See message, there is something wrong with her brain that we don't understand
Posted By: Patti on 2007-02-02
In Reply to: How can some people be so absent-minded in their young age???!!sm - Irritated Friend
I have a niece like this, I type for a psychologist who has numerous patients like this and a lot of it is not their fault, they can have adult ADD, they can have other things medically wrong with their minds, etc. You can either honestly talk to her and tell her how it bothers her and try to help her become organized, accept her as she is or find another friend. I also have a great nephew (son of my niece) that has problems with this and like my doctor tried to explain to me -- they really believe and think that they are finishing projects, turning things in, remembering, keeping organized, etc. Their brain works so different than ours that it is hard for us to understand. But to them, their life is organized, etc. Taking EFA's helps, fish oil helps with the brain. Keeping a calendar helps, keeping schedules really helps. After this many years also it is a habit and a way of life for her but she really does not realize that she is the way that she is. I could not understand how my great nephew felt and believed that he did his assignments and turned them in when he did not -- Dr. J told me that to him he did it and he is not lying. Their brain works differently than ours. It is really hard for us to understand but they really think that they are on top of things. If in other ways she is a good friend, then work with her or accept this but if this is truly bugging you and you have no room for understanding your best bet is to stop the friendship as you are not doing her any good. There is a book out called "Brain Gym" that gives exercises to help with the brain, they are weird exercises but they do work. Again, essentially fatty acid supplements, lots of protein, fish, fish oil helps. Lots of exercise that moves across the midline. Schdules. But she does have a brain malfunction if you want to call it that so understand a little more.
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This time of year is sad, can't cry because husband lost his sis as well from lung ca. during Christmas, so don't want to put salt on his wounds. Forgot about the brain mets - my sis had as well, two Gamma knife surgeries. Resident said, "Hospice or nursing home,you can't lay around here." Anything is minute compared to this disease, cutting off your fingers would be easier! Never smoked but transcribed a university study on it, some buried their butts, froze them, couldn't quit. So I am on a mission, I guess! There has to be a better way, I do have compassion but passion to help others see the reality of what it does to you.
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Go to www.snopes.com and search for cough CPR.
"Even were the afflicted to correctly recognize they were experiencing the sort of cardiac event where cough CPR could help, without specific training to hit the right rhythm their coughing could turn mild heart attacks into fatal ones."
I had it with you! What's wrong with you!..see message
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Does he understand that what he did was wrong?
Did you take him back to the store to apologize? If they just "got their stuff back" and had no further input from the boy or his family, maybe they were concerned that he had not learned that what he did was serious and felt that he needed a more concrete lesson. Perhaps the distress he sees in his family from the consequences of his actions will keep him from repeating this behavior.
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the underlying read-between-the-lines message of the insurance lobbyist's message was (sm)
to, yes, appeal the denied claim. However, she lobbies for the insurance companies. She comes across sounding like she's on the patient's side but in reality she is on the side of the insurance company. The insurance company gets to deny whatever claims they want right off the bat. That leaves the SICK patient (who needs the coverage NOW when they are sick) to have to go through the appeals process. That could take quite a while. Imagine a cancer patient being denied some form of treatment that is going to help them. They now have to go through the appeals process (or pay out of pocket) in order for that treatment to be covered. In the MEANTIME their cancer is progressing. From the point of view of the insurance company, if they drag it out long enough they don't have to pay for it at all. That same insurance lobbyist was on 20/20 a little while back and basically came right out and said that the insurance companies COULDN'T AFFORD to pay for coverage for sick people. She's not on the patient's side.
How old is your brain?
This tests what you retain when shown something for brief time. The web site instructions are in Japanese, so read below!
1. Touch 'start'
2. Wait for countdown... 3, 2, 1.
3. Memorize the number's position on the screen, and then click the circles in order from the smallest number to the biggest number.
4. At the end of game, the computer will tell you the age of your brain.
How old is your brain?
This tests what you retain when shown something for brief time. The web site instructions are in Japanese, so read below!
1. Touch 'start'
2. Wait for countdown... 3, 2, 1.
3. Memorize the number's position on the screen, and then click the circles in order from the smallest number to the biggest number.
4. At the end of game, the computer will tell you the age of your brain.
my brain is 22
not so bad, I don't really want it much younger than that :)
My brain is 30 and my age is 42. Not too bad. nm
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yo, please open up your brain.....
 
Brain tumor
To those of you that replied regarding my sister's 4-year-old son having a brain tumor, Thank you.
Has he always been like this? Wonder if vascular brain changes
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Odd. Wonder if she may have a brain tumor?
Although there was a case here where a woman, after her child died, stole over a million from her employer and lost it through compulsive gambling and then committed suicide. In her case, she had always been an upstanding member of the community and had no prior history of gambling. Perhaps anger, stress, and grief contributed to temporary insanity and then appalled by what she had done, she killed herself. Everybody that knew her was just stunned.
