like the TAKS test in Texas - then more powe
I hate standardized testing. I hate the way it is pushed and it is the only thing teachers 'preach' on the whole school year. Math and Reading is the big ones here until 5th grade and then science gets added in. Where is history? Where is grammar (no this is not included in the reading test)? Forget these stupid state standardized testing and get back to what is important.... an education!
I really like it - but after the initial kit (sm)
you can see which products you actually use regularly and just buy those. I haven't bought any in a few months and see a huge difference in my skin - it doesn't come back the day you stop using it but it does gradually. It really does work though!
I wish you would have left the initial responses on it :(
dd
Time to see the vet, especially if she hasn't had initial
ui
Putting in middle initial so can differentiate
the difference is that apparetnly this law is to have women see a fetus growing and thinking this will change their mind by seeing the ultrasound. My heart told me what to do and my mind certainly was such that I had more sense than to bring a child into the world I could not possibly care for financially to start with. I never worried a minute or a day with my decision. I can live with most all decisions I have made in my life very easily.
Maybe it was the owner's initial? The person who bought the jacket?
nm
instead of doing some negative...
Do something positive! Start an exercise routine, take a yoga class, start cooking exotic but healthy meals...that'll surely get your man's attention. Why kill yourself just so a man will pay attention to you? That doesn't make sense...You are worth taking care of, no matter who or what gives you attention.
What negative impact?
Wal-Mart generally has a positive impact on the local economy. Yeah, it may run a small business or two out that cannot compete, but it hires a lot more people and ensures that people that shop there pay lower prices than previously giving a net return of more cash to the consumer. I'll take the lower prices.
You may be right, I tend to be very negative
So thanks for the honesty, I may just get that DVD.
always so negative I got her name right maybe you just dont have all the facts
Her name was Vicki Lynn however those who did know her from before know that she used the nickname Nicki when she worked in the clubs around Houston and when she went to Playboy they changed her name to Anna Nicole.
Enjoy your rant I just gave my opinion like everyone else sorry to have annoyed you with a little different point of view.
It is considered a double negative, sm
and not standardly use. Use "regardless", or "irrespective". It is considered bad grammar.
I agree/always seems very negative and angry.
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I'm giving up negative comments
I'm going to let only positive comments pass my lips, otherwise I will stay quiet. Believe me, the Lord knows what a sacrifice this will be for me.
I don't think she meant anything negative. Agree
xxx
Why all the negative posts and not signing your name? sm
Hmmm. I find that very curious. It makes me think either you've been hurt very badly somehow regarding puppy mills and have completely given up, or... you're worried about your livelihood because you're running a puppy mill. Just speculating, of course, but why else would you even feel the need to post and be so incredibly negative?
*Of course* this show will help, if only for the fact that so many people just simply aren't aware of the pet store-puppy mill connection and this will educate them and raise their awareness. What is the alternative - do nothing? No, unacceptable.
I had only heard negative about pit bulls
until I heard Rachael Ray talk about hers. With a personality like hers how can she have a bad dog? I do have a new respect for them now, but I agree that I would want to do some research on their "family". I personally prefer tiny little dogs that don't shed. Do pit bulls shed? I posted below that we had a boxer and the shedding was unbelievable but that is not the reason we no longer have her.
I agree, I had 2 babies with negative ultrasounds
I did not have the same negative ultrasound finding that you have, but 2 of my 4 babies did have things wrong on the ultrasounds from not functioning organs to cysts on the brain. Both babies were born healthy and are today still years later very healthy and happy. I also had a friend who was told she was going to have a trisomy baby, but a scan 2 weeks later proved the first scan (or technician) wrong as did her amniotomy, a perfectly healthy baby girl. Hang in there, I am sure the thoughts are filling your mind and heart every moment, but try and look up info on Google just to gain more knowledge. I will pray for you. :)
Sounds like he is a negative weight pulling you
I'm sorry to hear about your situation. I agree with what some others said about at least taking some time apart to see how things go. I also agree with consulting with a family law attorney. Almost all attorneys have free consultations, so you could talk to several lawyers for free and find one you feel comfortable with. They often give free advice before you even hire them (the one I worked for did anyway).
