Scared to quit smoking - sm
Posted By: elle on 2008-12-03
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I have another friend who quit smoking 3 years ago and now has lung cancer. I know (and have heard of) many people who quit (ACS can tell you how your lungs supposedly improve and risk of lung cancer death diminishes compared to the general population) smoking only to be diagnosed with lung cancer after several years. This IS NOT a mental excuse for me not to quit. It really does frighten me. Been a smoker for 30 years. Seems worthless to fight to quit and die, or just keep smoking and die. Anyone have any thoughts? I have no one affected by my second-hand smoke.
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I took it to quit smoking...
and can't say that I noticed any effects whatsoever, except that it did help me quit smoking.
Quit Smoking and Don't Play The Lottery!!!
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Now I'm scared (sm)
I suggested a trial seperation and he disagreed a little at first but then he became completely agreeable to it all of a sudden. That worried me so I told him I wasn't sure what we should do and then he said if I am asking, then I must not want to leave. My fear is that he is being so nonchalant about it all of a sudden.
not scared
I'm a rebel by nature and I simply learned to be what other posters called "sneaky." It wasn't my mom I was scared of. It was my father and fortunately he was out of town every week for about 10 years of my growing up years. He was mean in a serious way, much worse than I could post here. Took some therapy to help me deal with that after he died.
I'm not scared of authority figures, but because of my rebellious nature I tend to push my limits. This is something I was born with and I'm sure the other things that happened as I was growing up didn't teach me how to deal with it well.
I tend not to let anyone get close, but I'm very sociable and make friends easily. I do have a problem with people who act like bullies...I tend to force their hands and show them for the cowards they are.
im scared to be a mom....
Honestly I am afraid that I won't be a good one. I know in my heart I would be but I also know that I will be a constant worry-wart about EVERYTHING. more so than now and that's tough to deal with. When anyone goes on trips im like CALL ME AT EVERY STOPPING POINT. anything... even with Ally she was napping with me and i had to just keep checking her breathing constantly. I dont know how i would handle it!!!
Also Im quite selfish right now and also have no money. HA. But I also really do want a family. There used to be nothing I wanted more, and then that changed a couple of years ago and I dont feel that same yearning that I did then. I wonder if I will again... if i dont im not sure what ill do with my lonely self!
So you have no grandchildren? Apparently it's the best thing ever at least my mom says :)
And your daughter sounds awesome. I used to want to be a kindergarten teacher until I got into MThaha. Then i wanted to volunteer in the NICU back home went through the evaluation and shots and all, then moved out here... i have yet to sign up for that.
Okay here ill be honest I want babies and toddlers, but i dont want kids or teenagers!!! hahaha :)
have a greet weekend
Not scared here at all
You cannot stop whatever happens but I am still working as is my hubby and if things happen, oh well is how I look at things. Years ago when my mother was dying I tried everything to keep her around, didn’t work and learned life is like it turns out. My daughter, who is grown, tells me she is "really scareddddddddd." I told her to quit listening to all the negative things going on, especially the talk radio she seems to want to believe. My hubby is one true positive person (me not as much) but he says all this negavitivity is just wrong. It wears you down and just no use in doing so.
Let me see, in the 50s and 60s were scared and
first people were building bomb shelters, then we had the face masks for the gas bombs in case those were dropped, I hear now on Sean you can buy things called Survival Seeds. This never ceases, every so often the US just has to scare itself really bad. Did I tell you the one really scary? That was the year 2000. Everyone thought the world would probably explode then, all kinds of things predicted, computers would not change, watches not work, people were thinking end of time. Oh, wait, that is again this year with now the swine flu.
ER MT - that photo actually scared me
I was up late half awake and that photo popped up! Then I thought, you know that's a lot like me when I do ERs!!! Of course, for me it's because I'm not so smart yet and a bit frazzled. New specialty, just sometimes. Thanks for the giggle!