Ever have a song going on in your brain that you SM
can't get out? Well, I have Black Eye Peas "Lady Lumps"! I don't even like it, but when channel surfing, MTV2 runs it all the time.  Must be where I heard it.
you can only learn if you have a brain
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Brain Droppings fan here
When Will Jesus Bring the Pork Chops is about as good, in my opinion, as Napalm and Silly Putty! I love his fascination with the nuances of our lovely language.
Brain age 20. Chronologic age 49. nm
You do know the meaning of brain-washed
dont you?? Oh well, I guess he will have to find another way to live now. Pretty soon he will be evicted from the home he is squatting on in the Bahamas. He was her enabler, not her lover and he knew it, might have wanted to be. Larry has already said the grandmother would get visitation rights and I think that is the way it should be.
sounds like your husband has a brain
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We have worked it out so that I am the brain and he is the brawn. SM
We are both too cheap and too poor to hire anyone!
Pinky and the Brain are hilarious!!! nm
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Sounds like it's time for a brain MRI.
Hope it turns out to be something simple.
You said it "rejuvinates brain cells"...sm
I was always told it kills brain cells. I always believed that because I thought my ex was walking proof! lol. Does it really rejuvinate them? I too believe in its usage for medicinal purposes. Back in the day (waaaaay back) I smoked it once when I had an excruciating toothache (cuz that always happens on weekends when the dentist is closed!) and it relaxed me enough to tolerate the pain. It was either that or I was going to overdose on Tylenol, Motrin, whatever I could find cuz they weren't working for crap. I also did it once when I had an earache. (again waaaay back in the day). It works wonders. Doesn't take the pain away but makes it tolerable. I definitely am against using it for recreation. When my ex was getting high it was like walking on pins and needles around him. He was wonderful when he was high but when he wasn't he was just the biggest a-hole!
I'm the one who said it rejuvinates brain cells
I can't remember where I read that exactly, but I read that it rejuvinates brain cells. It does not kill them like we've been told by "the establishment". I did find an interesting link that tells the myths about marijuana - here is the link.
http://www.drugpolicy.org/marijuana/factsmyths/
Kinda looks like my brain on Friday.
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I enjoyed that. Apparently my brain is
26! That's 14 years younger than the rest of me! LOL
I'm 58, and the first time I played it, my brain
instructions fully.)
The 2nd time I played, it was harder! More numbers! But I managed to get a brain age of 37.
FUN GAME!
nah -- we killed too many brain cells
snorting the crack OUR parents didn't teach us about!
Geesh -- why always so quick to blame the parents? This kid is 14 years old and knew better than to do this. She chose to do it anyway, just like so many others before her time chose to get up knocked up, strung out on drugs, become an alcoholic, etc.
Yes, the kid screwed up, but that's what kids do. Didn't you ever have a friend who stole a car in high school or got caught cheating and ended up expelled? It's not the end of the world, but spreading it all over the media could very well push this kid over the edge and cause her to hurt herself. She obviously is looking for attention or affection. This is certainly not going to help her.
it took a while, not file, work on the brain-nm
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Female anatomy and the brain
I do a lot of neuro dictation and I've noticed that seizures and migraines tend to increase in a lot of females with their menses. Anyone know the link between females having an increase in both of these problems with their menses? Would a hysterectomy be helpful? I'm truly curious about this.
You ead my response wrong, terribly wrong
I am trying to ask what does she think it will help, not being nasty- tell me and I will try this. I would stand on my head and gargle peanut butter if I thought it would help - I wanted to know why a letter? They are thumbing their noses at the courts - commanded to appear- I was there and they werent.
And I think he brain-washed Anna, got her to turn
against her mother, got her to go to the Bahamas, knowing good and well he was not the father- if he were do you not think he would have DEMANDED a DNA some time ago?? So simple if you think about it. He did not give 1 at the end and last night when his family was on Entertainment Tonight, I could tell by the way they were talking was not his, telling how they hated for the kid to be taken away- it is NOT his kid. He was the same as kidnapping the child, otherwise like I said the DNA would have been done at the beginning. Use your senses, ok?
Here you go...say it changes brain chemistry and metabolic limits (sm)
http://abcnews.go.com/GMA/OnCall/story?id=4271246&page=1
yes, melatonin works - is what the brain naturally releases for sleep...
I take half and I'm asleep in under 3 - 5 minutes. Wake up fresh and clear. no overhang.
Senator Kennedy diagnosed with malignant brain tumor.
He has to have radiation and chemotherapy. Hopefully he can recover from this.
Cuz you're numbing your brain so you feel no pain! Flavored brandy
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Change Your Brain, Change Your Life
I read a book once with the above title. I can't remember the author. He has done a lot of testing (and imaging) and says that often people actually have small amounts of brain damage they are not aware of that cause chronic behavioral issues.
He says that even little incidents of falling off a bike, etc. can cause damage that people aren't aware occurred.
I'm not saying this is your son's case, but I think you will have to keep investigating. Even with those who have damage, they are able to use meds to help the brain compensate for the affected area, which helps greatly.