It stinks that your husband is so insistent about keeping the house, but if you do end up divorcing it may be hard for you to live there anyway with all the memories, so a new place might be good for you. It would be hard on your kids for sure, but it is probably hard for them to see their mother belittled and to witness a seemingly loveless marriage as well.
Maybe your husband doesn't want to focus on his own shortcomings so he is focusing on yours or maybe he is just too much of a perfectionist and too selfish. Have you guys tried counseling?
If you do end up spending time apart you might end up feeling incredibly free without someone constantly telling you how WRONG you are when in fact you are only human and have flaws like everyone else. He obviously has flaws too, and I would bet money his place would not be spotless and perfectly "organized" if you weren't there to clean it for him! He probably has no idea how hard you work. You deserve to be loved unconditionally, and even if you guys break up and you don't date anyone for awhile, at least he won't be there trying to dampen your self confidence and the love you have for yourself. Good luck and stay strong!!!
That should be "then." I'm just so sick of the negative here! Getalife!
You are missing the boat entirely and totally negative when you no NOTHING
He has more (material things) than you do and most men of 60s+. He has a home that he has worked to own -- not given to him! Material things do not mean much to me, however. I make my own living. He has an engineering and Masters degree. How many degrees do you have? He is very athletic! He has had olympic training. He is a wonderful man who MANY of you would desire and don't have. He knows that pleases a woman and EXACTLY what he wants in life.
Most important to me is that he expresses that he is a "God-fearing" man. There is NOTHING in life more important to me than that!
He has no kids -- not a priority in life for him. He is too wonderful to describe! I know more about him than you will ever know about your partner, because we COMMUNICATE.
Sorry for your skepticism. But I will take it with a grain of salt, as it deserves to be taken.
This man is an open book -- but not only that, but he hides nothing.
WOW is all I can say about him ! Have never met a man like this in my entire life! He wants to please me, and he is certainly capable of doing that.
You are missing the boat entirely and totally negative when you no NOTHING
He has more (material things) than you do and most men of 60s+. He has a home that he has worked to own -- not given to him! Material things do not mean much to me, however. I make my own living. He has an engineering and Masters degree. How many degrees do you have? He is very athletic! He has had olympic training. He is a wonderful man who MANY of you would desire and don't have. He knows that pleases a woman and EXACTLY what he wants in life.
Most important to me is that he expresses that he is a "God-fearing" man. There is NOTHING in life more important to me than that!
He has no kids -- not a priority in life for him. He is too wonderful to describe! I know more about him than you will ever know about your partner, because we COMMUNICATE.
Sorry for your skepticism. But I will take it with a grain of salt, as it deserves to be taken.
This man is an open book -- but not only that, but he hides nothing.
WOW is all I can say about him ! Have never met a man like this in my entire life! He wants to please me, and he is certainly capable of doing that.
Ask before you test..
Just ask before you test if they are willing to pay you X amount if you test well. If they say no, don't bother testing. Good luck!
test
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Nope, I had no negative side effects whatsoever
nm
i took it and it was negative. guess i'll wait a little then call doc. nm
thanks
They don't usually test to put them in certain classes. sm
Sometimes in high school it is a matter of making a schedule work and classes work around students to make a full class, etc. So that may or may not be why she was put in this class. I believe too much is expected out of kids these days and I say let her out of the class or at the least talk to the counselor about her issues. I believe in Physics class it helps a lot to have the other classes first. Otherwise, she would be really lost and it sounds like she might be.
Test Message
This is my test message.
smell test
I can tell when the teacher has hugged my kid because she smells like the perfume the teacher wears.