Thank you, I'm not scared though, just disgusted (sm)
I am not feeling threatened by him, just feeling disrespected and I am feeling disgusted. Thank you so much for your concern though. I agree that some situations are dangerous and if I felt threatened I would get help. I am scared of how he will act once I decide to leave, but I think it will be more malicious financial issues on his part, not really violence.
Maybe that's why your scared. Your thinking
too big (moving out of state). Money? If you've been married for any length of time - he pays you. Hope there are no children involved. Being scared is not a reason to stay with your husband. Why continue to be miserable? I feel sorry for you. Sounds like you live to please others and the heck with your own feelings.
My ex was scared of bats
For a while we lived in an old house and a bat kept getting in. The ex would hide in bed under the covers and scream while I got a tennis racket and would manage to trap and remove the bat. How macho is that, LOL!
My mom is scared of a lot of things (bats, mice, worms), so from necessity I learned to not be afraid of them. The only thing I never got over was fear from being immersed in cold water - never learned to swim, and even being in a cold shower makes me hyperventilate.
I'm scared of BEES. -sm
One or two, I can sort of deal with, as long as I'm not in close quarters with them, such as in the car. But more than 2 or 3? I'm outta' there! Large numbers of any bug or insect creep me out. I'm also scared of sharks, seaweed and jellyfish.
I'm not scared of mountain lions, (though I have yet to meet one face-to-face). I would really like to see one someday while hiking. (At least I know not to run!) I'm not afraid of doing things alone, like long drives, flying, or traveling to other countries. In fact I prefer it that way.
I can deal with spiders. Don't like 'em but I used to live in a place that reminded me of the movie "Arachnophobia", so I learned how to get rid of them and prevent their return by targeting the nests outside the house. Nowadays I have a cat that spends her days hunting them, so I rarely see one (at least alive) anymore.
I would be much more scared of the pit bull
than someone trying to break into my house. I do animal rescues and 1 place I rescue from (animal shelter) will not let this breed be adopted by Jane or John Doe- they are just considered vicious. They are put down rather than adopted out.
When I was a scared 21-y/o I stayed - sm
in San Diego a few days by myself after a trade show had ended so I could do a few things there on my own. The company footed the rental car and I paid for the 2 extra days in the hotel, which my former boss paid maybe $40 a night for at a very nice Marriott...on the conciege floor. (he would lie and say he was a travel agent and get incredibly cheap rooms). I never made it to the beach but did do the San Diego Zoo with the bosses wife before the show....then after when I was on my own I went to the Wild Animal Park about an hour up the coast. I had the best time despite being alone. Had a beautiful drive up the coastal highway, etc. I'd never done anything like that on my own before so I really enjoyed it. I hope to take my kids out there one of these days, maybe in the next 5 years and spend a week at least out there, have 3 friends living in various parts of CA so it would be fun to visit them.
Scared Dogs
I know it's strange, but all 3 of my pugs sleep right through thunderstorms unless they're particularly violent. Only a really loud crack of thunder directly over the house will cause them to look at me with concern. Then, they go back to sleep. Good old pugs - all ya need to do is feed, bathe, water, walk and pamper them. They sleep probably 21 hours a day. And their waking hours are usually amusing. Maggie cannot stand to see a dog or horse on TV. She goes running up to the TV, sees the dog or horse disappear, then proceeds to try and look around the back of the TV to see if that's where it went. 
Have you checked with your vet to see if there's something you can give your babies so they won't get so upset during thunderstorms?
We as a nation are so scared now days
My grandmother lived to 75 and her daughter, my aunt, now 86 and both used and told me about Campho-Phenique and get this, when I had an ulcer in my mouth my aunt told me to use this. Now I do not go about swishing and swallowing but used it on the sores, got relief and well, I am writing this post. It can be used in the mouth with no problem.
Scared mom --sorry for the long post
I am the widow of a man who served his country PROUDLY in the Army for 21 years, retired and later developed cancer as a result of Agent Orange while serving in Vietnam. As a result, I have certain military "privileges", however, the VA turned around and changed his diagnosis from "cancer of the larynx" which was his ORIGINAL diagnosis made by a civilian doctor, to "cancer of the hypopharynx which was made by his VA doctor and hence, this was NOT covered by Agent Orange and as a result, I have lost monetary compensation to the tune of right now, approximately $300K, however, I do have other benefits.
