Say nothing if you want it to continue - sm
Posted By: missy on 2008-05-05
In Reply to: In appropriate comments from - mother-in-law
I said nothing to my MIL, nor did my husband, no matter how ugly her comments were, what lies she told, you name it. He is very nonconfrontational and said we should keep the peace, but it finally reached a boiling point last spring and I unloaded on her. All she could say was that she was sorry, that she had her own issues, blah, blah, blah. I now find myself very resentful towards my husband for not shutting her up on day 1. Long story short, that was nearly 30 years ago now and I SOOO wish these things had been said earlier. She knows where I am coming from now and she knows we will not be her dumping ground any longer. Dr. Phil says we teach people how to treat us...Best of luck to you. 
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Then why continue working for MQ? nm
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She'll continue riding the bus unless she gets....sm
a job that starts as soon as school is out.
I started driving to school the day I got my driver's license, but that was because I was working 20 hours a week learning transcription in a doctors office, working from 3:30-7:30 p.m. With that, being in band and drama my parents were literally counting down the days until I could drive so they wouldn't have to tote me around. My brother and sister weren't involved in extra activities and their after school jobs rarely were scheduled at times for them to drive to school, so they had to ride the bus.
There's no way I'd give a child a brand new car for their driver's license/birthday gift. Here in the Atlanta area there have been a lot of wrecks with teens whose daddy gave them a brand new Mercedes or BMW for their 16th birthday and to "thank" their dad they wrecked it and either killed or nearly killed another person. Even if we were rich we wouldn't just buy a car for a child. Our oldest gets a car only because it was her moms, but even then she won't have 100% free reign over it. She also doesn't have a cell phone and will not be allowed to get one unless she gets a job to pay for it.
Why do some of my posts continue to be deleted and yet
other people who write things such as this lady are allowed to stay on the board?
Things like this happen and will continue
There is a lot of flapping going on when this happens but the copycats are not just there, here in my state as well as I am sure in every other. Gun law is not changing. People have gone completely bonkers when it has to be politically correct, just makes me nausated. Kids cannot be kids anymore because games we played not good for them now, jungle gyms should not be played on- they might get hurt- and this is just 1 example of a looney being left alone because even the college apparently could not let his parents know and they probably knew anyway. Closing the campus down- well he was a student, right and so he would have access to there is that not true? There is no way to protect people when you have someone so bent on destruction. We would have to be a total police state. It just gets worse by the day.
Do we continue to give a gift? Help!
In DH's family you give to the godchild and godparent at Christmas. My DH's godchild is in her 20s, loves the labels, and does not respond to questions of what she would like for Christmas. The past three years we have not received a thank you for any gift. We were not able to attend the family celebration for the past two years but there this year. Did not receive a thank you after opening the gift or as she was leaving the house. Spoke to MIL later and said I was done with buying her any gifts as nothing is appreciated or even given the courtesy of a thank you. MIL insisted we still buy a gift, even a small gift under $10. I don't agree. Am I being harsh? I don't just buy anything - I take the time to shop and consider who I'm buying a gift for. Any advice?
Should your husband continue to associate
with him says something about his character, IMHO.
My DH is a great guy, lots of good friends that he has worked with for over 25 years. A few years back one of his friends, a fishing guide on the side, took all the guys out for a 2-day trip, everything paid for. After a day of fishing, the guys decided to go to a strip club before turning in; my guy doesn't go for things like that and told his buddies so. After taking much ribbing from them, he stayed at the hotel and they all went out. The next time a free fishing trip was offered my hubby said thanks but no thanks, he didn't want to be in a similar position again, he doesn't think strip clubs are a place a married guy should be going to. After being good naturedly heckled by his friends and being called morally upright, they went without him. He still has those friends to this day, however, has boundaries with them. Golfing for the day or fishing for the day fine, but they know that if they are going to the strip club don't bother inviting my guy.
Your DH can still be friendly with him but should set some boundaries.
Well that is kind of rude to let a baby continue to cry
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Right, and I haven't said we are licensed to continue living in it (sm)
But guess what? I need to lose some weight! Do you think if people on the street start pointing at me and telling me to get myself under control that I am going to do it? No! If God wants me to change something, he will convict me in my own heart and let me know it. I don't need YOU to tell me, nor does anyone else. Can you not see that?
By the 4th day, I would be too sore to continue the rest of the week...
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If you and other parents don’t understand, then their or yout children will continue
to wreck havoc. It should never have been something the mother bought and allowed this girl to take to school. School policy and yes it is as much black and white as you can get. Sure it is written down and this is CONSIDERED a weapon, pepper spray- anyone with an ounce of sense knows this.
So you just continue to give money to grown folks
because they are too lazy to work? You could do 1 of 2 things- take the children or call the family and children services if they are not being cared for. I would never continue to support people who did not want to help their self.
that is too cute!!!! but as long as people will fix VR mistakes, it will continue on the roll it is
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Yeah really they will punish this woman but continue to allow the illegal scalping.
I can't even believe anyone actually goes to concerts anymore. I stopped when the scalpers started to buy them all up within seconds of going on sale and then posted them on ebay for up to 10 x the value. I won't buy into that crap. Wish nobody else would either, maybe would put a stop to it. :)
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