A school day is long. Better the teacher is kind to your child than mean (and there are both kinds of teachers.)
pregancy test then I was in
My MIL thought I was ridiculous wearing maternitiy clothes at 7 weeks, but I was not going to squeeze into my clothes out of vanity. I bloated, barfed and gained 50 pounds, and afterwards lost all the weight and fit into my old clothes just fine. Enjoy being pregnant. Take a nap and eat ice cream!
what channel, what time? I want to respond to that host in a negative manner
nm
This man who started TV station after 9/11 to counteract negative Muslim reactions,
The below taken from CNN statement:
Police: Woman's decapitated body found at a TV station that the man founded
Muzzammil Hassan, founder of Bridges TV, charged with second-degree murder
Bridges TV is aimed at countering negative portrayals of Muslims
Police: Woman's decapitated body found at a TV station that the man founded
Drug Problem--sm
>Different kind of "Drugging" - by Marsha Kelly
>
>The other day, someone at the store in our town read that a
methamphetamine
>lab had been found in an old farmhouse in the adjoining county and he
asked
>me a rhetorical question.
>
>"Why didn't we have a drug problem when you and I were growing up?"
>
>I replied, "I had a drug problem when I was young. I was drug to church
on
>Sunday morning. I was drug to church for weddings and funerals. I was
drug
>to family reunions and community socials, no matter the weather.
>
>I was drug by my ears when I was disrespectful to adults. I was also
drug
>to the woodshed when I disobeyed my parents, told a lie, brought home a
bad
>report card, did not speak with respect, spoke ill of the teacher or
the
>preacher, or if I didn't put forth my best effort in everything that
was
>asked of me.
>
>I was drug to the kitchen sink to have my mouth washed out the soap if
I
>uttered a profanity. I was drug out to pull weeds in mom's garden and
>flower beds and cockleburs out of dad's fields.
>
>I was drug to the homes of family, friends, and neighbors to help out
some
>poor soul who had no one to mow the yard, repair the clothesline or
chop
>some firewood; and, if my mother had ever known that I took a single
dime
>as a tip for this kindness, she would have drug me back to the
woodshed.
>
>Those drugs are still in my veins and they affect my behavior in
everything
>I do, say or think. They are stronger than cocaine, crack, or heroin;
and
>if today's children had this kind of drug problem, America would be a
>better place.
>
>God bless the parents who drugged us.
>
He has been drug tested....
for his job. I don't think that drugs or alcohol are involved. We have considered it, but I just don't think that it the problem. I certainly would never let him drive with my son if I was unsure. I just don't know what it could be. It would take a book to write down all of his issues. The sad part is that his father dismisses it all because he does well in school and he is premed, but he just lacks any sort of personal character. Being smart does not make you a good person and he is just not a good person. I am still so sick to my stomach about this. I feel like I am a bad person, having mothered this kid for 13 years and now I am just ready to wash my hands of him. I am dead serious about that and it makes me ill. I pray to God that I don't ever have these feelings about my son.
drug store
loved the fountain drinks, miss the five and dimes like Woolworth's.
With their drug war going on & innocent
tourists getting caught up in the middle, not to mention how dangerous it can be even without a drug war going on... is it REALLY worth the risk? We have plenty of beautiful beaches right here in the U.S., and why not spend your tourism money to help out our own ailing economy. It is much better to be safe than sorry. JMO...
This drug testing is going too far - sm
I don't do drugs and I do know that there is a huge drug problem in America but turning around and testing for drugs for every single thing is going a bit far. Not everyone who is unemployed does drugs. In fact I can bet the people who are unemployed are probably using the money for basic necessities of daily living (food, shelter, electricity).
My dad (72 years old) is collecting unemployment and if he had to take a drug test to get his check that would be horrible. He's the most honest decent human being I know of.
A lot of people who collect unemployment don't do it because they want to, they do it because they have to. A lot of them are going through depression and then to turn around and have to take a drug test like they are criminals?...well why not treat them like crap more and add to the depression they are already going through.