I regress, but getting back to your original post, my daughter joined the Army VERY shortly before the Iraq war started and was stationed in New York State when 9/11 happened, needless to say, I was a nervous wreck as she had JUST moved with her then husband and I did not have her new phone #. Thank heavens for a Sprint directory assistance operator who understood the situation and even though they had a nonpublished number put me through to their residence anyway.
Women in the military are subjected to testing regarding vocational skills, just like their "male counterparts" -- for example my daughter was actually into more of the satellite communications end of things and NEVER saw or would have never seen combat. She PROUDLY served her country for 3 years, received the money to go to college, has remarried, has her own home, a soon to be 2-year-old daugther and is finishing up her nursing career as well as working.
The other side to this picture is that with a military career, if she decides to make it a CAREER and "advances", she can retire at a relatively early age (at least early to mid 40s) and have a lucarative retirement income for LIFE, as well as being still young enough to pursue other opportunies in the "civilian world."
Hope this helps.
Me again! I am so frustrated, scared, and upset over here. I'm sorry, but sm
my husband doesn't understand and my other friends homeschool (as do I), so I have no one to talk to about this. My 3-1/2 year old has been crying all day. What is wrong with him? Not crying, but unplugging stuff for my computer, unfolding laundry, taking DVDs and throwing them all over the floor. So, I spanked him, yet again, and nothing is working. I sincerely cannot take this. I cannot, I cannot, I cannot. I have to put him in a program somewhere.
I am crying so hard right now because my husband and I are both advocates for homeschooling and having the children at home. I am suffering having to spend the majority of my day spaking and disciplining an unruly child which gives me no time to homeschool his brothers. They (the other brothers) hate to see their little bro get into trouble, but what is one supposed to do? There are 3 of them and 1 of me. I just lost it a few minutes ago as he just started tearing things up again. Here are the options: Get rid of every single electronic thing in my household (including my work computer), tv's, Playstation 2(which is 10 year old brother loves), and everything else and go back to the days of old where it was just mom, kids, and dad at work. I'm seriously thinking he is just too distracted and can't help it. OR solution #2, put him in daycare somewhere (this makes me cringe, cry, sob- because he will be just a number there (I know - I worked for one for a long time - I don't care what anyone says), or in a pre-K program somewhere, but around here they only last for 2 hours (GA). I know, because I've checked.
Anyone else with similar situation? I'm thinking of putting them all in school so I can work since I have to work. Our expenses outweigh husband's income. I must work. I only work at night,though, so that isn't an issue during the day. I am at my wits end. I know if I work, though, a lot if it will go towards daycare. But inside my head and heart, I can't take this. I don't know why, I just can't do this anymore. 
Am scared of tornados and alone today and quess what?
I am here alone with my animals and we are having a tornado warning for my county. There is a rotation from a tornado that is approximately 2 miles from my home as I type. Please send up prayers, really scares me. Thanks
Want to leave my marriage but I'm scared!! Need viewpoints (sm)
I am worried about finances and insurance because I am an IC MT. I have two children and worry about them as well. But I just can't see staying in this marriage any longer. I need to hear from women who have made the decision to leave and made it!! Please?
Good Lord...this would have scared me to death (sm)
Not gonna say what state I am in but the patient went in for surgery on his kidneys and was mistaken for a neurosurgery patient and had his head shaved before they realized he was the wrong guy...he cancelled his kidney surgery and went the heck home! Poor guy!!
I'm scared to death of people in huge SUVs plowing across
It's scary!!!!!
My 19-year-old daughter wants to join the Army. I'm very scared at the thought. Any advice out th
Before the Iraq war, I would have been more excited that she wanted to do something positive with her life for a change, but this thought is scary as we know people that have lost their children in the war. I know in some ways this could turn her life around and be what she needs as she is very immature and is going down the wrong road, but are there other alternatives. A lot of people tell us it's still a good time for kids. Any thoughts out there?