I'm sorry you are going through this. It has to be awful for the whole family and hurtful to know your son is feeling in such a way to act that way.
I'm sure there is an answer somewhere. I hope you find it soon! - Please keep us posted.
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Wow! First of all have to give you compliments on stating your opinion as I figure you knew you would get nailed. I am also one that is a firm believer of kids have the ability to learn, sometimes through tough love and sometimes through every day simple life. Although I would disagree with you about the "coat incident" I still can relate to you on trying to teach kids to take care of your things, etc. I love my kids dearly, but I know at any moment I could be taken from this earth and I want them to be as prepared as they can be at 8 and 9. I don't expect perfection, but when they do "screw up" I make sure they definitely know it (and remember it). I think most people now do not appreciate children the way we do. They are very intelligent if you give them the opporunity to be. They deserve respect just as adults do (when they earn it.... just like adults). We have to teach them to be adults and it has to start somewhere. Again, I don't completely agree with you, but overall I understand what you are saying. Please ignore any misspelling in my post... I am using my husband's keyboard, which is "stiff as a board!)
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I believe homosexuality is a sin, but I also believe that sexual preferences should be personal and private. I would not refuse to shop at a store because a clerk was gay, but frankly, that is something that I shouldn't even know about a stranger. A person's sexual behavior should be totally private.
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I paid my balance off in full, received a finance charge statement of about $42. I called the credit card, and said I do not understand - I paid the balance in full, what is this charge for. Act like you need them to help you understand. They adjusted my account and took that finance charge off and said I will receive a statement of the adjustment and my balance is now 0.
It really all depends on how you handle it and in what way you speak to them. Try it that way and see if they will adjust it off.
Good luck!
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I just had my ovary removed due to a cyst and surgery went well, I did well postop and was relieved that it was over. However, just found out that the pathology report showed carcinoma and now I have to have a total hysterectomy and staging workup. Anyone been through this that can offer some comfort in what to expect? Thanks.
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Thank you for your suggestions. At least you give me suggestions other than telling me to seek therapy or bariatric surgery, which I would never consider anyway. I get defensive when I feel attacked for my opinions, thus the *anger* in my previous posts. I DID read your post thoroughly and I did note that you used to have a weight problem, as well. Anon upset me, and I guess I took it out on you. I apologize.
I will put in to use some of your suggestions, but just so you know, my one meal a day does not include snacking, either. I am busy working most of the day, have a lot to do, and the time just slips away before I realize I am hungry, which is generally around 3 in the afternoon. I may have a cup of coffee or tea in the morning, and sometimes water, but that is all. Some will find fault with that, as well, I am sure, but that's the truth. Again, thanks for your input. At least you are more pleasant about it all.
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Your symptoms sound similar to carpal tunnel, but it may be something else, too. If I may suggest seeing a neurologist? It sounds more like a nerve problem to me and it does not necessarily have to be in your hands or wrists. EMG nerve conduction studies on your hands may be negative, but I have done dictations from doctors who have patients with carpal tunnel with false EMGs and the docs call them false positives, meaning the patient actually has carpal tunnel, but the studies were not definitive for that. As the other poster suggested, it may also be neck related. Just get a second opinion from a different doctor, and be insistent on what YOU want checked. Some doctors are resistant to patient requests, so you have to stand up for yourself. good luck.
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When my 17 year old calico passed away a few months ago, I was with her, as well as my 20 y/o son, and it was very hard for us both to watch. My son couldn't stop crying...she was part of his entire life. We still have the 16 year old male with us, Oscar, who misses her very much. They always stayed in close proximity to one another...even though they still gave each other glaring looks at mealtime. He just hangs onto us all the time and it's hard to work because he insist on laying on my desk, in my lap, knocking everything off. He has never done this before. She always laid at my feet and talked to me and he laid up high. It's sad because he can't understand what's happened. She was his long-time partner.
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I would be careful...I am facing court for just this right now, due to old debt that I started accruing, due to being quite desperate and broke, after my bankruptcy was filed. I can file again but probably won't and don't want to, but still have to deal with the courts, this week actually. can't wait. bankruptcy is not the end of the world. you can get a credit card again and you can work on your credit. It stays on your credit report for ten years. how long will it take you to pay off that debt???
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He obviously wanted to be with her and you cannot fault him for that, I guess. It is never easy when someone in the family takes their own lives and those left behind never truly understand why or how that person was feeling inside. It is very hard, and I feel your pain. Cry, let it out, and then take God's hand. He will get you through it somehow. There will be a brighter day. They are together now. Maybe that will help some. God bless you and your family. {{{hugs}}}
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you only have to look into your heart to know what is right and what is wrong. I am not going to argue religion with you. I have my beliefs and you have yours, or disbeliefs in your case, and I am not going to argue with you about who is right and who is wrong. Time will tell that, in the end. and no one said anything about someone coming into your room on your deathbed and preaching to you, personally. It sounds like you are so opposed to it because you may actually be wrong about it more so than you just do not believe. Good luck to you.
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