Think this is just another way for government to take control and it is not a good idea. Usually the people who are for others being tested are church goers who think they are "holier than thou".
Bad idea.
This drug testing is going too far - sm
Why in the world would you think this is a good idea? I don't do drugs and I do know that there is a huge drug problem in America but turning around and testing for drugs for every single thing is going a bit far. Not everyone who is unemployed does drugs. In fact I can bet the people who are unemployed are probably using the money for basic necessities of daily living (food, shelter, electricity).
My dad (72 years old) is collecting unemployment and if he had to take a drug test to get his check that would be horrible. He's the most honest decent human being I know of.
A lot of people who collect unemployment don't do it because they want to, they do it because they have to. A lot of them are going through depression and then to turn around and have to take a drug test like they are criminals?...well why not treat them like crap more and add to the depression they are already going through.
Think this is just another way for government to take control and it is not a good idea. Usually the people who are for others being tested are church goers who think they are "holier than thou".
Bad idea.
I read it is an excellent test, but
I also heard it really smarts.
I was not aware this was a test question. SM
I answered honestly. I am sorry it was not to your liking. If you want me to agree with you, okay, your ex is nuts and call the police on him. Whatever.
Just remember one thing, troubled people tend to gravatate toward each other in life. Think about it.
Did they do an MRI of her adrenals yet? Test her for Lyme? Our kid
s
We should use them as test subjects for medication and
I guarantee you start doing some tough punishment and there would be less of that crap going on.
I think they are pretty worthless and not really an IQ test because sm
if you have ever had a Wechsler, you know that those kinds of questions don't play into it. They are mind teasers and trick questions, not something that a Wechsler uses. A Wechsler is several hours long and goes through your math, language, spacial relations and problem solving skills, and it is timed. Part of IQ is how fast you can solve complex problems.
I have taken a Wechsler and while I won't quote you a number, I will say the person who gave it as part of a psychological evaluation, told me he would diagnose me as way too smart for my own good. He stated that I probably didn't suffer fools gladly because I view most of the world as fools. I only fall at the 99.6 percentile on the Bell curve. No, I don't suffer fools gladly, but I try to be nice while others catch up.
I had to go get drug tested today for my - sm
bus substitute driver job; they provided the car for us to go the clinic. Apparently they normally take the white car, but today we took the red car because the white one was being held as they found drugs in it last week. Kind of funny as it is a county car used only by the school employees; and mainly to go to drug tests. How un-smart is that? They still don't know who is the guilty party as the car had more than normal traffic in it last week. Guess they will figure it out though, I bet everyone that has been in that car for the last 2 weeks is getting drug tested; if you test positive you are immediately fired.
Try the company that makes the drug.
We got on a plan for my son through the company and he gets his meds free (Concerta) for at least the next year.
The 100K came way after the drug charges
The arrest came say 15 or 20 years before the 100K and the way they spend their money that $100K probably not around too long.
Has anyone ever been on Clomid - or any other fertility drug? sm
DH and I are having fertility issues and the doc has put me on Clomid but I have yet to get a positive ovulation stick (the kind you pee on), and I am getting frustrated. Has anyone ever been on this?
A drug bust! Well there is no telling
what kind of life that dog had. That is very sad. You know, I had to admit but I use to be one of those people that said oh no a pitbull! They are mean, they will turn on you, but that all changed when I got a little pitbull puppy years ago that changed me. My pitbull taught me the true meaning of Don't believe everything that you hear, and only believe half of what you see.
Help on upgrading drug reference
Hi all,
I am seriously in need of upgrading my drug reference. I am still using Quick Look electronic 2004 and so many new drugs have been introduced in the past 4 years. What would you recommend?? I just checked the Stedman's site and really cannot afford that kind of money right now. Do any of you recommend a hard copy book that would keep me updated??? Thank you for any suggestions.
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