Look down on smoking...you said it!
I feel like such a loser sometimes, when I am with others and I'm the only one who has to go find a place where I can have a cigarette. You cannot even smoke outside anymore at certain places, hospital grounds etc., unless you go to the dreaded designated *loser* smoking spot which is usually 1/2 mile away and very obvious (one had a smoking gazebo) :) Happy for you. I'm going to try Chantix too.
smoking
Stick with it!! Believe me you will feel better in the long run! I quit about 8 yrs ago now.
smoking
Did you ask your doc for the new pill that just came out. I can remember exactly what it is called but I have a girlfriend on them and it is working great. Give it a shot!!
Smoking sm
I can only tell you a true story. My younger sister smoked (I never did) and she would try to stop but each time a stressful situation would occur, she would pick up again. At a young age, she was diagnosed with Stage IV lung cancer, never even had a cough and she looked great! She lived exactly 17 months, the charts said 18. By the 2nd month of DX the young docs told her, "nursing home or Hospice, you can't lay around here." This was when she had a high fever and reaction to chemo. She lost her hair, gained about 30 pounds, etc.from chemo reaction. She died penniless and heartbroken. She was only a year retired early from a great job and had the rest of her life to look forward to, yet cigarettes robbed her of her family, her dignity, her retirement fund, and now she's in the cold, cold ground, all because she "needed" a cigarette. She wanted to retire early and enjoy her 401K retirement plan and her kids. Her daughter just had a beautiful baby and no mother to share the news. Her grandchildren have no grandmother and I have no sister anymore. She just had to have that cigarettte and would listen to no one. Her oncologist told her, "Go ahead and smoke, what difference does it make now?" Is this what you want for yourself? It's the bare naked truth, please, I would rather you cut off your fingers than smoke, at least you would still be alive. Cigarettes STINK and they KILL. Don't let it happen one more day.
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So that's a yes on the smoking, then.
Of course it has everything to do with it.
smoking
That's a difficult situation. Legally you can do nothing against her, that's bad. I hope the smoke detectors are well maintained? You can try to talk some sense into her, but I doubt it will help.
The only solution would be that you move into a building where the owner forbids smoking. There are some sensible landlords out there who want to keep their houses smokefree.
But, as you said, that's difficult for you.
Try to convince her to stop smoking or cut down by telling her how bad it is for her health.
There should be 'houses for smokers', stinkers, and 'houses for nonsmokers', nonstinkers.
I have the same problem. I am a nonsmoker and live on the 1st floor, under and on above me both are smokers and I tell you, it stinks!
Smoking outside stores
I don't like people smoking outside stores either. They stand right by the door so you have to hold your breath and go through the smoke cloud. Unlike the other things mentioned, that does invade my personal space with secondhand smoke exposure.
No smoking pills?
Has anyone taken the drug Chantix for smoking? My son has been taking this and he and his wife haven't slept in a week. She says he is not acting like himself...I don't smoke so I don't have a clue what its like.
The smoking might have to be done outside if the laws there say
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15 yo smoking question
I found a pack of cigarettes in my 15-yo son's back pack. He said he was holding them for a neighbor. I kind of believe him but regardless he is under 18 and should not be in possession of them. What kind of consequences do you think are appropriate?
Trying to stop smoking
I haven't smoked today! I am trying to quit. Have tried several times before, but this time I have to do it! 
There's a little difference with smoking, though.
Your second-hand smoke is harmful to others and the environment.
Alcohol kills more people than just those who ingest it.
Obesity only kills the person suffering from it.
Rude to comment on it? Maybe. Then again, everyone who has to put up with the butts on the ground, the second-hand smoke, the nicotine stains and the stench of it clinging to you as you walk into the building -- well, I guess they do have a right to comment.
Today is my second day not smoking
You may want to give it another try. It make cigarettes taste terrible. I think that it only takes 3 days for the physical withdrawal to be over and then it is the emotional part and the habit you need to kick. I decided to quit because I saw the show Intervention and this kid got hooked on heroine after his mother died of cancer and that really hit me and I realized that my life is not only mine, but that of my family's as well. It was funny because yesterday it seemed that whenever I had the urge for a smoke, I would get a note of someone who had lung cancer. Good luck to you. I defintely feel your pain. People who have never smoked just don't get it. Give it another try with Chantix. I have to say that the only problem with it is that I can't sleep at night, but I took a Xanax last night and slept better, not well, but better. It will be worth it in the end when I am a nonsmoker and don't have the threat of lung cancer looming over me. Good luck.
While I don't proport smoking, I'm not sure
asking this information on an insurance form should be allowed. We already deny many Americans affordable health coverage because of obesity and other medical problems. What's next? Asking how many foods we microwave or how long we talk on a cell phone (supposedly these cause cancer, too)? We already ask the obvious questions - smoking, drinking, exercise. They have you weigh in and ask every question imaginable about your family medical history.
How are we supposed to obtain coverage if we're not in perfect health, and let's face it, how many Americans are in perfect health? I was watching Celebrity Fit Club on TV and I looked at some of the people on there and thought what's wrong with them, only to find out their body fat percentage was 2 points over norm. Come on America -- this is just another way to keep us from having healthcare coverage. No, I'm not a smoker, just a concerned American wondering about the future of my health insurance.
Smoking at school
My high school had an area called the "smoke hole" where, if you had a "smoking permit", you could go during lunch or breaks and smoke! I think about that now and it just amazes me that kids were allowed to smoke at school. We called the people that went there the "smokeholians"...too weird now!
quitting smoking
You are correct to be afraid. Quitting smoking is excruciatingly painful. You have to re-train your brain to do every single daily activity without smoking. And the cravings never go away.
Skullcap, Gingseng, and Valerian are extremely useful, so you don't have to suffer if you don't want to.
The sore throat alone from the first week of quitting will scare you to death.
You will need to eat and exercise to get the energy you get from cigarettes, and it will take awhile to learn how to take better care of yourself.
Why is it worth it? You aren't a slave anymore, you can go anywhere, colors you see are more intense, all foods taste different, smells are different and more intense, (and sex is more intense also).
You can quit anything if you can stand the pain. Don't be a wimp, you are worth it.
Quitting Smoking Again
I was wondering if any of you have any tips for quitting smoking without gaining weight. That is my biggest fear as I am already overweight. Thanks in advance!
quitting smoking
I gained 10 pounds I never lost, but not more than that. I used to skip meals when I smoked so I think that is self-explanatory.
Apples and fruit for snacks and quick energy.
I bought an espresso machine, but the mocha grandes I was drinking made my eyes vibrate....not kidding.
Siberian Gingseng to remove fogged brain, depression, and fatigue.
Skullcap for mild irritation.
Skullcap combined with Valerian for psychotic irritation.
Gas-X to combate the effects of constant gum chewing.
Long walks, deep breathing and YOGA. Yoga is amazing....
Smoking either boosts you up or calms you down. Figure out which it is and you can substitute for that need without eating.
Assume the smoking outside will not last. sm
I've lived with smokers. They all say they'll only do it outside. They ALL eventually revert to doing it inside. Especially when you are the only non-smoker. Consider how this will affect you. They may be awesome, but they're awesome smokers.
congrats on the no smoking!!!!
I am not that broke, but next paycheck I need $800 for the car payment and window and door loan. Also need about 200 for food for the following 2 weeks until the next payday... so bout a grand, but the check will only be 700. HMMM, Live without food and will still owe 100 to someone. Thank God I do not have to put gas in the car.
That is a little overboard. Smoking is not
illegal. I would think CPS would tell her to stop wasting their time.
DS smoking pot last night.
Last night, he and his friend smoked in his room and blew the smoke out the window, trying to be sneaky, not realizing that it would waft up and come in the upper deck screen door! We calmly confronted them, they admitted it, DS handed over his paraphanalia, a homemade bong out of a soda can, the rest of his stash (just a couple buds), and we called the other kids parents, who promptly came over and we had a group discussion around the kitchen table, after which the other kid and his parents went home .
DS is grounded from his phone, computer, house phone, all friends and activities until further notice. When he does have an activity, he will be highly monitored and supervised. His freedoms are greatly curtailed. He also will be doing more work on the retaining wall we are building in the back yard. We're not sure yet what else will be a consequence, but I have a friend who is a rehab nurse in a chem dependancy unit, so we may chat with her.
Besides making bad choices and stupid decisions, what REALLY makes me angry is that he was using his SIXTY DOLLAR trumpet mouthpieces for bowls. What a bonehead.
My 16-year-old daughter smoking
I have known for about a year that my daughter has been smoking from time to time. I made it very clear to her that this was very unacceptable and absolutely would not be tolerated.
Apparently she has done a very good job at hiding it. Tonight when I was putting socks into her sock drawer, for some reason I decided to push aside her socks and, of course, I found a cigarette, but the filter had been cut off. I also saw several filters that had been cut off in her drawer. I asked her about it a little bit ago and naturally she stormed upstairs and wouldn't discuss it with me. This may sound incredibly naive, but I really don't know why the filters were cut off? Maybe to make the cigarette stronger? This thought makes me sick to my stomach.
I am at a loss here. She is a pretty good girl, an honor roll student, has lots of friends, but still loves to spend time with her family. I have grounded her in the past for this, but apparently that didn't get my point across. I would love to hear from parents with teenagers who have been through this before and have suggestions on how to deal with this. Also, I'm almost afraid to ask, but any ideas why the filters were cut off the cigarettes?
cig smoking is EXACTLY like heroin addiction.....
filters cut off for more strength....to answer your question.
I wish someone had stopped me - folks gave permission at a young age....because they were smokers.....I have never quit except in pregnancy....but I quit buying over 3-1/2 months ago, still smoke but ask others for one....and I cut back smoking by 75 percent and THAT's something because I no longer even cough the way I used to, my house smells GREAT (smoking outside only).....and I sound better (because I really am better - health-wise).
It is MOST definitely a drug addiction, as bad as any of them, as addicting as any of them........so the post was right on about *hearing it is as strong as a heroin addiction* - I tell kids today, that's exactly what it is...........................because it is.
My only suggestion is to show her pictures (found online even, just Google the subject/topic/question) of what lungs look like in smokers versus nonsmokre, and then find some head and neck surgical oncology site and start showing her pictures there (I worked in a surgical oncology HEAD AND NECK dept for a few years and what I saw was definitely sickening and yet, I too, still smoke *slaps self*)
My children (due to the fact I used above tactics) - NEVER smoked (thank goodness!!!!).
Best of luck to her and you!!!
Georgia has a no public smoking law...sm
and it's great going to restaurants, stores, etc without smelling cigarettes. Restaurants can only allow smokers if they don't admit anyone under age 18 and they have to have a ventilation system that meets a certain strict criteria with the state.
So you're quitting smoking?
Since nicotine is a drug, and you are giving up a habit that involves deep breathing, it actually makes perfect sense if you are starting to have anxiety. I'll bet if you took up exercising like yoga or pilates or some sort of martial arts, you'd get a similar calming effect.
Using the patch for smoking cessation SM
I do not smoke, but just wanted to tell you that my hairstylist has tried to quit smoking twice with no success. She just told me on Tuesday evening that she is on a nicotine patch and she is just thrilled. She said she cannot believe how it has helped. She said it is expensive, but well worth it. She has not smoked now for over 3 weeks and says that she is not even missing it She just seems so much happier now, and she has taken such a positive step that her boyfriend is also on the patch and doing great. Can't speak for myself, but please, please for your health and the health of those around you, give it a try. You are worth it!
Talking to me about my smoking may lead
to burn marks on your forehead as I put out my cigarette. Oh, was that your head?
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